these people are those people who have been a part of your lovelife, the short term and the not so long term relationship..not only once you see them but twice in one day..but you already told to yourself past is past...but they now still coming back..i dont want to refresh it again..What is your advice if people from the past starts to come back again in your life.?
for most people in your past.. theres a reason they didnt make it into your future.. but if they do, then welcome them. no reason to hold back from something, anything that might make you happy as long as its not harmful to your heart. everyone deserves a second chanceWhat is your advice if people from the past starts to come back again in your life.?
Then leave it in the past, it will only be come the now if you let it. You have done so well thus far without it.
hi, you are right past is past... you can't come back to the past without a price so just move on, when you meet those people who you are talking about don't deal with them unless you have to do it, and if you have to deal with them then do it as you were dealing with any body not important or you don't know.....also always remind your self that you moved on and you can't go to the past....Good Luck
Live and let live..what will be will be...regardless of what you do..if it feels right let them in..if it is a positive thing go for it..keep negativity out of your life...good attracts good...let things flow..you will know what mkaes you feel good..if its makes you feel bad..run from it. and stay away from it for good.
It's hard but you have to commit your self to stay away from them as possible.
i never look back it woint change a thing..
Then dont refresh it.
willpower, my friend. :)
You have your answer. You do not want to start over with this person again. Don't do it if your heart is telling you not to. And do not feel bad about your decision. This is YOUR life.
kick the as.s to the curb my friend
Put a stop to it NOW. It will only get worse. Also, you might want to remind yourself about why it didn't work the first time.
Just say what you did in the guestion..
';Nice to see you, BUT, i don't want to refresh old things , again..
and have moved on';..
You have it inside you the power and strength..
and, you sound like you have developed a much healthier outlook on life.. than perhaps did before..it's called maturity..
good look to you....
put your foot down and stand up foryourself and stand your ground and find out motivates and then if its worthy of time and sincere then be nice and friends but keep distant forawhile intil it seems and feels same to have person fully in life or not and if u continue to feel uncomfortable move on
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Big problem, need advice. Step daughter wrecking my life.?
I have a step daughter, Kasondra (Kassi) who in the past, I have had some problems with. I never said or did anything about the problems until she was 16 and driving, and didn't want to have her visitation with her father because of me. She would come over late after already feeding herself Panda Express, and then wouldn't want to eat dinner with the family or anything I cooked. Ever. She was blatantly rude and no body would guide her back to respect so it went on and on. My husband became more and more hurt and more and more spineless. I hated what was happening. I was cooking for her, thinking she would eat something else, something I made special for her, and never would she even attempt a bite. At this time, I had two young babies, that were up a lot in the night and I was working full time. I wasn't getting a lot of sleep and the small amount I was getting was very valuable. When she would spend her obligatory every other weekend here, she would again, arrive late, stay up watching TV until late and then sleep late..as in most of the day. Her schedule was interfering with everything the household was doing. One night her father said clearly, Kassi, I want you to go to bed by midnight, and she said yes, at 11:30, I'm up nursing a baby knowing that my next baby will wake up soon and want some love or a bottle or whatever, 12 midnight comes and 12 midnight goes, and Kassi sits in the living room watching TV and disturbing the ';back to bed'; time for the baby. I say, ';hey, your dad wants you in bed'; and she rolls her eyes and does nothing. I turn off the TV. She turns it back on. I move and sit next to her. Right next to her. Finally she goes to bed. The next day, we have a camping trip and she comes along with a big chip on her shoulder, she tries to run away and takes (steals) her brother's car in order to get off of what she calls the camping trip from hell. No one is bothering her, just asking her to be there. She runs home and her mother says she is going to lose her cell phone. So during the week, I text her and ask her if she is feeling better. She doesn't answer my text so I figure she lost her cell phone. Friday arrives again, and she sneeks into the house and hides in her room. I don't even realize she's home. I open her bedroom door and say, ';wow, I didn't know you were here, hey I texted you this week, did you my messages?'; she says ';yes'; very sharply, I say, ';oh, how come you didn't answer'; and she screams until her face is purple, ';BECAUSE I DiDn't want to'; so I slam her door, just a reaction but I was getting pissed here. I opened it again and said, ';just for your information, you're not staying up until all hours of the morning watching TV, and I'm vacuuming your room at 9am sharp'; and I slam the door again. After which she climbs out her bedroom window and tells everyone I'm a witch and she refuses to come back. For two years. Fast forward two and 1/2 years. She gets pregnant. Big surprise. Everyone in the long lost family rallies around her pretending she never hurt anyone. she is 18 and will be 19 when the baby arrives. Everyone blames me for her disappearance and I am the ugh second wife, the outsider and the one that will never be forgiven. She starts coming around again, and I apologize to her and she to me. She comes by now and then but wont' ever come in and visit with me, or ask how am I or anything. I figure nothing. I'm trying to do the right thing and make things right and i am cordial and kind and thoughtful. I get her two shower gifts for two showers, go to both showers and all seems fine. Except she wont' come up to the door if I'm home without her father and she'll sit in the car and wait. She will never have a one on one conversation with me and I don't even notice well, yes, but not a big deal to me. So the baby is born and my husband and I are out of town. I am so excited. He gets angry with me for something stupid early in the day and when the baby arrives, he won't let me say congratulations, he won't let me celebrate with him, he's shutting me out. I'm an outsider and I just became a grandma. I send her a text and say what is the babies name, she does not reply back, my husband texts her and within seconds, she answers him. I see a problem but am in denial. Back at home, we go see the baby and I get my photo taken with the baby and am so happy and then I see a HUGE floral teddy bear in her living room and a great big banner on the teddy bear says, ';Proud Grandpa';. I'm hurt. okay, I'm starting to feel like I'm not a grandma. Fast forward baby is 2 months old. I run a daycare by day. Kassi is home during the day most of the time, and only needs help with the baby sometimes so I expect sooner or later the baby will come over and I will relish my moments as Grandma. That never happens. Something weird is happening and I can't figure out why. When my husband, the proud grandpa is asked to take care of the baby, Madilynn, he picks her up himself from herBig problem, need advice. Step daughter wrecking my life.?
WOW that was a novel. No where in there do you say you love her. You dont seem to make any effort to have a real relationship with her. You dont talk to her. You get offended that she wont eat your dinners and actually wants to stay up watching tv....sounds like every teenager known to man. You want to reap the rewards of a relationship you never earned in the first place.
She sounds like she was a brat too. Yeah. But I mean, all teenagers just want some independence and it made it so much harder to be in her split family relationship with step mom always offended at whatever she was doing. I mean, seriously. She stayed up late watching tv and didnt eat your dinner. So what.
Id say forget about being grandma and work on loving her. Talking to her. And maybe even respecting her enough to ask HER why she doesnt get along with you and what you can do for her. (not what YOU think you should be doing, but what she tells you she needs..since you arent getting that figured out on your own)Big problem, need advice. Step daughter wrecking my life.?
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WOW!
And your husband allows this crap? Does he have a spine? If you think he has a spine and he is still allowing this then you need to question his priorities. He has an obligation to stand up for you and to exercise some control of his daughter, two things he has not been doing. Had one of my daughters or my family treated my second wife like that I would have gone through the ceiling. That is completely wrong and continues to be wrong. You do not deserve to be treated this way and your husband is the problem.
Lay down the law. You can go to pick up your granddaughter with your husband and you will be treated with courtesy and respect, period! If she refuses to come in, walk out to the car and speak to her. If she doesn't answer refuse to allow her in your home whatsoever. Tell your husband that since all household assets are community property that before giving her money or gifts you expect to be consulted. Then put up resistance because of the way you are treated. Put your husband on the spot and bring the matter to a head. Unless you do that and soon the problems are only going to get worse.
hey marina..i have a step parent myself so i understand how Kassi would automatically hate you..for no reasons..
you seems nice and treat her really well. I think the fault here is the dad who didn't step in and fix the problem. you should take more action too. i.e. talk to your husband and her even mre. Ask her why she hates you etc.
Very sad story. This girl is a spoiled brat, and her father is contributing to it all the time.
Unless he supports U over her, he is not being a responsible person. But it seems that he has already chosen her over U. How sad. There is not much U can do about this except to stand up for yourself in the few ways available to U -- such as the running of the vacuum sweeper early in the morning (that was a good move on your part) I hope U can keep your other children on your side!
Basically U need to stop being so nice to her, and wasting your emotions on someone who does not appreciate U.
I'd sit down with your husband and talk to him about everything that's happened. It's not fair that she was a teenage drama queen with a chip on her shoulder, and that you should be blamed for it. She chose to get pregnant and have a baby and you've been very very nice to her given the circumstances.
If he doesn't like what you have to say about his precious kassi then I'd divorce him. Sounds like a spineless unworthy git anyway.
You need to stop, back up, and look at the tool you have for a husband! No wonder she is the way she is...look at her dad! If he doesn't want to put YOU up on the pedestal, listen to YOUR feelings and make YOUR needs #1, then you need to find someone that will. I am a man and let me tell ya, there is no kid in this world (not even my own) that is going to treat MY wife that way while I sit back and except it and just let it happen...oh hell no!!.....and you can let little Miss Priss know that until she wants to grow up and learn how to respect, then she can just KEEP her inconsiderate *** away from you AND your home. You, nor your young kids need someone like that around them. Dad needs to do some soul searching, shape the hell up and get a handle on this crap.
What ever you do, do NOT think this is your fault but you should have been more firm from the beginning (with him and her). Proud Grandpa needs a swift kick in the butt. The dad is the one letting the step brat ruin your life, not the brat! Why isn't he standing behind you on this?
WOW that was a novel. No where in there do you say you love her. You dont seem to make any effort to have a real relationship with her. You dont talk to her. You get offended that she wont eat your dinners and actually wants to stay up watching tv....sounds like every teenager known to man. You want to reap the rewards of a relationship you never earned in the first place.
She sounds like she was a brat too. Yeah. But I mean, all teenagers just want some independence and it made it so much harder to be in her split family relationship with step mom always offended at whatever she was doing. I mean, seriously. She stayed up late watching tv and didnt eat your dinner. So what.
Id say forget about being grandma and work on loving her. Talking to her. And maybe even respecting her enough to ask HER why she doesnt get along with you and what you can do for her. (not what YOU think you should be doing, but what she tells you she needs..since you arent getting that figured out on your own)Big problem, need advice. Step daughter wrecking my life.?
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WOW!
And your husband allows this crap? Does he have a spine? If you think he has a spine and he is still allowing this then you need to question his priorities. He has an obligation to stand up for you and to exercise some control of his daughter, two things he has not been doing. Had one of my daughters or my family treated my second wife like that I would have gone through the ceiling. That is completely wrong and continues to be wrong. You do not deserve to be treated this way and your husband is the problem.
Lay down the law. You can go to pick up your granddaughter with your husband and you will be treated with courtesy and respect, period! If she refuses to come in, walk out to the car and speak to her. If she doesn't answer refuse to allow her in your home whatsoever. Tell your husband that since all household assets are community property that before giving her money or gifts you expect to be consulted. Then put up resistance because of the way you are treated. Put your husband on the spot and bring the matter to a head. Unless you do that and soon the problems are only going to get worse.
hey marina..i have a step parent myself so i understand how Kassi would automatically hate you..for no reasons..
you seems nice and treat her really well. I think the fault here is the dad who didn't step in and fix the problem. you should take more action too. i.e. talk to your husband and her even mre. Ask her why she hates you etc.
Very sad story. This girl is a spoiled brat, and her father is contributing to it all the time.
Unless he supports U over her, he is not being a responsible person. But it seems that he has already chosen her over U. How sad. There is not much U can do about this except to stand up for yourself in the few ways available to U -- such as the running of the vacuum sweeper early in the morning (that was a good move on your part) I hope U can keep your other children on your side!
Basically U need to stop being so nice to her, and wasting your emotions on someone who does not appreciate U.
I'd sit down with your husband and talk to him about everything that's happened. It's not fair that she was a teenage drama queen with a chip on her shoulder, and that you should be blamed for it. She chose to get pregnant and have a baby and you've been very very nice to her given the circumstances.
If he doesn't like what you have to say about his precious kassi then I'd divorce him. Sounds like a spineless unworthy git anyway.
You need to stop, back up, and look at the tool you have for a husband! No wonder she is the way she is...look at her dad! If he doesn't want to put YOU up on the pedestal, listen to YOUR feelings and make YOUR needs #1, then you need to find someone that will. I am a man and let me tell ya, there is no kid in this world (not even my own) that is going to treat MY wife that way while I sit back and except it and just let it happen...oh hell no!!.....and you can let little Miss Priss know that until she wants to grow up and learn how to respect, then she can just KEEP her inconsiderate *** away from you AND your home. You, nor your young kids need someone like that around them. Dad needs to do some soul searching, shape the hell up and get a handle on this crap.
What ever you do, do NOT think this is your fault but you should have been more firm from the beginning (with him and her). Proud Grandpa needs a swift kick in the butt. The dad is the one letting the step brat ruin your life, not the brat! Why isn't he standing behind you on this?
Hello Yahoo answerers. What's the main piece of advice your parents gave you in life?
If you shake it more than 3 times, you're playing with yourself.
Thats about the most important thing i've learned. i think.Hello Yahoo answerers. What's the main piece of advice your parents gave you in life?
When you are driving, don't park. Accidents cause people.
Of course, that was back in the day when teenagers would ';park'; and neck in the back seat of the car. I don't think the kids today would understand that bit of advice...and birth control is much more available now, too.Hello Yahoo answerers. What's the main piece of advice your parents gave you in life?
Never become romantically involved with anyone you work with.
Thats about the most important thing i've learned. i think.Hello Yahoo answerers. What's the main piece of advice your parents gave you in life?
When you are driving, don't park. Accidents cause people.
Of course, that was back in the day when teenagers would ';park'; and neck in the back seat of the car. I don't think the kids today would understand that bit of advice...and birth control is much more available now, too.Hello Yahoo answerers. What's the main piece of advice your parents gave you in life?
Never become romantically involved with anyone you work with.
Why is ';Be yourself'; the most frequent advice for people who want to improve their social lives?
As far as I've noticed those who are ';themselves'; are viewed as weirdos, while those who do as the tv tells them too are usually the coolest. So why is it that whenever you need an advice it sound like ';just be yourself.';?Why is ';Be yourself'; the most frequent advice for people who want to improve their social lives?
I hate that expression don't you? It's very hard for me to be myself because of the social anxiety disorder I have and my extreme shyness. Once I get to know people and I can be myself I usually get along with people. I guess that expression is used because if you are fake how can you be trusted and/or liked? You could hide who you are but that only makes you miserable.Why is ';Be yourself'; the most frequent advice for people who want to improve their social lives?
It's good advice.
Unless you're personality is on a level with that of a rotting tree stump.
Because ';being yourself'; is the most honest form of communication and it's really hard to keep pretending. If someone doesn't like you for you, then they need to move on to the next person. Too many people spend their whole lives trying desperately to fit in and don't realize how great they really are. If people are going to like you, then it should be the ';real'; you. Not someone who you are trying to be. Life is way too short to worry about other people's opinions.
It depends on what sort of life you want for yourself doesn't it?
If you are happy following your passions %26amp; your heart who gives a rat's a** if people think you are weird? Would you rather be ';cool'; in the eyes of people who have been anesthetized by the mainstream media?
i will say be a 80% yourself. because for example, when you deal with your sisters or your brothers at home, do you act normal ? or try to fake your personality with them? if you tried to fake your personality infront of your brother and sister they will feel strange around you, same thing with relationship, a lover would like to see you comfortable with him. because he already knows that when he himself act ';himself'; he does similar thing. so why hiding things from each other.
because what does it matter what the tv says? just be an improved version of yourself. tv is fake. and ';cool';? who cares about being cool. the ones who try to be ';cool'; are the ones who smoke pot in the 4th grade.
Because trying to be someone you are not will eventually drive the people around you away once%26amp;when they discover who you really are.It takes alot of effort to try to be someone else.most times it only results in frustration%26amp; depression. Trying to be cool coz the tv says so will only turn you into a weirdo once you fail to keep up the charade and loneliness is the end result.
It is better to be viewed as weired taking comfort in the fact that you have 1 genuine friend who will stick by your side no matter the circumstances than have a crowd of people around just coz you are cool and yet you dont know who to trust or which of them is really your friend. Ever heard of 'being alone in a crowd?' well thats exactly what trying to be someone your not feels and is like.
because some people like people for who they are and not what they can become or should conform too
Because pretending to be someone else requires too much energy and is doomed to failure anyway.
If you hold what the boob tube tells you is cool than maybe you need to turn off the tv and get your own personality.
It is the ';weirdos'; that do most of the creative, innovative and breakthrough things anyway.
Why aspire to be a Lemming?
Because the media is always changing what is cool and desirable you will keep reinventing yourself and never feel happy. Confidence is key,as long as your happy with you, you will find other people who like you for you. Do you always want to be acting to get people to like you. You may come off as fake.
I think it's good advice too. As for the weird part, I always told my kids ';weird is just another word for unique';. Who cares if someone thinks you're weird? I mean, what does it really matter? I spent way too much of my life growing up and in young adulthood trying to be what I thought was expected of me, and eventually I'd buried the real me so deep that I didn't even know how to find it anymore. Now...I am just me...take it or leave it. If you choose to leave it that's fine with me, because I have no desire to be some way just because someone else expects it.
Now that said, I'm not saying there are not rules of etiquette and a certain amount of conformity necessary to survive well in our society. I'm talking about the core of who a person is...what's important to them, or their personality and views on life I guess. I mean, maybe someone is a happy person who will act goofy and silly, or dance around or something. Some people might look at them and think they were weird. My thought is 'tough'! LOL I am what I am. :)
I hate that expression don't you? It's very hard for me to be myself because of the social anxiety disorder I have and my extreme shyness. Once I get to know people and I can be myself I usually get along with people. I guess that expression is used because if you are fake how can you be trusted and/or liked? You could hide who you are but that only makes you miserable.Why is ';Be yourself'; the most frequent advice for people who want to improve their social lives?
It's good advice.
Unless you're personality is on a level with that of a rotting tree stump.
Because ';being yourself'; is the most honest form of communication and it's really hard to keep pretending. If someone doesn't like you for you, then they need to move on to the next person. Too many people spend their whole lives trying desperately to fit in and don't realize how great they really are. If people are going to like you, then it should be the ';real'; you. Not someone who you are trying to be. Life is way too short to worry about other people's opinions.
