i feel like every one hates me!! i cry myself to sleep tonight and evry single person in my family puts me down , starts a fight with me or ignors me!! i feel so alone ,help, and like i am in hellHELP! my life is so bad and i need advice?
You don't say your age or sex, so it would have to be a very wild guess.
I would say the issue is within yourself. I would guess you are a teenager, and possibly female.
Firstly, you are not in hell, you just think you are at the moment.
Secondly, you are never alone. If you really need help or advice, your local phone book will have plenty of free helplines.
Thirdly, I would guess it's your perspective on everything that is getting you down. Try changing the way you react to situations.
You say that your family puts you down and starts a fight with you. It takes two to fight. Whatever is said, let it go over your head, refuse to fight and then you won't get upset.
Finally, I would suggest you try and speak to a friend or relative you know and trust, and who knows you and your family. Confide in someone who knows you better than an anonymous stranger like me.
Whatever you do, time will work things out for you, so here's wishing you a lot more happiness for the future.HELP! my life is so bad and i need advice?
okay, i've been there too.
try talking to someone about this, like a friend or even your parents.
tell them what exactly is going on, and just how you feel.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Any advice? Worst days of my life/ bf probably cheating. HELP ME PLEASE?
we are together for 3 1/2 yrs. were only 22.
for studies we both went abroad, same country, but different city. he is in the capital, lots of fun and distractions. im in a small city.
since hes here, hes only going out, partying...he has changed compeletly. we used to spend so much time together, everyday, plus talked on phone for a few times. Now he barely talks to me everyday. he calls for 2 min, and sometimes we skype but maimally for half an hour.
we had such a strong bond, and breaking up was unthinkable. yet 2 weeks ago (we are only here for a month and a half) after having an argument he wanted to break up with me. he said ii didnt leave him his freedom, he is young wants to be able to travel bla,bla,bla. i begged him not to, called 100 times. and then i gave up. he was like a changed person to me.
a day after, he called,saying hes sorry, hes been such an idiot and if i will forgive him. i did of course.
Still hes acting weired. I wanted to come and visit this weekend,a nd he told me he had some other plans,so for a month we wont be able to see eachother.
as i was at his place the last time(last week) and thats what intrigues me the most (its a bit pervert though, sorry) he had his genital area shaved. he only did that when he wanted me to give him a bj. and that day he didnt know i was going to come, so he didnt do that for me. also as he took a condom, i didnt see him opening any box,although i know we used all up the last time i was there.
i just dont know what to do. i didnt tell him anything. My heart is broken, but I have no evidence he did something. so i have nothing to confront him with. and now i saw on his fb wall, that one of his friends posted him a song about one night stands and stuff...that friend is a real playa, and they always talk about guy stuff...
i mean i know hes young and all...but if he loves meshouldnt he be faithfull??
please any advice on what to do would be apprechiated.
i dont just want to tell him that i suspect something, he would only tell me that i have no trust inhim and so on. I want something strong, some argument. what will i do??Any advice? Worst days of my life/ bf probably cheating. HELP ME PLEASE?
It seems that he is not that into you anymore. And yea it does seem like he did cheat. It seems that he is having too much fun. Do this: Call him and let him know how you feel, and then break up with him. Most likely he is going to call you anyways, it's hard to get over someone of 3 years. And if he don't call you then you two weren't meant to be.
for studies we both went abroad, same country, but different city. he is in the capital, lots of fun and distractions. im in a small city.
since hes here, hes only going out, partying...he has changed compeletly. we used to spend so much time together, everyday, plus talked on phone for a few times. Now he barely talks to me everyday. he calls for 2 min, and sometimes we skype but maimally for half an hour.
we had such a strong bond, and breaking up was unthinkable. yet 2 weeks ago (we are only here for a month and a half) after having an argument he wanted to break up with me. he said ii didnt leave him his freedom, he is young wants to be able to travel bla,bla,bla. i begged him not to, called 100 times. and then i gave up. he was like a changed person to me.
a day after, he called,saying hes sorry, hes been such an idiot and if i will forgive him. i did of course.
Still hes acting weired. I wanted to come and visit this weekend,a nd he told me he had some other plans,so for a month we wont be able to see eachother.
as i was at his place the last time(last week) and thats what intrigues me the most (its a bit pervert though, sorry) he had his genital area shaved. he only did that when he wanted me to give him a bj. and that day he didnt know i was going to come, so he didnt do that for me. also as he took a condom, i didnt see him opening any box,although i know we used all up the last time i was there.
i just dont know what to do. i didnt tell him anything. My heart is broken, but I have no evidence he did something. so i have nothing to confront him with. and now i saw on his fb wall, that one of his friends posted him a song about one night stands and stuff...that friend is a real playa, and they always talk about guy stuff...
i mean i know hes young and all...but if he loves meshouldnt he be faithfull??
please any advice on what to do would be apprechiated.
i dont just want to tell him that i suspect something, he would only tell me that i have no trust inhim and so on. I want something strong, some argument. what will i do??Any advice? Worst days of my life/ bf probably cheating. HELP ME PLEASE?
It seems that he is not that into you anymore. And yea it does seem like he did cheat. It seems that he is having too much fun. Do this: Call him and let him know how you feel, and then break up with him. Most likely he is going to call you anyways, it's hard to get over someone of 3 years. And if he don't call you then you two weren't meant to be.
Need advice, Cant enjoy anything in life without hating myself.?
In my life the people who I know and where I have made my friends from are all at my school. Most people at my school are shallow, self-involved arrogant assholes. Therefore I dont really engage in their stupid immature games to seem the coolest so they become popular.
I have learnt that the people who are the popular people always have something desirable to offer that seperates them from the norm or weird people ( kinda like me). If they have this, (eg. pretty, sporty) they are completely normail and accepted for whatever they do, wheras people who are basically invisible are simply laughed at and percieved as weird and un normal.
This is what has happened to me, so i am invisible therefore whenever I do anything it is seen as a joke because I am doing it.
This has made me see myself through there eyes meaning when I do anything I think of how they would react to seeing me do that. and feel ashamed of my identity through their eyes.
should I try to adapt and be able to offer something, or how do I not become dependent on others peoples opinion of me. and to be able to live my life without judgeing myself because of how other people view me,Need advice, Cant enjoy anything in life without hating myself.?
damn i think the exact same way.. if your in high school just count down the days until you get out because its not going to change.
It seems like you need to just stop giving a **** about what these people think and instead think about the future where their opinions will be long gone and you will have the chance to be more successful then them.. The immaturity in high school made me just stop trying. people thought i was quiet and shy but i really just was sick of and done with most everyones shallow bullsh*t and looking towards the future where i would never see them againNeed advice, Cant enjoy anything in life without hating myself.?
Why think of how others perceive you doing things? Who cares? Do what you want to do and don't let anyone drag you down. One thing you'll learn later in life is none of that bullsh*t matters. The 'weird' people end up being the cool people later in life.
I have a roommate like that.... my suggestion is don't read self help books they will screw you up and find people who you like.
I have learnt that the people who are the popular people always have something desirable to offer that seperates them from the norm or weird people ( kinda like me). If they have this, (eg. pretty, sporty) they are completely normail and accepted for whatever they do, wheras people who are basically invisible are simply laughed at and percieved as weird and un normal.
This is what has happened to me, so i am invisible therefore whenever I do anything it is seen as a joke because I am doing it.
This has made me see myself through there eyes meaning when I do anything I think of how they would react to seeing me do that. and feel ashamed of my identity through their eyes.
should I try to adapt and be able to offer something, or how do I not become dependent on others peoples opinion of me. and to be able to live my life without judgeing myself because of how other people view me,Need advice, Cant enjoy anything in life without hating myself.?
damn i think the exact same way.. if your in high school just count down the days until you get out because its not going to change.
It seems like you need to just stop giving a **** about what these people think and instead think about the future where their opinions will be long gone and you will have the chance to be more successful then them.. The immaturity in high school made me just stop trying. people thought i was quiet and shy but i really just was sick of and done with most everyones shallow bullsh*t and looking towards the future where i would never see them againNeed advice, Cant enjoy anything in life without hating myself.?
Why think of how others perceive you doing things? Who cares? Do what you want to do and don't let anyone drag you down. One thing you'll learn later in life is none of that bullsh*t matters. The 'weird' people end up being the cool people later in life.
I have a roommate like that.... my suggestion is don't read self help books they will screw you up and find people who you like.
Has any advice given on 'Yahoo Answers' ever changed anyone's life?
Yeah, I know how to color my borders on my blog!!! HAHAHAA!Has any advice given on 'Yahoo Answers' ever changed anyone's life?
No. But then I don't ask questions about what I should or should not do......
No. But then I don't ask questions about what I should or should not do......
Life advice...?
Give right and serious advice...
when you face problems from very early age, from childhood. Then your life take sharp turn and you blamed for very very high sin... God Help you in that time and you get courage, then your life take another sharp turn and you cheated... you got courage, then some one leave you, you can say that second love... but 2nd one didn't cheat, she have problem, mean she is right.
Extra courage which i always keep in my pocket is finished.
but again some litle courage born and i want that i come to life again, but keep myself again from all these things, so i don't make friends, nor i talk with some one (i don't know i fear from peoples or i hate), and after that i always injure myself (self injury), and do things like mad peoples...i feel guilty and shame that why i am so bad...
i tought last night that i come to life again like others but keep myself from another ';SHARP TURNs';.
so any advices?Life advice...?
Learn islam... Read Qur'an ...live as It saying........Life advice...?
You are not the only one, almost every one faces these difficulties in life...these difficulties are the tests on the basis of which we will be judged by Allah...the key to success is how you respond to them.
1. Always pray to Allah to help you out, for there is no one else who understands you better or loves you more.
2. Try to take things positively.
3. Learn to forgive, for the sake of Allah.
4. Focus the bigger reward i.e. the happiness of Allah.
5. Whenever doing anything, always think whether Allah will like this act of yours or not.Feel Him, He is always watching you.
May Allah help you and guide you always (Amin).
you could answer my answerless question, plzzzz :-) http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AvPQS7S58jBvc159UeZ1rjDsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080730034802AATolee
worship Allah as if you see Him, and if you do not see Him, then He sees you.
well, all i can say is life's not a bed of roses. it comes with lots of problems and sadness and challenges. in every one of us, there is courage and bravery and we must find it within ourselves to fight the good fight against life's challenges and face the real world with the will to survive. hurting yourself isn't going to make yourself feel better. why don't you stand up, beat your chests and tell yourself i am going to live my life to the fullest. throw in the challenges! i will face them like a real man and enjoy every single moment of it. because i am no quitter.
and i believe you can. come what may buddy. come what may.cream tones
when you face problems from very early age, from childhood. Then your life take sharp turn and you blamed for very very high sin... God Help you in that time and you get courage, then your life take another sharp turn and you cheated... you got courage, then some one leave you, you can say that second love... but 2nd one didn't cheat, she have problem, mean she is right.
Extra courage which i always keep in my pocket is finished.
but again some litle courage born and i want that i come to life again, but keep myself again from all these things, so i don't make friends, nor i talk with some one (i don't know i fear from peoples or i hate), and after that i always injure myself (self injury), and do things like mad peoples...i feel guilty and shame that why i am so bad...
i tought last night that i come to life again like others but keep myself from another ';SHARP TURNs';.
so any advices?Life advice...?
Learn islam... Read Qur'an ...live as It saying........Life advice...?
You are not the only one, almost every one faces these difficulties in life...these difficulties are the tests on the basis of which we will be judged by Allah...the key to success is how you respond to them.
