Really, really stressed and anxious. Lots happening in my life right now. Really need advice?

This isn't everything, but you'll get the idea. I really need someone to hear me out.





- Got a great paying, full-time job... between the time I got the job and my start date figured out I was pregnant


- During that time up until now (12 weeks pregnant) we鈥檝e found that hubby has a really messed up back and needs surgery; he鈥檚 on worker鈥檚 compensation and we don鈥檛 know for how long or when the surgery is going to be


- At first I was really excited about my job until I started getting headaches and feeling really nauseated and dizzy and faint and hot/cold and extremely tired every minute of the day... not to mention I have other health issues such as asthma and a benign tumour that to this day scares me


- Now since I鈥檝e stopped taking my supplement I feel less nauseous (I was overdosing on iron)


- I鈥檓 weaned down to not taking my anti-depressant/anti-anxiety medication and I鈥檓 really happy about that


- I鈥檝e been feeling better physically besides being so tired, but emotionally I鈥檝e been having a lot of outbursts; sometimes starting from little things (clothes don鈥檛 fit and it鈥檚 driving me insane every morning when I have to find something to wear for work) and sometimes from big things (worried about hubby, finances, life, stress hurting the baby, etc.)


- I鈥檝e been so emotional that I鈥檓 having troubles going to work and focusing on my *new* job without crying or without dreaming of how less stressful it would be to work part-time and be able to play my guitar and make my art during the other half of my day


- Small thing in the house that are messy drive me nuts


- Worried about asking to work part-time because of finances and because I鈥檓 in my probationary period at work


- Worried if we鈥檇 have enough money if I did work part-time


- I feel trapped because I have such a good job and I鈥檓 not able to function properly


- Can鈥檛 handle confrontation right now/really frustratedReally, really stressed and anxious. Lots happening in my life right now. Really need advice?
Wow it sounds like you are pretty stressed, and rightfully so. I can tell you I have shared almost all of your concerns as well. You have a lot of things on your shoulders.





Do you have any social groups? Any family you can talk to? Sometimes you need to ask for help and take time out of your daily routine to do something for yourself.





I am sure everything will turn out just fine for you and your family. Good luck to you.Really, really stressed and anxious. Lots happening in my life right now. Really need advice?
I think you need to take a step back and take a deep breath. I know you are feeling overwhelmed right now but count your blessings instead of the things that are wrong. I think if you start thinking about all of the good things they may put the ';bad'; in perspective.


In reguards to your job, maybe just being honest with your boss about your situation would help relieve some of the pressure.





And Congratulations on your pregnancy what a wonderful thing.
I have loads of sympathy for you, because I understand what it's like to be pregnant be while dealing with really stressful stuff in your life. But it does get better! You're at a really super-emotional time in your pregnancy now, and it's likely that every tiny thing that isn't going right is going to set you off.





The best advice I could give you right now is to stick with it, and don't make any major changes in your life right now. Most of my second trimester has been a breeze - I'm feeling better, I've got energy again, and my emotions have definitely evened out. Keep working full-time, because I think it'll cause more stress if you have to worry about finances. Re-evaluate the situation in a couple months, depending on how you feel then. Make sure you talk to your hubby about what's bothering you, and find friends that you can vent to. Exercise, because it's a wonderful stress reliever.





When you feel your baby moving for the first time, you'll barely remember all the stress you've been dealing with. :) Good luck!
sorry but that's life, i think about stuff like that everyday! i have an awesome job that i started the same time i found out i was pregnant. its been 26 weeks and im afraid of working full time after i have my baby, i know i wont be able to handle leaving him somewhere, when i could be at home watching his every moment of life!





lucky for you your only 12 weeks along, you have plenty of time to figure things out. just remember things happen for a reason, and everything will work out in the end. you cant stress or worry about it because that can put stress on the baby...





take it one day at a time, and enjoy being pregnant, even though its rough right now
it may seem stressful now but wait it out...i felt so overwhelmed early on in my pregnancy as well. it seemed like every time i turned around something was going on and i seriously thought i was going insane!!! take deep breaths and when things seem to be getting too chaotic just sit and do deep breaths for a couple minutes until you feel relaxed enough to keep doing what it is your doing. it will get better, i promise, it's just a matter of time...





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Relax relate and release that all you have to do you dont have any REAL problems to me. You are stressing behind small stuff and its only natural because you are pregnant but girl i moved pass all that when i was pregant and decided i wouldnt use that as a excuse and just push thru my pregancy like a piece of cake. Look you gon have bad days that is normal how you handle them says alot about you. Your clothes not gon fit come on your pregant chillout. you are just worring about all this stuff now because you have a baby growing inside you. keep your full time job because you need the money YOUR HAVING A BABY dont rely on the system thats what will happen if you work part time. you can do it your not the first person to have a kid and you wont be the last chill out. thats great your off the meds i bet you dont need them you just think you do. it will all work out girl you are a female the strongest being created so stand tall suck it up and move on with your life. right now your just crying like a baby those days are over because your having a baby. this is life hun and you have to make it work!! you can do it just believe in YOURSELF GO GIRL MAKE IT WORK ok sweetie
Okay Take a deep breathe...breathe is %26amp; then out! Don't get overwhelemed with all this stuff at one time. When you think of everything that is wrong at one time it does make us go crazy!! Prioritize your problems!





First there is nothing you can do about ur hubbys back...yes it sucks...but at least he is getting paid workmens comp and he's eventually gonna get it fixed





Now abour being mad about clothes not fitting....look at it this way...they dont fit b/c of a much bigger and better reason! You are in the process of making a new life which is beautiful %26amp; it will all be worth it in the end! Today I put on my first pay of work/dress pants that I acn't button! I just laughed and foudn a long shirt to cover it up!!





I get so annoyed at things to (im 12 weeks) like my BF smoking in the house or things being messy ( we just moved and their and boxes everywhere. Instead of getting mad that no1 but myself seems to be unpacking I just do a little at a time.





I work full time 8-5 and I get really tired starting at like 3pm. I just try and eat a snack or walk around for a minute to boost my energy!





it will all be worth it in the end! I hope you start feeling better!