Struggling with life severly lacking in most departments =( advice would be great?

Before i tell u what is going on in my head i will say that this tuesday i have booked a doctors apointment as a start.





i believe all my problems started around 15(20 now)when i basically struggled with acne and puberty also lead me to have one big eyebrow like the chap from sesame street =0. anyway one day i had a rather nasty comment about my eyebrows and that led me to shave most of them off.





It sent me into depression at the time although eventually they grow back and i started getting them plucked and so on. however its always been a severe insicurity of mine even tho i began to get attention from girls and such i could never build any believe in myself.





In the last 6 months i have totally slipped away from ppl and have built up more insecuritys in myself (facial hairs growing on not inside my nose and cheeks and still struggling with my skin)





im not living a life im insecure and totally lost.i felt i had to post something to see other ppls thoughts =)ty for readingStruggling with life severly lacking in most departments =( advice would be great?
Sorry to hear of your problem.





Just a tip on the acne problem. I along with my son have struggled with acne, no cream or cleanser or lotion was any good at all apart from one thing. Mandate Aftershave. It kills the spot after a day or so and it will eventually disappear without scarring. I struggled to buy it over the counter for my son a few months ago so i bought it online. It definately works and smells great too!Struggling with life severly lacking in most departments =( advice would be great?
Are you going to see a Pyschologist or Counselor? If so, you are on the right track. It sounds like you are certainly struggling with self-image issues that will just get larger if you don't work hard to combat them.





Listen, we all have things we wish looked different. Unfotunately that is the ';human experience';. Anyone who says they are 100% happy with their body and looks is either really blessed, or in denial.





The good news is that you would be surprised at how little other people really think about our personal issues. Though we may think they are really focusing on our nose, or weight, or other thing, surprisingly, most people just don't care that much. When they speak to you, they are often more worried about what they are saying, and how they themselves look.





You are putting such a huge burden on yourself to try and live up to impossible images of beauty in our society. And believe me, I say this as someone that has been through it.





Do you ever wonder why some people who are not exactly considered very attractive, still have plenty of friends and dates? I used to wonder about that many years ago myself. Then I started to really look at that person and realize that even with thier ';not so great looks';, they still had lots of confidence and more than that, many of them know the art of making others feel good about themselves too. People truly gravitate toward others who make them feel good about their own selves.





I really hope that this Dr's appt can help you put these things into prespective. Trust me, I was the girl who everyone picked on and made fun of in school. i was really the ugly duckling. Things really changed 100% when my own self esteem changed. I was even able to eventually become a Professional Model and wow, did that shock everyone!!! The hair issues that you speak of are evry easy to get control of. However, your mind will become your worst enemy if you don't get some good help to work on those self confidence issues.





Good luck to you. I wish you the very best.
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what kind of doctors appointment did you book? was it to see a counselor? it sounds like you are an extremely sensitive person, which is good in some aspects, because it would make you compassionate and caring and bad in other aspects, because you can have a tendency to become overly conscientious. During adolescence we are super sensitive to peoples opinions and obviously you were very hurt by the comment that was made to you. I would invest some time and money into seeing a counselor to talk about self-esteem issues and self-confidence. over time as you work on it, you should see an improvement. basically, the problem is not so much the way you look, but in your perception of yourself as seen in your question heading ';severly lacking in most departments';. I would beg to differ, you probably haven't discovered all the ';departments'; that you contain and many have nothing to do with the physical appearance. I challenge you to sit down and make a list of positive qualities and attributes you have. remind yourself that you are unique and have gifts and talents to offer people. discover what they are. best of luck.
Cosmetic problems are very solvable, you just have to make it a priority.


Make a list of priorityies that will logically get you to a good place.


get to a doctor and fix your hair and face problems.


join some group stuff that is not where people set around and look at each other like softball or frisbe or handball.


physical people judge you more on your activity and joinability than your face.


Get outside and get busy, the rest will happen on its own
u just hav to remember God loves u-he really does or he wouldent of let u be born or even have a life-hes loves u so much that he gave u flaws(in his eyes u r perfect)in the phsical world-u can make ur self beautiful(or handsom)yes shave(or pluck)the space between ur eye brows and try clearsil acne stuff it works great(make sure u read the instructions!!!!)and dont care what other people think-they make fun of u b/c it makes them feel better





hope i helped even a lil bit =]
Well done you for making an appt at the docs. Many men now go for eyebrow waxing etc. Acne can be well controlled. Best of luck.
Our behaviours can be changed by altering any of the 3 main factors....the words we use, our physiology like our gestures, tone, body language and beliefs.


Beliefs would be the hardest to change.


You can try to use empowering words for a start or read self improvement books.


It will appear to be not working initially but you need to focus on your end result to help you sustain the learning curve.


Let's put it this way...suppose you are driving in reverse gear all this years with your auto-gear car. Now you want to move forward. Can you shift from reverse gear to forward instantaneously?


There is a moment where your gear goes to 'neutral'.


Likewise, to shift to regain your confidence, it is how long you have faith to sustain yourself while in the 'neutral' gear.


Need more suggestions...just email me. I have been learning and applying self improvement techniques and tools. Everyday, I spend some time in this area. It is now a habit.


One that I enjoy and more importantly, the energy gets pick up by people who meet me and they get uplifted.
I am insecure too.


Take care of yourself, first of all.


Clear up your skin the best you can. I use proactiv and still have problems but it helps alot. (you can buy something cheaper and just as good) Wash your face twice a day.


Shave any unwanted hair or hair that just is a patch on your face or anything like that. Use a little tiny trimmer for eyebrows and nose.


Keep teeth as nice as possible. Try Arm + Hammer toothpaste which whitens. It works.


Keep your hair (on head) cut.


I dont know if I helped at all but I hope so.


Be sure to keep this stuff up. Keep your ';look'; going.
OK Its very understandable,we care for you dude and would like to see you better,what can you do for us to see you better?


take care
first, people are seldom blessed with great skin just BECAUSE, you will have to work on it. Man skin is not something I know a lot about careing for so your best bet is to take advice given by the men. BUT, don't over do the skin care products. Try one along with a good cleaning routine and let it run its course first. A good washcloth can do as much for getting rid of dead skin as anything you can buy. Spend the time and what little it might cost for a facial, and book an appointment every month to have one done, at the same time get the eyebrow waxed and unruly hair tamed. I find little more attractive than a man who will take care of himself in this fashion. Most of the men i date have their nails manicured once a month anyway. Construction worker and banker alike. Let us know!