I may be ruing my life after my breakup! Any good advice.?

So I left my ex last November and thought it was the best thing for me. Actually I know it was. He was a HORRIBLE boyfriend. Anyway we where together three years and he really broke me down. This year I have just went crazy. I party all of the time and blow tons of money. I used to be a good girl but it seems as thought I really dont care anymore. I drink way more than I should and got my first OUI last night. I am scared I will never be ';normal'; again and dont know how to get there. Any advice.... I really am not looking for smart *** comments either so please keep those to yourself.





Thanks





xoxox ~L.C~I may be ruing my life after my breakup! Any good advice.?
Hi Laura,





Don't know the details but it sounds like you are trying to do the opposite to what it was like being with him. Maybe he played mind games so now you want to feel free, maybe subconsciously you felt like you were trapped etc. The problem is, cause you were together so long the stuff you do now gets back to him. He would probably like to hear that you are out of control without him. Some guys feel like a winner if there ex goes crazy or puts on a heap of weight or has a bad run of luck. Pretty psycho hey.





Believe it or not, you have needed this time to go a little crazy, but you are starting to realize that it cant go on forever. So this is what you do. ( keep this to yourself). Put a date in the calender for maybe two weeks or a month from now and say that you are going to do whatever you want to do up until then. Go crazy, keep partying. You deserve it, its good for you to have a release. When the date arrives you have to be accountable to yourself, cut back on something you have been doing too much of recently, but do the other stuff, have fun.. Then go another two weeks, cut back something else. Don't get rid of anything (legal) just cut back to a balanced level. Keep doing this until you are at the point where if anything was to get back to your ex it could only be to show how well you are doing.





You will get there cause there are many levels of normal. You made a big change ending the relationship which was to one extreme, now you just have to cut back on the other extreme and meet in the middle.

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