I need advice on my home life?

me and my girlfriend have a baby. and i love my daughter more than anything but i hate my girlfriend. she always accuses me of cheating when i never have and she screams at me from dawn to dusk. she is the most horrid person i have ever met in my life, she wont even let me work because she says i don't go i just go cheat and women give me money. and then she screams at me for not having a job, she even called my bosses wife and told her she was a whore once in order to get me fired. she makes me want to die. but if i leave then i know that the court system here is screwed up and she will get the baby and will try to keep her from me, and i could not live without my baby. is it better to sacrifice the rest of my life to be with my baby, or should i settle for whatever the court says i can have as far as visitation goes. what do i do?I need advice on my home life?
WHEN did she turn into this monster? Maybe she needs to speak with her physician. How old is your baby? She's either hormonal, or phycho.


Good Luck with trying to figure her out.... 鈾モ櫏I need advice on my home life?
your daughters' half yours and half hers take her to court, but poss-ion is nine tenths of the law so make your daughter is living with you because usually the courts won't uproot the child and make sure you got your *hit together...job, house, or going to school because your gonna have to show you can provide a stable environment.. not one that changes with the wind and just keep it peaceful between you to and keep what your doing to yourself until you get it done
Sit down and have a good long chat with your girlfriend. Ask her why she thinks you are cheating on her and what you can do to proove your not. You can also suggest trying couples counselling, tell her you really want to make this work for the sake of your little one and that if she loves her daughter she should give it a go.
';better to live outside than with a contentious woman';--that's what the bible says.





Just leave--and take the baby with you. You have JUST as much right as she does--file for custody immediately.





The way it works is, whoever has physical custody of the child and is better equipped to take care of it gets custody.
WoW!! If what you say is true, then she has a real problem. She needs to see a psychiatrist, and you have to go see a counsellor or psychiatrist too - so that they can enable you to realise you have to get away from her.


You also have to see a solicitor, or get legal advice about how to keep contact, maybe even custody of your daughter.
please leave you will be miserable for the rest of your life and the older your child gets the harder it is going to be to leave be with some one who loves and respect you and take what the court gives you on visitation. it is unfair to bring up a child in the current situation she will be miserable to
you love your daughter. but you need to be happy too.


you are clearly not happy with this relationship. im not saying go and end it with her right now. im saying why don't you go and talk to her about how you feel. if she loves you she will try to change and trust you. im sure your daughter will understand when she gets older but you also need to be happy and live your life the way you want it. dont waste any of your time not been happy. you never get that time back.
there is no point in living in this kind of relation. She is just trying to ruin ur life. Ask her what she really want out of you nd u r falling out of love. Explain her, if she keppt on shouting on u this will have -ve impact on ur daughter. First find a good job then good lawyer who can solve ur probllem. I think u will find many people who will speak in ur favour in the court.


Take care
you should go to court first, take videos of her rampages for evidence that she's not fit to be a parent, and maybe could be a possible danger to her child.





if you get a good laywer file for custody if you want soul or split.





i dont think you should sacrifice you're happiness, but that doesnt mean you have to give up your kid without a shot first.
She is trying to control you. She may be a female narcissist. There are a lot of articles on that online, and books you can get from the library. Here is one that mentions ';staying for the kids,'; http://hubpages.com/hub/KNOW-WHEN-TO-WAL鈥?/a>





I don't think it is good for your kids for you to be arguing all the time.
Staying in an unhealthy relationship that you're not happy in isn't fair to your child or to you. You need to leave, try to get full custody, and find somebody that'll treat you and your daughter better.
She is not fit being a mother, you'll get your baby, took evidence of her showing she is dangerous for your daughter. And you should show a proof too,that you could take care of your daughter.
see a lawyer about it and tell her the situation. if the court deems her an unfit mother, which it kinda sounds like she is, then you could get custody. it would never hurt to meet with a lawyer though and see what they say.
go for it... take her *** to court.. you dont deserve to go through this crap... find another women that will accept that u have a child..it sounds like ur girlfriend wants u to pay child support.. dont give in and bring up the boss's wife thing in court
maybe you should try to get custody of your child.. if your girlfriend is that angry all the time i dont think she is very suit too be a mother.