1. Always pray to Allah to help you out, for there is no one else who understands you better or loves you more.
2. Try to take things positively.
3. Learn to forgive, for the sake of Allah.
4. Focus the bigger reward i.e. the happiness of Allah.
5. Whenever doing anything, always think whether Allah will like this act of yours or not.Feel Him, He is always watching you.
May Allah help you and guide you always (Amin).
you could answer my answerless question, plzzzz :-) http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AvPQS7S58jBvc159UeZ1rjDsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080730034802AATolee
worship Allah as if you see Him, and if you do not see Him, then He sees you.
well, all i can say is life's not a bed of roses. it comes with lots of problems and sadness and challenges. in every one of us, there is courage and bravery and we must find it within ourselves to fight the good fight against life's challenges and face the real world with the will to survive. hurting yourself isn't going to make yourself feel better. why don't you stand up, beat your chests and tell yourself i am going to live my life to the fullest. throw in the challenges! i will face them like a real man and enjoy every single moment of it. because i am no quitter.
and i believe you can. come what may buddy. come what may.
Life.sucks.for.me.any advice?
i'm 16.
persian.
no status in canada meaning not a landed immigrant, citizen or whatever.
not a good relationship with my mother.
her bf...i don't like.
live with mom and her parents in a 2 bedroom apartment.
no cellphone.
curfew 9 pm even on weekends.
no guy friends allowed.
my mom basically has to pick my friends for me. or if she doesn't like my friend, i can't be with her.
i sleep on a mattress.
financially, quite poor.
i'm broken most of the time.
i find life pointless
sometimes i wish the mother i have right now, was not my biological mother and that i have been adopted, so i could go search for my real mother.
dad not in canada.
i have absolutely no connection with him.
i have a bf..he's rich..comes from a good family,
and accepts me for who i am.
i just can't help but feel...10 levels lower than him.
he loves his life.
i'm not allowed msn or anything.
i just want a normal life.
where i live in a better place,
go out with friends,
go out with bf without having the fear of my mother finding out and worriyng about what she'll do to me.
he makes me happy.
really happy.
he just gives me something to look forward to.
and you can say i'm a teen and so is he and that he's immature and just wants one thing and that i am stupid.
but i think i know the difference between being happy and totally miserable.
and i don't want to throw away something that makes me feel alive.
although it might be the right thing to do.
i just want a normal life.
i've basically raised myself.
my mom is crazy at times. basically if for example she tells me there is an alligator where i'm walking, she won't warn me or tell me to be cautious. she'll just put a big wall so i never cross that line.
she thinks she's the best and never admits that she's wrong.
i just want to have my own room
where i could spend my happy times in or cry myself to sleep.
...
i want to be like how most people seem like they are.
am i asking for too much?Life.sucks.for.me.any advice?
Try the book ';The power of positive thinking';
In your case, almost anything you thought that wasn't on this list would be an improvment. It's not about your situation. We all have crap to deal with. It's your attitude that's making you miserable. You've chosen to be misserable.
Another suggestion would be to go on eBay and pick up Tony Robbins ';Personal power II'; set of CD's. That will improve your attitude and your life. He has lots of stuff out and asside from his newest set which I haven't heard yet I think the personal power II is the best and it's cheap now because it's a few years old.Life.sucks.for.me.any advice?
amen.. my life is just about the same as yours except i'm not persian, have no boyfriend, and have my own room/bed, oh and i live in america, not canada.. that's about it..
No you are not asking too much.
That is why it is very important that you get a good education so that you can fulfill most of your dreams without depending on anybody to do it for you. Good things comes to those who wait. Patience is a virtue. Aim high and you will succeed.
Bsaically try to bide your time for 2 more years and prepare yourself to move out when of legal age. Never put yourself down try to focus on positives and maybe speak to and confide in a trusted adult at school that will help you get more personalized feedback.
Your mum seems to be your biggest problem i hate to say. You need to be around people that give you love and support and your mum isn't providing that. Your bf seems to be nice for you , you just need to realize you are worthy of his love and affection. Can you move with him for a while maybe ur mum might realize what she is doing to you.
Good luck x
persian.
no status in canada meaning not a landed immigrant, citizen or whatever.
not a good relationship with my mother.
her bf...i don't like.
live with mom and her parents in a 2 bedroom apartment.
no cellphone.
curfew 9 pm even on weekends.
no guy friends allowed.
my mom basically has to pick my friends for me. or if she doesn't like my friend, i can't be with her.
i sleep on a mattress.
financially, quite poor.
i'm broken most of the time.
i find life pointless
sometimes i wish the mother i have right now, was not my biological mother and that i have been adopted, so i could go search for my real mother.
dad not in canada.
i have absolutely no connection with him.
i have a bf..he's rich..comes from a good family,
and accepts me for who i am.
i just can't help but feel...10 levels lower than him.
he loves his life.
i'm not allowed msn or anything.
i just want a normal life.
where i live in a better place,
go out with friends,
go out with bf without having the fear of my mother finding out and worriyng about what she'll do to me.
he makes me happy.
really happy.
he just gives me something to look forward to.
and you can say i'm a teen and so is he and that he's immature and just wants one thing and that i am stupid.
but i think i know the difference between being happy and totally miserable.
and i don't want to throw away something that makes me feel alive.
although it might be the right thing to do.
i just want a normal life.
i've basically raised myself.
my mom is crazy at times. basically if for example she tells me there is an alligator where i'm walking, she won't warn me or tell me to be cautious. she'll just put a big wall so i never cross that line.
she thinks she's the best and never admits that she's wrong.
i just want to have my own room
where i could spend my happy times in or cry myself to sleep.
...
i want to be like how most people seem like they are.
am i asking for too much?Life.sucks.for.me.any advice?
Try the book ';The power of positive thinking';
In your case, almost anything you thought that wasn't on this list would be an improvment. It's not about your situation. We all have crap to deal with. It's your attitude that's making you miserable. You've chosen to be misserable.
Another suggestion would be to go on eBay and pick up Tony Robbins ';Personal power II'; set of CD's. That will improve your attitude and your life. He has lots of stuff out and asside from his newest set which I haven't heard yet I think the personal power II is the best and it's cheap now because it's a few years old.Life.sucks.for.me.any advice?
amen.. my life is just about the same as yours except i'm not persian, have no boyfriend, and have my own room/bed, oh and i live in america, not canada.. that's about it..
No you are not asking too much.
That is why it is very important that you get a good education so that you can fulfill most of your dreams without depending on anybody to do it for you. Good things comes to those who wait. Patience is a virtue. Aim high and you will succeed.
Bsaically try to bide your time for 2 more years and prepare yourself to move out when of legal age. Never put yourself down try to focus on positives and maybe speak to and confide in a trusted adult at school that will help you get more personalized feedback.
Your mum seems to be your biggest problem i hate to say. You need to be around people that give you love and support and your mum isn't providing that. Your bf seems to be nice for you , you just need to realize you are worthy of his love and affection. Can you move with him for a while maybe ur mum might realize what she is doing to you.
Good luck x
My partner is on life support after a motorbike accident can anyone give me advice and support?
It happened last saturday, hes on a ventilator, im a nurse too so finding it hard to deal with,, does anyone have any advice or supportMy partner is on life support after a motorbike accident can anyone give me advice and support?
You just have to be there for your partner,that's all you can do.Be strong and brave.My partner is on life support after a motorbike accident can anyone give me advice and support?
I have a story to share with you to keep you thinking positive.
My partner was in a severe accident. Suffered severe head trauma, internal injuries, ruptured spleen, collapsed lungs, broken neck and shattered leg.
They said he wouldn't make it, but he did.
They said he wouldn't walk again, but he did.
They said the brain damage was so severe that he may never speak again, but he did.
Just as he was almost ';out of the woods';, he fell ill to pneumonia, and they said he might not make it, but he did.
He was hospitalized for six months, but he MADE A FULL RECOVERY.
Except for some short term memory loss, loss of sense of smell, many scars, and the necessity to be on seizure meds for the rest of his life, he is now healthy.
I didn't meet him until two years after the accident, and except for scars - I would've never known. He has also gained a greater appreciation for life.
Never give up hope.
Sending best wishes.
hang on in there,fingers crossed , where theres life theres hope,good luck and best wishes to you both
Dear Julie,
I have no words, but I advise you to pray and ask for healing and call on friends and loved ones close to help you in this time. I will pray too. Best wishes.
sorry just doesnt say enough, my thoughts and prayers are with you....the best of luck...God Bless....
Julie B . YOU DO HAVE TO BELIEVE IN ANYTHING TO DO THIS i KNOW IT WORK'S SO HAVE A GO ..take a deep breath and hold for a short while,whist you do so say to your self that the sun is right above you head as you beath in you are taking in confidence positiveness %26amp; a healing friendship, these are in a form of capule that gos into your lungs, when you exhale let the air out slowly like your whisle.let the feeling out of your lungs and into your tummy and release to your entire body, keep repeating
hi am i a nurse as well and as we both know we advise in the job just to keep talking and reassuring them, but it's hard to do, you doing all you can and am sure your doing brilliantly, and he is most likely to know your there, if you need to talk email me
my brother in law was in a motorbike accident 10 years ago and he ended up on life support. he is now left with a damaged immune system but is otherwise healthy. so dont give up hope, I`m sure he`ll be fine. I`ll be thinking of you both.
advice, well i guess think positive and believe it will come right
support well i am a good listner call me on skype trisha-jane1963 if you want a chat or on msn e mail address trishaf2001@yahoo.co.uk
My mum was on life support, just tell him everything you want to tell him incase he doesn't make it, i didn't and i regret it a little bit.
Really hope he pulls through, your in my thought and prayers.
I can't think of anything else, but hugs from me.
Pray and ask God to help you and he will.
I am a nurse too and know when you are going thru something like this, you have enough knowledge to make you more anxious. When you are feeling anxious, pray and find comfort in knowing there is a higher power who can fill all of your needs and
You will be all right.
I'm sorry, but there's no point to wisdom after the event - that an accident on a given stretch of road is 23 times more likely to involve a motorbike, though they account for just 3% of road traffic, and the accident is forty times more likely to be fatal than a car-crash. They are inherently unsafe. OK, he's made it this far, he looks like he's gonna turn the corner real soon. It must be very hard for you, having him there, but unreachable, I've had that with my elderly parents, when their times came. But that was through old-age. These damn bikes, they are for the track alone. I won't ride on the road, Barry Sheene wouldn't. I'm sure you've seen the carnage they cause, as I have. I don't really know what else to say, it's all up to him now. But I bet when you get him back, you'll insist it's a car for him in future.
All my best to you both.
Good luck.
JUST AVIN YOU AROUND IS ALL HE NEEDS HUN ..GD LUCK ..JUST KEEP TALKING TO HIM HUN.XXX
As a nurse you know his body has been told by his brain to rest and the ventilator can take some much needed pressure off his brain and heart.Just trust in him to be strong and make a gradual recovery .It is possible and happens quite frequently.
I'm thinking of you both right now.
That's all I am able to offer you.
Fingers crossed for his recovery.
Love to you both
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
well, i know how scared you must feel and although i am not a religious person...i will still pray for you both. just take each day as it comes...i, too, have been through something simular and i will be thinking of you....keep you're family close and cry as often as you can,you need to get it out.
good luck.
It must be horrible for you. I can only imagine. You have to keep strong for your partner for when he comes around, and he will! Unfortunately your life will be put on hold until he gets better and there is not a lot you can do about that but what i would say is talk to someone. Its important to share your feelings and get things off your chest. Are you able to talk to your partner? Perhaps he will be able to hear you in some way and it may be reassuring for him to hear your voice.
