MY LIFE IS A WRECK!!! any advice on how to cope please?

I no that there are always people worse off than you but i really feel like my life is falling apart!


i started two weeks ago when my sister died...im 18 years old and im really struggling to come to terms with it. as his next of kin my two year old nephew has been left in my care, im not complaining about this because i love him so much, my son is also two years old...there is three weeks between the both and they get on well.


since his mum died tho he has understandably become very distressed! He screams for mummy all the time and gets upset when people try to do things for him, i know he is too young to understand but this is really putting stress on me and my boyfriend,


by son was diagnosed with leukaemia LARSt week and is inhospitall, im having to taking time off college and my boyfriend, (my sons dad) is taking time off work...


im finding it really hard to deal with looking after my nephew but idon'tt want him to go into care as i know its what my sister would have wanted, i just really really want to help him but h0w can you explain to a two year old that mummyisn'tt coming back?


im also finding it hard to cope with my son being so sick, he is really poorly and full of wires snaking in and out of him and he just lies still all the time, ihaven'tt seen his huge smile for what seems like a lifetime,


all this and trying to cope with my sisters death is really stressing me out! i really cant cope, i want to help my nephew and my son but being such an emotional wreck is going to effect them and im going to make things worse...it just feels like things can never get better


please please any advice would be really apprishiated!


thanks MY LIFE IS A WRECK!!! any advice on how to cope please?
Wow! You have a lot on your plate!





I'm very sorry about the death of your sister and I'm sorry that your son is ill.





Your nephew is grieving. Even a child as young as he is, can feel loss and grieve for that. His reactions are normal. But he does need help, too. Have you looked into play therapy for young children? It's a speciality that helps children cope with issues in their lives by acting them out in play.





Are there any other family members that can assist you? You need some support and it's time to rally your friends and relatives. You have a sick child and are undoubtedly still grieving for your sister as well.





Best of luck to you!MY LIFE IS A WRECK!!! any advice on how to cope please?
I would say go and get some advice from a grieve counsellor, this I feel would be the way that you can get some help for all of you. You have an awful lot to deal with and just talking to someone who knows what you are going through could help.


God bless, be strong x
Umm well i think you made a big mistake you said it feels like things cant ever get better. From your description of the the situation things cant get much worse! I don't know what else to say other than keep positive and don't give up...
Get your nephew into therapy. Even though he is so young it can still help him to cope with all the feelings he's having.
sorry youre going thru this, he wont be scared for life.





just love him and hug him. Maybe see if theres anyone that deals with toddler grief in your area.
stay strong hun, life is full of challenges, even though it might seem like you'll never get through this, you will!
GO ABROAD!!! escape all of your worries it works!!!
Hon, he is not going to understand where Mommy went. Call Hospice and ask for Grief counseling for all of you.





Tell them it is an emergency and you need to be seen as soon as possible because there is a minor child at risk.





n the meanwhile, hug, him, love him and tell him ou miss his mommy too.



First, I think you need to accept that you ARE your nephew's new mommy. There would be nothing wrong with him calling you mommy eventually. He is so young that you will be the only mommy he will really ever know. He really needs to be loved like a parent would love their child. He deserves that.





I am very sorry for all the trials you are going through right now. What helps me to get through trials is to know that God is in control and to know that He uses all things for good. Somehow, he does. No matter how bad something seems, he will use it for good, and just knowing this, can be a comfort. Also knowing that He has full control and it's not within my control, also helps. But, that said, I can't imagine my child being diagnosed with Lukemia. That would be difficult in itself, but then to also be dealing with the grief of your sister's death and all the grief and emotions that must well up when your nephew cries for his mom. That would be absolutely heart breaking to hear. All you can do for him is love him and hold him and comfort him. He will stop crying for soon, and that will be heartbreaking in and of itself, when he does.





I hope that everyone that reads your post says a prayer for you and your family. I pray that God has mercy on you and that He will lead you to understand why it is that you are going through these trials. I pray for peace for you and your family. I pray for God's will to be done in your lives.





Please know that you are never alone. God is there. He is always there and He is wanting for you to turn to Him for help with dealing with these trials.





God Bless You.
on trying to tell your nephew about his mum, go to a bookstore! unlikely, i know, but people write specific books to help explain situations and they can explain that his mummy is in the sky with the angels and that she'll always be with him? could there be something that will remind him of her that he could use for comfort in the beginning? im nearly 17 and would have no idea how to cope in your situation, i assuming you are doing your a2's? you need to call upon your family and charities so you can get through this, that is what they are there for!


good luck and i hope your baby is going to be okay.



Oh my, you do have a lot to deal with!. Please ask for professional help, grief counseling for you and your nephew, and ask other family members for physical help with childcare.





I am so sorry that you so much to cope with, but accept any help offered and ride out the storm.
im sorry to hear this but things will get better even if they seem like they wont. I know you want to be there for your boys but it sounds like you also need some time to relax. i would always assure your nephew and son that they are loved and will always be. You can always get help from your doctors, they will talk to you and offer services that will possibly teach you how to cope better for your children. Theres going to be no easy way to explain to your nephew about his mum, but your sisters gonna be proud of you for trying your best. Be strong, things will be better.
I don't know what to say other than I think that you are an amazing woman for taking your nephew. Things will eventually get better. Look for a support group that you can go to, mabey see the doctor for some help to get you through this difficult time. I would put your nephew in daycare during the day so that you can concentrate on your son. My prayers rae with you and your family x x