Need some advice on my love life.?

Hi,





i am a bi male in a realationship with a female who i love dearly but however i keep on having feelings for men i want to have sex with them i have had sex with 2 men in the past but i not in the last 3/4 years





i been with my girlfriend about 1 year now and i love her to bits i dont want sex with any other female i happy with her. but however she dont know i am bi or even had sex with men thats it my secret life which i like to keep to myself. i choose not to tell my family or friends i am bi.


i want to keep it the way it is them not knowing.





the urge to have sex with a man is getting stronger and i really know i want to do it but i feel bad cuz i feel that i will be cheating on my girlfriend and i know that really hurts.





what shell i do please help me


she will leave me if i tell her and i dont want to lose her.


but again i only young and i want to make the most of my life before i get serious and spend the rest of my life with 1 person.





what do you think i should do?Need some advice on my love life.?
this is a tough one...


she probly wont like the idea of you being attracted to other men.


but you can also explain to her, being with a man is something you would like to do occasionally. and explain it is no threat to her, it is something she cant offer you but also something she doesnt have to compete with (unless you find a male partner she would rather be with)


i cant really begin to tell you how you can tell her, i suppose just to tell her straight and explain how you feel.


if she wanted to sleep with a girl, would you be ok with that? think about it the other way round and how youd want her to tell you.


maybe you could have a 3some?


good luck!Need some advice on my love life.?
stop being gay and you wont get yourself into these situations
ok so you are bi, in a relationship with a woman you love, yet you want to cheat or leave her, well you need to make up you'r mind before someone does get hurt, but if you love her why not stay an forget about these feelings towards men, but then you will be un happy, if you leave her she will be unhappy for a while till she gets someone new and you can do what you want, so get rid of her but nicely.
Hiya no matter what ur sexuality is (greedy lol) nah only joking, but your not being fair on ur girlfriend, if your only young break up with her live life a little, you can't have it both ways ok its not fair on her, if u love her respect her finish it or be happy with what u got and stay faithful.
You should really explore the idea of telling her that you are indeed bI BECAUSE if you are goinhg to act on the other men thing everyone should know up front so there are no hard feelings and for health issues, everyone should know
first dude you have to decide which sex you are attracted to more................then go from there!
just tell her that your bi if she really loves you then she will accept you. if you dont want to tell her just go behind her back or tell her you want to have sex with a man
last time i tried a straight relationship


i slept with her best friend


so i cant really


offer an opinion from the moral high ground


but i know how strong the feelings are


and how they constantly tear at you


you maynot be able to fight desire for ever


tell her before you hurt her


by cheating
I don't know, but what you CANNOT do is marry her or have kids... Really, be very very careful... A lot of guys before in this situation think either these will change their sexuality/ desires... They do not... Be true to yourself, and honest with her.... Don't waste either of your time if she needs monogomy and you cannot provide it.... Even if you are just questioning.... Life is short.... Follow your heart...
Try and bring a guy into the bed for ';her'; and then just take him back.
you should def just tell her that you two should take a break and explain to her why, tell her about your being bi and everything and explain to her that you love her and want to be with her. its just that you need time to figure out your sexuality. from then you can have sex with all the guys you want in a months span and then get back together with her! =]


that way, you get it all out of your system and it is done and over with. that way your not cheating, sneaking around, or leaving her
Just tell her or else when she finds out , she will think her relationship with you is a lie, be honest, try and come out and say something like i wonder what it would be like with a bloke and you could also ask her that you would like to try a threesome with her and another girl , see how she reacts then you decide whether to tell her or not
u need to leave her along u need to go on an be gay ur not bi u like the company of women but u want a man she dosent deserve that u can give her aids your on the DL trying to keep it real LEAVE HER ALONG
I told my wife before we were married, even if she did not completely understand then. I believe that such commitment requires complete disclosure. We have been married for 38 years, and both she and our adult daughters know and understand my sexuality. Yes, there have been indiscretions and temptations, but no I'm not committed to anyone else. Repentance and forgiveness are part of the love we share.
there are sometimes you have to hide some truths in your life, this is life and you have to live it, so if you don't wanna loose her then keep this secret, its unethical but its the only way, and don't feel guilty for being unethical, because there is no single person in the world who never did any thing unethically, even I will say GOD is unethical, because he makes some people rich and some people very poor. just a fact.
the choice is simple. cheat either with man or woman and you loose the girl. no one can tell you what to do. are you willing to loose the girl? that is the question. all of us has feelings and needs to cheat but are those needs greater than your life with the girl. dont think you can cheat and she wont know. we always know. be prepared to loose her. and you should loose her.
It sounds like your confused about your sexuality, i would break it off with your girlfriend, or just tell her you need some space between you and persue the other side... And if this is what you like better, go for it, if not resume the rlationship or find another girlfriend. I know this is not what you probably wanted to hear, but i eneded up married for 14 years before i decided to leave and be honest with myself. I still to this day have kept my sex life private. Except on this Q/A site. I assume a lot of people know about me, but it has never been discused. Be true to your self, you have to be happy, life is too short to be always wondering if you made the wrong or right choice. Be happy, and safe!! Good luck, dude!!
it will be difficult but you have to tell her


you will hurt her and she will go


but if she really loves you she will stop and come to you





you have to know there is the chance she go and didn't come back and you will lose not only a woman you will lose a friend





listen to this


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JHg2q5M6WnY


I thing this song will help because it help me
Holding this info from her will eventually come out, so best to tell her now. She will be hurt, and your relationship may end, but there is no relationship anyway if you are hiding things from her.
PERVERT!!!!!!
i really think you need to question whether you want to be with the girlfriend, if you are as happy as you make out then you wouldnt even be considering having sex with anyone else, no matter which sex they may be...
You won't like this but i believe same gender sex is unnatural. So for you there is no answer.





When you dance with the Devil, you can't stop when YOU get tired!
This is something you really need to discuss with her. Emphasize to her that you love her, don't want any other woman, and don't want to hurt her.





See if she will look at the website http://straightspouse.org/ to learn from the experiences of other people who have found out their partner was bi or gay.





Yes, you are taking a risk that she may leave you. But you are more likely to be able to build a successful relationship with her if you are honest. Maybe you will be pleasantly surprised that she is open to sharing you with other men. Maybe she would even find it a turn-on, say if you both had a three-way with another man. Maybe your being open about your sexual needs will liberate her to talk more about her needs. This could be the beginning of a stronger relationship and more sexual satisfaction for both of you!





Whatever you do, I would urge you not to deceive her and sleep with others if you have told her you wouldn't. It will be harder for you to enjoy your encounters with men if you are worrying about being found out, and if she does find out, she will (justifiably) be furious that you would lie about something so important.
cheating is cheating , either tell her or don't do it, can you imagine if she found out you had been behind her back with another man. it would surly break her heart please tread carefully