I sincerely wish everything works out alright for you x
Firstly i am so sorry, you must be going through hell right now, bless your heart. To be honest, whether you are a religious person or not, prayer can be very powerful, go to the hospital chapel and light a candle for him, do your best to empty your mind of everything else and pray for him. I have a disability and have spent a lot of time in hospital. I want you to know that i really admire the work you nurses do, hang in there, God is with you, i will pray for him too. If u would like to get in touch please do thru my profile, i would like to know how he is doing. Love and hugs xxxx
reall sorry to hear that,its hard to give advice,my son was on a ventilator after heart surgery 15 years ago,it was the worst time of our lives,so i really feel for you,but try to remain positive,take each day as it comes,my son was fine,but i still cant watch programes on tv of kids in hospitals,and im a big 41 year old bloke,being a nurse must be even harder for you,but always try to look forwards,talk to your family,and other people in hospital,it helped us,i really hope every thing turns out fine for you,im sure it will :)
There's always hope. Pray relentlessly, and have as many people as you can get to pray with you do likewise. Life's trials are designed to strengthen us. Believe the best is yet to come. God bless, and be with you.
Take care all will be fine just having u round will do wonders god bless
You just have to be there for your partner,that's all you can do.Be strong and brave.My partner is on life support after a motorbike accident can anyone give me advice and support?
I have a story to share with you to keep you thinking positive.
My partner was in a severe accident. Suffered severe head trauma, internal injuries, ruptured spleen, collapsed lungs, broken neck and shattered leg.
They said he wouldn't make it, but he did.
They said he wouldn't walk again, but he did.
They said the brain damage was so severe that he may never speak again, but he did.
Just as he was almost ';out of the woods';, he fell ill to pneumonia, and they said he might not make it, but he did.
He was hospitalized for six months, but he MADE A FULL RECOVERY.
Except for some short term memory loss, loss of sense of smell, many scars, and the necessity to be on seizure meds for the rest of his life, he is now healthy.
I didn't meet him until two years after the accident, and except for scars - I would've never known. He has also gained a greater appreciation for life.
Never give up hope.
Sending best wishes.
hang on in there,fingers crossed , where theres life theres hope,good luck and best wishes to you both
Dear Julie,
I have no words, but I advise you to pray and ask for healing and call on friends and loved ones close to help you in this time. I will pray too. Best wishes.
sorry just doesnt say enough, my thoughts and prayers are with you....the best of luck...God Bless....
Julie B . YOU DO HAVE TO BELIEVE IN ANYTHING TO DO THIS i KNOW IT WORK'S SO HAVE A GO ..take a deep breath and hold for a short while,whist you do so say to your self that the sun is right above you head as you beath in you are taking in confidence positiveness %26amp; a healing friendship, these are in a form of capule that gos into your lungs, when you exhale let the air out slowly like your whisle.let the feeling out of your lungs and into your tummy and release to your entire body, keep repeating
hi am i a nurse as well and as we both know we advise in the job just to keep talking and reassuring them, but it's hard to do, you doing all you can and am sure your doing brilliantly, and he is most likely to know your there, if you need to talk email me
my brother in law was in a motorbike accident 10 years ago and he ended up on life support. he is now left with a damaged immune system but is otherwise healthy. so dont give up hope, I`m sure he`ll be fine. I`ll be thinking of you both.
advice, well i guess think positive and believe it will come right
support well i am a good listner call me on skype trisha-jane1963 if you want a chat or on msn e mail address trishaf2001@yahoo.co.uk
My mum was on life support, just tell him everything you want to tell him incase he doesn't make it, i didn't and i regret it a little bit.
Really hope he pulls through, your in my thought and prayers.
I can't think of anything else, but hugs from me.
Pray and ask God to help you and he will.
I am a nurse too and know when you are going thru something like this, you have enough knowledge to make you more anxious. When you are feeling anxious, pray and find comfort in knowing there is a higher power who can fill all of your needs and
You will be all right.
I'm sorry, but there's no point to wisdom after the event - that an accident on a given stretch of road is 23 times more likely to involve a motorbike, though they account for just 3% of road traffic, and the accident is forty times more likely to be fatal than a car-crash. They are inherently unsafe. OK, he's made it this far, he looks like he's gonna turn the corner real soon. It must be very hard for you, having him there, but unreachable, I've had that with my elderly parents, when their times came. But that was through old-age. These damn bikes, they are for the track alone. I won't ride on the road, Barry Sheene wouldn't. I'm sure you've seen the carnage they cause, as I have. I don't really know what else to say, it's all up to him now. But I bet when you get him back, you'll insist it's a car for him in future.
All my best to you both.
Good luck.
JUST AVIN YOU AROUND IS ALL HE NEEDS HUN ..GD LUCK ..JUST KEEP TALKING TO HIM HUN.XXX
As a nurse you know his body has been told by his brain to rest and the ventilator can take some much needed pressure off his brain and heart.Just trust in him to be strong and make a gradual recovery .It is possible and happens quite frequently.
I'm thinking of you both right now.
That's all I am able to offer you.
Fingers crossed for his recovery.
Love to you both
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
well, i know how scared you must feel and although i am not a religious person...i will still pray for you both. just take each day as it comes...i, too, have been through something simular and i will be thinking of you....keep you're family close and cry as often as you can,you need to get it out.
good luck.
It must be horrible for you. I can only imagine. You have to keep strong for your partner for when he comes around, and he will! Unfortunately your life will be put on hold until he gets better and there is not a lot you can do about that but what i would say is talk to someone. Its important to share your feelings and get things off your chest. Are you able to talk to your partner? Perhaps he will be able to hear you in some way and it may be reassuring for him to hear your voice.
I sincerely wish everything works out alright for you x
Firstly i am so sorry, you must be going through hell right now, bless your heart. To be honest, whether you are a religious person or not, prayer can be very powerful, go to the hospital chapel and light a candle for him, do your best to empty your mind of everything else and pray for him. I have a disability and have spent a lot of time in hospital. I want you to know that i really admire the work you nurses do, hang in there, God is with you, i will pray for him too. If u would like to get in touch please do thru my profile, i would like to know how he is doing. Love and hugs xxxx
reall sorry to hear that,its hard to give advice,my son was on a ventilator after heart surgery 15 years ago,it was the worst time of our lives,so i really feel for you,but try to remain positive,take each day as it comes,my son was fine,but i still cant watch programes on tv of kids in hospitals,and im a big 41 year old bloke,being a nurse must be even harder for you,but always try to look forwards,talk to your family,and other people in hospital,it helped us,i really hope every thing turns out fine for you,im sure it will :)
There's always hope. Pray relentlessly, and have as many people as you can get to pray with you do likewise. Life's trials are designed to strengthen us. Believe the best is yet to come. God bless, and be with you.
Take care all will be fine just having u round will do wonders god bless
LIFE OUT OF CONTROL??? need advice!?
i dont know what to do anymore or how to deal with it. im a 19 year old college student that is very social im in a fraternity and i am a smart good looking guy. not to be conceited. but all this is a front i hate my life everything is out of control i cannot live at home anymore my dad has threatened my life various times he put a knife to my throat before jus because i stay out late i got kicked out today its horrible. not only that i got kicked out of my university so im going to community college but regardless of what i do i mess up even though im very smart. im in alot of debt i need a job but i have to move out i cant deal with this. but at the same time i put a front as the big social party guy and i jus drink to relieve the pain because im always pretending to be the tough happy guy...please any advice would help i jus needed to vent. thank you.LIFE OUT OF CONTROL??? need advice!?
Dude my suggestion is practice yoga you can do better.LIFE OUT OF CONTROL??? need advice!?
Well looks like you know what too do grab a gun and shoot everyone! Joking don't do that! (Unless you shoot yourself first..)
Alright man got only one tip for you look on the bright side, my life is **** hell half the people in the world have it way worse then you do so count your blessing just work hard hope for the best PEACE!
I'm sorry to hear all of that. Most people feel like things are getting out of control at one point or another. To keep your sanity and to ease the pressure/frustration all of this is putting on you, you need to tackle one thing at a time. Seriously, I know that sounds like common sense, but looking at everything at once is overwhelming and can easily freak you out. So, maybe try this:
Step 1 - Find a different relative or a friend to bunk up with temporarily (I wouldn't choose frat brothers, you may end up partying your way out of college. You can always offer to keep up the lawn and house in return, or pay them back later)
Step 2 - Find a job. Even if it doesn't pay that well, or if it sucks. Working anything while trying to find a better paying gig is always a better option than no job, since there will be cash in your pocket.
Step 3 - Write down a budget to follow for EVERY paycheck. What you can save (50%), what you will pay towards debts (20%), what you have to spend on gas, food, etc (20%) and the rest (10%) is extra or for partying, whatever. (These percentages were all just an example - customize to your needs)
Step 4 - Prove yourself this semester (and next, if you must) in school with your grades. Knuckle down and just bust ***. You'll get yourself back into the university.
I'm sorry to hear about your Dad. I don't really have advice about that, other than to stay away as much as possible. Try to chill a little with the drinking. I mean, I know you're in a fraternity and you're a college guy going through a bunch of crappy stuff, but this semester, you need to just get some stuff straightened out. Don't fall back in school - if you do good, you'll get back into the university. I hope I helped you out!
Dude my suggestion is practice yoga you can do better.LIFE OUT OF CONTROL??? need advice!?
Well looks like you know what too do grab a gun and shoot everyone! Joking don't do that! (Unless you shoot yourself first..)
Alright man got only one tip for you look on the bright side, my life is **** hell half the people in the world have it way worse then you do so count your blessing just work hard hope for the best PEACE!
I'm sorry to hear all of that. Most people feel like things are getting out of control at one point or another. To keep your sanity and to ease the pressure/frustration all of this is putting on you, you need to tackle one thing at a time. Seriously, I know that sounds like common sense, but looking at everything at once is overwhelming and can easily freak you out. So, maybe try this:
Step 1 - Find a different relative or a friend to bunk up with temporarily (I wouldn't choose frat brothers, you may end up partying your way out of college. You can always offer to keep up the lawn and house in return, or pay them back later)
Step 2 - Find a job. Even if it doesn't pay that well, or if it sucks. Working anything while trying to find a better paying gig is always a better option than no job, since there will be cash in your pocket.
Step 3 - Write down a budget to follow for EVERY paycheck. What you can save (50%), what you will pay towards debts (20%), what you have to spend on gas, food, etc (20%) and the rest (10%) is extra or for partying, whatever. (These percentages were all just an example - customize to your needs)
Step 4 - Prove yourself this semester (and next, if you must) in school with your grades. Knuckle down and just bust ***. You'll get yourself back into the university.
I'm sorry to hear about your Dad. I don't really have advice about that, other than to stay away as much as possible. Try to chill a little with the drinking. I mean, I know you're in a fraternity and you're a college guy going through a bunch of crappy stuff, but this semester, you need to just get some stuff straightened out. Don't fall back in school - if you do good, you'll get back into the university. I hope I helped you out!
IM FEELING SO HELPLESS!!!! I NEED SOME GOOD ADVICE ON MY LOVE LIFE!!!?
Ive been seeing this guy for like a year and a half, we broke up christmas 2006, but then started talkin again in jan. 2007. In feb. 2007 I caught a girl coming out of his house....I was destroyed!!! We still continued to see each other after that incident...you have 2 understand he was my first Everything,my first love, my first sex partner, my first boyfriend! But this girl eventually became his girlfriend...i continued 2 c him off and on for the next 2 years. He says no matter who hes with he will continue 2 c me but i don't want that....i want to b with him. But now he's sayin he doesnt want to b hurt and that he wants us to be friends first!!! Its killing me cause we didnt start out as friends...I dont know what to do!!! I gave him an ultimatum today and i told him that i couldnt wait around for him no more.....Do you kno what he said?? He flipped it on me and said i jus dont wanna b there for him anymore!!! I couldnt stop cryin, im still cryin!!!! I was wrong to see him while he had a girl, but in my mind i felt like i was there b4 her!! I feel like karma is biting on my *** for doing that!!! He says he's single now but he doesnt wanna b in a relationship....he's been sayin that for 2 and a half years....What confuses me is the fact that we spend every weekend togehter but during the week i wont hear a peep from him!!!! what should i do???? someone give me some advice!!!!!IM FEELING SO HELPLESS!!!! I NEED SOME GOOD ADVICE ON MY LOVE LIFE!!!?
