I REALLY need advice from people with more life experience please?

I am 21, and think I have either depression, or just anxiety, but I am on and off like a light switch. I am always stressing out about the future and have a really hard time being happy in the present. At what age do you just become comfortable and stop worrying about these things?


I am in college and about to graduate, am in a relationship with someone I love (but we are long distance right now), but all I can think about is how unhappy and empty I feel with my life most the time. I am grateful for my life, but I am always so stressed and anxious.





DO these feelings go away...? Or do I need professional help?I REALLY need advice from people with more life experience please?
Despairing anxiety is a form of depression.


Can you get to the root of your fears? don't worry,


Good nutrition might help your moods.


We can never be totally free of stress in life. Actually, it can be good motivation. We do choose whether or not to worry, try thinking good thoughts, and have some faith: you can't be responsible for stuff you can't control.


How much is the separation causing you anxiety? How long have you been long-distance?


I think you do need help. Start taking little vacations from worrying, just say right now, I'm not going to think any negative thoughts. I'm not going to stress, just for now. Then see how it feels a lot better.I REALLY need advice from people with more life experience please?
they only stay with you if you're lucky.





If you're unlucky, you fall asleep (metaphorically, of course) and you live your entire life in imagination.
You need to learn meditation techniques so that you may master yourself instead of bobbing around like a cork. Seriously! These things do not go away. We master them and render them inert. Be well!
i feel the same way as you do but im a senior in high school.





perhaps we just have small disorders, small stress disorders of whatever type.





but i feel like i just hate my life and would rather reverse than move into the future. but thats not my choice, that cant happen.








but all I can think about is how unhappy and empty I feel with my life most the time. I am grateful for my life, but I am always so stressed and anxious.





i feel like that alot. its been maybe a year or less that i been feeling this way. and theres a partial reason behind it.





what im saying is, how long have you ben feeling this way?


a very long time, maybe you need a doc





but just a short while. then just let it pass.


ride it out





youre about to graduate college soon, thats amazing!


wellgood luck.


you can always email me.
Do you need professional help? We're in no position to answer that question, but this commonly-used screening test, which tells you what your score means, might shed some light on the question.





http://counsellingresource.com/quizzes/c鈥?/a>





Of the different approaches to therapy, I have a bias in favor of cognitive-behavioral therapy. There is a tremendous amount of research on it, because its the easiest psychotherapy to study scientifically. If it's not the best, its cost-effectiveness is certainly impressive, and also its versatility.





The Handbook of Self-Help Therapies offers evidence from clinical studies that show reading cognitive therapy books to be, with certain problems, about as good as seeing a therapist. This is true of the work of David D. Burns.





The Feeling Good Handbook by Burns is also the book most often recommended for depression by mental health professionals. It has the Burns' advice on anxiety.





At Oxford University, researchers combined cognitive therapy with an ancient meditation method that we call mindfulness. Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy has worked as well as antidepressants in preventing relapse after depression. These researchers have written a popular book, The Mindful Way Through Depression.





The Depression Cure by Dr. Stephen Ilardi explains the University of Kansas depression program Therapeutic Lifestyle Change.





http://www.psych.ku.edu/tlc/Therapeutic%鈥?/a>





The Handbook of Self-Help Therapies says that some popular books for insomnia are based on proven self-help principles, such as Can't Sleep, Can鈥檛 Stay Awake: A Woman鈥檚 Guide to Sleep Disorders by Meir Kryger.





When the topic of stress comes up, I often suggest finding a book on chronic pain management, one written for healthcare providers. Of course, you can find lots of information with Google and the key words stress management or stress reduction.
I am wondering if you are under TOO MUCH stress. Have you taken on more credits than you can handle right now? Is it the stress of graduation perhaps? It may be a difficult adjustment to have your bf far away. I suggest that you may want to see a therapist to rule out clinical depression but off hand it sounds like you have circumstances that would set you into situational depression which is brought on by all the changes and stress building things in your life. In which case, your emotions will probably go back to a normal range after graduation. If they don't, by all means see a Professional. Its very wise of you to ask and consider it a possibility.