It depends on what sort of life you want for yourself doesn't it?
If you are happy following your passions %26amp; your heart who gives a rat's a** if people think you are weird? Would you rather be ';cool'; in the eyes of people who have been anesthetized by the mainstream media?
i will say be a 80% yourself. because for example, when you deal with your sisters or your brothers at home, do you act normal ? or try to fake your personality with them? if you tried to fake your personality infront of your brother and sister they will feel strange around you, same thing with relationship, a lover would like to see you comfortable with him. because he already knows that when he himself act ';himself'; he does similar thing. so why hiding things from each other.
because what does it matter what the tv says? just be an improved version of yourself. tv is fake. and ';cool';? who cares about being cool. the ones who try to be ';cool'; are the ones who smoke pot in the 4th grade.
Because trying to be someone you are not will eventually drive the people around you away once%26amp;when they discover who you really are.It takes alot of effort to try to be someone else.most times it only results in frustration%26amp; depression. Trying to be cool coz the tv says so will only turn you into a weirdo once you fail to keep up the charade and loneliness is the end result.
It is better to be viewed as weired taking comfort in the fact that you have 1 genuine friend who will stick by your side no matter the circumstances than have a crowd of people around just coz you are cool and yet you dont know who to trust or which of them is really your friend. Ever heard of 'being alone in a crowd?' well thats exactly what trying to be someone your not feels and is like.
because some people like people for who they are and not what they can become or should conform too
Because pretending to be someone else requires too much energy and is doomed to failure anyway.
If you hold what the boob tube tells you is cool than maybe you need to turn off the tv and get your own personality.
It is the ';weirdos'; that do most of the creative, innovative and breakthrough things anyway.
Why aspire to be a Lemming?
Because the media is always changing what is cool and desirable you will keep reinventing yourself and never feel happy. Confidence is key,as long as your happy with you, you will find other people who like you for you. Do you always want to be acting to get people to like you. You may come off as fake.
I think it's good advice too. As for the weird part, I always told my kids ';weird is just another word for unique';. Who cares if someone thinks you're weird? I mean, what does it really matter? I spent way too much of my life growing up and in young adulthood trying to be what I thought was expected of me, and eventually I'd buried the real me so deep that I didn't even know how to find it anymore. Now...I am just me...take it or leave it. If you choose to leave it that's fine with me, because I have no desire to be some way just because someone else expects it.
Now that said, I'm not saying there are not rules of etiquette and a certain amount of conformity necessary to survive well in our society. I'm talking about the core of who a person is...what's important to them, or their personality and views on life I guess. I mean, maybe someone is a happy person who will act goofy and silly, or dance around or something. Some people might look at them and think they were weird. My thought is 'tough'! LOL I am what I am. :)
If The Magic 8-Ball appeared on The Path of Your Life, & you decided to seek its advice, what did it tell you?
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Ask again later.If The Magic 8-Ball appeared on The Path of Your Life, %26amp; you decided to seek its advice, what did it tell you?
stop shaking me!!!! I told that i was on a lunch break!!!!!
It is decidedly so
It is decidedly so.
I didnt like my answer so I tried it four times....
I guess it is decidedly so......cos that is what I got each time!!
Damn ball.....
I'm gonna keep playing until it comes up with something I want!!
Stop depending on toys to predict what will happen in my life...
it is decidedly so.
Try again.
Answer unclear at this time!...
to get a life
sdfhjcgmnfcheap make up
Ask again later.If The Magic 8-Ball appeared on The Path of Your Life, %26amp; you decided to seek its advice, what did it tell you?
stop shaking me!!!! I told that i was on a lunch break!!!!!
It is decidedly so
It is decidedly so.
I didnt like my answer so I tried it four times....
I guess it is decidedly so......cos that is what I got each time!!
Damn ball.....
I'm gonna keep playing until it comes up with something I want!!
Stop depending on toys to predict what will happen in my life...
it is decidedly so.
Try again.
Answer unclear at this time!...
to get a life
sdfhjcgmnf
What is life in Seattle, WA like? Looking to relocate there and need some advice please.?
Looking to start life over in another city. originally from upstate NY and just want to try someplce different that I have never been to before. Also any hints on local job market and living arrangements will be greatly appreciated.What is life in Seattle, WA like? Looking to relocate there and need some advice please.?
i do not live in seattle, but seattle is a wet city (however nyc and atlanta get even more rain) if you hate snow, then seattle is the place for you, winter weather is usually in the mid 40's and mid 50's. it is also a very beautiful city with mountains and blue lakes and sounds with a great skyline view, it's never too cold or too hot in seattle. when it comes to living i do hear from people who have been there that it is a very clean city and good for coffee. i would live somewhere out of downtown. I am only 13 yrs old but dream of living there someday, so take this advice.What is life in Seattle, WA like? Looking to relocate there and need some advice please.?
Really busy. Best to travel during really early morning (4 am) or really late at night (11-12). Have a lot of cash on you (the stores are great) and visit the museums!
i do not live in seattle, but seattle is a wet city (however nyc and atlanta get even more rain) if you hate snow, then seattle is the place for you, winter weather is usually in the mid 40's and mid 50's. it is also a very beautiful city with mountains and blue lakes and sounds with a great skyline view, it's never too cold or too hot in seattle. when it comes to living i do hear from people who have been there that it is a very clean city and good for coffee. i would live somewhere out of downtown. I am only 13 yrs old but dream of living there someday, so take this advice.What is life in Seattle, WA like? Looking to relocate there and need some advice please.?
Really busy. Best to travel during really early morning (4 am) or really late at night (11-12). Have a lot of cash on you (the stores are great) and visit the museums!
I need advice on leading a better life I'm 14?
I'm always attracted to the wrong crowd. I think is because I love to try new things and do adventrus things. I like to do things ';good'; kids don't. Like right now I'm grounded for running away and me and my friend took my brothers car she was driving. We got a rrested for grand theft auto. That's not me at all. I ran away because it was boring at home I wanted to go out and experience new things. I can't stand sitting home. I can't focus enough in school because I'm so misserable because I know I like bad people that my parents will never like and I like doin ';bad'; things. This will sound stupid but I like trying drugs. But I don't like using them all the time. I like to see what it feels like. To me that stuff is a one time deal. I have tried many things that i wont say. But what can i do to ease my urge of doing this stuff. I want to be good but I can't. I love having fun!I need advice on leading a better life I'm 14?
Until you make up your mind to be a better person, none of us can give you any advice that will change your behavior...
You said you want to be good, but you can't......if you really wanted to be a better person, you would set out to become that better person. The Bible says, ';As a man thinks in his heart, so is he';, which means as long as your heart is toward doing all of those things you know are wrong....you will continue to do them.
Being a good person is fun, too....doing bad things, just because you can is not wise. And are you REALLY having fun??? You seem to be getting punished for everything you do......is that fun????
You know the end result of all this negative behavior is going to be getting grounded, or arrested.......is THAT fun??????
And the drugs that you ';like trying'; may one day get you into more trouble than you can handle.......or.....end your life.
You already know the right thing to do.......you just have to become mature enough to make the choice to head in the right direction.
I will keep you in my prayers.I need advice on leading a better life I'm 14?
Find some friends you know goes to church, If they invite you to along with them, go with them. That may crazy to you but you will find out it can be rewarding. Glenn G
my lord why dont you just appreciate life.
i think ive been to hell and back.
i mean it's not the most amazing thing
when you're only 4 and you see your brother get arrested at age 15 then being LIED to and being told he's going to border school.
until i got a letter from my brother that i opened myself, i always trusted my parents. then i saw a little slip that said ';inspected by state jail'; THAT'S when i found out where my brother was. THAT'S when i stopped trusting my parents.
it's horrible to be only 7 and you see your dad choke your mom
it's horrible to be only in 7th grade and you become nearly 100% anorexic.
when you're the last child you're parents will have so you try to be the best damn daughter out there and fail miserably, then get told you're depressed and you need help.
when you're sister, the only thing keeping the family together, moves out, causing you to go downhill
it's depressing to look at your parents, seeing them ignore each other for 2 months then get a phone call from your sister
ive been through more crap then listed.
getting lead on by the boy you think you've fallen in love with.
then getting told you're loved more than the world by a boy, and then being dumped for another girl.
fighting with your mom to where she punches your head and tells you when she dies, she never wants you at her grave.
to know that you're sister moved back home from a different state JUST to help you survive.
ive been through all that crap and more. ill stop listing it.
but you ungrateful person.
i ran away because i hated myself and my life. i wanted to DIEEEE.
okay?
and then being seen by about 3 neighbors is embarrassing. especially when one of them is your only best friend's mom. and being caught 2 streets away.
ive been depressed for almost 4 years now and my parents REFUSE to get me help even though they constantly tell me i have problems.
THOSE are the things that should cause you to run away, attention whore.
stop running away cause you're bored.
you know what i do when im bored?
i write.
listen to music.
yeah, just cause you're a ';rebel'; doesnt mean you needa run away when bored. many people call me a ';rebel'; and i dont think you see me running away when bored, now do you?
your question seriously annoys me.
to know people run away out of boredom
when kids all over the world run away because theyre DEPRESSED and cant handle life anymore
First, hun, remember that the many things you find to be 'fun' now will not have such 'fun' effects later. Think about those effects- Drugs, for example, ruin your mind and body. Running away is very, very dangerous- it's not safe and you can get yourself into trouble.
While what 'good' people do may not appeal to you, the effects should- For example....
Getting good grades= A good job in the future, and that equals a good salary, which equals a comfortable life!
It's your choice- You could chose the wrong path, and end up with its effects, or you could choose the right one- and while it may be less fun to choose the right one- it WILL pay off in the long run....
Also, I suggest talking to your parents about this or a counselor at school, they will be able to help you.
I really hope that you make the right decisions- the smart decisions. When you get the urge to do something wrong- remind yourself of it's effects in the long run! That should ease the urge. Tell yourself, ';Listen (insert name here)! You will stop doing bad things! They will have bad effects on your life in the long run.'; (yes, I know, talking to yourself may seem crazy, but it really does work sometimes!)
Until you make up your mind to be a better person, none of us can give you any advice that will change your behavior...
You said you want to be good, but you can't......if you really wanted to be a better person, you would set out to become that better person. The Bible says, ';As a man thinks in his heart, so is he';, which means as long as your heart is toward doing all of those things you know are wrong....you will continue to do them.
Being a good person is fun, too....doing bad things, just because you can is not wise. And are you REALLY having fun??? You seem to be getting punished for everything you do......is that fun????
You know the end result of all this negative behavior is going to be getting grounded, or arrested.......is THAT fun??????
And the drugs that you ';like trying'; may one day get you into more trouble than you can handle.......or.....end your life.
You already know the right thing to do.......you just have to become mature enough to make the choice to head in the right direction.
I will keep you in my prayers.I need advice on leading a better life I'm 14?
Find some friends you know goes to church, If they invite you to along with them, go with them. That may crazy to you but you will find out it can be rewarding. Glenn G
my lord why dont you just appreciate life.
i think ive been to hell and back.
i mean it's not the most amazing thing
when you're only 4 and you see your brother get arrested at age 15 then being LIED to and being told he's going to border school.
until i got a letter from my brother that i opened myself, i always trusted my parents. then i saw a little slip that said ';inspected by state jail'; THAT'S when i found out where my brother was. THAT'S when i stopped trusting my parents.
it's horrible to be only 7 and you see your dad choke your mom
it's horrible to be only in 7th grade and you become nearly 100% anorexic.
when you're the last child you're parents will have so you try to be the best damn daughter out there and fail miserably, then get told you're depressed and you need help.
when you're sister, the only thing keeping the family together, moves out, causing you to go downhill
it's depressing to look at your parents, seeing them ignore each other for 2 months then get a phone call from your sister
ive been through more crap then listed.
getting lead on by the boy you think you've fallen in love with.
then getting told you're loved more than the world by a boy, and then being dumped for another girl.
fighting with your mom to where she punches your head and tells you when she dies, she never wants you at her grave.
to know that you're sister moved back home from a different state JUST to help you survive.
ive been through all that crap and more. ill stop listing it.
but you ungrateful person.
i ran away because i hated myself and my life. i wanted to DIEEEE.
okay?
and then being seen by about 3 neighbors is embarrassing. especially when one of them is your only best friend's mom. and being caught 2 streets away.
ive been depressed for almost 4 years now and my parents REFUSE to get me help even though they constantly tell me i have problems.
THOSE are the things that should cause you to run away, attention whore.
stop running away cause you're bored.
you know what i do when im bored?
i write.
listen to music.
yeah, just cause you're a ';rebel'; doesnt mean you needa run away when bored. many people call me a ';rebel'; and i dont think you see me running away when bored, now do you?
your question seriously annoys me.
to know people run away out of boredom
when kids all over the world run away because theyre DEPRESSED and cant handle life anymore
First, hun, remember that the many things you find to be 'fun' now will not have such 'fun' effects later. Think about those effects- Drugs, for example, ruin your mind and body. Running away is very, very dangerous- it's not safe and you can get yourself into trouble.
While what 'good' people do may not appeal to you, the effects should- For example....
Getting good grades= A good job in the future, and that equals a good salary, which equals a comfortable life!
It's your choice- You could chose the wrong path, and end up with its effects, or you could choose the right one- and while it may be less fun to choose the right one- it WILL pay off in the long run....
Also, I suggest talking to your parents about this or a counselor at school, they will be able to help you.
I really hope that you make the right decisions- the smart decisions. When you get the urge to do something wrong- remind yourself of it's effects in the long run! That should ease the urge. Tell yourself, ';Listen (insert name here)! You will stop doing bad things! They will have bad effects on your life in the long run.'; (yes, I know, talking to yourself may seem crazy, but it really does work sometimes!)
Teen depression, i have a fear of hurricanes that is starting to take over my life and i need advice! please..?
help me,
i had to evacuate for Katriana, and i stayed at my uncle's house for 4 weeks total, i went for 2 weeks came back but the lights were still off the house was damaged so we went back for another two weeks because of my asthma made it impossible for me to stay here, but my step dad stayed and fixed everything, but it took me two and a half years to be able to watch the weather during that season, then a year and a few after i started that Gustav came and we had to do it all over again!!!! it feels like even though i still have my mom and step dad and friends i'm still loosing everything! my sister was murdered after Katrina she went alittle off track after the storm and it just finally took her a year ago :( now her kids are with there dad who doesn't take care of them and wont even let me see them because his new wife dosent like me because i'm white. my pets picked up an illness from the gustav evac and now there slowing going, we dont have flood insurance to recover so if something does happen we could start over, we'd just live with my uncle and i cant do that we don't get along at all!!!!!! for a very privet issue but i just wanna say i'm not being whiny when i say i cant do that. people say that it's not my problem to worry about and i need to stop. but i dont understand how is it not my problem? this is my life, my roots are here, i have everything here, and most importantly i am my own person i cant just follow some1 else's lead, like my mom she wont listen to me she'd rather turn her head and pretend that it's not happing it's what she does to get over things, my step dad is the same way. my friends say i need help, but i cant get the help i need, i cant get away from this feeling, and before someone says ';pray'; i dont believe in that, i prayed for years to keep my sis safe and look where that got us she's now six feet under, i prayed for her kids and well that got them a abusive dad and step mom, i need real help, please,Teen depression, i have a fear of hurricanes that is starting to take over my life and i need advice! please..?
I can't even help myself :( I'm so stupid, there are many other life out there that are worse than I am.
All I can do now is wish for your happiness and I hope you can seek out your hope. People need hope to live on.Teen depression, i have a fear of hurricanes that is starting to take over my life and i need advice! please..?
you need to take positive action and move from areas that have hurricanes.
i had to evacuate for Katriana, and i stayed at my uncle's house for 4 weeks total, i went for 2 weeks came back but the lights were still off the house was damaged so we went back for another two weeks because of my asthma made it impossible for me to stay here, but my step dad stayed and fixed everything, but it took me two and a half years to be able to watch the weather during that season, then a year and a few after i started that Gustav came and we had to do it all over again!!!! it feels like even though i still have my mom and step dad and friends i'm still loosing everything! my sister was murdered after Katrina she went alittle off track after the storm and it just finally took her a year ago :( now her kids are with there dad who doesn't take care of them and wont even let me see them because his new wife dosent like me because i'm white. my pets picked up an illness from the gustav evac and now there slowing going, we dont have flood insurance to recover so if something does happen we could start over, we'd just live with my uncle and i cant do that we don't get along at all!!!!!! for a very privet issue but i just wanna say i'm not being whiny when i say i cant do that. people say that it's not my problem to worry about and i need to stop. but i dont understand how is it not my problem? this is my life, my roots are here, i have everything here, and most importantly i am my own person i cant just follow some1 else's lead, like my mom she wont listen to me she'd rather turn her head and pretend that it's not happing it's what she does to get over things, my step dad is the same way. my friends say i need help, but i cant get the help i need, i cant get away from this feeling, and before someone says ';pray'; i dont believe in that, i prayed for years to keep my sis safe and look where that got us she's now six feet under, i prayed for her kids and well that got them a abusive dad and step mom, i need real help, please,Teen depression, i have a fear of hurricanes that is starting to take over my life and i need advice! please..?
I can't even help myself :( I'm so stupid, there are many other life out there that are worse than I am.
All I can do now is wish for your happiness and I hope you can seek out your hope. People need hope to live on.Teen depression, i have a fear of hurricanes that is starting to take over my life and i need advice! please..?
you need to take positive action and move from areas that have hurricanes.
Need some advice on moving on in life...?
Hi.
In the past year or so I have gone through some pretty tough times, relationship wise and I don't think i'm 100% over it yet. I just want to move on but I feel like some thing's stopping me. The girls involved are gone, I don't really see them anymore and even if I do I'll blank them.
Any ideas on how to start getting on with my life again ???Need some advice on moving on in life...?
Do you have anything of theirs or anything they gave to you as a gift? If so, get rid of it! (unless it's worth $$, then perhaps sell it).
Getting rid of those items will help you move on past all of this. I also highly suggest getting rid of any photos, or at least put them away somewhere where you won't be looking at them for awhile.
Moving on from that, i'd suggest taking some time to relax and enjoy life. Go on a long bike ride for a day, hang out with some friends, whatever you might be interested in doing, go for it!Need some advice on moving on in life...?
