Help! My life's a mess. Any advice?

The last few years have been horrible for me.





I came home one day to find that my husband had packed up and moved to another country with his ';girlfriend';! A number of close relatives died. I went to see my doctor and started therapy and antidepressants. I needed back surgery. Then, I got backstabbed by a co-worker. Finally, I was let go at work. My former boss gave me a good reference letter but took it back because of some lies from my backstabbing colleague.





I took a loan and went back to graduate school for a year to take a ';time out';.





I'm now having trouble sleeping and concentrating. More and more often, I'm feeling hopeless and scared about going back to real life. I'm scared I'll never get another good job, relationship or good luck. After keeping going like the Energizer Bunny for the last few years, I find that I'm ';processing'; what's happened and getting more depressed. Any advice on how to not let the past suck me back in? I don't know what to do.Help! My life's a mess. Any advice?
I'm sorry about your family and what has happened to you.





I'm young and have not entered the working world yet so i don't exactly know what it's like, but i have made bad decisions and have had tons of guilt creep up on me at night. I suggest going out with friends to the cinema and generally enjoying lots of time with them. It will help cheer you up and when you feel down at night you can think of the great time you had that day.


For the Job I suggest starting of small and as you get more comfortable and confident you can push yourself a little further at your own pace.


i find that time is a healer and the more you live it and enjoy it the further away the past seems.


I hope that helps.Help! My life's a mess. Any advice?
well, first of all. get a grip on yourself. take a deep breath. now make a list of all the good things you see in yourself. then make a list of all the bad things that's in your life. now after doing this weigh your opinions. on the good list name what makes you happy. then make a list of that eliminating the other things on the list that does not make you happy but make other people happy. now, make another list of your accomplishments and places you have been in your life like trips to France ,Africa and so on.even local trips to the store mall etc. now look at that list. now on the other hand do the same for your bad things that has happened in your life. write down which ones were directly the fault of yours?such as your co-worker back stabbing you or your boss not giving you the job reference and your husband leaving you.and your back problems. then make a list of that. and i will be willing to bet you that all your problems weren't your fault and you couldn't do anything to change them.life is full of ups and down. but it looks like you have had your share of downs. yes you do need to seek professional help and to get an anti depression. if you need someone to talk to just write me any time. oh speaking of writting. everytime you feel down just get on your computer or type writer and write down how you feel. don't leave anything out.let it rip! then rip it up and you will feel so much better. and if you have to cry. cry because crying is good for you. it heals the soul.oh, bye the way i am being treated for depression to .so, i know what you are going through. good luck in your search for psycological help.
First off let me say I'm sorry, I'd give you a hug if I could. I don't know if you're a big scholar of the bible but what you described sounds exactly like the book of Job. Life can be hectic and throw you nine innings of curve balls, you just have to decide if you want to persevere or let them win.
Life begins when you start it. Take a moment and a great big breathe, then start again. I would get a job hey if it's not the one you want, keep looking till that ';one'; comes along. Not sleeping and lack of concentration will go away as you get some wins back in your life. Take some small ones and celebrate them (candy bar for small) (clothes med). Learn to look back at some of the bad things as events that helped you move on in life. It's actually pretty invigorating to start again, you just have to look at it as an opportunity. Have fun.
Sweetie, its o.k. You're just going thru a lull period right now. Everyone goes thru them. Some alot worse than yours. The trouble maker at work, let it go, it'll only weigh you down. I left my husband and loaded up two kids in my car, headed to a big city crying as I looked in my rear view mirror, leaving the only things I'd ever known. Once in the new city, I met people, landed this awesome job, couldn't believe I hadn't left sooner. You've heard, when one door closes another opens? It really is true. So you go to school knowing it %26amp; believing it.. Happiness is just around the corner.
i am young....only 14 years old. but i know a lot about life already. when i was 12 i was raped by a boy i had a crush on. i found out that i was pregnant and my friends turned their backs on me calling me a whore. now i have a 2 year old daughter and i catch hell everyday from judgmental people. but my life is good. there was a point where i just wanted to die, and i tried to kill myself more than once, but i am still here. my point is in order to stop being so depressed you have to take your life back. you are the only one that has control over your life. if you continue to let the past rein over you, let go, that's the only way to beat this. realize that you can't change the past, but it can make you stronger. don't worry about tomorrow because its not promised, just live and be thankful for the moment you're in.
You need one thing. Jesus. I can't tell you He will fix all your problems, but He will walk with you through them.