I've kinda been in that situation so i get you. But believe me when I say that its better for you to forget about this guy and find someone who will value you and treat you how you deserve to be treated. You're much better than running after some guy who's enjoying the fact that you're being tortured. Once you find someone else this bf or ex of yours will be crawling back but you'll be too busy to notice..IM FEELING SO HELPLESS!!!! I NEED SOME GOOD ADVICE ON MY LOVE LIFE!!!?
Know that you deserve so much better.
Know that you don't need him, and to be honest, you don't need anyone! It's difficult to get over someone you love, but time (and smart decisions) will heal you.
Take a page out of the book of Destiny's Child and/or Norah from 'A Doll's House,' and let yourself become an independent woman.
Drop him. You do not need this. I to believe in karma. But it only happens when you do someone wrong. Start fresh. Start anew. Please i have been there and done that. You will be waiting and waiting and he will drag you through dirt. And all that time you wasted you could have done so much more.
You cant force him to care or to make you his one and only. Wonder who he sees on the week nights when he is not with you. Nice he gives you week ends. This is going nowhere just be happy being one of many or get out there and find a guy you don't have to share.
okaay so um.. if you really love him then wait for him. and start the conversations ad maybe just maybe he'll be in to you again :) hope i helped
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Move on. If he was the one for you, he would know that. He is using you for easy sex and you are willing to give it to him with nothing in return.
i know it really hard, i completely understand, you need to move on if hes being a jerk. you dont have to date anyone else just make him think your over him. it will make him sad and he might want you back.
I think you should drop him...hes not worth it...im sure you can do better!!! Good Luck!!!
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it sounds like he is just dragging you along i would find someone else before you waste anymore time with him. but you do want you think you should. good luck
guys come and go thers a million out there and even if he was your first of everything u will still love him deep in side but u will forgot of him one day
ya get out. he's using you. he just wants you around so that he'll have some one.
He just wants poon.
Walk it off, stop being a weiner.
Get the **** over it and move on.
That's kind of pathetic, don't you think?
**** him feed him beans hes a douche simple its easy..
get revenge ; )
or....
find someone new
tell him if he ever wants to be with u agen its either now or never, or otherwise your just his back up plan
go to the other girl maybe she didnt no about u
now first and foremost you need to tell him how you feel and if after that he still just wants to be friends then I'm sorry but you're wasting precious time on this jerk that doesnt want to be with you. I know from experience that its hard to let go of your first I had a hard time with it for 2 years!! two years of my life wasted on him I don't want you to waste time on this guy when the right one could be a day away if you wanna talk more then massage me k? I hope you feel better let me know what happens
LET HIM GO! hes treating you like garbage because he knows no matter what he does you'll always be there. you should of left him along time ago. me and my boyfriend just broke up and it killed me to be his friend cause it wasnt like beforeee, but besides that you need to move on in life and let him go, hes holding you back from having a good emotional relationship.
Hey Honey, Don feel for a Guy who's not feeling for U........
When it comes to feelings or relationship, U should reciprocate the feeling which u get from ur partner or U can show a lot of affection to some point.
If He's ignoring u, Don go behind him...
If u've found tat he's not reciprocating ur feeling, jus come out of him, HE DOESN'T DESERVE U.....
U'll get Ur Guy Soon....
All The Very Best Honey.........
love is like an roller coaster ride you can get the seat that someone else is in if you get of that ride someone else is gonna take that seat
love goes and will come back just take your time and wait until it comes again and you can be the first one to take the best seat you just have to wait
if he doesnt want a relationship then he doesnt want a relationship with you you cant make someone love something that they dont
you don't want to be force to get married with someone your not
stop seeing him and in a year you get over him
just tell him you really like him but you no he doesnt like you so you cant see him anymore
the trials of the unrequited heart-you sound young. growing up is pain but take heart-there's a poet out there right now pondering on you and he throws ream after ream inthe trash in fear of knowing you, you have that hold over him, so dry your eyes and let your heart slowly heal-it'll take time but you'll be richer for the experience. besides the guy sounds like a smooth talking jerk you too good for'm take care.
OK here are the facts in this situation. 1 he doesn't want to make a commitment to you. 2 you want him to make a commitment because that is what you need from him emotionally. 3 your continuing this relationship is hurting you. 4 either you have to let him go, or except the way things are right now and just go with the flow. You have to ask yourself, '; Can I share him and still be with him, or would I be better off to just let him go and move on?'; Maybe you would be happier if you found someone like yourself who is ready for a commitment.Best Wishes.
am sorry to say this, but that guy doesnt love any one, not even himself.. how does he dare to use the guilt on u ? and why do u allowed him to treat u like this? u deserve better than this ****. there is a good guy out there waiting for ur love, dont waste it on this guy. all hes doing is playing all of us....and dont cry for a guy like that, he does not deserve ur tears......
he probably just used you forget about him y do you have to waste tears on a guy who doesnt care bout you forget him let him goo suck d*** i hate when guys treat us like shittt forget bout him start finding another one i no its so hard i got my heart broken too but that odesnt mean it was the end i wish you goodluck on moving on
hey sweetie... i know its hard and tough... .but you gotta be strong..
i know he was your first everything... but that shouldnt destroy your chance to meet a man who would ACTUALLY wanna be with you and no one else..
you deserve better than just a weekend.. you deserve a man who wants to live for you not just live WITH you... a man you wants you because he LOVES you not loves you because he WANTS you...
just cuz he's your first doenst mean he's the ONE.
learn from this mistake and move on... if he doesnt wanna BE WITH YOU... than he's just using you honey.. dont do that to yourself... you're better than that ...
now you know what kinda guy you SHOULDNT date...
please dont let him keep hurting you like this...
you dont need a man to complete you... complete yourself first .. than a man WILL COME ALONG! %26lt;3
your in my prayers hon!
good luck and God Bless %26lt;3%26lt;3
You spend the weekends together and don't hear a peep during the week? The weekend is sex. The weekdays are nothing.
This guy just wants to get laid and have absolutely no responsibility except to get his rocks off.
In your heart I know that you know what you need to do:
DUMP THIS USER LOSER! Get on with your life. There are lots of others who will treat you better than this dipsh*t.
I know it's hard to move on from the first guy you really loved, but if it's one-sided it'll only make you miserable. A guy never has the right to cheat and use you. I'm not suggesting you start to date right away and try to find someone to make you forget about him either, (take some time to build yourself up again and focus on YOU for a while). When you're finally ready, try finding someone who really appreciates you and treats you right. Remember you're worth it!
He doesn't treat you right hun! He only uses you, gave you the title of being the ';girl on the side';? OH HELL NO!
he isn't worthy to look at your shadow, do you... go ahead and keep yourself busy, if he's worth it he'll turn around and apologize and realize what you're worth. if not you're going to find an awesome guy worthy of you! :]]
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I think you already know the answer, but need to have some confirmation.
You need to do what is right for you and it sounds like you already did. You have enough respect for yourself to tell him he needs to make a choice to be with you all the way or to move on.
If you already know you can't just be friends, then it was the right decision to make him decide one way or the other.
If he's not man enough to take the time to understand where you are coming from then he not worth your time, no matter how painful it may be to let go. The right man for you will understand you and will not get mad at you for expressing how you feel, whether he likes what he's hearing or not.
Good luck
DZ
I've kinda been in that situation so i get you. But believe me when I say that its better for you to forget about this guy and find someone who will value you and treat you how you deserve to be treated. You're much better than running after some guy who's enjoying the fact that you're being tortured. Once you find someone else this bf or ex of yours will be crawling back but you'll be too busy to notice..IM FEELING SO HELPLESS!!!! I NEED SOME GOOD ADVICE ON MY LOVE LIFE!!!?
Know that you deserve so much better.
Know that you don't need him, and to be honest, you don't need anyone! It's difficult to get over someone you love, but time (and smart decisions) will heal you.
Take a page out of the book of Destiny's Child and/or Norah from 'A Doll's House,' and let yourself become an independent woman.
Drop him. You do not need this. I to believe in karma. But it only happens when you do someone wrong. Start fresh. Start anew. Please i have been there and done that. You will be waiting and waiting and he will drag you through dirt. And all that time you wasted you could have done so much more.
You cant force him to care or to make you his one and only. Wonder who he sees on the week nights when he is not with you. Nice he gives you week ends. This is going nowhere just be happy being one of many or get out there and find a guy you don't have to share.
okaay so um.. if you really love him then wait for him. and start the conversations ad maybe just maybe he'll be in to you again :) hope i helped
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Move on. If he was the one for you, he would know that. He is using you for easy sex and you are willing to give it to him with nothing in return.
i know it really hard, i completely understand, you need to move on if hes being a jerk. you dont have to date anyone else just make him think your over him. it will make him sad and he might want you back.
I think you should drop him...hes not worth it...im sure you can do better!!! Good Luck!!!
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it sounds like he is just dragging you along i would find someone else before you waste anymore time with him. but you do want you think you should. good luck
guys come and go thers a million out there and even if he was your first of everything u will still love him deep in side but u will forgot of him one day
ya get out. he's using you. he just wants you around so that he'll have some one.
He just wants poon.
Walk it off, stop being a weiner.
Get the **** over it and move on.
That's kind of pathetic, don't you think?
**** him feed him beans hes a douche simple its easy..
get revenge ; )
or....
find someone new
tell him if he ever wants to be with u agen its either now or never, or otherwise your just his back up plan
go to the other girl maybe she didnt no about u
now first and foremost you need to tell him how you feel and if after that he still just wants to be friends then I'm sorry but you're wasting precious time on this jerk that doesnt want to be with you. I know from experience that its hard to let go of your first I had a hard time with it for 2 years!! two years of my life wasted on him I don't want you to waste time on this guy when the right one could be a day away if you wanna talk more then massage me k? I hope you feel better let me know what happens
LET HIM GO! hes treating you like garbage because he knows no matter what he does you'll always be there. you should of left him along time ago. me and my boyfriend just broke up and it killed me to be his friend cause it wasnt like beforeee, but besides that you need to move on in life and let him go, hes holding you back from having a good emotional relationship.
Hey Honey, Don feel for a Guy who's not feeling for U........
When it comes to feelings or relationship, U should reciprocate the feeling which u get from ur partner or U can show a lot of affection to some point.
If He's ignoring u, Don go behind him...
If u've found tat he's not reciprocating ur feeling, jus come out of him, HE DOESN'T DESERVE U.....
U'll get Ur Guy Soon....
All The Very Best Honey.........
love is like an roller coaster ride you can get the seat that someone else is in if you get of that ride someone else is gonna take that seat
love goes and will come back just take your time and wait until it comes again and you can be the first one to take the best seat you just have to wait
if he doesnt want a relationship then he doesnt want a relationship with you you cant make someone love something that they dont
you don't want to be force to get married with someone your not
stop seeing him and in a year you get over him
just tell him you really like him but you no he doesnt like you so you cant see him anymore
the trials of the unrequited heart-you sound young. growing up is pain but take heart-there's a poet out there right now pondering on you and he throws ream after ream inthe trash in fear of knowing you, you have that hold over him, so dry your eyes and let your heart slowly heal-it'll take time but you'll be richer for the experience. besides the guy sounds like a smooth talking jerk you too good for'm take care.