Let it go, if it did not work out then realize it was for the better and there's other better people out there.
Don't stop your life over one person live life to the fullest and don't stop for no one.
Sounds like you just need to figure out what you want and DECIDE to achieve that. You are just being lazy?? Don't settle! Don't move in reverse!
It is simple. Start life afresh.Don't look back.Life is so rosy outside.
Dear Buddy,
Get away from gals.
Regards %26amp; May God Bless
Senthil EG Iyappan
Well my motto in life is : nothing is worth my sadness
In the past year or so I have gone through some pretty tough times, relationship wise and I don't think i'm 100% over it yet. I just want to move on but I feel like some thing's stopping me. The girls involved are gone, I don't really see them anymore and even if I do I'll blank them.
Any ideas on how to start getting on with my life again ???Need some advice on moving on in life...?
Do you have anything of theirs or anything they gave to you as a gift? If so, get rid of it! (unless it's worth $$, then perhaps sell it).
Getting rid of those items will help you move on past all of this. I also highly suggest getting rid of any photos, or at least put them away somewhere where you won't be looking at them for awhile.
Moving on from that, i'd suggest taking some time to relax and enjoy life. Go on a long bike ride for a day, hang out with some friends, whatever you might be interested in doing, go for it!Need some advice on moving on in life...?
Let it go, if it did not work out then realize it was for the better and there's other better people out there.
Don't stop your life over one person live life to the fullest and don't stop for no one.
Sounds like you just need to figure out what you want and DECIDE to achieve that. You are just being lazy?? Don't settle! Don't move in reverse!
It is simple. Start life afresh.Don't look back.Life is so rosy outside.
Dear Buddy,
Get away from gals.
Regards %26amp; May God Bless
Senthil EG Iyappan
Well my motto in life is : nothing is worth my sadness
I am going to be on my Life's Biggest Test by going to another country, starting from zero, any advice ?
some encouragement would be great too :) heheI am going to be on my Life's Biggest Test by going to another country, starting from zero, any advice ?
OH MY GOD !!!!
Again !!!!
I wish you good luck
for your new life .
My best of WISHES
will follow you
where ever you go !!!!I am going to be on my Life's Biggest Test by going to another country, starting from zero, any advice ?
:)
Thanks everyone hehe
I'm going to Australia, not the States for now.
Would be excellent if there's a chance to go to the States in the future :) Report Abuse
oooh, good luck! and i hope you will have fun. you didn't say what country you'll be going to. some countries are more friendly than others. i'll just say the obvious, don't trust just anyone to avoid being victimized.
You have some helpful and some funny answers to this question.
I will answer it from the position of knowing a little of your recent history.
Eric, you only think you are starting form zero, but you are not.
You have lived here before and will be welcomed back by your friends.
Be very kind to yourself; aim for what you most desire but accept what comes your way with grace (I know you can do this, you are stronger now and have a better understanding of everything).
Keep moving, only look back to reflect on your forward journey.
Always, the very best of luck, love and health to you.
live inexpensively and save your money, take pictures and enjoy the scenery and flowers and enjoy the many wonders God has made. Good luck to you,
Is this a new reality show or are you really giving it all up? O yea Good Luck!
Clean underwear and socks Two pairs of pants and several shirts. That way you can always stay presentable. Personal hygiene is a must. A personal stash of TP...don't leave home without it. A solid backpack. Good shoes. A warm jacket and bedroll. Carry ID. Smile. Avoid the authorities. When I was a long haired hippy freak I traveled around a lot, and got tossed in the clink several times. My good humor and polite demeaner went a long way...even when some thugs in a jail near Madrid beat the #$% out of me I managed to stay on the bright side...what an adventure. Keep some of your money inside your skivies....if you have to 'give it up' at least you won't be broke. You'll probably get sick, robbed, smacked around, miss meals and possibly killed. It is NOT a safe world. You are always a prey animal in a world full of predators. Be prepared!
Congratulations! You are about to embark on a great journey, one most of us never get a chance to take. You have dared to consider the possiblity of life in another part of the world.
Don't work too hard. But hard enough to accomplish your goals.
Remember to have fun.
Stay out of trouble.
Make wise decisions.
Eat well.
Try not to take things too seriously.
Take care of your health.
Be careful.
Make sure the number for emergency (911, I don't know what other countries use) is programmed into your phone under # 1.
Nothing beats a bad day or a bad mood like a good comedy. The sillier the better. The classics are...well, classic. ;D
If work gets to be a bit much, remember days off were 'created' for a reason. Take a break, or a brief vacation, even if all you do is sit at home reading or watching movies.
A walk in a park or along the beach is a great way to clear the mind. Be careful.
There are few problems in life that you have to handle alone, when you have good friends, or can get good advice.
Stay in touch with those of us here on Yahoo!Answers.
I hope that you have the best time of your life.
Hope I helped. God bless you with a safe journey and a wonderful experience.
Pray first, Mark 4:35.
I Cr 13;8a
Where are you going?
The 1st thing is learn the money system. You can really get ripped off if you don't know the exchange rate. 2nd is take a cell phone with your ';ICE'; numbers programed into it. That's In Case of Emergency';. 3 carry cash and a credit card in your sock. Very simple--- in your sock!!!
Study before you go:
Learn customs, monetary system, carry maps so that you do not stay lost for long, be careful of new foods, take your vitamins!
Have adventures - explore new areas - take good care of yourself.
Many of us will be praying for you! I will remember you in prayers at least twice a day!!! You can handle this new adventure!
collect all data ,study in depth all files,see what u can improve and contribute and discuss it with ur senior ,be focussed and sincere hapiness and success ensured,all the best
You have very high profile. You had returned to your home country after getting your services transfer ed from Australia. There after your question on this site revealed that you were suffering from psychological depression. Hope you are normal.
The request is be confident and honest in the work which you undertake and at the same time be away from small or great vices including women.
May your biggest test prove your worth.
One star to LOT I
I think you should calm yourself and think that your new life would be better and will bring positive changes. In my opinion, you should have faith in yourself and see your future as a challenge. Challenge yourself to do new things, change your personality, start by being how you would of liked people to know you by. This the opportunity to be someone new. Maybe it's depressing that you will have to move, (maybe your leaving someone special) and maybe it will be hard to accustom to your new life. I hope that this bring you close to your religion and if you don't have one well meditate and concentrate on yourself. Good luck! I know you can do this!!!!!!LOL
TAKE THE PLUNGE!
EXPLORE!
GET YOUR SHOTS BEFORE YOU GO!
YOU TAKE A CHANCE WHEN YOU WALK OUT YOUR FRONT DOOR-SO WHAT!
IF YOU DON'T GO-YOU MAY REGRET IT THE REST OF YOUR LIFE-IF YOU GO AND IT DOESN'T WORK OUT SO WELL-THEN YOU TRIED.
THERE IS AN OLD SAYING I GREW UP ON.
';NOTHING BEATS A FAILURE BUT A TRY';.
GO FOR IT!
GOD BLESS!
GOOD LUCK!
FANTASTIC VOYAGE!
POSITIVE THOUGHTS.
you will do very well. good luck and wish you the very best.
1. It's hard do do it by yourself- make some new freinds A.S.A.P.
2. Give A Good Impression
3.Don't P!ss anyone off!!!
Good luck freind!
What a WONDERFUL thing to be able to do! Please come to the US. Inspite of what you hear, not everyone totes a machine gun. Our gun laws are ridiculous, but once you get to know people you'l see how nice we are.
There is SO much to do and see over here. Hot deserts, high heat and humidity in the south, and cold and snow in the north. We are a truly multi-cultural nation, although some individuals would like that to change. They're nuts. Ignore them. Diversity is a good thing. One learns tolerance of people unlike themselves.
And yes, our history has been a violent one, but others saw the wealth in natural resources too. So we had to fight to keep them. Now, of course, our ';mediocre and not-so-wise leader'; has us involved in a very dubious war. Those who voted for him are seriously wondering why they did. I am proud to say I was not one of them.
Words of wisdom: keep your wits about you; make decent decisions for yourself; never do any thing that will harm others or land you in jail; and finally, enjoy your world traveling. Things will happen that you will never forget. You will ultimately be the wiser and stronger for those things.
Good for you for bucking the status quo and doing what you feel is right for you. That takes courage.
As to whether you are depressed and running away from something? I have no idea because I haven't been reading your blogs for long. Just ask yourself if you feel you HAVE to leave or if you WANT to leave and explore.
Good luck, friend.
you're going to need a bus pass
where ya going and why? Know what you expect before you go..make sure you are aware of that country's customs....and rules...ie the ';teddy bear teacher';...find out all you can about it before you go. DOnt go without somewhere to stay....they are really really inexpensive places to stay anywhere you go. Make sure you have a place to lay your head the first night....www.hostelworld.com
good lick dont undrstnad ur ?
Wherever you go, be yourselve. Start something new is the best. Renew our spirit too. So, don't be nervous, everthing will be ok if ou have a positive goal in your life.. and God will be with you!
Just be honest in all that you do.
OH MY GOD !!!!
Again !!!!
I wish you good luck
for your new life .
My best of WISHES
will follow you
where ever you go !!!!I am going to be on my Life's Biggest Test by going to another country, starting from zero, any advice ?
:)
Thanks everyone hehe
I'm going to Australia, not the States for now.
Would be excellent if there's a chance to go to the States in the future :) Report Abuse
oooh, good luck! and i hope you will have fun. you didn't say what country you'll be going to. some countries are more friendly than others. i'll just say the obvious, don't trust just anyone to avoid being victimized.
You have some helpful and some funny answers to this question.
I will answer it from the position of knowing a little of your recent history.
Eric, you only think you are starting form zero, but you are not.
You have lived here before and will be welcomed back by your friends.
Be very kind to yourself; aim for what you most desire but accept what comes your way with grace (I know you can do this, you are stronger now and have a better understanding of everything).
Keep moving, only look back to reflect on your forward journey.
Always, the very best of luck, love and health to you.
live inexpensively and save your money, take pictures and enjoy the scenery and flowers and enjoy the many wonders God has made. Good luck to you,
Is this a new reality show or are you really giving it all up? O yea Good Luck!
Clean underwear and socks Two pairs of pants and several shirts. That way you can always stay presentable. Personal hygiene is a must. A personal stash of TP...don't leave home without it. A solid backpack. Good shoes. A warm jacket and bedroll. Carry ID. Smile. Avoid the authorities. When I was a long haired hippy freak I traveled around a lot, and got tossed in the clink several times. My good humor and polite demeaner went a long way...even when some thugs in a jail near Madrid beat the #$% out of me I managed to stay on the bright side...what an adventure. Keep some of your money inside your skivies....if you have to 'give it up' at least you won't be broke. You'll probably get sick, robbed, smacked around, miss meals and possibly killed. It is NOT a safe world. You are always a prey animal in a world full of predators. Be prepared!
Congratulations! You are about to embark on a great journey, one most of us never get a chance to take. You have dared to consider the possiblity of life in another part of the world.
Don't work too hard. But hard enough to accomplish your goals.
Remember to have fun.
Stay out of trouble.
Make wise decisions.
Eat well.
Try not to take things too seriously.
Take care of your health.
Be careful.
Make sure the number for emergency (911, I don't know what other countries use) is programmed into your phone under # 1.
Nothing beats a bad day or a bad mood like a good comedy. The sillier the better. The classics are...well, classic. ;D
If work gets to be a bit much, remember days off were 'created' for a reason. Take a break, or a brief vacation, even if all you do is sit at home reading or watching movies.
A walk in a park or along the beach is a great way to clear the mind. Be careful.
There are few problems in life that you have to handle alone, when you have good friends, or can get good advice.
Stay in touch with those of us here on Yahoo!Answers.
I hope that you have the best time of your life.
Hope I helped. God bless you with a safe journey and a wonderful experience.
Pray first, Mark 4:35.
I Cr 13;8a
Where are you going?
The 1st thing is learn the money system. You can really get ripped off if you don't know the exchange rate. 2nd is take a cell phone with your ';ICE'; numbers programed into it. That's In Case of Emergency';. 3 carry cash and a credit card in your sock. Very simple--- in your sock!!!
Study before you go:
Learn customs, monetary system, carry maps so that you do not stay lost for long, be careful of new foods, take your vitamins!
Have adventures - explore new areas - take good care of yourself.
Many of us will be praying for you! I will remember you in prayers at least twice a day!!! You can handle this new adventure!
collect all data ,study in depth all files,see what u can improve and contribute and discuss it with ur senior ,be focussed and sincere hapiness and success ensured,all the best
You have very high profile. You had returned to your home country after getting your services transfer ed from Australia. There after your question on this site revealed that you were suffering from psychological depression. Hope you are normal.
The request is be confident and honest in the work which you undertake and at the same time be away from small or great vices including women.
May your biggest test prove your worth.
One star to LOT I
I think you should calm yourself and think that your new life would be better and will bring positive changes. In my opinion, you should have faith in yourself and see your future as a challenge. Challenge yourself to do new things, change your personality, start by being how you would of liked people to know you by. This the opportunity to be someone new. Maybe it's depressing that you will have to move, (maybe your leaving someone special) and maybe it will be hard to accustom to your new life. I hope that this bring you close to your religion and if you don't have one well meditate and concentrate on yourself. Good luck! I know you can do this!!!!!!LOL
TAKE THE PLUNGE!
EXPLORE!
GET YOUR SHOTS BEFORE YOU GO!
YOU TAKE A CHANCE WHEN YOU WALK OUT YOUR FRONT DOOR-SO WHAT!
IF YOU DON'T GO-YOU MAY REGRET IT THE REST OF YOUR LIFE-IF YOU GO AND IT DOESN'T WORK OUT SO WELL-THEN YOU TRIED.
THERE IS AN OLD SAYING I GREW UP ON.
';NOTHING BEATS A FAILURE BUT A TRY';.
GO FOR IT!
GOD BLESS!
GOOD LUCK!
FANTASTIC VOYAGE!
POSITIVE THOUGHTS.
you will do very well. good luck and wish you the very best.
1. It's hard do do it by yourself- make some new freinds A.S.A.P.
2. Give A Good Impression
3.Don't P!ss anyone off!!!
Good luck freind!
What a WONDERFUL thing to be able to do! Please come to the US. Inspite of what you hear, not everyone totes a machine gun. Our gun laws are ridiculous, but once you get to know people you'l see how nice we are.
There is SO much to do and see over here. Hot deserts, high heat and humidity in the south, and cold and snow in the north. We are a truly multi-cultural nation, although some individuals would like that to change. They're nuts. Ignore them. Diversity is a good thing. One learns tolerance of people unlike themselves.
And yes, our history has been a violent one, but others saw the wealth in natural resources too. So we had to fight to keep them. Now, of course, our ';mediocre and not-so-wise leader'; has us involved in a very dubious war. Those who voted for him are seriously wondering why they did. I am proud to say I was not one of them.
Words of wisdom: keep your wits about you; make decent decisions for yourself; never do any thing that will harm others or land you in jail; and finally, enjoy your world traveling. Things will happen that you will never forget. You will ultimately be the wiser and stronger for those things.
Good for you for bucking the status quo and doing what you feel is right for you. That takes courage.
As to whether you are depressed and running away from something? I have no idea because I haven't been reading your blogs for long. Just ask yourself if you feel you HAVE to leave or if you WANT to leave and explore.
Good luck, friend.
you're going to need a bus pass
where ya going and why? Know what you expect before you go..make sure you are aware of that country's customs....and rules...ie the ';teddy bear teacher';...find out all you can about it before you go. DOnt go without somewhere to stay....they are really really inexpensive places to stay anywhere you go. Make sure you have a place to lay your head the first night....www.hostelworld.com
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Wherever you go, be yourselve. Start something new is the best. Renew our spirit too. So, don't be nervous, everthing will be ok if ou have a positive goal in your life.. and God will be with you!
Just be honest in all that you do.
Sometimes I feel like life requires me to sin. Advice?
Spiritually speaking, you live in one of two Kingdoms.
You are either in the Kingdom of God; or you are in the Kingdom of Satan.
Jesus spoke this to the ';religious'; Jews in His day:
';Jesus said to them, ';If God were your Father, you would love me, for I came from God and now am here. I have not come on my own; but he sent me. Why is my language not clear to you? Because you are unable to hear what I say. You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father's desire. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies. Yet because I tell the truth, you do not believe me! Can any of you prove me guilty of sin? If I am telling the truth, why don't you believe me? He who belongs to God hears what God says. The reason you do not hear is that you do not belong to God.';
John 8:42-47
I can testify there was a time in my life when my whole life was a lie.
I thought I was a pretty good guy - but i was a liar and a thief and a blasphemer and totally self-absorbed. I had told God to take a hike - yet when I was at my lowest a miracle happened - I became born again through faith in the Name of Jesus Christ; and my nature totally changed in an instant.
I stopped lying and stealing and hating and deceiving and cursing; and I started living for God.
The Bible calls this being ';born again'; - born of the Holy Spirit. Jesus said unless you are born again, you can never enter the Kingdom of God.
Writing to true believers, Paul says this:
';He (God) has delivered us from the power of darkness and conveyed us into the kingdom of the Son of His love,';
Colossians 1:13
Ask Jesus Christ to save you from your sins, causing you to be born again; and you will receive the gift of forgiveness and the Spirit of Christ, who will enable you to begin to live right. Salvation is a gift from God, earned by Jesus on the cross, and received by faith.Sometimes I feel like life requires me to sin. Advice?
Like having premarital sex with your boyfriend to cure him of Teh Gay? Oh, sinning in the name of the Lord is fun. =D Just pray for forgiveness later, nothing to it!Sometimes I feel like life requires me to sin. Advice?
You cant help sinning? How so? Thats the choice you make,not required to make.Its always harder to do the right thing.Its easy to make excuses and take the easy way out.
You don't have to. You could get yourself nailed to a couple sticks of wood and die a slow agonizing death instead.
You always have a choice. But nobody said you were going to like them.
we are not required too but tempted to break the laws of God.
God is asking people to repent and turn away from Sin and ask jesus to save them.
If you do not hurt other with your doings, it is OK, because there is no such thing as sin.
It doesn't require you too but we all do as we are imperfect.
Try not to hurt others
GO FOR IT!!!!
sin away my son..i will be waiting for you...where it;s HOT HOT HOT.cheap make up
You are either in the Kingdom of God; or you are in the Kingdom of Satan.
