Help I need advice on my dating life!?

You know how when you meet someone, and there is an instant connection? I've had a quite a few of those kind of dates. I'd say about 100% of the time the connection was with a definately 'broken' person. They were all wrong for me and more than likely were all unattainable in some sort of way, such as bad boy, or would never settle down, or alcoholic, etc. Maybe it was the thrill of the challenge to 'help them'. I have had 3 serious relationships. One was totally bad with money, the other was a recovering alcoholic, the other was a guy who went off the deep end. Now I have a very good friend and coworker who is married to a pretty good guy. They insisted I go out with this guys older brother. This guy has never really been interested in girls or dated much. He is just getting out of a divorce of 8 years where is he kind of 'forced' to get married or she said she was not going to be around. He got married hoping things between them would get better (obviously marriage does not fix things). So we've been on one formal date and the other was just hanging out. I do not have the 'click' with him. BUT he is one of the nicest guys I have ever met. He is sweet, honest, hard working, not ugly by any means, kinda shy and very loyal. He has no children (I have one) and he just adores kids. Tonight he stopped by and gave me a dozen red roses for mothers day and a card that told me how much he cared about me and he thinks i'm absolutely wonderful. OK, so obviously this guy would treat me like a princess. So why do I feel like I am forcing my feelings for him? Is it because I am not challenged? What the heck is my problem?!! Why am I so scared and feel like running for the hills? I told him to be patient because I want to get to know him, but in my gut, even though I'd be treated well, I feel like I would be bored. Do I need professional help lol? Deep down do I feel like I deserve to be treated badly after so many hurts in my life? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!Help I need advice on my dating life!?
Soldier, love is war and your heart is the battlefield.





You are right; you are hesitating because a part of you has become comfortable with being treated badly! I’ve seen this a thousand times - - don’t let that feeling cheat you out of real happiness that you so deserve!





Yes, if he is a “nice guy” he is going to seem a little boring, but he will love you, stand up for you and you children and always treat you with respect. Your happiness will be the most important thing in the world to him! You will have to decide which is better, the “excitement” of being slapped around and mistreated or the “boredom” and security of being with a nice guy.





Listen, it doesn’t have to be boring. Nice guys want to please and are eager to learn how. You can teach him a few tricks for the bedroom, read some romantic novels, or watch some soft porn together to spice things up. Just ask him to start using his imagination and I’m sure he’ll surprise the hell out of you (in a good way, of course). Nice guys are so much better because they actually listen when you talk, they care about how you feel, and they appreciate being loved. Give him time and you’ll see how much happier you will be with someone who actually appreciates your affection!





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Ask yourself if you're shying away from him because he's a good thing and you're afraid of losing that. It seems easier for you to ';click'; with guys who aren't all that great because it's easy to let them go. Sometimes people put barriers in front themselves when there's something good and worthy to be obtained because they're afraid of getting hurt.