OK here are the facts in this situation. 1 he doesn't want to make a commitment to you. 2 you want him to make a commitment because that is what you need from him emotionally. 3 your continuing this relationship is hurting you. 4 either you have to let him go, or except the way things are right now and just go with the flow. You have to ask yourself, '; Can I share him and still be with him, or would I be better off to just let him go and move on?'; Maybe you would be happier if you found someone like yourself who is ready for a commitment.Best Wishes.
am sorry to say this, but that guy doesnt love any one, not even himself.. how does he dare to use the guilt on u ? and why do u allowed him to treat u like this? u deserve better than this ****. there is a good guy out there waiting for ur love, dont waste it on this guy. all hes doing is playing all of us....and dont cry for a guy like that, he does not deserve ur tears......
he probably just used you forget about him y do you have to waste tears on a guy who doesnt care bout you forget him let him goo suck d*** i hate when guys treat us like shittt forget bout him start finding another one i no its so hard i got my heart broken too but that odesnt mean it was the end i wish you goodluck on moving on
hey sweetie... i know its hard and tough... .but you gotta be strong..
i know he was your first everything... but that shouldnt destroy your chance to meet a man who would ACTUALLY wanna be with you and no one else..
you deserve better than just a weekend.. you deserve a man who wants to live for you not just live WITH you... a man you wants you because he LOVES you not loves you because he WANTS you...
just cuz he's your first doenst mean he's the ONE.
learn from this mistake and move on... if he doesnt wanna BE WITH YOU... than he's just using you honey.. dont do that to yourself... you're better than that ...
now you know what kinda guy you SHOULDNT date...
please dont let him keep hurting you like this...
you dont need a man to complete you... complete yourself first .. than a man WILL COME ALONG! %26lt;3
your in my prayers hon!
good luck and God Bless %26lt;3%26lt;3
You spend the weekends together and don't hear a peep during the week? The weekend is sex. The weekdays are nothing.
This guy just wants to get laid and have absolutely no responsibility except to get his rocks off.
In your heart I know that you know what you need to do:
DUMP THIS USER LOSER! Get on with your life. There are lots of others who will treat you better than this dipsh*t.
I know it's hard to move on from the first guy you really loved, but if it's one-sided it'll only make you miserable. A guy never has the right to cheat and use you. I'm not suggesting you start to date right away and try to find someone to make you forget about him either, (take some time to build yourself up again and focus on YOU for a while). When you're finally ready, try finding someone who really appreciates you and treats you right. Remember you're worth it!
He doesn't treat you right hun! He only uses you, gave you the title of being the ';girl on the side';? OH HELL NO!
he isn't worthy to look at your shadow, do you... go ahead and keep yourself busy, if he's worth it he'll turn around and apologize and realize what you're worth. if not you're going to find an awesome guy worthy of you! :]]
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I think you already know the answer, but need to have some confirmation.
You need to do what is right for you and it sounds like you already did. You have enough respect for yourself to tell him he needs to make a choice to be with you all the way or to move on.
If you already know you can't just be friends, then it was the right decision to make him decide one way or the other.
If he's not man enough to take the time to understand where you are coming from then he not worth your time, no matter how painful it may be to let go. The right man for you will understand you and will not get mad at you for expressing how you feel, whether he likes what he's hearing or not.
Good luck
DZ
Truly insane situation! Need some VERY last minute advice....you guys are life savers!!!!?
I was scheduled to have my reception at a wedding in san diego but the hotel just called me that they need to ';push'; my wedding later in the day because they had a scheduling conflict. so they want me to push back my reception 3 hours, (so all my guests would have to wait 4 hours after the wedding to go to the reception).
i found out the reason why they are pushing my time back is because ashlee simpson is considering their property for her wedding on the same day as mine and the publicity their hotel will get because of her is apparently huge, so they are fine having a dissatisfied bride.
the hotel will give me a full refund, (and it was in the contract that they could move times around if there were scheduling conflicts but they said they'd never had a problem before, so technically the contract won't help me)
i don't know what to do
should i push my reception time back? or should i just change my location completely and have my reception on the beach at a tennis club?Truly insane situation! Need some VERY last minute advice....you guys are life savers!!!!?
If you can change all the vendors with out having to pay more or any money and you can find a place you like for that day and time I would . But i would check out the options first some vendor's will charge you a location change fee because you are changing the contract. Now not all of them will but some will. But if they will push back the event just because a star want to do it there then it could be a larger problem because what happens if on that day she decides to stay longer? Then what happens to you? Good luck with all of it.Truly insane situation! Need some VERY last minute advice....you guys are life savers!!!!?
Change the location. You know how celebrities are about being wishy washy and you don't want your wedding reception to be iffy because Ashlee can't decide what she wants. Chances are, she'll leak a bunch of different locations to the press (yours included) to throw them off track and will get married somewhere else entirely.
I thought I read Ashlee wanted to get married in May, so good luck changing your venue!
I would say that you should change locations! They are out of line to do that even if it is in the contract because you are paying them a lot of money im sure and it is just not good business to put a star in front of you! That sends the wrong message to stars that all they have to do is say ';I want it and its theres';! I am sorry but if I were you I would find a different place!
Is the hotel catering? If they are not, then you may have a coinflict with your caterer. How soon will they know if Ms. Simpson will actually be using their hotel? I would not want to change everything to find out she decided to go elsewhere. I would not want my guests to wait 4 hours between ceremony and reception either.
You have a signed contract with the hotel. They need to explain to Ashley that the hotel is booked for that time and push her reception back 3 hours! I would contact an attorney for advice on this one.
Your other option is to push your ceremony back as well, i.e. make it later in the day as well so that your guests will not have to wait 4 hours for the reception.
I would change locations, but I would also post a bunch of comments all over the internet (bridal forums) about this hotel and it's tactics. If a hotel is willing to sacrifice their reputation for some Hollywood starlet, then you need to do as much damage as possible. Contact a couple of those gossip magazines and make a few bucks off the deal!!
Seriously, do a little damage and have a little fun!! But do change your venue, you should be treated better than this!
Best wishes!!!
Oh hell no. I'd raise a ruckus!!!
If they're already pushing you back, imagine what other details they're going to mis and overlook because they're busy with her.
I'd tell them NO I will not rearrange my wedding for some random woman, famous or not. She has enough money to deal with the situation on her own.
Or demand they throw in an open bar at THEIR cost as your guests are put out for three hours!
You can also ask if they can accomidate your guests in another area and comp you and your guests for an extended cocktail time. If they arent willing to budge or give back for your inconvinance then i would move it.
but i guess it all depends on how soon your wedding is...
I would say get your money back and switch locations. Even if you took the later reception time at that hotel, if someone famous is getting married there right before you- there will be a ton of people still lingering around when you're trying to have your big day. Good luck!
Hi. I would get a refund ASAP! Let's say you do push back your reception.....do you want to deal with all the press and publicity at your venue surrounding someone else (especially Ashlee Simpson?) Give me a break.
I would move it to a more calmer venue. The beach at the tennis club sounds great!
You should sue them... a contract is a contract if you paid already the day is yours.
Im sure if it was the other way around they would make you pay some fine or they would take some percent for cancelling... so its just not fair. Talk to a lawyer.
Everyone should be treated equally.
I'd change locations. Of course that will be super stressful too, but I wouldn't want to dish out a ton of money and support a place that would screw me around like that. Ashlee Simpson isn't that great of a musician anyway...
Best of luck!
I would probably drop the hotel altogether and have it somewhere else. That's not good business practices I don't care how much publicity they will get from it. I would look for an alternate location.
You should probably do what that other person said, then if that doesn' work, change your reception area...then your guests won't have to wait, and you'll be satisfied, too.
Start off by asking them for a significant price reduction for moving the time.....if you're willing to move it.
Warn them that you could still go elsewhere to obtain what YOU want.
After letting them know how very dissatisfied I was with the situation, i would look into changing locations. Depending on how soon it is, it may be too late.
you can't have guests waiting around 4 hours, that's nuts. they'll be starving and pissed at you, not a good combo. get your money back and go somewhere else.
I'd call the newspapers. E! and some other things. This si so insanely rude. You were first, thus your time She is the one that needs to change She has not even booked yet.
BTW Who is Ashlee Simpson? Another hollywood b*mbo?
I say you see if they will renegotiate the contract to give you an amazing deal if this is what they are going to do :)
It might give you leverage :)
maybe u could change the chuch time and move it up. or you can have a long 4 hour photo session with each guest!
If u dont want to wait, just change the location. Hurry!
Go to Simpson's website and
tell her your situation, maybe she
will find another venue!?
Move your wedding! If what you say is true, that hotel will be a nightmare with paparazzi.
Are you serious.... OMG thats crazy
Change it. f them
You could look for another venue...if it's convenient and available on that day, you may want to just change. Someone may have had a cancellation and will probably give you a good deal for booking it so close to the event. In the alternative, keep the event where it is but be sure that they compensate you somehow for the delay, i.e. give you a big discount. Also, I went to a wedding with a big gap between wedding and reception and they sent their guests a sightseeing suggestion slip in the mail so the guests could find somewhere local to go in between. Good luck.
Change venues - I wouldn't give them my money, and in CA, you're not talking a cheap venue either. Let this place suffer. Not only will they not get your money, but if A.S. does go there for her wedding, they'll be out more money because of all the comps, and cleaning they'll have to do.
I wouldn't put up with their B.S. It's not worth it. Have the reception on the beach! It'll be fun, not as formal, but I think more fun :)
Good luck, and Congratulation's!cream tones
i found out the reason why they are pushing my time back is because ashlee simpson is considering their property for her wedding on the same day as mine and the publicity their hotel will get because of her is apparently huge, so they are fine having a dissatisfied bride.
the hotel will give me a full refund, (and it was in the contract that they could move times around if there were scheduling conflicts but they said they'd never had a problem before, so technically the contract won't help me)
i don't know what to do
should i push my reception time back? or should i just change my location completely and have my reception on the beach at a tennis club?Truly insane situation! Need some VERY last minute advice....you guys are life savers!!!!?
If you can change all the vendors with out having to pay more or any money and you can find a place you like for that day and time I would . But i would check out the options first some vendor's will charge you a location change fee because you are changing the contract. Now not all of them will but some will. But if they will push back the event just because a star want to do it there then it could be a larger problem because what happens if on that day she decides to stay longer? Then what happens to you? Good luck with all of it.Truly insane situation! Need some VERY last minute advice....you guys are life savers!!!!?
Change the location. You know how celebrities are about being wishy washy and you don't want your wedding reception to be iffy because Ashlee can't decide what she wants. Chances are, she'll leak a bunch of different locations to the press (yours included) to throw them off track and will get married somewhere else entirely.
I thought I read Ashlee wanted to get married in May, so good luck changing your venue!
I would say that you should change locations! They are out of line to do that even if it is in the contract because you are paying them a lot of money im sure and it is just not good business to put a star in front of you! That sends the wrong message to stars that all they have to do is say ';I want it and its theres';! I am sorry but if I were you I would find a different place!
Is the hotel catering? If they are not, then you may have a coinflict with your caterer. How soon will they know if Ms. Simpson will actually be using their hotel? I would not want to change everything to find out she decided to go elsewhere. I would not want my guests to wait 4 hours between ceremony and reception either.
You have a signed contract with the hotel. They need to explain to Ashley that the hotel is booked for that time and push her reception back 3 hours! I would contact an attorney for advice on this one.
Your other option is to push your ceremony back as well, i.e. make it later in the day as well so that your guests will not have to wait 4 hours for the reception.
