I've never felt so alone in my life...I have Aspergers and I'm in my teens I'm suicidal - any advice? Aspies?

I know people say that once your grown up you will have friends...and life will be better...but thats a lie and for people with this syndrome how can life get better?





I was in this confusing situation a couple of weeks ago at the beginning of term where when I asked this girl who is amazingly beautiful that I want to be friends she ignored me.





When I approached her she shouted at me in frustration ';I've already got a boyfriend';...I told her that was fine and I wanted to say that I may be getting my emotions confused and I want to remain friends she didn't listen. I drew her a sketch of my feelings and drew in chalk on a blackboard that I wanted her to see...





She wouldn't listen. So now she's ignored me and to make things worse my very few friends that I had in one class left me alone and went to sit at her table to talk to her friends and her. I now have sat alone in a 6 seat table alone for about a month now.





Nothing has gotten better and all I can do is sit awkwardlyI've never felt so alone in my life...I have Aspergers and I'm in my teens I'm suicidal - any advice? Aspies?
You need to seek counseling from a professional that understands Asperger's Syndrome. I have been researching this for a few years now cause I do believe that my husband has this. Notice, I said husband? So I hope this gives you a little encouragement to know that lasting friendships are possible. But, you have to learn how to act and react in public situations. The girl told you that she is not interested in you. Leave it at that. Don't nag her to be her friend.You are making yourself come off as a stalker. Don't do that. move on to other life attempts. Don't even try to speak to her again. Do your friends realize that you have Asperger's? You should explain it to them. I know that it must be frustrating not being able to read social signals and how it is difficult for others to understand you as well. I am sorry that I don't know you but I do think that I can help you simply from my own experience. Anyway, seek psychological with a professional who is skilled with this personality trait. I am hoping that your life will improve from this day forward.I've never felt so alone in my life...I have Aspergers and I'm in my teens I'm suicidal - any advice? Aspies?
i don't know what i can say that will help, except that there are people out there who care about you - be strong, okay? x
I can recall in horror the huge expanse of lunch table I used to occupy in solitude in high school, so I know kind of where you are coming from. I also know what it's like to be suicidal, and I know first hand all the trouble suicide brings. Please try to put the idea of suicide out of your mind as a realistic choice. Life gets a lot better once you resign yourself to living it.





You have the right to live and be here no matter how different you are. There is no way you should ever let another person's actions make you feel as if you longer deserve to live. Maybe you will always have to work harder at making eye contact, smiling and learning the social cues that come naturally to others, but through your life you are going to find others who are more accepting of your differences than in high school. It really does get better.





There are people here on the net who can interact with you socially. If you can't really make friends well in the real world, maybe the virtual one can fill in the gaps to get you through some of the tough times, though you still have to watch out for some of the crueler types. Sometimes I think it's easier to talk to people online than in real life so this might be a good place for support.





Come back and hang out again sometime, okay?
PLEASEEEEE do not even think about suicide!!!! I seriously think that you should seek a professional! And about that chick... that's normal.. don't even worry about that, I PROMISE you that you will find someone that would not be so mean to you like that girl.. some people out there are too full of themselves and just care about themselves.. and well people like that is TOTALLY not worth being friends with! So please don't give up on life.. BELIEVE me.. there is a lot of great things awaiting for you! You first have to get professional help, and then thereafter only good things will happen to you! I wish you all the luck in the world!!!!!
Poor old you. Aspergers is a nightmare! Is there a support worker or teacher you trust that you can talk to who would try and explain things to this girl - though, with the way she is acting, is she worth it?





I think friends can find Aspergers very difficult to deal with - especially so in the teenage years. All I can suggest is take a good book with you to lunch or could you take a packed lunch that you could eat elsewhere so you do not have to face this situation? You definitely need to speak to someone from the school - keep trying until you find someone who will listen.





I would also point out that to leave someone isolated like this is a form of bullying so the school should be doing something about it.





Another thing, people with Aspbergers are usually very bright and more mature than their age group - they might just need time to catch up





Keep going, its not for ever - things will improve. Have a chat with someone and keep your head down for now and don't let them see how it upsets you. Rise above it.





Good luck
Sorry to hear your going through this. Sounds awful I have Dyslexia that affects learning, reading, writing etc. I also find it hard to make friends a socialise. Would talking to your friends and telling them how you feel help? Otherwise if your friends and this girl are behaving like this they are not real friends or worth it. As you get older things do usually get a better, because when you leave school, people are older, they become more mature, open minded, accepting, nicer etc. Where as school sucks. So don't give up.





Also if you are feeling depressed what about talking to a school councillor if you have one, your Doctor and therapist etc.





I have anxiety and depression and have been trying an alternative therapy called Emotional Freedom Technique and it has really worked for me and helped me a lot. Since using it I have been feeling a lot better. It's very good at getting rid of all kinds of negative emotions and dealing with all kinds of issues quickly. It does sound bizarre but does work. Might be something that can help you.
Ok first question: What is Aspergers?


I don't know what that is. Also, you can make friends, you have to be yourself. If you try to hard, then it will notice. If you relax, and just stay cool then you will get friends. Gurateen. Also, if you can't make friends in school. Make friends on the internet, or gain a penpale.
I know when you hear adults telling you that it will get better when you're an adult it is frustrating to hear... but much of the time it can be true. Many adolescents are still maturing and in a developmental stage in which they are still very self centered. This is not to say that teens are selfish and ONLY think of themselves, because that isn't true... however youth in this age group can be very mean and abrupt in their actions.





You have a challenge that these some other teens don't have... Aspergers... while there are varying levels of this disorder it doesn't mean that you will be unable to ever learn to socially interact with your peers in a more effective way.





Look into treatment programs that specialize in Aspergers. These programs may be able to help provide you with the tools and to coping skills to better communicate and socialize.





The teenage years are a rough time for most... i'm sorry you are having such a difficult time, but please get help when it comes down to ever wanting to hurt yourself. Talk to a therapist or a trusted love one and seek out what other options and programs that are out there that can help.
I also have Asbergers. Don't worry about it, forget them 'cause if they don't understand then they're not true friends anyway. You WILL find new friends!