My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now, we haven't had sex (intercourse) but we are thinking about it. Thing is - ever since we've been sexual otherwise (oral sex, fingering, etc...) he hasn't gotten me to orgasm :/ I haven't told him, and I've been faking it...(I know, how stupid!)
Is there a way that I can get him to really pleasure me? to get our sex life on track? I need a woman and men's opinion PLEASE!
What I'm afriad of is that if he can't get me to orgasm by NOW, how will I know he can if we start to have sex?I need advice on my sex life!?
ok well you need to be mature enough to be honest with him first. the only way for him to really pleasure you is to know what you want and how you want it, the best way is to figure it out yourself (masturbate). if you don't have a clue how is he suppose to? if you can't talk about it with him and just expect it to happen please don't have sex, just because you've been with him a year doesn't mean you owe him your body. work on the other ';stuff'; first. sex is a big deal. me and my bf work on our sex life and it's been six years, we still have passion for each other and work on pleasuring one another. but you have to be comfortable asking him to do things.
one more thing, don't focus on the orgasming part so much that is the number one reason why women don't orgasm, we stress and think too much about it, relax and enjoy the feeling, and concentrate on breathing, very very important to have nice deep slow breaths.I need advice on my sex life!?
Speaking as a man, I think you need to let him know exactly how to please you. Oral stimulation with his tongue might do it or using his fingers in the right spots. Perhaps if you have used your fingers yourself tell him where it gave you most pleasure. I am sure he is willing to find a way if he loves you. Since you have yet to have intercourse, perhaps when you finally have a firm penis inside you it may help you to orgasm. Good luck.
Being able to have an orgasm is as much about knowing your own body and what feels good (and being into it for the right reasons) as it is about someone being able to ';give'; you one. My advice would be to learn that part of it before you consider such a major step as sexual intercourse.
You need to walk in sexual purity.
';Flee also youthful lusts, but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord with a PURE heart,'; 2 Timothy 2:22
';Be an example to believers in the word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in PURITY,'; 1 Timothy 4:12
1 John 1:9 says that the Lord is faitful and just to forgive us our sins.
';That if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised him from the dead, you will be saved,'; Romans 10:9
if orgasming is the most important thing to you for sex then i advice u are not ready for sex.
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