I would change locations, but I would also post a bunch of comments all over the internet (bridal forums) about this hotel and it's tactics. If a hotel is willing to sacrifice their reputation for some Hollywood starlet, then you need to do as much damage as possible. Contact a couple of those gossip magazines and make a few bucks off the deal!!
Seriously, do a little damage and have a little fun!! But do change your venue, you should be treated better than this!
Best wishes!!!
Oh hell no. I'd raise a ruckus!!!
If they're already pushing you back, imagine what other details they're going to mis and overlook because they're busy with her.
I'd tell them NO I will not rearrange my wedding for some random woman, famous or not. She has enough money to deal with the situation on her own.
Or demand they throw in an open bar at THEIR cost as your guests are put out for three hours!
You can also ask if they can accomidate your guests in another area and comp you and your guests for an extended cocktail time. If they arent willing to budge or give back for your inconvinance then i would move it.
but i guess it all depends on how soon your wedding is...
I would say get your money back and switch locations. Even if you took the later reception time at that hotel, if someone famous is getting married there right before you- there will be a ton of people still lingering around when you're trying to have your big day. Good luck!
Hi. I would get a refund ASAP! Let's say you do push back your reception.....do you want to deal with all the press and publicity at your venue surrounding someone else (especially Ashlee Simpson?) Give me a break.
I would move it to a more calmer venue. The beach at the tennis club sounds great!
You should sue them... a contract is a contract if you paid already the day is yours.
Im sure if it was the other way around they would make you pay some fine or they would take some percent for cancelling... so its just not fair. Talk to a lawyer.
Everyone should be treated equally.
I'd change locations. Of course that will be super stressful too, but I wouldn't want to dish out a ton of money and support a place that would screw me around like that. Ashlee Simpson isn't that great of a musician anyway...
Best of luck!
I would probably drop the hotel altogether and have it somewhere else. That's not good business practices I don't care how much publicity they will get from it. I would look for an alternate location.
You should probably do what that other person said, then if that doesn' work, change your reception area...then your guests won't have to wait, and you'll be satisfied, too.
Start off by asking them for a significant price reduction for moving the time.....if you're willing to move it.
Warn them that you could still go elsewhere to obtain what YOU want.
After letting them know how very dissatisfied I was with the situation, i would look into changing locations. Depending on how soon it is, it may be too late.
you can't have guests waiting around 4 hours, that's nuts. they'll be starving and pissed at you, not a good combo. get your money back and go somewhere else.
I'd call the newspapers. E! and some other things. This si so insanely rude. You were first, thus your time She is the one that needs to change She has not even booked yet.
BTW Who is Ashlee Simpson? Another hollywood b*mbo?
I say you see if they will renegotiate the contract to give you an amazing deal if this is what they are going to do :)
It might give you leverage :)
maybe u could change the chuch time and move it up. or you can have a long 4 hour photo session with each guest!
If u dont want to wait, just change the location. Hurry!
Go to Simpson's website and
tell her your situation, maybe she
will find another venue!?
Move your wedding! If what you say is true, that hotel will be a nightmare with paparazzi.
Are you serious.... OMG thats crazy
Change it. f them
You could look for another venue...if it's convenient and available on that day, you may want to just change. Someone may have had a cancellation and will probably give you a good deal for booking it so close to the event. In the alternative, keep the event where it is but be sure that they compensate you somehow for the delay, i.e. give you a big discount. Also, I went to a wedding with a big gap between wedding and reception and they sent their guests a sightseeing suggestion slip in the mail so the guests could find somewhere local to go in between. Good luck.
Change venues - I wouldn't give them my money, and in CA, you're not talking a cheap venue either. Let this place suffer. Not only will they not get your money, but if A.S. does go there for her wedding, they'll be out more money because of all the comps, and cleaning they'll have to do.
I wouldn't put up with their B.S. It's not worth it. Have the reception on the beach! It'll be fun, not as formal, but I think more fun :)
Good luck, and Congratulation's!
Would u take your moms advice if it were to change your life for good?
im marrying a guy whos a member of the LDS church. my mom doesnt want to attend the wedding cause the bishop of the church is doing our vows. wich are private. he wanted to do our vows. i was finally ok with. im not sure if ill join the church, but i feel my mom is going off the deep end. i need some help and some major advice. what do i do. do i do what i want to do and marry the way we planned, or do we make her happy? my mom might be right about some things about the church and things, but im not sure if shes right about the bishop being all bad. he seems nice. what do i do? who do i make happy?Would u take your moms advice if it were to change your life for good?
You are the one getting married. You only need to make yourself happy. Do what your heart tells you is right.... and take the missionary discussions.Would u take your moms advice if it were to change your life for good?
First you must decide what would make you happiest and pursue that. But know this, your mom not being at your wedding will affect you for the rest of your life, and you seem to value her.
You are the one getting married. You only need to make yourself happy. Do what your heart tells you is right.... and take the missionary discussions.Would u take your moms advice if it were to change your life for good?
First you must decide what would make you happiest and pursue that. But know this, your mom not being at your wedding will affect you for the rest of your life, and you seem to value her.
What should i do with these users advice from people with life experience would be great?
Hi there
I basically had two people who i considered friends, in the end i realized they where not, but this wasnt until i had given them all i got really.
I helped them out many times emotionally and in the end financially too leaving me about a grand and a half out of pocket. I even forgave one of them for stabbing me in the back over a small business we set up.
I feel so annoyed with myself that i did not see the signs that where so clear from the beginning.
One even boasted to the other that he could manipulate me with the click of his finger which really annoyed me, as i didnt look for this as i believed he was a good friend.
A part of me would like to get my revenge however ive always stuck by the phrase that violence never solves anything and its not in me really, and another part of me is telling me just to move on but iam unsure what to do.
I always thought i was a good judge of character but in this case i was wrong.
In this situation what would you do ?
Thanks in advance for answering my question.What should i do with these users advice from people with life experience would be great?
Never lend money you can't afford to lose. Consider this an expensive lesson.
Next time, give less of yourself to your friends. Only give to those who will give in return.
I basically had two people who i considered friends, in the end i realized they where not, but this wasnt until i had given them all i got really.
I helped them out many times emotionally and in the end financially too leaving me about a grand and a half out of pocket. I even forgave one of them for stabbing me in the back over a small business we set up.
I feel so annoyed with myself that i did not see the signs that where so clear from the beginning.
One even boasted to the other that he could manipulate me with the click of his finger which really annoyed me, as i didnt look for this as i believed he was a good friend.
A part of me would like to get my revenge however ive always stuck by the phrase that violence never solves anything and its not in me really, and another part of me is telling me just to move on but iam unsure what to do.
I always thought i was a good judge of character but in this case i was wrong.
In this situation what would you do ?
Thanks in advance for answering my question.What should i do with these users advice from people with life experience would be great?
Never lend money you can't afford to lose. Consider this an expensive lesson.
Next time, give less of yourself to your friends. Only give to those who will give in return.
Can I please get some much needed advice about my love life?
Ok Ive been going out with the most mazing woman in the world, in fact its scary how we are the same person with the same thoughts. Recently though an ex of hers, who was emotionally abusive to her for years, all of a sudden wants her back in his life. She has two kids with this guy but shes not in love with him. We are in love but she really wants her family to be whole again. We both are married but we are both going through divorce with our past. About a week ago he said he has never loved her and she was just the baby's momma but she considering going back to him just FOR the kids. My parents were together for the kids and they are really unhappy plus they put us through alot by fighting etc. I dont want this to happen to her family, and we are taking time apart so she can be by herself and decide what she wants in her life. I love her dearly and we were talking about being married one day about a month ago. Besides space what else can i do for her without pushing her away.Can I please get some much needed advice about my love life?
Your question is really about to make me cry, am serious because I was in that same problem but I was the child. I was like 11-12 between those ages and my step dad at the time was horrible he was abusive and called my mom names like fat this and that and he hated me the most since I was not his child so he treated me different from my other two sisters and I knew my mom wanted to stay with him just for us which made me feel guilty, I remember locking myself in my room as my mom was told off and beaten but I got brave one day and when it was just us and he went inside the store I asked her when will she leave him? She seemed shocked I know for a fact if I didn't say anything she would either still be with him or died.
Please tell her that its not worth it and by staying with him and her kids see how unhappy she is they will either get someone like him in the future thinking its ok mommy didn't care so they will settle for less and or they will have to suffer an unhappy mother until there able to move out.Can I please get some much needed advice about my love life?
She needs to make up her mind so give her some time. Fight for her though....try and make her see getting together with the ex for the sake of the kids is not the right decision for anybody. The kids can still see their dad even if she is with you. She is not doing them any favours by going back to a man who emotionally abused her and who she doesn't love. The kids would have a much better environment if she was in a mutually loving relationship.
Your question is really about to make me cry, am serious because I was in that same problem but I was the child. I was like 11-12 between those ages and my step dad at the time was horrible he was abusive and called my mom names like fat this and that and he hated me the most since I was not his child so he treated me different from my other two sisters and I knew my mom wanted to stay with him just for us which made me feel guilty, I remember locking myself in my room as my mom was told off and beaten but I got brave one day and when it was just us and he went inside the store I asked her when will she leave him? She seemed shocked I know for a fact if I didn't say anything she would either still be with him or died.
Please tell her that its not worth it and by staying with him and her kids see how unhappy she is they will either get someone like him in the future thinking its ok mommy didn't care so they will settle for less and or they will have to suffer an unhappy mother until there able to move out.Can I please get some much needed advice about my love life?
She needs to make up her mind so give her some time. Fight for her though....try and make her see getting together with the ex for the sake of the kids is not the right decision for anybody. The kids can still see their dad even if she is with you. She is not doing them any favours by going back to a man who emotionally abused her and who she doesn't love. The kids would have a much better environment if she was in a mutually loving relationship.
Astrology- Marriage Match/ Not match. Please give advice whether my marriage life will be happy or not?
hi sir
I am loving a girl for the past three years. but now i have no interest on that girl. but she is loving a lot without any doubt. please say whether my married life with that girl will be nice or not
My date of birth- 04 jan 1976
place- madurai,tamil nadu, india
time- 00.54min morning
rashi-mahara
star-avitta
my would be wife details
My date of birth- 10 dec 1985
place- madurai,tamil nadu, india
time- 8.28pm
rashi-viruchigam
star-anusha
please give a remedy to lead a peaceful life
thanks in advanceAstrology- Marriage Match/ Not match. Please give advice whether my marriage life will be happy or not?
You shouldn't be marrying anyone you don't love.Astrology can't make you love someone,and without love marriage has no point! So do the woman a favour and let her go!!
I am loving a girl for the past three years. but now i have no interest on that girl. but she is loving a lot without any doubt. please say whether my married life with that girl will be nice or not
My date of birth- 04 jan 1976
place- madurai,tamil nadu, india
time- 00.54min morning
rashi-mahara
star-avitta
my would be wife details
My date of birth- 10 dec 1985
place- madurai,tamil nadu, india
time- 8.28pm
rashi-viruchigam
star-anusha
please give a remedy to lead a peaceful life
thanks in advanceAstrology- Marriage Match/ Not match. Please give advice whether my marriage life will be happy or not?
You shouldn't be marrying anyone you don't love.Astrology can't make you love someone,and without love marriage has no point! So do the woman a favour and let her go!!
Need advice on dating just divorced and have found the love of my life but.....?
i was divorced a few months and have met the love of my life but he has never been married has no children and i have a 4yr old how do i get them use to each other.... we already discussed marriage he lives about two hours from me and my ex and i have joint custody...my guy now wants to stert spending the night while my son is at my house i don't know what to do Need advice on dating just divorced and have found the love of my life but.....?