Jesus spoke this to the ';religious'; Jews in His day:
';Jesus said to them, ';If God were your Father, you would love me, for I came from God and now am here. I have not come on my own; but he sent me. Why is my language not clear to you? Because you are unable to hear what I say. You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father's desire. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies. Yet because I tell the truth, you do not believe me! Can any of you prove me guilty of sin? If I am telling the truth, why don't you believe me? He who belongs to God hears what God says. The reason you do not hear is that you do not belong to God.';
John 8:42-47
I can testify there was a time in my life when my whole life was a lie.
I thought I was a pretty good guy - but i was a liar and a thief and a blasphemer and totally self-absorbed. I had told God to take a hike - yet when I was at my lowest a miracle happened - I became born again through faith in the Name of Jesus Christ; and my nature totally changed in an instant.
I stopped lying and stealing and hating and deceiving and cursing; and I started living for God.
The Bible calls this being ';born again'; - born of the Holy Spirit. Jesus said unless you are born again, you can never enter the Kingdom of God.
Writing to true believers, Paul says this:
';He (God) has delivered us from the power of darkness and conveyed us into the kingdom of the Son of His love,';
Colossians 1:13
Ask Jesus Christ to save you from your sins, causing you to be born again; and you will receive the gift of forgiveness and the Spirit of Christ, who will enable you to begin to live right. Salvation is a gift from God, earned by Jesus on the cross, and received by faith.Sometimes I feel like life requires me to sin. Advice?
Like having premarital sex with your boyfriend to cure him of Teh Gay? Oh, sinning in the name of the Lord is fun. =D Just pray for forgiveness later, nothing to it!Sometimes I feel like life requires me to sin. Advice?
You cant help sinning? How so? Thats the choice you make,not required to make.Its always harder to do the right thing.Its easy to make excuses and take the easy way out.
You don't have to. You could get yourself nailed to a couple sticks of wood and die a slow agonizing death instead.
You always have a choice. But nobody said you were going to like them.
we are not required too but tempted to break the laws of God.
God is asking people to repent and turn away from Sin and ask jesus to save them.
If you do not hurt other with your doings, it is OK, because there is no such thing as sin.
It doesn't require you too but we all do as we are imperfect.
Try not to hurt others
GO FOR IT!!!!
sin away my son..i will be waiting for you...where it;s HOT HOT HOT.
20/m only child. I'm lonely alot. Any advice? Is this how life goes?
No, it's not how it goes, but you have to get out there and involve yourself in life, because it's not going to come to you.20/m only child. I'm lonely alot. Any advice? Is this how life goes?
I am an only child as well. Married, but nonetheless I do understand how it feels to be lonely as an only child. The best advice I can give from one only child to another - put yourself out there. Trust yourself around others, and in turn trust will begin to build for others in your life. Trust, honesty and being yourself are the keys to finding people that are true in your life. Find activities, hobbies, clubs and other things that interest you (besides going to a bar or dance club - these places only hide people, they do not reveal thier true selves) - and in turn you will find people whom are positive influences in your life than you can surround yourself with.20/m only child. I'm lonely alot. Any advice? Is this how life goes?
Doesn't have to be the way life goes.
What kind of hobbies or interests do you have?
Are there any local organizations that you'd be interested in doing volunteer work?
Anyone at school or work that you think might make a good friend but you haven't approached them?
Would you have any interest in a church group for young adults?
Are you familiar with your neighbors? Perhaps your family could start a block party with the help of one or two other families.
If you need to talk feel free to email me.
i was 26 when i got married... it does get better... in the mean time, enjoy life, and be a true friend to those who are your friends. don't get hung up on ';dating';, love can surprise you, and what comes from a good friendship first is much better
Lonely?
I'm sorry.
Please meet someone nice.
You can find a nice person through many community activities.
Finding a partner at a bar? Bad idea.
Read the lyrics to ';Roll the Bones'; and ';Freewill'; by Rush.
As a matter of fact, many of the Rush lyrics might help you.
I think we find the secret to all our problems is by listening and aiding others in their problems. It takes a special effort in letting go of our own interests in favor of others.
http://www.365promises.com/170.aspx
Talk to God, ask Him to guide you, you would be surprised at the doors He will open.
Join clubs or sports. Then you meet more people with similar interests.
I don't see how this pertains to religion though..
Once your 21 you can start hitting the bars and be lonely no more.
Go to college.
You won't be lonely for at least four years.
Jesus is the best Friend you could ever have :)
The truth is that the only way to be saved and to get into heaven and avoid being sent to eternal hell is by believing that Jesus, who is God, died for our sins on the cross and rose again (1 Corinthians 15:1-4). Believe this and you are saved!
Please pray now: ';Jesus, please forgive me of my sins. I believe that You died on the cross for my sins and You rose again. Thank You for eternal life!'; You will be in heaven with Him forever when you die :)
Find your local Kingdom Hall and the answer to not only your lonliness but all your questions as well. Start a Bible study. Make God your friend.
I am an only child as well. Married, but nonetheless I do understand how it feels to be lonely as an only child. The best advice I can give from one only child to another - put yourself out there. Trust yourself around others, and in turn trust will begin to build for others in your life. Trust, honesty and being yourself are the keys to finding people that are true in your life. Find activities, hobbies, clubs and other things that interest you (besides going to a bar or dance club - these places only hide people, they do not reveal thier true selves) - and in turn you will find people whom are positive influences in your life than you can surround yourself with.20/m only child. I'm lonely alot. Any advice? Is this how life goes?
Doesn't have to be the way life goes.
What kind of hobbies or interests do you have?
Are there any local organizations that you'd be interested in doing volunteer work?
Anyone at school or work that you think might make a good friend but you haven't approached them?
Would you have any interest in a church group for young adults?
Are you familiar with your neighbors? Perhaps your family could start a block party with the help of one or two other families.
If you need to talk feel free to email me.
i was 26 when i got married... it does get better... in the mean time, enjoy life, and be a true friend to those who are your friends. don't get hung up on ';dating';, love can surprise you, and what comes from a good friendship first is much better
Lonely?
I'm sorry.
Please meet someone nice.
You can find a nice person through many community activities.
Finding a partner at a bar? Bad idea.
Read the lyrics to ';Roll the Bones'; and ';Freewill'; by Rush.
As a matter of fact, many of the Rush lyrics might help you.
I think we find the secret to all our problems is by listening and aiding others in their problems. It takes a special effort in letting go of our own interests in favor of others.
http://www.365promises.com/170.aspx
Talk to God, ask Him to guide you, you would be surprised at the doors He will open.
Join clubs or sports. Then you meet more people with similar interests.
I don't see how this pertains to religion though..
Once your 21 you can start hitting the bars and be lonely no more.
Go to college.
You won't be lonely for at least four years.
Jesus is the best Friend you could ever have :)
The truth is that the only way to be saved and to get into heaven and avoid being sent to eternal hell is by believing that Jesus, who is God, died for our sins on the cross and rose again (1 Corinthians 15:1-4). Believe this and you are saved!
Please pray now: ';Jesus, please forgive me of my sins. I believe that You died on the cross for my sins and You rose again. Thank You for eternal life!'; You will be in heaven with Him forever when you die :)
Find your local Kingdom Hall and the answer to not only your lonliness but all your questions as well. Start a Bible study. Make God your friend.
HELP? I NEED ADVICE ON HOW TO REVIVE MY SEX LIFE?
i have been married for 3yrs and my hubby keeps complaining am becoming boring in bed...i know my sex drive is gone because i can stay for a mnth without it i want save my marriage i need serious advice .HELP? I NEED ADVICE ON HOW TO REVIVE MY SEX LIFE?
One common problem that happens is this. I have been there and done that. You have to figure out what it is first that is destroying your sex drive. If your on medication like birth control or anti-depressants that is something to think about and do research on. Other then that it could just be stress, maybe the kids, really anything that makes your life stressful can do this and lower the libido.
One thing I tried that seemed to work while I was doing it was exercising. I just felt sexier doing it which kind of boosted my libido. However it wasn't the best solution for me. My friend told me about these herbal enhancers that are made from natural herbs and don't cause any side effects besides having wild sex. She said it's the female version of viagra. I had to find out.
I would always have a weak orgasm too (if I had one at all), which after trying this sex enhancer, it boosted them tremendously. I don't get multiple orgasms but I've had plenty since being on these herbs. It's seriously like the best vibrator ride you've ever experienced. These things make me horny all the time, some days I don't even take them because the urge is just too strong.
Don't try out single herbs because they don't do it like the blend of herbs these scientists and researchers pick out. I've tried a couple of them by itself and they did crap. The stuff that I'm on is called Hersolution, at the time I saved money on it at herenhancement.com . Make sure you get the 3 month supply that way you fall under the guarantee/return policy if the herbs don't work for you, you can return them with no questions ask. I bet they will work though and you won't have any problems. Also if your on medication of any sort, check out the gel because if your like me, you wouldn't want to swallow any thing that might react with the medications your already on.
Well have a good day and hopefully you solved your problem.HELP? I NEED ADVICE ON HOW TO REVIVE MY SEX LIFE?
Go to your doctor. My wife (27) also lost interest in sex. Her doctor was able to help her with hormones.
call me ill get you fired up
One common problem that happens is this. I have been there and done that. You have to figure out what it is first that is destroying your sex drive. If your on medication like birth control or anti-depressants that is something to think about and do research on. Other then that it could just be stress, maybe the kids, really anything that makes your life stressful can do this and lower the libido.
One thing I tried that seemed to work while I was doing it was exercising. I just felt sexier doing it which kind of boosted my libido. However it wasn't the best solution for me. My friend told me about these herbal enhancers that are made from natural herbs and don't cause any side effects besides having wild sex. She said it's the female version of viagra. I had to find out.
I would always have a weak orgasm too (if I had one at all), which after trying this sex enhancer, it boosted them tremendously. I don't get multiple orgasms but I've had plenty since being on these herbs. It's seriously like the best vibrator ride you've ever experienced. These things make me horny all the time, some days I don't even take them because the urge is just too strong.
Don't try out single herbs because they don't do it like the blend of herbs these scientists and researchers pick out. I've tried a couple of them by itself and they did crap. The stuff that I'm on is called Hersolution, at the time I saved money on it at herenhancement.com . Make sure you get the 3 month supply that way you fall under the guarantee/return policy if the herbs don't work for you, you can return them with no questions ask. I bet they will work though and you won't have any problems. Also if your on medication of any sort, check out the gel because if your like me, you wouldn't want to swallow any thing that might react with the medications your already on.
Well have a good day and hopefully you solved your problem.HELP? I NEED ADVICE ON HOW TO REVIVE MY SEX LIFE?
Go to your doctor. My wife (27) also lost interest in sex. Her doctor was able to help her with hormones.
call me ill get you fired up
I'm 14 years old and I need something EXCITING/UPLIFTING in my life and i need advice (Details below-PLZ read)
okay
I have a good Christian family, good neighboor hood, ect and most ppl think i'm living well off except for i'm not.
my dad used to be a drunk and went to jail for it, then he stopped and i just found out that he secretly started again, dad thinks mom is having affair but nobody knows for sure, parents r undecided about divorce and both ask me and my 6 year old sister if we want them to break up or not, we're broke and in HUGE debt and no money but parents spend ruthlessly, and it's AWFUL. we all try to cover it up from everybody but i always feel like my life is a big fat LIE which it kind of is. I really need something in my life thatll help me forget my problems like u know in books and movies how ppl sneak out of their houses and go make out with guys (ya i know i'm only 14) or a boyfriend or idk just something exciting that will make me actually look forward to life unlike how i get up every morning and wish i were dead. i kno, im desperate %26amp; its sad i hafta go online for thisI'm 14 years old and I need something EXCITING/UPLIFTING in my life and i need advice (Details below-PLZ read)
Wow. You're in a crappy situation, through no fault of your own, and unfortunately there's not much you can do right now to change that. However, maybe you should explore your talents and interests and focus on what you can do to start building your future now. Don't look to others to turn your attitude around for you, or you could end up just leaving yourself open for some guy to totally use you. Instead, try to list the things you are interested in, like, I dunno, maybe acting, or singing, or sports of some sort, and get involved in that. It will help take your mind off of the home situation for a while, and will give you a new sense of purpose and direction. Good luck! ;)I'm 14 years old and I need something EXCITING/UPLIFTING in my life and i need advice (Details below-PLZ read)
my advice is to join a club (church, book,etc.) then you have something to look forward to at least 1 day a week i mean it sux but i mean it kinda depends on the person u are are you outgoing, quiet, smart??????? im mean i like i said clubs help me or sports or just go somewhere like every weekend thats not to expensive with your friends. i hope that helps
This is very common in families with alcoholism; they expect the kids and the people that are not drunk to cover for them, and everybody feels they have to. But this is NOT healthy. It only allows things to get worse.
You can't control what your parents do and it's not your fault. You should probably start going to Alateen meetings to learn from other young people in similar situations. Talk to your school counselor about what is happening and they can probably tell you where to go to meetings too. This is just the sort of thing that school counselors are there for.
Since you are a Christian, I'd also recommend you make an appointment to talk to your pastor about it, of find somebody in your church community that you can talk to. Churches often have Alateen meetings on the premises.
I wish you well.
I really wish I could help you, but I'm no psychologist or anything.
Be optimistic. Life is worth living. Obstacles make life beautiful.
To answer your question; a movie called Thirteen.
It's actually a very nice movie.
Don't let other peoples problems bring you down.
I'd recommend either trying to explore your artistic side (a great release), or take up Aikido,
My dad also drinks a lot and my mom keeps threatening him with divorce, I can't do much about it, atleast I got the army to look forward to, and maybe even straighten some new people out :D!
Well, since I care about people....and if we were able to get to know each other ....I could send you a ';Thinking of You'; Card!!!!! Through the mail.
I'm sorry that your family is in such turmoil and you're feeling like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. Add being a teenager to the mix, and things aren't much easier. A lot of families try to mask their lives from people on the outside.
Do you have someone you can talk to at school (a teacher, guidence counselor, etc) who you feel like you can confide in? Sometimes talking to someone can help you feel a lot better.
Also, looking for a boyfriend isn't a bad thing. I started dating around 14-- never anything serious, but it's nice to have a special someone in your life who really cares about you and will allow you to cry on their shoulder... and most importantly, that you can have fun with. People assume these days that having a boyfriend automatically means sex, but I truly believe that you can have a meaningful relationship (even at 14) without going all the way. I'm proof of that. My boyfriend at 14 and I just had fun together, without mixing in too much physicality (except for kissing, of course... lol).
Try making some fun plans for yourself and some friends. On the weekend go to the movies, go hiking, shopping, play mini-golf, go bowling, stuff like that. All those things are fun and can definitely give you something to look forward to.
Lastly, have you considering joining up with any school activities? I would highly recommend joining a sport (cheerleading, swim team, track, basketball, soccer, etc), even if you're not great at it-- cos you'll get better-- because it'll allow you to get out any aggression or bad feelings, and will leave you feeling satisfied. It'll also keep you busy and away from home with all the games and practices, which will help you keep your mind off the problems that you shouldn't have to deal with in the first place. If sports aren't for you, try out for your school play/musical, or join a club. Any of these things will take up your time, give you something to look forward to, and will help you to make new friends :)
Good luck, sweetheart. Don't feel bad about asking about this online. Sometimes it's the best place to get advice; we don't know you here so no one will judge you (at least they shouldn't!).
Every morning when you wake up, look in the mirror and say, in 4 years I'm outta here and I will not live my life this way.
PS. Making out with boys is only exciting while it lasts, then you feel dumb after, at least I would.
Good Christian family, check again alcoholism and adultery are those things standard in a good christian family? Anyhow it is not sad that you have to go on line for help because there are a lot of people with a lot of life experience that are on line. You are still young and you want to die eh, well it is more likely you are tired of your life as it is and it is time for a change. Set a goal or two for example take up running, it gets you out of the house and gives you exercise and time to think. Try martial arts good for discipline and health and will give you self confidence and the ability to empower yourself. Hey you may meet some new people at a martial arts class. Forgetting your problems does not make them go away confront them ask you father if he needs help such as Alcoholics Anonymous also confront your mother and ask her if she having an affair. I realize that you are young with a plate full of issues but do not worry your life is ahead and like I said set some goals no matter how big or small. Work towards them and appreciate yourself for who you are and what you have to offer.
I have a good Christian family, good neighboor hood, ect and most ppl think i'm living well off except for i'm not.
my dad used to be a drunk and went to jail for it, then he stopped and i just found out that he secretly started again, dad thinks mom is having affair but nobody knows for sure, parents r undecided about divorce and both ask me and my 6 year old sister if we want them to break up or not, we're broke and in HUGE debt and no money but parents spend ruthlessly, and it's AWFUL. we all try to cover it up from everybody but i always feel like my life is a big fat LIE which it kind of is. I really need something in my life thatll help me forget my problems like u know in books and movies how ppl sneak out of their houses and go make out with guys (ya i know i'm only 14) or a boyfriend or idk just something exciting that will make me actually look forward to life unlike how i get up every morning and wish i were dead. i kno, im desperate %26amp; its sad i hafta go online for thisI'm 14 years old and I need something EXCITING/UPLIFTING in my life and i need advice (Details below-PLZ read)
Wow. You're in a crappy situation, through no fault of your own, and unfortunately there's not much you can do right now to change that. However, maybe you should explore your talents and interests and focus on what you can do to start building your future now. Don't look to others to turn your attitude around for you, or you could end up just leaving yourself open for some guy to totally use you. Instead, try to list the things you are interested in, like, I dunno, maybe acting, or singing, or sports of some sort, and get involved in that. It will help take your mind off of the home situation for a while, and will give you a new sense of purpose and direction. Good luck! ;)I'm 14 years old and I need something EXCITING/UPLIFTING in my life and i need advice (Details below-PLZ read)
my advice is to join a club (church, book,etc.) then you have something to look forward to at least 1 day a week i mean it sux but i mean it kinda depends on the person u are are you outgoing, quiet, smart??????? im mean i like i said clubs help me or sports or just go somewhere like every weekend thats not to expensive with your friends. i hope that helps
This is very common in families with alcoholism; they expect the kids and the people that are not drunk to cover for them, and everybody feels they have to. But this is NOT healthy. It only allows things to get worse.
