My conjugal life has been very unhappy. Please advice me?

I got married by affair at university. My parents %26amp; relatives have accepted our affairs %26amp; gave us marry two years ago. But my wife is very bad tempared. She did not and do not look after my Mom %26amp; Dad. She does not respect them %26amp; dislike my younger brothers. My wife always advices me to live seperately. But I think my parents are now in their old ages. Also My father has been suffering from heart disease (5 blocks). My mother has to work at our house in her old age. My wife also work unwillingly with my mother. Two days back during by office time my younger brother has been very angreed with my wife %26amp; bit her slightly as she misbehaved with my mother. Now she tells me within today if I do not rent another house to live seperately, she will go to her parents house %26amp; stay there. Please advice me how to cope up this abject situation.My conjugal life has been very unhappy. Please advice me?
Sorry man... you married the wrong woman. It's either divorce or time for the wipe, and I don't mean physically.My conjugal life has been very unhappy. Please advice me?
your wife is correct.


all modern women expect their own home.


you can give your parents a little money each month.


tell your brother never touch her again, he is to discuss with you any problem.
Sounds like a really bad wife. You better make some ground rules that she better start changing her ways or I would divorce her. Tell her to wise up.
I was OK with the story until your brother bit her.....what's wrong with him? And you tried to justify his action?





Well, you should have listened to your wife a long time ago. Maybe if you treated her with some respect from the start, she would respect you as well.





Pay for a maid, and get two houses next to each other. With all those men in the family, why do you have to all live together?





No imagination!!!
what???you lost me at someone biteing someone else
First, it is so wonderful to read about families that do not get along. That is my family and my wife's family. Mine is British, her's is Cuban. NEITHER side get along. Both sides would be happy as can be to see the two of us get a divorce.





Now, your wife does not have any responsibility to your side of the family. This is for you to handle. And you do not have any responsibility to HER side of the family. Until you can get a place where the two of you are living separate from BOTH parents on both sides, accept her wishes to live for a while at her parents house. But do NOT ignore her. Call her every day and show concern for her. Do not burden her with your parents problems.





As to your brother biting her? THAT is definitely a BIG NO! NO!


He is not here to discipline her, and neither are you. A successful marriage is a democracy. Both of you do things together, decide together.
first thing first,it was a big mistake living with your parents,newly weds have enough troble adjusting to each other let alone your family,if your parents are sick find some one to look after them,relatives and such if you cant afford hired help,remember this,you you made commitment to your wife who is now your partner for life,remedy this now before your wife leaves and you are alone
Most of us here are of a different lifestyle. I am assuming that you are from the lifestyle where the wife moves into the family home with you and your family.





If it were the same situation in my culture, I would say to move away from your family home. I know that this would be unusual in other cultures, perhaps yours.





She sounds very unhappy. If she knew what was to come when you married then I say she needs to take a long hard look at herself and see what all is really making her unhappy. This is something that you need to work on together.





And please talk to your brother, physical violence is not the way to show that she is not living up to their expectations.
i know this is the way you live looking after yr parents when they are older and living together. when she married you she probably knew this. to solve this situation just for now find a house or flat close as possiable to yr parents, so that she gets her space and you can keep an eye on yr parents.
First of all Ask ALLAH ..


Then...


try to make her mind gently. Tell her that if she takes u away ffrom ur parents now, when ur parents need u, her children will run away when she gona need them.





Give her more time, perhaps a long drive.