First of all, you've only been divorced a few months, What are you doing dating already and not to mention already talking marriage. Can you say doomed to fail. Let me be the first to tell you the sleeping over thing wouldn't be good for your 4 year old to see. Your child is going through mom and dad not being in the same house and now some other guy is sleeping where dad once slept. You really need to step back here and slow down. Need advice on dating just divorced and have found the love of my life but.....?
I wouldn't have him start spending the night so soon, I would start by going on little outings like to the park or zoo, out to dinner. let your boyfriend know that things have to start out slow and if he really loves you he should respect your decision. Good luck, what a tough situation your in
Make sure your really trust this guy before he spends any alone time with your son. I went through the same thing a few years ago, I thought I was in love with this guy he wanted to watch my son while I was at work he ended up extremely jealouss of him and spanked him so hard he left bruises on his butt, I had to go to child services and then the police, WATCH OUT.
I too have found myself in this sort of situation in the past. Yes, it can be tricky, but not terrifying for your child if you handle it correctly. The most important thing is to make certain that your bedroom door locks. It may sound stupid, but your son doesn't need to walk into your room and see you with someone other than his daddy at this point.
As long as your new guy treats your son with respect and love, things should be fine. Don't expect either one of them to think it's a ideal situation. It will be an adjustment period for all of you.
Good Luck!
I don't recommend the spending the night thing. That just causes confusion for the child. All of you go to the park or to the movies? Go to the zoo. I def would not let him spend the night while the child is there. Not for a while anyway. Your child needs to get to know him first and establish a good relationship with him.
Start out slow. I would get your son used to him being around before you jump to letting him stay the night, especially if it's going to be frequent. Have him come over in the afternoon or something and see how he and your son interact. Your son is young enough to probably not really understand what's going on. I would check out some parenting websites for specifics on what to do.
Whoa, whoa, whoa. You just got out of one marriage, and you're already planning on another? Slow down and make sure this isn't a rebound first. He definitely shouldn't be spending the night until your kid gets used to him, and that's going to take time. (And if he doesn't get that, you should really think hard about the kind of stepfather he's going to make.)
Well if you guys plan to get married, you need to get your son used to him by inviting your guy over for dinner and doing stuff with the 3 of you together. Usually, younger kids get used to boyfriends more than older kids. Good Luck!
First of all, you've only been divorced a few months, What are you doing dating already and not to mention already talking marriage. Can you say doomed to fail. Let me be the first to tell you the sleeping over thing wouldn't be good for your 4 year old to see. Your child is going through mom and dad not being in the same house and now some other guy is sleeping where dad once slept. You really need to step back here and slow down. Need advice on dating just divorced and have found the love of my life but.....?
I wouldn't have him start spending the night so soon, I would start by going on little outings like to the park or zoo, out to dinner. let your boyfriend know that things have to start out slow and if he really loves you he should respect your decision. Good luck, what a tough situation your in
Make sure your really trust this guy before he spends any alone time with your son. I went through the same thing a few years ago, I thought I was in love with this guy he wanted to watch my son while I was at work he ended up extremely jealouss of him and spanked him so hard he left bruises on his butt, I had to go to child services and then the police, WATCH OUT.
I too have found myself in this sort of situation in the past. Yes, it can be tricky, but not terrifying for your child if you handle it correctly. The most important thing is to make certain that your bedroom door locks. It may sound stupid, but your son doesn't need to walk into your room and see you with someone other than his daddy at this point.
As long as your new guy treats your son with respect and love, things should be fine. Don't expect either one of them to think it's a ideal situation. It will be an adjustment period for all of you.
Good Luck!
I don't recommend the spending the night thing. That just causes confusion for the child. All of you go to the park or to the movies? Go to the zoo. I def would not let him spend the night while the child is there. Not for a while anyway. Your child needs to get to know him first and establish a good relationship with him.
Start out slow. I would get your son used to him being around before you jump to letting him stay the night, especially if it's going to be frequent. Have him come over in the afternoon or something and see how he and your son interact. Your son is young enough to probably not really understand what's going on. I would check out some parenting websites for specifics on what to do.
Whoa, whoa, whoa. You just got out of one marriage, and you're already planning on another? Slow down and make sure this isn't a rebound first. He definitely shouldn't be spending the night until your kid gets used to him, and that's going to take time. (And if he doesn't get that, you should really think hard about the kind of stepfather he's going to make.)
Well if you guys plan to get married, you need to get your son used to him by inviting your guy over for dinner and doing stuff with the 3 of you together. Usually, younger kids get used to boyfriends more than older kids. Good Luck!
What should i do? i need some advice.. and its a life changing problem?
ok the girl i been with for 6 months had to move up to NY to live with her mom.. so i was going to go up there in december.. she says im the perfect guy and everything.. but to be with me is hard cuz right now of distance.. she says its too good to be true... but this guy up there started talking to her and now she started getting feelings for him abit.. she tells me she wants to be with me and all the way she loves me.. but she says its easier to be with him... so right now shes bacily.. has to choose between going with me and havin to wait for the perfect guy... or be with him and just be ok and take the easy way.. she says no matter wat she picks its not fair for me or him.. if she picks me its not fair for him and if she picks him its not fair for me.. and i love this gurl to death.. but i dont want to make her sad or anything so im asking this...
Should i tell her to be with him so she can be happy... or sould i let her make up her mind... i want to be with her.. but i love her enough where as long as shes happy ill be happy for her... it will hurt but its not gonna kill me or anything... What should i do? i need some advice.. and its a life changing problem?
One thing I can say for you is that you sure are a super person! Here you are in love w/someone who supposidly loves you ';all the way';, BUT she is now interested in another guy? You are actually worried about her %26amp; her feelings, trying to make it easy on her. To be honest w/you, I don't feel she deserves someone like you. I'm sure you meant what you said, but if you feel she choose the ';easy'; way out w/someone rite there where she is, then let her go. You said it would hurt, but not kill you. Why don't you then just let things happen the way they were meant to happen. If the two of you live a bit too far to visit %26amp; be able to see one another on somewhat of a regular basis, I have a feeling you'll soon know who she's going to choose. Be prepared for her to take the easy way out. IF she really loved you like she claims, she wouldn't even be talking to anyone else. I feel you deserve far better than this, %26amp; for YOUR sake, I'd tell her to choose the easy way out for her. This w/set you free to be able to meet someone you truly deserve, someone who w/care as much for you as you do for them. With the attitude you have I don't foresee you having any problems finding someone who w/return the same love you have for them %26amp; getting someone you truly deserve. I would put her in your past %26amp; leave her there. Start a whole new beginning for yourself as I feel you do deserve better than she. Do this for you, %26amp; for her, but mainly be free for someone you deserve...Best to you...:)What should i do? i need some advice.. and its a life changing problem?
SHE SAID----no matter wat she picks its not fair for me or him.. if she picks me its not fair for him and if she picks him its not fair for me..
AND YOU SAIN ----i love this girl to death.. but i don't want to make her sad or anything...
SOUND LIKE SHE ALREADY MADE HER CHOOSE...she just met the guy and she's concerned about how hes gonna feel, young blood let it go, there's got to plenty of nice young girls in your area, long distance relationships don't work.....cream tones
Should i tell her to be with him so she can be happy... or sould i let her make up her mind... i want to be with her.. but i love her enough where as long as shes happy ill be happy for her... it will hurt but its not gonna kill me or anything... What should i do? i need some advice.. and its a life changing problem?
One thing I can say for you is that you sure are a super person! Here you are in love w/someone who supposidly loves you ';all the way';, BUT she is now interested in another guy? You are actually worried about her %26amp; her feelings, trying to make it easy on her. To be honest w/you, I don't feel she deserves someone like you. I'm sure you meant what you said, but if you feel she choose the ';easy'; way out w/someone rite there where she is, then let her go. You said it would hurt, but not kill you. Why don't you then just let things happen the way they were meant to happen. If the two of you live a bit too far to visit %26amp; be able to see one another on somewhat of a regular basis, I have a feeling you'll soon know who she's going to choose. Be prepared for her to take the easy way out. IF she really loved you like she claims, she wouldn't even be talking to anyone else. I feel you deserve far better than this, %26amp; for YOUR sake, I'd tell her to choose the easy way out for her. This w/set you free to be able to meet someone you truly deserve, someone who w/care as much for you as you do for them. With the attitude you have I don't foresee you having any problems finding someone who w/return the same love you have for them %26amp; getting someone you truly deserve. I would put her in your past %26amp; leave her there. Start a whole new beginning for yourself as I feel you do deserve better than she. Do this for you, %26amp; for her, but mainly be free for someone you deserve...Best to you...:)What should i do? i need some advice.. and its a life changing problem?
SHE SAID----no matter wat she picks its not fair for me or him.. if she picks me its not fair for him and if she picks him its not fair for me..
AND YOU SAIN ----i love this girl to death.. but i don't want to make her sad or anything...
SOUND LIKE SHE ALREADY MADE HER CHOOSE...she just met the guy and she's concerned about how hes gonna feel, young blood let it go, there's got to plenty of nice young girls in your area, long distance relationships don't work.....
Herbs to improve sex just want some advice about my sex life and if herbs work like horny goat weed. thanks?
Around a couple months ago me and my new girlfriend, im 20 just fyi tried to have sex. I was very tired from the night before since we went out drinking. But when I was trying to have sex and put on the condom I could not stay as hard as normal. I know I dont have ed or anything because I wake up with morning wood all the time. So I think it was prolly just nerves so my friend suggested I try taken herbs to give me some more confidence. So I went to GNC and got some Horny Goat Weed I just want to know if this stuff works and get some info thanks.Herbs to improve sex just want some advice about my sex life and if herbs work like horny goat weed. thanks?
Try Ginseng. Not the stuff you buy in a bottle, but go to an herbal shop and get actual ginseng root extract.Herbs to improve sex just want some advice about my sex life and if herbs work like horny goat weed. thanks?
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I doubt that it will help if you don't make a few lifestyle changes. Please read the following article to see what alcohol %26amp; also smoking can do to a man's penis %26amp; reproductive system. You might want to re-think your priorities in life.
Definite DON'Ts
Alcohol
Alcohol kills reproductive cells and decreases sperm viability. It also disrupts the link between the brain and the penis. Excessive use of alcohol inhibits the creation of the male sex hormone, androgen.
Smoking
Nicotine reduces arterial pressure and as a result, prevents blood circulation to the penis. In addition, toxic substances from smoking are detrimental for sperm maturation.
Marijuana
Sharply reduces the level of male sexual hormones, disrupts chromosomes and promotes undesired genetic changes.
Anabolic Steroids
Anabolic steroids bear a close resemblance to testosterone and as a result, the body stops its natural production causing impotence to occur.
High Cholesterol
Too much cholesterol blocks the vessels providing blood to the penis and thereby reduces the blood flow necessary to maintain an erection.
Overweight
Being overweight can disrupt your hormone balance and, as a result, the production of hormones necessary for achieving erection can become insufficient.
Chemical drugs
Studies show that out of two hundred most used medicines; as many as sixteen are likely to cause impotence. Among the most risky are drugs used for the treatment of high blood pressure, depression, insomnia, ulcers, tumors, plus a couple of medications used to combat allergy.
perhaps your problem isnt as serious as you think. maybe you're just gay.
Try Ginseng. Not the stuff you buy in a bottle, but go to an herbal shop and get actual ginseng root extract.Herbs to improve sex just want some advice about my sex life and if herbs work like horny goat weed. thanks?
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horny goat weed makes u ONLY attracted to goats...
I doubt that it will help if you don't make a few lifestyle changes. Please read the following article to see what alcohol %26amp; also smoking can do to a man's penis %26amp; reproductive system. You might want to re-think your priorities in life.