You can't control what your parents do and it's not your fault. You should probably start going to Alateen meetings to learn from other young people in similar situations. Talk to your school counselor about what is happening and they can probably tell you where to go to meetings too. This is just the sort of thing that school counselors are there for.
Since you are a Christian, I'd also recommend you make an appointment to talk to your pastor about it, of find somebody in your church community that you can talk to. Churches often have Alateen meetings on the premises.
I wish you well.
I really wish I could help you, but I'm no psychologist or anything.
Be optimistic. Life is worth living. Obstacles make life beautiful.
To answer your question; a movie called Thirteen.
It's actually a very nice movie.
Don't let other peoples problems bring you down.
I'd recommend either trying to explore your artistic side (a great release), or take up Aikido,
My dad also drinks a lot and my mom keeps threatening him with divorce, I can't do much about it, atleast I got the army to look forward to, and maybe even straighten some new people out :D!
Well, since I care about people....and if we were able to get to know each other ....I could send you a ';Thinking of You'; Card!!!!! Through the mail.
I'm sorry that your family is in such turmoil and you're feeling like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. Add being a teenager to the mix, and things aren't much easier. A lot of families try to mask their lives from people on the outside.
Do you have someone you can talk to at school (a teacher, guidence counselor, etc) who you feel like you can confide in? Sometimes talking to someone can help you feel a lot better.
Also, looking for a boyfriend isn't a bad thing. I started dating around 14-- never anything serious, but it's nice to have a special someone in your life who really cares about you and will allow you to cry on their shoulder... and most importantly, that you can have fun with. People assume these days that having a boyfriend automatically means sex, but I truly believe that you can have a meaningful relationship (even at 14) without going all the way. I'm proof of that. My boyfriend at 14 and I just had fun together, without mixing in too much physicality (except for kissing, of course... lol).
Try making some fun plans for yourself and some friends. On the weekend go to the movies, go hiking, shopping, play mini-golf, go bowling, stuff like that. All those things are fun and can definitely give you something to look forward to.
Lastly, have you considering joining up with any school activities? I would highly recommend joining a sport (cheerleading, swim team, track, basketball, soccer, etc), even if you're not great at it-- cos you'll get better-- because it'll allow you to get out any aggression or bad feelings, and will leave you feeling satisfied. It'll also keep you busy and away from home with all the games and practices, which will help you keep your mind off the problems that you shouldn't have to deal with in the first place. If sports aren't for you, try out for your school play/musical, or join a club. Any of these things will take up your time, give you something to look forward to, and will help you to make new friends :)
Good luck, sweetheart. Don't feel bad about asking about this online. Sometimes it's the best place to get advice; we don't know you here so no one will judge you (at least they shouldn't!).
Every morning when you wake up, look in the mirror and say, in 4 years I'm outta here and I will not live my life this way.
PS. Making out with boys is only exciting while it lasts, then you feel dumb after, at least I would.
Good Christian family, check again alcoholism and adultery are those things standard in a good christian family? Anyhow it is not sad that you have to go on line for help because there are a lot of people with a lot of life experience that are on line. You are still young and you want to die eh, well it is more likely you are tired of your life as it is and it is time for a change. Set a goal or two for example take up running, it gets you out of the house and gives you exercise and time to think. Try martial arts good for discipline and health and will give you self confidence and the ability to empower yourself. Hey you may meet some new people at a martial arts class. Forgetting your problems does not make them go away confront them ask you father if he needs help such as Alcoholics Anonymous also confront your mother and ask her if she having an affair. I realize that you are young with a plate full of issues but do not worry your life is ahead and like I said set some goals no matter how big or small. Work towards them and appreciate yourself for who you are and what you have to offer.
I find it very difficult to forget this girl and move on with my life.Can anyone give me some advice?
Even thought she left me and replaced me with another man I still can't forget about her and I still have feelings for her. What do I have to do to get rid of this feeling? Please help.I find it very difficult to forget this girl and move on with my life.Can anyone give me some advice?
Guy I am in the exact same boat. My ex left me for someone and was engaged to him only 2 weeks after our break up. Honestly, I still love her too. So I know what you are going through. Unfortunately, all the advice out there is going to be very cliche....time heals all, get out and meet other people, do something you enjoy doing, hang out with friends, etc...I don't know if any of that will help you but time is really the only thing that is helping me. You just have to realize that you have to stop for a second, accept that you love her, recognize her wrong, forgive her, forgive yourself, go through the grieving process and then you can move on. It's the only healthy way to get through this. There is nothing wrong with loving her and still having feelings for her. And unfortunately, its not a feeling you will ever be able to get rid of and you shouldn't want to. Love is love. Her not reciprocating doesn't mean you will love her any less because it sure didn't work for me. Matter of fact the more I tried to get rid of it, the more I realize the reason I was doing that was because I loved her. It just takes time man. It's a day by day process and we all have to go through it. Trust me, it will get better.I find it very difficult to forget this girl and move on with my life.Can anyone give me some advice?
All come on dude. You got along without her before you met her. Now you are going to get a long now. Take it as a learning experience. Be glad she is gone.
Guy I am in the exact same boat. My ex left me for someone and was engaged to him only 2 weeks after our break up. Honestly, I still love her too. So I know what you are going through. Unfortunately, all the advice out there is going to be very cliche....time heals all, get out and meet other people, do something you enjoy doing, hang out with friends, etc...I don't know if any of that will help you but time is really the only thing that is helping me. You just have to realize that you have to stop for a second, accept that you love her, recognize her wrong, forgive her, forgive yourself, go through the grieving process and then you can move on. It's the only healthy way to get through this. There is nothing wrong with loving her and still having feelings for her. And unfortunately, its not a feeling you will ever be able to get rid of and you shouldn't want to. Love is love. Her not reciprocating doesn't mean you will love her any less because it sure didn't work for me. Matter of fact the more I tried to get rid of it, the more I realize the reason I was doing that was because I loved her. It just takes time man. It's a day by day process and we all have to go through it. Trust me, it will get better.I find it very difficult to forget this girl and move on with my life.Can anyone give me some advice?
All come on dude. You got along without her before you met her. Now you are going to get a long now. Take it as a learning experience. Be glad she is gone.
Desperate to find answers on how i feel my choice now will change my life completely need any advice?
Well i we are both 23 so quite young i know. Been together for almost 4 years now. Living together for 3 of those years and engaged for 1. READ BOTTOM AT PARAGRAPH LEAST
I like to dance wildly, play games,like to suprise people, and do the unexpected which becomes expected after a while. In a strange way i believe 1st impression of me from a stranger is gay, I AM NOT GAY very feminally based i'd agree but not gay. Which a few adventrous ladies have found out. Iam not to fond of drink myself but i do like wine and shots. and typical so classed girlie drinks.
On its head my fiancee is tipacally a bloke loves, beer loves football, loves a good action or horror movie. And loves nothing more than to cuddle up and sleep.
I have been the last few months doubting how i feel. i find myself unhappy when shes around me 50% of the time and find that im not physically turned on. that may just be stress.
She has moved out temporarily so i can find out how i feel.
What the hell should i doDesperate to find answers on how i feel my choice now will change my life completely need any advice?
opposites usually attract, particularly in such cases. in your case, it seems to be fizzling out. move on. but chances r the next girl would be the same.Desperate to find answers on how i feel my choice now will change my life completely need any advice?
Sound like you have out gown each other, you are both very different people to who you were when you met, you are different at 19 than at 23.
Maybe a break from each other will do ye good. Sounds like you have fallen out of love with her. I know 4 years is along time but maybe this just isnt ment to be. Be true to yourself. If you love her follow after her but if you dont then just let her go..
well doubting isnt a good sign, sounds like you need a more girly woman youll have more in common with
You have doubts then the time apart will help.You will either
miss her like mad or realise that the love has gone.Good Luck
Well, temporary separation will be the best moved, so will be able to analyze things between you.
Actually, you are the only person who could answer your question.
Try to examine yourself. Go with other girls you like and see if you will fantasize them.
I know other guys, who used to be a man and have baby with their girlfrirends and later on.... realizes that they are ....gay. I am not kidding. I am serious.
The kind of work that you are having and the kind of people you meet everyday...your environment ....believe me... it is contagious.
Never be afraid to accept the truth. That's the real you.
same reply as brandb
You say you're not gay, and that's fine. You don't say how you feel now that's she's moved out....relieved? Happy? Do you miss her?
Give yourself some time to sort out how you feel but ultimately, it sounds to me like you're just with the wrong girl.
I think you need to find yourself someone who you have a little more in common with and is a little more feminine.
Opposites might attract, but you need to have some sort of common ground...
well if you're doubting things now without the pressure of marriage on your shoulders - its not looking too optimistic!
you're still very young - could you not just talk to her and discuss the possibility of making this a long engagement and try to sort out how you feel then - her moving out is a good thing - at least when you're away from her you have space to clear your head.xx
Get out there and start experiencing life. Don't just settle for someone that does not make you happy. There are plenty of other girls out there.
I like to dance wildly, play games,like to suprise people, and do the unexpected which becomes expected after a while. In a strange way i believe 1st impression of me from a stranger is gay, I AM NOT GAY very feminally based i'd agree but not gay. Which a few adventrous ladies have found out. Iam not to fond of drink myself but i do like wine and shots. and typical so classed girlie drinks.
On its head my fiancee is tipacally a bloke loves, beer loves football, loves a good action or horror movie. And loves nothing more than to cuddle up and sleep.
I have been the last few months doubting how i feel. i find myself unhappy when shes around me 50% of the time and find that im not physically turned on. that may just be stress.
She has moved out temporarily so i can find out how i feel.
What the hell should i doDesperate to find answers on how i feel my choice now will change my life completely need any advice?
opposites usually attract, particularly in such cases. in your case, it seems to be fizzling out. move on. but chances r the next girl would be the same.Desperate to find answers on how i feel my choice now will change my life completely need any advice?
Sound like you have out gown each other, you are both very different people to who you were when you met, you are different at 19 than at 23.
Maybe a break from each other will do ye good. Sounds like you have fallen out of love with her. I know 4 years is along time but maybe this just isnt ment to be. Be true to yourself. If you love her follow after her but if you dont then just let her go..
well doubting isnt a good sign, sounds like you need a more girly woman youll have more in common with
You have doubts then the time apart will help.You will either
miss her like mad or realise that the love has gone.Good Luck
Well, temporary separation will be the best moved, so will be able to analyze things between you.
Actually, you are the only person who could answer your question.
Try to examine yourself. Go with other girls you like and see if you will fantasize them.
I know other guys, who used to be a man and have baby with their girlfrirends and later on.... realizes that they are ....gay. I am not kidding. I am serious.
The kind of work that you are having and the kind of people you meet everyday...your environment ....believe me... it is contagious.
Never be afraid to accept the truth. That's the real you.
same reply as brandb
You say you're not gay, and that's fine. You don't say how you feel now that's she's moved out....relieved? Happy? Do you miss her?
Give yourself some time to sort out how you feel but ultimately, it sounds to me like you're just with the wrong girl.
I think you need to find yourself someone who you have a little more in common with and is a little more feminine.
Opposites might attract, but you need to have some sort of common ground...
well if you're doubting things now without the pressure of marriage on your shoulders - its not looking too optimistic!
you're still very young - could you not just talk to her and discuss the possibility of making this a long engagement and try to sort out how you feel then - her moving out is a good thing - at least when you're away from her you have space to clear your head.xx
Get out there and start experiencing life. Don't just settle for someone that does not make you happy. There are plenty of other girls out there.
Life not going well, need advice and/or help.?
A lot of things have not been going right lately in my life, and i'm talking personally, relationships, at work, financially and school. Everywhere i turn life seems to throw me another curve ball, and everyday when i get home i just want to lay in my bed and forget about all the problems in my life and dream of what it would be like to be someone else with no problems, not talking to anyone. Any advice would help, or is it im just depressed?Life not going well, need advice and/or help.?
Your stress could be leading you on the path towards depression. What you need to do is resist the urge to lay in bed and avoid everything. Find some activities that fill your spirit, whether it be art, music, dancing, writing, working out, volunteering...or anything else you can think of that is a meaningful activity to you. Don't succumb to the depression by lying in bed. Life is throwing you a lot of curve balls and once you get through this, you will be stronger than before.Life not going well, need advice and/or help.?
Ale961 - The outside world is a mirror of what is going on inside of you. According to Rhonda Byrne in her book ';The Secret'; we all attract to ourselves whatever we think about the most.
In order to change the situations/conditions of your life, you need to change your thoughts.
Please read ';The Secret'; or watch ';The Secret'; DVD.
it is a test of life we go thru.... you got to be strong ....everyone has problems people in hospital with cancer going thru key- mo .some just found out they got aids some just found out a death in the family some just found out so and so going to jail.. some one just lost a house ..some one just died .....some one just lost a job ....things get real next to you at times just pray to over come ....relashionships is of your choice you chose to be with this person if they mean you no good then time to say see ya .... inless you can get a good understanding do not do good then time to cut it lose ......$$$$$$$$$ money at school can always be fix'd in time little by little.life throug's cover balls look at JOB in the bible he over come so can you some time when we are on bottom it is time to call on the creator for help and strength.. you must never give up ..get to your self search things out get a pice of paper and write down the things bothering you ........ then how can you fix that problem mate wise ---$$$$$$$ wise------ things work out you got to give it time ........ prayer %26amp; streangth
It sounds like life is coming at you faster than you seem to be able to handle it. When I'm feeling particularly down, I usually go outside for a while. I like to go to the gym and leave my day there, or go for a bike ride outside. Exercise is one of the best ways to make you feel better (something about endorphines and the like).
Try picking up a new hobby, something inexpensive that you enjoy doing (running, people watching, swimming, etc). It may help. It may also help for you to go out with your friends after work, or go camping on a weekend. If you continue to feel this way for an extended period of time (I'm talking over a month) then you might want to seek professional help.
best of luck.
get the movie or book The Secret and it will tell you how to change your life!
Sounds like you're at a crossroads.
You might be a little depressed with your situation.
Sit down and think about what you want out of life. If you are not satisfied with your situation, maybe you should make some changes.
You are the one in control of your life. Life is too short to be unhappy.
Figure out what will make you happy, and go for it!
Good luck!
Go to your doctor and ask if he can give you something. And, in the past year I have discovered Church and prayer gives me peace. Go ahead thumbs down folks...come and get me.
well you can try to listen to music, read a book watch t.v. or movie to forget about it all , also one thing that seems to work for me and most people is praying to the lord when things go wrong and even though you may think you are in this alone believe me when i say your not the lord is always by your side just waiting for you to call out to him to help you!
You are depressed and after reading your story, I would say clinically depressed. What I would do is seek advice from your local mental health organization. Depression if not treated can become a much bigger problem.
To me, it doesn't sound like you have true clinical depression. I think you're just under stress from so much that's going on in your life that you feel weighed down by the pressure. But rest assured, we all have problems too, so wishing you were someone else is a futile exercise. Laying in bed and trying to forget your problems by wishing them away won't help. You can't escape them, they always are there when you wake up. So, it's better to deal with them and try to remove as much stress in your life as possible. Go to the library and get some books on how to deal with stress. You might even check into self-hypnosis, they have plenty of books and tapes on that. It will teach you how to relax and will condition you to not over-stress when another problem comes your way. If those don't help and you can't cope, see a therapist or life coach who can teach you coping skills. Good luck to you!
There is no such thing as someone with no problems. Everyone has them it's just a matter of how you deal with them. Sometimes life is really hard and you feel like it would be better to just be done with it but just remember that what doesn't kill you will make you stronger. God throws us these curve balls so that we can catch them and make the best play. You cannot learn if you don't have any experiences to learn from. Take what God has given you and hold your head up. You will get through it although it may be tough and you will be a better person. Good Luck!
wow-- ur life reminds me of the movie ';the pursuite of happiness';cheap make up
Your stress could be leading you on the path towards depression. What you need to do is resist the urge to lay in bed and avoid everything. Find some activities that fill your spirit, whether it be art, music, dancing, writing, working out, volunteering...or anything else you can think of that is a meaningful activity to you. Don't succumb to the depression by lying in bed. Life is throwing you a lot of curve balls and once you get through this, you will be stronger than before.Life not going well, need advice and/or help.?
Ale961 - The outside world is a mirror of what is going on inside of you. According to Rhonda Byrne in her book ';The Secret'; we all attract to ourselves whatever we think about the most.
In order to change the situations/conditions of your life, you need to change your thoughts.
Please read ';The Secret'; or watch ';The Secret'; DVD.
it is a test of life we go thru.... you got to be strong ....everyone has problems people in hospital with cancer going thru key- mo .some just found out they got aids some just found out a death in the family some just found out so and so going to jail.. some one just lost a house ..some one just died .....some one just lost a job ....things get real next to you at times just pray to over come ....relashionships is of your choice you chose to be with this person if they mean you no good then time to say see ya .... inless you can get a good understanding do not do good then time to cut it lose ......$$$$$$$$$ money at school can always be fix'd in time little by little.life throug's cover balls look at JOB in the bible he over come so can you some time when we are on bottom it is time to call on the creator for help and strength.. you must never give up ..get to your self search things out get a pice of paper and write down the things bothering you ........ then how can you fix that problem mate wise ---$$$$$$$ wise------ things work out you got to give it time ........ prayer %26amp; streangth
It sounds like life is coming at you faster than you seem to be able to handle it. When I'm feeling particularly down, I usually go outside for a while. I like to go to the gym and leave my day there, or go for a bike ride outside. Exercise is one of the best ways to make you feel better (something about endorphines and the like).
Try picking up a new hobby, something inexpensive that you enjoy doing (running, people watching, swimming, etc). It may help. It may also help for you to go out with your friends after work, or go camping on a weekend. If you continue to feel this way for an extended period of time (I'm talking over a month) then you might want to seek professional help.
best of luck.
get the movie or book The Secret and it will tell you how to change your life!
Sounds like you're at a crossroads.
You might be a little depressed with your situation.
Sit down and think about what you want out of life. If you are not satisfied with your situation, maybe you should make some changes.
You are the one in control of your life. Life is too short to be unhappy.
Figure out what will make you happy, and go for it!
Good luck!
Go to your doctor and ask if he can give you something. And, in the past year I have discovered Church and prayer gives me peace. Go ahead thumbs down folks...come and get me.
well you can try to listen to music, read a book watch t.v. or movie to forget about it all , also one thing that seems to work for me and most people is praying to the lord when things go wrong and even though you may think you are in this alone believe me when i say your not the lord is always by your side just waiting for you to call out to him to help you!