leave her no matter what but dont give up your baby without a fight!





good luck
First sentence wrong. *my girlfriend and I have a baby* is the correct term. That's why you're having problems. You bastard *hiss!*
go to court and get temporary custody of your daughter and once you get it leave her sorry a**
you need to leave this woman and get visitation rights hon.
alright. well first of all you should really try talking to her i know it might seem uncomftorable at first but it will help in the long run. so what you have to do is ask her why she accuses you of doing these things because remember a relationship is built on trust and loyalty. and you have a daughter you should really try making things work for her but if there is fighting going on around the house then its a bad environment for the little one. so once again you should really try making things work you never know it might get better once you've had a talk. ok one last thing you and your wife were deeply in love at some point did you used to bring her flowers every day just because? and have stopped doing it? well try it again!! and have you ever commented in her cooking? if she does? then tell her how great you think it is! tell her that you appreciate everything she does for you and remind her of how beautiful she is!! skip work on some days just to spend time with the family!! have a picnic, go grocery shopping, the movies, mall just do anything to spend your time with her. make sure she knows that to you you think that she is the most beautiful thing alive and that you love her more than anything! so once you do that she will give you some love in return! ok hope i helped! GOOD LUCK :)
hi sounds as if you need to leave and fight for full custody you don't deserve to be treated like that no one does.if you stay it will only get worse and your baby will be in the middle of this you need to get you a lawyer first before she does and seek his advise sweetlyer knowing its free to just talk to one.and see what you can do you sound like a loveing father and the baby needs to be where it is taken care of you need witness of the abuse.because if you don't do something your baby will grow up thinking this is the way of life and i know you don't want this you are her dad and if leaveing is what it takes to protect her than thats what you need to do you need a job and a place of your own to offer when you do go to court but if visition is all you get at least you will have that to hold on too you love your baby thats clearly to see but you have to do whats right .maybe have your girlfriend drug tested man you need to forget about wanting to die what will happen than so please do what i said and go talk to someone stand your ground your baby is depending on you dad.good luck
It's better for a child to come from a broken home than to live in one. Your girlfriend definitely has issues that need addressing by a professional counselor. Do you think she'd go to one? If so, that could be your saving grace. Ask yourself this question - if she weren't behaving in this manner and let you work without accusing you of cheating, etc, would you then be in love with her? If the answer is yes, then I really feel that asking her to get counseling is the first thing you should do. If she agrees to go and really does make an effort, then I think that the relationship might be worth saving. At that point, you'd also get involved in the counseling sessions with her. It is a good idea for you to get some counseling yourself, apart from her so that you can figure out how to deal with this.





If she does not agree to go, then I do think you know what you will have to do. Make sure you find a great lawyer that will get you as much visitation as you can get, but also make sure that you take care of your little girl financially - she deserves that! You sound like a very responsible guy and would do that anyway.





I wish you much luck and would love to see you guys work things out, but if you are only going to fight, then you are not doing your daughter any favors by staying. If you do split up, make sure that you don't talk bad to her about her mother because it will end up biting you in the butt later. When you do have those weekend exchanges, be civil and don't pick fights because your daughter needs to see that her parents can at least talk and get along a little bit because that will give her the security that she may lack by not having you at home. If you take your girlfriend to court and get joint legal custody, then she cannot stop your daughter from seeing you and if she tries, you can take her back to court for contempt of court for violating the visitation order. Good luck to you! I wish you the best.
';better to live outside than with a contentious woman';--that's what the bible says.


I like that.


I know where your coming from. Some states just don't recognize parental rights of unwed fathers. It's a damn shame, I don't know who decided that breasts equals good parent. If I'm hearing your story right, she has anger issues which will probably turn physical sooner or later. Play the system they created. Wait calmly until she hits you. Then call the police, and have her arrested. While she's in jail, have her served with an order of protection, and call one of her girlfriends, relatives etc. to pick up her belongings. The next day, before she can post bail, file for sole custody with monitored visitation on the grounds that she is abusive and may harm/steal the baby.