You are depressed and after reading your story, I would say clinically depressed. What I would do is seek advice from your local mental health organization. Depression if not treated can become a much bigger problem.
To me, it doesn't sound like you have true clinical depression. I think you're just under stress from so much that's going on in your life that you feel weighed down by the pressure. But rest assured, we all have problems too, so wishing you were someone else is a futile exercise. Laying in bed and trying to forget your problems by wishing them away won't help. You can't escape them, they always are there when you wake up. So, it's better to deal with them and try to remove as much stress in your life as possible. Go to the library and get some books on how to deal with stress. You might even check into self-hypnosis, they have plenty of books and tapes on that. It will teach you how to relax and will condition you to not over-stress when another problem comes your way. If those don't help and you can't cope, see a therapist or life coach who can teach you coping skills. Good luck to you!
There is no such thing as someone with no problems. Everyone has them it's just a matter of how you deal with them. Sometimes life is really hard and you feel like it would be better to just be done with it but just remember that what doesn't kill you will make you stronger. God throws us these curve balls so that we can catch them and make the best play. You cannot learn if you don't have any experiences to learn from. Take what God has given you and hold your head up. You will get through it although it may be tough and you will be a better person. Good Luck!
wow-- ur life reminds me of the movie ';the pursuite of happiness';
20/m only child. I'm lonely alot. Any advice? Is this how life goes?
No, it's not how it goes, but you have to get out there and involve yourself in life, because it's not going to come to you.20/m only child. I'm lonely alot. Any advice? Is this how life goes?
I am an only child as well. Married, but nonetheless I do understand how it feels to be lonely as an only child. The best advice I can give from one only child to another - put yourself out there. Trust yourself around others, and in turn trust will begin to build for others in your life. Trust, honesty and being yourself are the keys to finding people that are true in your life. Find activities, hobbies, clubs and other things that interest you (besides going to a bar or dance club - these places only hide people, they do not reveal thier true selves) - and in turn you will find people whom are positive influences in your life than you can surround yourself with.20/m only child. I'm lonely alot. Any advice? Is this how life goes?
Doesn't have to be the way life goes.
What kind of hobbies or interests do you have?
Are there any local organizations that you'd be interested in doing volunteer work?
Anyone at school or work that you think might make a good friend but you haven't approached them?
Would you have any interest in a church group for young adults?
Are you familiar with your neighbors? Perhaps your family could start a block party with the help of one or two other families.
If you need to talk feel free to email me.
i was 26 when i got married... it does get better... in the mean time, enjoy life, and be a true friend to those who are your friends. don't get hung up on ';dating';, love can surprise you, and what comes from a good friendship first is much better
Lonely?
I'm sorry.
Please meet someone nice.
You can find a nice person through many community activities.
Finding a partner at a bar? Bad idea.
Read the lyrics to ';Roll the Bones'; and ';Freewill'; by Rush.
As a matter of fact, many of the Rush lyrics might help you.
I think we find the secret to all our problems is by listening and aiding others in their problems. It takes a special effort in letting go of our own interests in favor of others.
http://www.365promises.com/170.aspx
Talk to God, ask Him to guide you, you would be surprised at the doors He will open.
Join clubs or sports. Then you meet more people with similar interests.
I don't see how this pertains to religion though..
Once your 21 you can start hitting the bars and be lonely no more.
Go to college.
You won't be lonely for at least four years.
Jesus is the best Friend you could ever have :)
The truth is that the only way to be saved and to get into heaven and avoid being sent to eternal hell is by believing that Jesus, who is God, died for our sins on the cross and rose again (1 Corinthians 15:1-4). Believe this and you are saved!
Please pray now: ';Jesus, please forgive me of my sins. I believe that You died on the cross for my sins and You rose again. Thank You for eternal life!'; You will be in heaven with Him forever when you die :)
Find your local Kingdom Hall and the answer to not only your lonliness but all your questions as well. Start a Bible study. Make God your friend.
I am an only child as well. Married, but nonetheless I do understand how it feels to be lonely as an only child. The best advice I can give from one only child to another - put yourself out there. Trust yourself around others, and in turn trust will begin to build for others in your life. Trust, honesty and being yourself are the keys to finding people that are true in your life. Find activities, hobbies, clubs and other things that interest you (besides going to a bar or dance club - these places only hide people, they do not reveal thier true selves) - and in turn you will find people whom are positive influences in your life than you can surround yourself with.20/m only child. I'm lonely alot. Any advice? Is this how life goes?
Doesn't have to be the way life goes.
What kind of hobbies or interests do you have?
Are there any local organizations that you'd be interested in doing volunteer work?
Anyone at school or work that you think might make a good friend but you haven't approached them?
Would you have any interest in a church group for young adults?
Are you familiar with your neighbors? Perhaps your family could start a block party with the help of one or two other families.
If you need to talk feel free to email me.
i was 26 when i got married... it does get better... in the mean time, enjoy life, and be a true friend to those who are your friends. don't get hung up on ';dating';, love can surprise you, and what comes from a good friendship first is much better
Lonely?
I'm sorry.
Please meet someone nice.
You can find a nice person through many community activities.
Finding a partner at a bar? Bad idea.
Read the lyrics to ';Roll the Bones'; and ';Freewill'; by Rush.
As a matter of fact, many of the Rush lyrics might help you.
I think we find the secret to all our problems is by listening and aiding others in their problems. It takes a special effort in letting go of our own interests in favor of others.
http://www.365promises.com/170.aspx
Talk to God, ask Him to guide you, you would be surprised at the doors He will open.
Join clubs or sports. Then you meet more people with similar interests.
I don't see how this pertains to religion though..
Once your 21 you can start hitting the bars and be lonely no more.
Go to college.
You won't be lonely for at least four years.
Jesus is the best Friend you could ever have :)
The truth is that the only way to be saved and to get into heaven and avoid being sent to eternal hell is by believing that Jesus, who is God, died for our sins on the cross and rose again (1 Corinthians 15:1-4). Believe this and you are saved!
Please pray now: ';Jesus, please forgive me of my sins. I believe that You died on the cross for my sins and You rose again. Thank You for eternal life!'; You will be in heaven with Him forever when you die :)
Find your local Kingdom Hall and the answer to not only your lonliness but all your questions as well. Start a Bible study. Make God your friend.
HELP? I NEED ADVICE ON HOW TO REVIVE MY SEX LIFE?
i have been married for 3yrs and my hubby keeps complaining am becoming boring in bed...i know my sex drive is gone because i can stay for a mnth without it i want save my marriage i need serious advice .HELP? I NEED ADVICE ON HOW TO REVIVE MY SEX LIFE?
One common problem that happens is this. I have been there and done that. You have to figure out what it is first that is destroying your sex drive. If your on medication like birth control or anti-depressants that is something to think about and do research on. Other then that it could just be stress, maybe the kids, really anything that makes your life stressful can do this and lower the libido.
One thing I tried that seemed to work while I was doing it was exercising. I just felt sexier doing it which kind of boosted my libido. However it wasn't the best solution for me. My friend told me about these herbal enhancers that are made from natural herbs and don't cause any side effects besides having wild sex. She said it's the female version of viagra. I had to find out.
I would always have a weak orgasm too (if I had one at all), which after trying this sex enhancer, it boosted them tremendously. I don't get multiple orgasms but I've had plenty since being on these herbs. It's seriously like the best vibrator ride you've ever experienced. These things make me horny all the time, some days I don't even take them because the urge is just too strong.
Don't try out single herbs because they don't do it like the blend of herbs these scientists and researchers pick out. I've tried a couple of them by itself and they did crap. The stuff that I'm on is called Hersolution, at the time I saved money on it at herenhancement.com . Make sure you get the 3 month supply that way you fall under the guarantee/return policy if the herbs don't work for you, you can return them with no questions ask. I bet they will work though and you won't have any problems. Also if your on medication of any sort, check out the gel because if your like me, you wouldn't want to swallow any thing that might react with the medications your already on.
Well have a good day and hopefully you solved your problem.HELP? I NEED ADVICE ON HOW TO REVIVE MY SEX LIFE?
Go to your doctor. My wife (27) also lost interest in sex. Her doctor was able to help her with hormones.
call me ill get you fired up
One common problem that happens is this. I have been there and done that. You have to figure out what it is first that is destroying your sex drive. If your on medication like birth control or anti-depressants that is something to think about and do research on. Other then that it could just be stress, maybe the kids, really anything that makes your life stressful can do this and lower the libido.
One thing I tried that seemed to work while I was doing it was exercising. I just felt sexier doing it which kind of boosted my libido. However it wasn't the best solution for me. My friend told me about these herbal enhancers that are made from natural herbs and don't cause any side effects besides having wild sex. She said it's the female version of viagra. I had to find out.
I would always have a weak orgasm too (if I had one at all), which after trying this sex enhancer, it boosted them tremendously. I don't get multiple orgasms but I've had plenty since being on these herbs. It's seriously like the best vibrator ride you've ever experienced. These things make me horny all the time, some days I don't even take them because the urge is just too strong.
Don't try out single herbs because they don't do it like the blend of herbs these scientists and researchers pick out. I've tried a couple of them by itself and they did crap. The stuff that I'm on is called Hersolution, at the time I saved money on it at herenhancement.com . Make sure you get the 3 month supply that way you fall under the guarantee/return policy if the herbs don't work for you, you can return them with no questions ask. I bet they will work though and you won't have any problems. Also if your on medication of any sort, check out the gel because if your like me, you wouldn't want to swallow any thing that might react with the medications your already on.
Well have a good day and hopefully you solved your problem.HELP? I NEED ADVICE ON HOW TO REVIVE MY SEX LIFE?
Go to your doctor. My wife (27) also lost interest in sex. Her doctor was able to help her with hormones.
call me ill get you fired up
I'm 14 years old and I need something EXCITING/UPLIFTING in my life and i need advice (Details below-PLZ read)
okay
I have a good Christian family, good neighboor hood, ect and most ppl think i'm living well off except for i'm not.
my dad used to be a drunk and went to jail for it, then he stopped and i just found out that he secretly started again, dad thinks mom is having affair but nobody knows for sure, parents r undecided about divorce and both ask me and my 6 year old sister if we want them to break up or not, we're broke and in HUGE debt and no money but parents spend ruthlessly, and it's AWFUL. we all try to cover it up from everybody but i always feel like my life is a big fat LIE which it kind of is. I really need something in my life thatll help me forget my problems like u know in books and movies how ppl sneak out of their houses and go make out with guys (ya i know i'm only 14) or a boyfriend or idk just something exciting that will make me actually look forward to life unlike how i get up every morning and wish i were dead. i kno, im desperate %26amp; its sad i hafta go online for thisI'm 14 years old and I need something EXCITING/UPLIFTING in my life and i need advice (Details below-PLZ read)
Wow. You're in a crappy situation, through no fault of your own, and unfortunately there's not much you can do right now to change that. However, maybe you should explore your talents and interests and focus on what you can do to start building your future now. Don't look to others to turn your attitude around for you, or you could end up just leaving yourself open for some guy to totally use you. Instead, try to list the things you are interested in, like, I dunno, maybe acting, or singing, or sports of some sort, and get involved in that. It will help take your mind off of the home situation for a while, and will give you a new sense of purpose and direction. Good luck! ;)I'm 14 years old and I need something EXCITING/UPLIFTING in my life and i need advice (Details below-PLZ read)
my advice is to join a club (church, book,etc.) then you have something to look forward to at least 1 day a week i mean it sux but i mean it kinda depends on the person u are are you outgoing, quiet, smart??????? im mean i like i said clubs help me or sports or just go somewhere like every weekend thats not to expensive with your friends. i hope that helps
This is very common in families with alcoholism; they expect the kids and the people that are not drunk to cover for them, and everybody feels they have to. But this is NOT healthy. It only allows things to get worse.
You can't control what your parents do and it's not your fault. You should probably start going to Alateen meetings to learn from other young people in similar situations. Talk to your school counselor about what is happening and they can probably tell you where to go to meetings too. This is just the sort of thing that school counselors are there for.
Since you are a Christian, I'd also recommend you make an appointment to talk to your pastor about it, of find somebody in your church community that you can talk to. Churches often have Alateen meetings on the premises.
I wish you well.
I really wish I could help you, but I'm no psychologist or anything.
Be optimistic. Life is worth living. Obstacles make life beautiful.
To answer your question; a movie called Thirteen.
It's actually a very nice movie.
Don't let other peoples problems bring you down.
I'd recommend either trying to explore your artistic side (a great release), or take up Aikido,
My dad also drinks a lot and my mom keeps threatening him with divorce, I can't do much about it, atleast I got the army to look forward to, and maybe even straighten some new people out :D!
Well, since I care about people....and if we were able to get to know each other ....I could send you a ';Thinking of You'; Card!!!!! Through the mail.
I'm sorry that your family is in such turmoil and you're feeling like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. Add being a teenager to the mix, and things aren't much easier. A lot of families try to mask their lives from people on the outside.
Do you have someone you can talk to at school (a teacher, guidence counselor, etc) who you feel like you can confide in? Sometimes talking to someone can help you feel a lot better.
Also, looking for a boyfriend isn't a bad thing. I started dating around 14-- never anything serious, but it's nice to have a special someone in your life who really cares about you and will allow you to cry on their shoulder... and most importantly, that you can have fun with. People assume these days that having a boyfriend automatically means sex, but I truly believe that you can have a meaningful relationship (even at 14) without going all the way. I'm proof of that. My boyfriend at 14 and I just had fun together, without mixing in too much physicality (except for kissing, of course... lol).
Try making some fun plans for yourself and some friends. On the weekend go to the movies, go hiking, shopping, play mini-golf, go bowling, stuff like that. All those things are fun and can definitely give you something to look forward to.
Lastly, have you considering joining up with any school activities? I would highly recommend joining a sport (cheerleading, swim team, track, basketball, soccer, etc), even if you're not great at it-- cos you'll get better-- because it'll allow you to get out any aggression or bad feelings, and will leave you feeling satisfied. It'll also keep you busy and away from home with all the games and practices, which will help you keep your mind off the problems that you shouldn't have to deal with in the first place. If sports aren't for you, try out for your school play/musical, or join a club. Any of these things will take up your time, give you something to look forward to, and will help you to make new friends :)
Good luck, sweetheart. Don't feel bad about asking about this online. Sometimes it's the best place to get advice; we don't know you here so no one will judge you (at least they shouldn't!).
Every morning when you wake up, look in the mirror and say, in 4 years I'm outta here and I will not live my life this way.
PS. Making out with boys is only exciting while it lasts, then you feel dumb after, at least I would.
Good Christian family, check again alcoholism and adultery are those things standard in a good christian family? Anyhow it is not sad that you have to go on line for help because there are a lot of people with a lot of life experience that are on line. You are still young and you want to die eh, well it is more likely you are tired of your life as it is and it is time for a change. Set a goal or two for example take up running, it gets you out of the house and gives you exercise and time to think. Try martial arts good for discipline and health and will give you self confidence and the ability to empower yourself. Hey you may meet some new people at a martial arts class. Forgetting your problems does not make them go away confront them ask you father if he needs help such as Alcoholics Anonymous also confront your mother and ask her if she having an affair. I realize that you are young with a plate full of issues but do not worry your life is ahead and like I said set some goals no matter how big or small. Work towards them and appreciate yourself for who you are and what you have to offer.
I have a good Christian family, good neighboor hood, ect and most ppl think i'm living well off except for i'm not.
my dad used to be a drunk and went to jail for it, then he stopped and i just found out that he secretly started again, dad thinks mom is having affair but nobody knows for sure, parents r undecided about divorce and both ask me and my 6 year old sister if we want them to break up or not, we're broke and in HUGE debt and no money but parents spend ruthlessly, and it's AWFUL. we all try to cover it up from everybody but i always feel like my life is a big fat LIE which it kind of is. I really need something in my life thatll help me forget my problems like u know in books and movies how ppl sneak out of their houses and go make out with guys (ya i know i'm only 14) or a boyfriend or idk just something exciting that will make me actually look forward to life unlike how i get up every morning and wish i were dead. i kno, im desperate %26amp; its sad i hafta go online for thisI'm 14 years old and I need something EXCITING/UPLIFTING in my life and i need advice (Details below-PLZ read)
Wow. You're in a crappy situation, through no fault of your own, and unfortunately there's not much you can do right now to change that. However, maybe you should explore your talents and interests and focus on what you can do to start building your future now. Don't look to others to turn your attitude around for you, or you could end up just leaving yourself open for some guy to totally use you. Instead, try to list the things you are interested in, like, I dunno, maybe acting, or singing, or sports of some sort, and get involved in that. It will help take your mind off of the home situation for a while, and will give you a new sense of purpose and direction. Good luck! ;)I'm 14 years old and I need something EXCITING/UPLIFTING in my life and i need advice (Details below-PLZ read)
my advice is to join a club (church, book,etc.) then you have something to look forward to at least 1 day a week i mean it sux but i mean it kinda depends on the person u are are you outgoing, quiet, smart??????? im mean i like i said clubs help me or sports or just go somewhere like every weekend thats not to expensive with your friends. i hope that helps
This is very common in families with alcoholism; they expect the kids and the people that are not drunk to cover for them, and everybody feels they have to. But this is NOT healthy. It only allows things to get worse.
You can't control what your parents do and it's not your fault. You should probably start going to Alateen meetings to learn from other young people in similar situations. Talk to your school counselor about what is happening and they can probably tell you where to go to meetings too. This is just the sort of thing that school counselors are there for.
Since you are a Christian, I'd also recommend you make an appointment to talk to your pastor about it, of find somebody in your church community that you can talk to. Churches often have Alateen meetings on the premises.
I wish you well.
I really wish I could help you, but I'm no psychologist or anything.
Be optimistic. Life is worth living. Obstacles make life beautiful.
To answer your question; a movie called Thirteen.
It's actually a very nice movie.
Don't let other peoples problems bring you down.
I'd recommend either trying to explore your artistic side (a great release), or take up Aikido,
My dad also drinks a lot and my mom keeps threatening him with divorce, I can't do much about it, atleast I got the army to look forward to, and maybe even straighten some new people out :D!
Well, since I care about people....and if we were able to get to know each other ....I could send you a ';Thinking of You'; Card!!!!! Through the mail.
I'm sorry that your family is in such turmoil and you're feeling like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. Add being a teenager to the mix, and things aren't much easier. A lot of families try to mask their lives from people on the outside.
Do you have someone you can talk to at school (a teacher, guidence counselor, etc) who you feel like you can confide in? Sometimes talking to someone can help you feel a lot better.
Also, looking for a boyfriend isn't a bad thing. I started dating around 14-- never anything serious, but it's nice to have a special someone in your life who really cares about you and will allow you to cry on their shoulder... and most importantly, that you can have fun with. People assume these days that having a boyfriend automatically means sex, but I truly believe that you can have a meaningful relationship (even at 14) without going all the way. I'm proof of that. My boyfriend at 14 and I just had fun together, without mixing in too much physicality (except for kissing, of course... lol).
Try making some fun plans for yourself and some friends. On the weekend go to the movies, go hiking, shopping, play mini-golf, go bowling, stuff like that. All those things are fun and can definitely give you something to look forward to.
Lastly, have you considering joining up with any school activities? I would highly recommend joining a sport (cheerleading, swim team, track, basketball, soccer, etc), even if you're not great at it-- cos you'll get better-- because it'll allow you to get out any aggression or bad feelings, and will leave you feeling satisfied. It'll also keep you busy and away from home with all the games and practices, which will help you keep your mind off the problems that you shouldn't have to deal with in the first place. If sports aren't for you, try out for your school play/musical, or join a club. Any of these things will take up your time, give you something to look forward to, and will help you to make new friends :)
Good luck, sweetheart. Don't feel bad about asking about this online. Sometimes it's the best place to get advice; we don't know you here so no one will judge you (at least they shouldn't!).
Every morning when you wake up, look in the mirror and say, in 4 years I'm outta here and I will not live my life this way.
PS. Making out with boys is only exciting while it lasts, then you feel dumb after, at least I would.
Good Christian family, check again alcoholism and adultery are those things standard in a good christian family? Anyhow it is not sad that you have to go on line for help because there are a lot of people with a lot of life experience that are on line. You are still young and you want to die eh, well it is more likely you are tired of your life as it is and it is time for a change. Set a goal or two for example take up running, it gets you out of the house and gives you exercise and time to think. Try martial arts good for discipline and health and will give you self confidence and the ability to empower yourself. Hey you may meet some new people at a martial arts class. Forgetting your problems does not make them go away confront them ask you father if he needs help such as Alcoholics Anonymous also confront your mother and ask her if she having an affair. I realize that you are young with a plate full of issues but do not worry your life is ahead and like I said set some goals no matter how big or small. Work towards them and appreciate yourself for who you are and what you have to offer.
I find it very difficult to forget this girl and move on with my life.Can anyone give me some advice?
Even thought she left me and replaced me with another man I still can't forget about her and I still have feelings for her. What do I have to do to get rid of this feeling? Please help.I find it very difficult to forget this girl and move on with my life.Can anyone give me some advice?
Guy I am in the exact same boat. My ex left me for someone and was engaged to him only 2 weeks after our break up. Honestly, I still love her too. So I know what you are going through. Unfortunately, all the advice out there is going to be very cliche....time heals all, get out and meet other people, do something you enjoy doing, hang out with friends, etc...I don't know if any of that will help you but time is really the only thing that is helping me. You just have to realize that you have to stop for a second, accept that you love her, recognize her wrong, forgive her, forgive yourself, go through the grieving process and then you can move on. It's the only healthy way to get through this. There is nothing wrong with loving her and still having feelings for her. And unfortunately, its not a feeling you will ever be able to get rid of and you shouldn't want to. Love is love. Her not reciprocating doesn't mean you will love her any less because it sure didn't work for me. Matter of fact the more I tried to get rid of it, the more I realize the reason I was doing that was because I loved her. It just takes time man. It's a day by day process and we all have to go through it. Trust me, it will get better.I find it very difficult to forget this girl and move on with my life.Can anyone give me some advice?
All come on dude. You got along without her before you met her. Now you are going to get a long now. Take it as a learning experience. Be glad she is gone.
Guy I am in the exact same boat. My ex left me for someone and was engaged to him only 2 weeks after our break up. Honestly, I still love her too. So I know what you are going through. Unfortunately, all the advice out there is going to be very cliche....time heals all, get out and meet other people, do something you enjoy doing, hang out with friends, etc...I don't know if any of that will help you but time is really the only thing that is helping me. You just have to realize that you have to stop for a second, accept that you love her, recognize her wrong, forgive her, forgive yourself, go through the grieving process and then you can move on. It's the only healthy way to get through this. There is nothing wrong with loving her and still having feelings for her. And unfortunately, its not a feeling you will ever be able to get rid of and you shouldn't want to. Love is love. Her not reciprocating doesn't mean you will love her any less because it sure didn't work for me. Matter of fact the more I tried to get rid of it, the more I realize the reason I was doing that was because I loved her. It just takes time man. It's a day by day process and we all have to go through it. Trust me, it will get better.I find it very difficult to forget this girl and move on with my life.Can anyone give me some advice?
All come on dude. You got along without her before you met her. Now you are going to get a long now. Take it as a learning experience. Be glad she is gone.
Desperate to find answers on how i feel my choice now will change my life completely need any advice?
Well i we are both 23 so quite young i know. Been together for almost 4 years now. Living together for 3 of those years and engaged for 1. READ BOTTOM AT PARAGRAPH LEAST
I like to dance wildly, play games,like to suprise people, and do the unexpected which becomes expected after a while. In a strange way i believe 1st impression of me from a stranger is gay, I AM NOT GAY very feminally based i'd agree but not gay. Which a few adventrous ladies have found out. Iam not to fond of drink myself but i do like wine and shots. and typical so classed girlie drinks.
On its head my fiancee is tipacally a bloke loves, beer loves football, loves a good action or horror movie. And loves nothing more than to cuddle up and sleep.
I have been the last few months doubting how i feel. i find myself unhappy when shes around me 50% of the time and find that im not physically turned on. that may just be stress.
She has moved out temporarily so i can find out how i feel.
What the hell should i doDesperate to find answers on how i feel my choice now will change my life completely need any advice?
opposites usually attract, particularly in such cases. in your case, it seems to be fizzling out. move on. but chances r the next girl would be the same.Desperate to find answers on how i feel my choice now will change my life completely need any advice?
Sound like you have out gown each other, you are both very different people to who you were when you met, you are different at 19 than at 23.
Maybe a break from each other will do ye good. Sounds like you have fallen out of love with her. I know 4 years is along time but maybe this just isnt ment to be. Be true to yourself. If you love her follow after her but if you dont then just let her go..
well doubting isnt a good sign, sounds like you need a more girly woman youll have more in common with
You have doubts then the time apart will help.You will either
miss her like mad or realise that the love has gone.Good Luck
Well, temporary separation will be the best moved, so will be able to analyze things between you.
Actually, you are the only person who could answer your question.
Try to examine yourself. Go with other girls you like and see if you will fantasize them.
I know other guys, who used to be a man and have baby with their girlfrirends and later on.... realizes that they are ....gay. I am not kidding. I am serious.
The kind of work that you are having and the kind of people you meet everyday...your environment ....believe me... it is contagious.
Never be afraid to accept the truth. That's the real you.
same reply as brandb
You say you're not gay, and that's fine. You don't say how you feel now that's she's moved out....relieved? Happy? Do you miss her?
Give yourself some time to sort out how you feel but ultimately, it sounds to me like you're just with the wrong girl.
I think you need to find yourself someone who you have a little more in common with and is a little more feminine.
Opposites might attract, but you need to have some sort of common ground...
well if you're doubting things now without the pressure of marriage on your shoulders - its not looking too optimistic!
you're still very young - could you not just talk to her and discuss the possibility of making this a long engagement and try to sort out how you feel then - her moving out is a good thing - at least when you're away from her you have space to clear your head.xx
Get out there and start experiencing life. Don't just settle for someone that does not make you happy. There are plenty of other girls out there.
I like to dance wildly, play games,like to suprise people, and do the unexpected which becomes expected after a while. In a strange way i believe 1st impression of me from a stranger is gay, I AM NOT GAY very feminally based i'd agree but not gay. Which a few adventrous ladies have found out. Iam not to fond of drink myself but i do like wine and shots. and typical so classed girlie drinks.
On its head my fiancee is tipacally a bloke loves, beer loves football, loves a good action or horror movie. And loves nothing more than to cuddle up and sleep.
I have been the last few months doubting how i feel. i find myself unhappy when shes around me 50% of the time and find that im not physically turned on. that may just be stress.
She has moved out temporarily so i can find out how i feel.
What the hell should i doDesperate to find answers on how i feel my choice now will change my life completely need any advice?
opposites usually attract, particularly in such cases. in your case, it seems to be fizzling out. move on. but chances r the next girl would be the same.Desperate to find answers on how i feel my choice now will change my life completely need any advice?
Sound like you have out gown each other, you are both very different people to who you were when you met, you are different at 19 than at 23.
Maybe a break from each other will do ye good. Sounds like you have fallen out of love with her. I know 4 years is along time but maybe this just isnt ment to be. Be true to yourself. If you love her follow after her but if you dont then just let her go..
well doubting isnt a good sign, sounds like you need a more girly woman youll have more in common with
You have doubts then the time apart will help.You will either
miss her like mad or realise that the love has gone.Good Luck
Well, temporary separation will be the best moved, so will be able to analyze things between you.
Actually, you are the only person who could answer your question.
Try to examine yourself. Go with other girls you like and see if you will fantasize them.
I know other guys, who used to be a man and have baby with their girlfrirends and later on.... realizes that they are ....gay. I am not kidding. I am serious.
The kind of work that you are having and the kind of people you meet everyday...your environment ....believe me... it is contagious.
Never be afraid to accept the truth. That's the real you.
same reply as brandb
You say you're not gay, and that's fine. You don't say how you feel now that's she's moved out....relieved? Happy? Do you miss her?
Give yourself some time to sort out how you feel but ultimately, it sounds to me like you're just with the wrong girl.
I think you need to find yourself someone who you have a little more in common with and is a little more feminine.
Opposites might attract, but you need to have some sort of common ground...
well if you're doubting things now without the pressure of marriage on your shoulders - its not looking too optimistic!
you're still very young - could you not just talk to her and discuss the possibility of making this a long engagement and try to sort out how you feel then - her moving out is a good thing - at least when you're away from her you have space to clear your head.xx
Get out there and start experiencing life. Don't just settle for someone that does not make you happy. There are plenty of other girls out there.
Life not going well, need advice and/or help.?
A lot of things have not been going right lately in my life, and i'm talking personally, relationships, at work, financially and school. Everywhere i turn life seems to throw me another curve ball, and everyday when i get home i just want to lay in my bed and forget about all the problems in my life and dream of what it would be like to be someone else with no problems, not talking to anyone. Any advice would help, or is it im just depressed?Life not going well, need advice and/or help.?
Your stress could be leading you on the path towards depression. What you need to do is resist the urge to lay in bed and avoid everything. Find some activities that fill your spirit, whether it be art, music, dancing, writing, working out, volunteering...or anything else you can think of that is a meaningful activity to you. Don't succumb to the depression by lying in bed. Life is throwing you a lot of curve balls and once you get through this, you will be stronger than before.Life not going well, need advice and/or help.?
Ale961 - The outside world is a mirror of what is going on inside of you. According to Rhonda Byrne in her book ';The Secret'; we all attract to ourselves whatever we think about the most.
In order to change the situations/conditions of your life, you need to change your thoughts.
Please read ';The Secret'; or watch ';The Secret'; DVD.
it is a test of life we go thru.... you got to be strong ....everyone has problems people in hospital with cancer going thru key- mo .some just found out they got aids some just found out a death in the family some just found out so and so going to jail.. some one just lost a house ..some one just died .....some one just lost a job ....things get real next to you at times just pray to over come ....relashionships is of your choice you chose to be with this person if they mean you no good then time to say see ya .... inless you can get a good understanding do not do good then time to cut it lose ......$$$$$$$$$ money at school can always be fix'd in time little by little.life throug's cover balls look at JOB in the bible he over come so can you some time when we are on bottom it is time to call on the creator for help and strength.. you must never give up ..get to your self search things out get a pice of paper and write down the things bothering you ........ then how can you fix that problem mate wise ---$$$$$$$ wise------ things work out you got to give it time ........ prayer %26amp; streangth
It sounds like life is coming at you faster than you seem to be able to handle it. When I'm feeling particularly down, I usually go outside for a while. I like to go to the gym and leave my day there, or go for a bike ride outside. Exercise is one of the best ways to make you feel better (something about endorphines and the like).
Try picking up a new hobby, something inexpensive that you enjoy doing (running, people watching, swimming, etc). It may help. It may also help for you to go out with your friends after work, or go camping on a weekend. If you continue to feel this way for an extended period of time (I'm talking over a month) then you might want to seek professional help.
best of luck.
get the movie or book The Secret and it will tell you how to change your life!
Sounds like you're at a crossroads.
You might be a little depressed with your situation.
Sit down and think about what you want out of life. If you are not satisfied with your situation, maybe you should make some changes.
You are the one in control of your life. Life is too short to be unhappy.
Figure out what will make you happy, and go for it!
Good luck!
Go to your doctor and ask if he can give you something. And, in the past year I have discovered Church and prayer gives me peace. Go ahead thumbs down folks...come and get me.
well you can try to listen to music, read a book watch t.v. or movie to forget about it all , also one thing that seems to work for me and most people is praying to the lord when things go wrong and even though you may think you are in this alone believe me when i say your not the lord is always by your side just waiting for you to call out to him to help you!
You are depressed and after reading your story, I would say clinically depressed. What I would do is seek advice from your local mental health organization. Depression if not treated can become a much bigger problem.
To me, it doesn't sound like you have true clinical depression. I think you're just under stress from so much that's going on in your life that you feel weighed down by the pressure. But rest assured, we all have problems too, so wishing you were someone else is a futile exercise. Laying in bed and trying to forget your problems by wishing them away won't help. You can't escape them, they always are there when you wake up. So, it's better to deal with them and try to remove as much stress in your life as possible. Go to the library and get some books on how to deal with stress. You might even check into self-hypnosis, they have plenty of books and tapes on that. It will teach you how to relax and will condition you to not over-stress when another problem comes your way. If those don't help and you can't cope, see a therapist or life coach who can teach you coping skills. Good luck to you!
There is no such thing as someone with no problems. Everyone has them it's just a matter of how you deal with them. Sometimes life is really hard and you feel like it would be better to just be done with it but just remember that what doesn't kill you will make you stronger. God throws us these curve balls so that we can catch them and make the best play. You cannot learn if you don't have any experiences to learn from. Take what God has given you and hold your head up. You will get through it although it may be tough and you will be a better person. Good Luck!
wow-- ur life reminds me of the movie ';the pursuite of happiness';cheap make up
Your stress could be leading you on the path towards depression. What you need to do is resist the urge to lay in bed and avoid everything. Find some activities that fill your spirit, whether it be art, music, dancing, writing, working out, volunteering...or anything else you can think of that is a meaningful activity to you. Don't succumb to the depression by lying in bed. Life is throwing you a lot of curve balls and once you get through this, you will be stronger than before.Life not going well, need advice and/or help.?
Ale961 - The outside world is a mirror of what is going on inside of you. According to Rhonda Byrne in her book ';The Secret'; we all attract to ourselves whatever we think about the most.
In order to change the situations/conditions of your life, you need to change your thoughts.
Please read ';The Secret'; or watch ';The Secret'; DVD.
it is a test of life we go thru.... you got to be strong ....everyone has problems people in hospital with cancer going thru key- mo .some just found out they got aids some just found out a death in the family some just found out so and so going to jail.. some one just lost a house ..some one just died .....some one just lost a job ....things get real next to you at times just pray to over come ....relashionships is of your choice you chose to be with this person if they mean you no good then time to say see ya .... inless you can get a good understanding do not do good then time to cut it lose ......$$$$$$$$$ money at school can always be fix'd in time little by little.life throug's cover balls look at JOB in the bible he over come so can you some time when we are on bottom it is time to call on the creator for help and strength.. you must never give up ..get to your self search things out get a pice of paper and write down the things bothering you ........ then how can you fix that problem mate wise ---$$$$$$$ wise------ things work out you got to give it time ........ prayer %26amp; streangth
It sounds like life is coming at you faster than you seem to be able to handle it. When I'm feeling particularly down, I usually go outside for a while. I like to go to the gym and leave my day there, or go for a bike ride outside. Exercise is one of the best ways to make you feel better (something about endorphines and the like).
Try picking up a new hobby, something inexpensive that you enjoy doing (running, people watching, swimming, etc). It may help. It may also help for you to go out with your friends after work, or go camping on a weekend. If you continue to feel this way for an extended period of time (I'm talking over a month) then you might want to seek professional help.
best of luck.
get the movie or book The Secret and it will tell you how to change your life!
Sounds like you're at a crossroads.
You might be a little depressed with your situation.
Sit down and think about what you want out of life. If you are not satisfied with your situation, maybe you should make some changes.
You are the one in control of your life. Life is too short to be unhappy.
Figure out what will make you happy, and go for it!
Good luck!
Go to your doctor and ask if he can give you something. And, in the past year I have discovered Church and prayer gives me peace. Go ahead thumbs down folks...come and get me.
well you can try to listen to music, read a book watch t.v. or movie to forget about it all , also one thing that seems to work for me and most people is praying to the lord when things go wrong and even though you may think you are in this alone believe me when i say your not the lord is always by your side just waiting for you to call out to him to help you!
You are depressed and after reading your story, I would say clinically depressed. What I would do is seek advice from your local mental health organization. Depression if not treated can become a much bigger problem.
To me, it doesn't sound like you have true clinical depression. I think you're just under stress from so much that's going on in your life that you feel weighed down by the pressure. But rest assured, we all have problems too, so wishing you were someone else is a futile exercise. Laying in bed and trying to forget your problems by wishing them away won't help. You can't escape them, they always are there when you wake up. So, it's better to deal with them and try to remove as much stress in your life as possible. Go to the library and get some books on how to deal with stress. You might even check into self-hypnosis, they have plenty of books and tapes on that. It will teach you how to relax and will condition you to not over-stress when another problem comes your way. If those don't help and you can't cope, see a therapist or life coach who can teach you coping skills. Good luck to you!
There is no such thing as someone with no problems. Everyone has them it's just a matter of how you deal with them. Sometimes life is really hard and you feel like it would be better to just be done with it but just remember that what doesn't kill you will make you stronger. God throws us these curve balls so that we can catch them and make the best play. You cannot learn if you don't have any experiences to learn from. Take what God has given you and hold your head up. You will get through it although it may be tough and you will be a better person. Good Luck!
wow-- ur life reminds me of the movie ';the pursuite of happiness';
I'm suffering from severe depression, and need a girlfriend really bad...My life is falling apart. ADVICE?
I'm 19 years old, and I am a full-time college student at a community college. I did really bad this semester and had to already withdrawl 2 of my classes, and i'm not sure if I'm gonna pass another class. I deffinetly passed 1 of my classes. I really want a girlfriend, and I have been really depressed about it all semester. I tried to make new friend during the semester, but didn't have any luck. I really want a girlfriend, and I keep getting rejected. It's impossible to live without a girlfriend, and I've became suicidal about being single. I've been reject too many times to remember. I hate living without a girlfriend, and I cry in pain about being single.
I know that next semester I will have to try harder to pass all my classes. But it's hard, not to get upset about not having a girlfriend . I don't understand it; how some all guy college students have girlfriends but i don't. I have biceps, and I am always clean, and I have a calm and quiet personality.I'm suffering from severe depression, and need a girlfriend really bad...My life is falling apart. ADVICE?
I agree, you're not thinking clearly although you might think you are. Seek medical help, the campus should be able to connect you to who you should be talking too. Dream big and don't ever give up!I'm suffering from severe depression, and need a girlfriend really bad...My life is falling apart. ADVICE?
who cares about your outer looks as it is your heart that you should care about. All the muscles and biceps in the world is not going to cure depression. Stop worrying about girlfriends and everything else that causes the depression. Focus on things that are positive and possibly happy for you and he rest will work out. remember, no girl wants a guy that is depressed, weak or looks like he is sick, even with biceps
You must make sure this is the real reason of your depression, because if not, you will also make the girl depressed.
Maybe it is because you are depressed people wont go out with you. It seems to me that you are way too desperate and are asking out people you dont even fancy!
another reason for you not having a girlfriend may be because you have asked too many people out, so they will think that as soon as you get bored you will move on.
x
I dont know your religious belief. however I would like to tell you that if you pray and put your faith in God he will help. It juat may not be the right time for you to have a girlfriend right now, you should focus on what you have right now.. which seems to be a great opportunity as some of us do not have the luxury of college right now. work on you before you worry/stress/get depressed in not having someone.
You don't need a girlfriend to be happy. It helps but the problem is coming from within. It would be wise to straiten out your life first before getting into a relationship. I know you say you're hurting because you're single but it may go deeper than that. You should get help because the best relationships are when both people are complete and whole as a person.
And looks aren't always important. Good Luck. I hope this helps/
I think you'll have more luck finding a girlfriend once you feel good about yourself. Put all your effort into sorting out your classes. Once you start to do well you will become more confident in yourself and be a happier, more attractive person. Desperation, neediness and under achievement will not attract girls. We want a confident person who knows who they are, what they're aiming for and are are happy with or without a female on their arm. Find yourself first, be happy with who you are. Good luck X
You need to see a psychologist so you can figure out why it is that you find personal value through another human being? You should be happy with yourself girlfriend or no girlfriend. I know it must be hard with no friends, though, but see a psychologist. There is probably nothing wrong with you at all except your self-image.
Women can smell desperation.
Nobody wants to be with a needy person.
Take some time to gain confidence in yourself and loosen up.
Becoming suicidal just because you don't have a girlfriend is mighty silly at 19 years old, or any age.
You need to spend some time maturing before getting into a relationship..
Hi. I;m sorry but that sounds crazy.
Having a girlfriend wont solve all your problems, I think itll make them worse. There are lots of ups and downs in relationships and by commiting to noe, you are adding more problems to your other ones. My advice would be to get your school life in order and confidence up, than things will fall into place.. Good Luck
well it sound like to me that your happiness depends on if you have a girlfriend or not. you're 19 that's young you have plenty of time for women just focus on things you like to do and you'll meet someone. just just don't rely on another person to make you happy...............make yourself happy. good luck!
dude its nothing wrong being single. I would suggest forcus on passing and get your own life in gear first before you bring someone into your life. Then talk to girls at school heck try the internet. theres plenty of women and your only 19 come on! Take your time and enjoy your single life go out to the clubs. You will get your girl if you take control of your life first. peace.
Why is having a GF SO important to you?
You should have a full and happy life without a lady.
You are searching desperately for someone else to make you happy and that is not going to work.
You sound like you may need some counseling to get over this.
Good Luck to you.
You are still young. You have your whole life ahead of you to find someone. Finding people isnt always that great either cause sometimes they get in the way and end up lying, hurting, and taking advantage, but I know you will find someone. Theres someone out there for everybody.
Having a girlfriend something that will not fix your Depression , But talking to someone about it your Depression. You'er never alone if you know whom you are within yourself , and able to find friends whom care about you.
I think your depression is clouding your judgment. It's not a girlfriend you need, dear, it's counseling. See if your community college has free psychologists and go visit one. You need professional help, not the ramblings of people on here.
You are right people do need companionship but you have to love you first. A girlfrend can't fix your depression, you have to work on you first and that may involve more time with you. Learn to love who you are because if you loved yourself suicide would not be an option. find yourself.
You don't need a girlfriend. There are plenty of single people that are happy and not suicidal. You need to focus on school. You may also need to speak with a counselor to see why you are really depressed. Hope everything gets better.
I understand the feeling of being lonely and wanting a girl, but in all honesty..the problem lies in you. You need to be happy with yourself and your own life before you let anyone new in...
Maybe you are trying too hard. You should take some time off and relax. You say that girls are rejecting you, so what? Relax man, they don't know what they're missing.
Thats a little pathetic. You have some issues to deal with before you even think about getting yourself a girl, or before one considers dating you.
Girls wont date someone who is depressed unless they are also depressed. You are not going to get a girlfriend when you feel this way.
suffering from girlmania?
I am here!! You sound like a really nice guy I dont know why you dont have a girlfriend. Lucky me!!
try for bbw chick they are pretty cool and they love you to death
Aww :(
She's out their somewhere hunny.
You've just got to find her.
Listen don't get depressed over it, Concentrate on passing your classes.
If you have any guy mates why dont you go out to a club for the night and you may find a girl there. Just pluck up the courage and just say Hello, How are you. To a girl that you'd like to become friends with She won't bite :P
Your only 19. The girl of your dreams will come along soon. Can't you get a part time job or a saturday job? Maybe you'd meet a girl worker there...
Or you could just randomly meet a girl.
Don't stress about it you sound like a really nice guy (: If i met you i'd go out with you :P But sadly your to old for me. Lol.
I hope you find her soon Hun. Just please dont get upset over it ):
Good luck x
A girlfriend won't fix whatever you feel is missing in your life. I'm guessing that you've pinned all your fears and hopes and worries and stresses on this one thing and expect it to make your life worthwhile -- but what person would want to take on that kind of a burden, the responsibility of fixing you and shouldering all your problems? A relationship should be a partnership, where you share good times and bad, not where one person unloads all their expectations on the other. I suspect the women you eye sense this about you and don't want to become your caretaker.
I would strongly suggest getting into counselling -- colleges often have counsellors available -- and working on getting yourself a bit more in balance and happy with yourself first. You tend to stumble over love much more easily and successfully when you're not out searching desperately for it and pinning all your expectations on the other person.
First of all you don't NEED a girlfriend you want one, second of all a girlfriend isn't going to pay your college loans if you flunk out so you may want to re-prioritize a bit. You may want to talk to a college counselor about this desire to HAVE to have a girlfriend. Suicidal is a bit rash and you need some help, more then yahoo answers is going to give you, you need to be complete with yourself before you can get a girlfriend, by the sound of your state of mind, and irrational behavior that could very well be why you don't have a girlfriend and why if you get one you wont' keep her, women like strong men, work on it.
aww don't feel sad! I might be younger than you but I know exactly how you feel. I think it was in 2006 that I started to feel very sad because I didn't have a boyfriend and every girl around my age was talking about how they had a boyfriend and all, and I was really sad and hurt. But I focused on the other good things about my life. YES I still do want a boyfriend but I know that if I wait a little bit longer, the right one will come along. So just hang in there ok? You will have a girfriend just wait. do not kill yourself JUST WAIT
You need to have something to offer a girlfriend besides a drepressed and susidal personality! You need to get YOURSELF TOGETHER, BEFORE you try and get a girlfriend! It is because you feel you can't live alone and are drepressed that you don't have a girlfriend! Girls can pick up on you being so desparate to have a girlfriend and how you are feeling about yourself and your life! Untill you can learn to love you and love being with yourself, and have your life together and be confident, you won't have a girlfriend unless you are lucky enough to find one as depressed and confused as you and that you don't need! It's time to grow up now, being able to accept living alone is all a part of growing up, some have an easier time than others! A girl wants a confident man to go out with not a sniveling insecure little boy! Work on getting yourself together and your dating life should improve!
It is not impossible to live without a girlfriend/boyfriend. I did it for 20 years, and just to let you know, I am 20 years old. I have also been rejected plenty of times, and I have to admit, I know where you are coming from. All my friends have been in long term relationships, and my two closest friends are actually a couple and I used to do everything with them. But recently I have been hanging out with more people like me, people who are single. It helps me forget about wanting someone. That person is out there for you, and you will find them when the time is right. Right now, school is the most important thing in your life, and that is what you need to concentrate on.
Maybe if you stop being a little girl about everything then they will take a liking to you. Remember just because they say no doesn't mean you need to take a day out of your life to cry about it. Your a man, act like one.
I know that next semester I will have to try harder to pass all my classes. But it's hard, not to get upset about not having a girlfriend . I don't understand it; how some all guy college students have girlfriends but i don't. I have biceps, and I am always clean, and I have a calm and quiet personality.I'm suffering from severe depression, and need a girlfriend really bad...My life is falling apart. ADVICE?
I agree, you're not thinking clearly although you might think you are. Seek medical help, the campus should be able to connect you to who you should be talking too. Dream big and don't ever give up!I'm suffering from severe depression, and need a girlfriend really bad...My life is falling apart. ADVICE?
who cares about your outer looks as it is your heart that you should care about. All the muscles and biceps in the world is not going to cure depression. Stop worrying about girlfriends and everything else that causes the depression. Focus on things that are positive and possibly happy for you and he rest will work out. remember, no girl wants a guy that is depressed, weak or looks like he is sick, even with biceps
You must make sure this is the real reason of your depression, because if not, you will also make the girl depressed.
Maybe it is because you are depressed people wont go out with you. It seems to me that you are way too desperate and are asking out people you dont even fancy!
another reason for you not having a girlfriend may be because you have asked too many people out, so they will think that as soon as you get bored you will move on.
x
I dont know your religious belief. however I would like to tell you that if you pray and put your faith in God he will help. It juat may not be the right time for you to have a girlfriend right now, you should focus on what you have right now.. which seems to be a great opportunity as some of us do not have the luxury of college right now. work on you before you worry/stress/get depressed in not having someone.
You don't need a girlfriend to be happy. It helps but the problem is coming from within. It would be wise to straiten out your life first before getting into a relationship. I know you say you're hurting because you're single but it may go deeper than that. You should get help because the best relationships are when both people are complete and whole as a person.
And looks aren't always important. Good Luck. I hope this helps/
I think you'll have more luck finding a girlfriend once you feel good about yourself. Put all your effort into sorting out your classes. Once you start to do well you will become more confident in yourself and be a happier, more attractive person. Desperation, neediness and under achievement will not attract girls. We want a confident person who knows who they are, what they're aiming for and are are happy with or without a female on their arm. Find yourself first, be happy with who you are. Good luck X
You need to see a psychologist so you can figure out why it is that you find personal value through another human being? You should be happy with yourself girlfriend or no girlfriend. I know it must be hard with no friends, though, but see a psychologist. There is probably nothing wrong with you at all except your self-image.
Women can smell desperation.
Nobody wants to be with a needy person.
Take some time to gain confidence in yourself and loosen up.
Becoming suicidal just because you don't have a girlfriend is mighty silly at 19 years old, or any age.
You need to spend some time maturing before getting into a relationship..
Hi. I;m sorry but that sounds crazy.
Having a girlfriend wont solve all your problems, I think itll make them worse. There are lots of ups and downs in relationships and by commiting to noe, you are adding more problems to your other ones. My advice would be to get your school life in order and confidence up, than things will fall into place.. Good Luck
well it sound like to me that your happiness depends on if you have a girlfriend or not. you're 19 that's young you have plenty of time for women just focus on things you like to do and you'll meet someone. just just don't rely on another person to make you happy...............make yourself happy. good luck!
dude its nothing wrong being single. I would suggest forcus on passing and get your own life in gear first before you bring someone into your life. Then talk to girls at school heck try the internet. theres plenty of women and your only 19 come on! Take your time and enjoy your single life go out to the clubs. You will get your girl if you take control of your life first. peace.
Why is having a GF SO important to you?
You should have a full and happy life without a lady.
You are searching desperately for someone else to make you happy and that is not going to work.
You sound like you may need some counseling to get over this.
Good Luck to you.
You are still young. You have your whole life ahead of you to find someone. Finding people isnt always that great either cause sometimes they get in the way and end up lying, hurting, and taking advantage, but I know you will find someone. Theres someone out there for everybody.
Having a girlfriend something that will not fix your Depression , But talking to someone about it your Depression. You'er never alone if you know whom you are within yourself , and able to find friends whom care about you.
I think your depression is clouding your judgment. It's not a girlfriend you need, dear, it's counseling. See if your community college has free psychologists and go visit one. You need professional help, not the ramblings of people on here.
You are right people do need companionship but you have to love you first. A girlfrend can't fix your depression, you have to work on you first and that may involve more time with you. Learn to love who you are because if you loved yourself suicide would not be an option. find yourself.
You don't need a girlfriend. There are plenty of single people that are happy and not suicidal. You need to focus on school. You may also need to speak with a counselor to see why you are really depressed. Hope everything gets better.
I understand the feeling of being lonely and wanting a girl, but in all honesty..the problem lies in you. You need to be happy with yourself and your own life before you let anyone new in...
Maybe you are trying too hard. You should take some time off and relax. You say that girls are rejecting you, so what? Relax man, they don't know what they're missing.
Thats a little pathetic. You have some issues to deal with before you even think about getting yourself a girl, or before one considers dating you.
Girls wont date someone who is depressed unless they are also depressed. You are not going to get a girlfriend when you feel this way.
suffering from girlmania?
I am here!! You sound like a really nice guy I dont know why you dont have a girlfriend. Lucky me!!
try for bbw chick they are pretty cool and they love you to death
Aww :(
She's out their somewhere hunny.
You've just got to find her.
Listen don't get depressed over it, Concentrate on passing your classes.
If you have any guy mates why dont you go out to a club for the night and you may find a girl there. Just pluck up the courage and just say Hello, How are you. To a girl that you'd like to become friends with She won't bite :P
Your only 19. The girl of your dreams will come along soon. Can't you get a part time job or a saturday job? Maybe you'd meet a girl worker there...
Or you could just randomly meet a girl.
Don't stress about it you sound like a really nice guy (: If i met you i'd go out with you :P But sadly your to old for me. Lol.
I hope you find her soon Hun. Just please dont get upset over it ):
Good luck x
A girlfriend won't fix whatever you feel is missing in your life. I'm guessing that you've pinned all your fears and hopes and worries and stresses on this one thing and expect it to make your life worthwhile -- but what person would want to take on that kind of a burden, the responsibility of fixing you and shouldering all your problems? A relationship should be a partnership, where you share good times and bad, not where one person unloads all their expectations on the other. I suspect the women you eye sense this about you and don't want to become your caretaker.
I would strongly suggest getting into counselling -- colleges often have counsellors available -- and working on getting yourself a bit more in balance and happy with yourself first. You tend to stumble over love much more easily and successfully when you're not out searching desperately for it and pinning all your expectations on the other person.
First of all you don't NEED a girlfriend you want one, second of all a girlfriend isn't going to pay your college loans if you flunk out so you may want to re-prioritize a bit. You may want to talk to a college counselor about this desire to HAVE to have a girlfriend. Suicidal is a bit rash and you need some help, more then yahoo answers is going to give you, you need to be complete with yourself before you can get a girlfriend, by the sound of your state of mind, and irrational behavior that could very well be why you don't have a girlfriend and why if you get one you wont' keep her, women like strong men, work on it.
aww don't feel sad! I might be younger than you but I know exactly how you feel. I think it was in 2006 that I started to feel very sad because I didn't have a boyfriend and every girl around my age was talking about how they had a boyfriend and all, and I was really sad and hurt. But I focused on the other good things about my life. YES I still do want a boyfriend but I know that if I wait a little bit longer, the right one will come along. So just hang in there ok? You will have a girfriend just wait. do not kill yourself JUST WAIT
You need to have something to offer a girlfriend besides a drepressed and susidal personality! You need to get YOURSELF TOGETHER, BEFORE you try and get a girlfriend! It is because you feel you can't live alone and are drepressed that you don't have a girlfriend! Girls can pick up on you being so desparate to have a girlfriend and how you are feeling about yourself and your life! Untill you can learn to love you and love being with yourself, and have your life together and be confident, you won't have a girlfriend unless you are lucky enough to find one as depressed and confused as you and that you don't need! It's time to grow up now, being able to accept living alone is all a part of growing up, some have an easier time than others! A girl wants a confident man to go out with not a sniveling insecure little boy! Work on getting yourself together and your dating life should improve!
It is not impossible to live without a girlfriend/boyfriend. I did it for 20 years, and just to let you know, I am 20 years old. I have also been rejected plenty of times, and I have to admit, I know where you are coming from. All my friends have been in long term relationships, and my two closest friends are actually a couple and I used to do everything with them. But recently I have been hanging out with more people like me, people who are single. It helps me forget about wanting someone. That person is out there for you, and you will find them when the time is right. Right now, school is the most important thing in your life, and that is what you need to concentrate on.
Maybe if you stop being a little girl about everything then they will take a liking to you. Remember just because they say no doesn't mean you need to take a day out of your life to cry about it. Your a man, act like one.
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