Definite DON'Ts
Alcohol
Alcohol kills reproductive cells and decreases sperm viability. It also disrupts the link between the brain and the penis. Excessive use of alcohol inhibits the creation of the male sex hormone, androgen.
Smoking
Nicotine reduces arterial pressure and as a result, prevents blood circulation to the penis. In addition, toxic substances from smoking are detrimental for sperm maturation.
Marijuana
Sharply reduces the level of male sexual hormones, disrupts chromosomes and promotes undesired genetic changes.
Anabolic Steroids
Anabolic steroids bear a close resemblance to testosterone and as a result, the body stops its natural production causing impotence to occur.
High Cholesterol
Too much cholesterol blocks the vessels providing blood to the penis and thereby reduces the blood flow necessary to maintain an erection.
Overweight
Being overweight can disrupt your hormone balance and, as a result, the production of hormones necessary for achieving erection can become insufficient.
Chemical drugs
Studies show that out of two hundred most used medicines; as many as sixteen are likely to cause impotence. Among the most risky are drugs used for the treatment of high blood pressure, depression, insomnia, ulcers, tumors, plus a couple of medications used to combat allergy.
perhaps your problem isnt as serious as you think. maybe you're just gay.
I need some advice about ways to spice up my sex life.......?
Ive ben with my spouse for 16 years and married 13.. Our schedules are very conflicting cause he works nights and I work days. We only see eachother on the weekend. I work full time and go to school. I miss the affection and tenderness of love making. When we do get a chance to be intimate,its quick and routine and only once a week. twice the most. Im not focusing on cheating.. I went that route a long time ago and its not all that. I dont recommend anyone to cheat on ur mate. its not worth it. Anyway, When we do get a chance to get close, its routine. I already know what to exspect.What should I do? Im frustrated and I dont want to get bored and go out there again and do something stupid.. Please help!!!I need some advice about ways to spice up my sex life.......?
Men cheat when they are bored, so be prepared. If you are bored think of him.
Maybe take off one day early and surprise him with a romantic dinner cooked when he wakes up.
OR if you really want him to wake up in a good mood. Crawl under the blanket and make sure he wakes up to something very special.
How about role play... not getting dressed up crap but you take control instead of him and make it last longer. Stop him before he is finished. Make him long for you during the sex. It will make it much more worth it. Try it in a different place in the house.
Ex: call him into the kitchen wearing whip cream and ask him to help you get it off.
At first it is a little uneasy but then you will love it.I need some advice about ways to spice up my sex life.......?
Take a weekend trip somewhere, even just a one day and night getaway. Maybe go to Victoria Secret and get something sexy to spice thing up a little. Maybe bring some candles, take a Bath together, just relax and have fun.
Well I would suggest you wear something skimpy with nothing under neath high heels and light a candle and stay that way for him through out the day and if that doesn't turn him on ,he must be dead in side.
I was going to suggest a threesome but It sounds like you don't have that much time for a two-some. Try dressing-up, using toys, more foreplay, ect....
Can you set aside a date night and go out before you have sex?
Me and my husband started a fantasy game when we found that our love making was becoming routine. One of us stated a fantasy fufilled and the other found a way to make it true. This doesnt have to be kinky or take alot of time. One of our fantasies was to have sex in a pool, another was to try 3 different positions in a day, and finally one was a full body massage. It made each of us feel like were the center of attention. I would also suggest talking to him about it, let him know how you feel. I know that my husband thought that I was content with the sex we were having when even he wasnt, and thats why he was content with it.
tell him to get a night off during the weeek. and take a break or soething. go on vca. and have fun.
try some new stuff.
you need to find a way to make more time for each other. slow him down. cover him in cool whip and take charge. tie his hands to the frame if you have too. next time you go out leave your pantys at home and tell him. stick small notes in his pockets for him to find. start giving him back massages with scented oils.
The reason new relationships are so exciting and passionate is because its new and uncertain...to get the passion back one needs to romance...make your partner know their loved and they will put more feeling in their actions...time to get away...cruise, week-end...something you both can spend time with each other...good luck.
Invite a hot girl into the action. Since you cheated on him you kinda owe him something anyway.
Try being spontaneous by disrupting your routine once in awhile. Put the fear of God in your spouse by demanding a moment of his time, or ten minutes off his sleep schedule!
Works for me and my wife...
Can you maybe take the wheel on this one. Hubby maybe scared to try something new. Onething we do is we suprise one another,once i came home and kids were gone. She meet me at front door said nothing to me-took my breif case out of my hand,un zipped my pants and gave me an well wonderful oral. we then had it 3 times a day for fri/sat/and sunday we had house to self,after church we came home and retired to bedroom. You can get games that are really fun as well. we enjoy a great loving sexual relationship as well as norm every day today life.
Talk about it. Communication is key. Role play. Suprise him with some nice neglige. Read the Kama Sutra. If all else fails then go to a sex therapist or pick between work/school or satisfaction.
OK! This is something fun and exciting to do. Take a day off, find out what time he has lunch. Pick him up, drive to some place not to far out and have sex in the car, or in the woods, or maybe go to a lake and slide in the water and make love. You have to put some thought into somethings you might not ever do, and do them. Trust me he will be very turned on by this. Call him on his cell phone and leave him little sexy msgs. Like your not wearing any panties and your dusting the house right now wish you were here. Or put a pair of your panties in his lunch. Think of different things to get HIS mind thinking. Pretty soon he's going to come looking for you. Have fun with your love making. There isn't a law that says we have to have sex in our bed everytime we do it. You call him from work and have phone sex on your break. Tell him all the things you would do to him if you were home right now. Please trust me, this really does work. Go out to dinner, both of you slip off to the rest room and have sex in the bathroom stall. Trying to not get caught is what makes the sex even better. Hope I helped.
If your both off the weekend go to a Pool suite if they are available in your area hubby and I did and it was a nite we would never forget great getaway. and because you have busy lives what your doing now is what's gonna work for yous just have patience and things will get better.
Either go to a fantasy/passion party, or be the hostess of one... and really buy some toys and gear! It's not all that your thinking it is though, they have some neat things that your both will love! My boyfriend is very quite and shy so when we talk about toys or anything, he doesn't like it... but when i showed him some things that i bought for him... he loved it! believe me it helps! our sex life picked right up!
Go out and buy yourself some nice lingerie, and after a nice dinner, slip into something more comfortable......
You can pick up body paints, body chocolate even flavored body whipped cream. Try getting a massager and some warming body oils. Give him a massage or have him paint you.
It doesn't have to be expensive or over the top. Pick something that you will both enjoy.
Relax and go with it. And remember.....
It only seems kinky the first time. :-)
Lordy, lordy, we're turning 40 this year, and our sex life is awesome! (Married nearly 19 yrs.) Go to your favorite search engine and type in ';adult toys'; - - then follow your appetite! I introduced sex toys into our bed a little more than a year ago, and now, my wife is the one buying all the toys!
Toys, toys, toys!!! WooHoo!!!
You definately sound very frustrated. First of all, I have always believed that intimacy, unlike sex, begins with communication. Be honest about your true feelings, even when it is hard to do, if you want you can start the conversation with ';this is hard for me, it's been a while since I've been this honest and open with you';, then tell him how you have been feeling, tell him you'd like to get experimental in the bedroom and ask him what would be exciting to him. Ask him to go for a long walk, hold his hand and talk about whatever you need to, try to laugh and keep things flirty and fun. Then when you feel you guys have sort of started to connect, whisper in his ear that you aren't wearing any underwear and that you need to be with him and tell him that you love him.
Men lose their sex drive so don't take it personally. I just saw a rerun of SNL the other night and they were doing the news skit that they do. They posted a picture of Brad Pitt and Jenifer Aniston kind of walking away from each other and said ';Now if these 2 people can't enjoy sex with eachother for the rest of their lives, what does that say for the rest of us?'; The crowd cracked up.
My point is, you can't change his testosterone levels by being more sexy. I would try more emotion-based forms of intimacy. Long back rubs, massages, bathing him in the bathtub, light touching and petting and caressing. If you're looking for more responsiveness, you have to build up to it. Don't break out the gadgets just yet.
get a boob job
Men cheat when they are bored, so be prepared. If you are bored think of him.
Maybe take off one day early and surprise him with a romantic dinner cooked when he wakes up.
OR if you really want him to wake up in a good mood. Crawl under the blanket and make sure he wakes up to something very special.
How about role play... not getting dressed up crap but you take control instead of him and make it last longer. Stop him before he is finished. Make him long for you during the sex. It will make it much more worth it. Try it in a different place in the house.
Ex: call him into the kitchen wearing whip cream and ask him to help you get it off.
At first it is a little uneasy but then you will love it.I need some advice about ways to spice up my sex life.......?
Take a weekend trip somewhere, even just a one day and night getaway. Maybe go to Victoria Secret and get something sexy to spice thing up a little. Maybe bring some candles, take a Bath together, just relax and have fun.
Well I would suggest you wear something skimpy with nothing under neath high heels and light a candle and stay that way for him through out the day and if that doesn't turn him on ,he must be dead in side.
I was going to suggest a threesome but It sounds like you don't have that much time for a two-some. Try dressing-up, using toys, more foreplay, ect....
Can you set aside a date night and go out before you have sex?
Me and my husband started a fantasy game when we found that our love making was becoming routine. One of us stated a fantasy fufilled and the other found a way to make it true. This doesnt have to be kinky or take alot of time. One of our fantasies was to have sex in a pool, another was to try 3 different positions in a day, and finally one was a full body massage. It made each of us feel like were the center of attention. I would also suggest talking to him about it, let him know how you feel. I know that my husband thought that I was content with the sex we were having when even he wasnt, and thats why he was content with it.
tell him to get a night off during the weeek. and take a break or soething. go on vca. and have fun.
try some new stuff.
you need to find a way to make more time for each other. slow him down. cover him in cool whip and take charge. tie his hands to the frame if you have too. next time you go out leave your pantys at home and tell him. stick small notes in his pockets for him to find. start giving him back massages with scented oils.
The reason new relationships are so exciting and passionate is because its new and uncertain...to get the passion back one needs to romance...make your partner know their loved and they will put more feeling in their actions...time to get away...cruise, week-end...something you both can spend time with each other...good luck.
Invite a hot girl into the action. Since you cheated on him you kinda owe him something anyway.
Try being spontaneous by disrupting your routine once in awhile. Put the fear of God in your spouse by demanding a moment of his time, or ten minutes off his sleep schedule!
Works for me and my wife...
Can you maybe take the wheel on this one. Hubby maybe scared to try something new. Onething we do is we suprise one another,once i came home and kids were gone. She meet me at front door said nothing to me-took my breif case out of my hand,un zipped my pants and gave me an well wonderful oral. we then had it 3 times a day for fri/sat/and sunday we had house to self,after church we came home and retired to bedroom. You can get games that are really fun as well. we enjoy a great loving sexual relationship as well as norm every day today life.
Talk about it. Communication is key. Role play. Suprise him with some nice neglige. Read the Kama Sutra. If all else fails then go to a sex therapist or pick between work/school or satisfaction.
OK! This is something fun and exciting to do. Take a day off, find out what time he has lunch. Pick him up, drive to some place not to far out and have sex in the car, or in the woods, or maybe go to a lake and slide in the water and make love. You have to put some thought into somethings you might not ever do, and do them. Trust me he will be very turned on by this. Call him on his cell phone and leave him little sexy msgs. Like your not wearing any panties and your dusting the house right now wish you were here. Or put a pair of your panties in his lunch. Think of different things to get HIS mind thinking. Pretty soon he's going to come looking for you. Have fun with your love making. There isn't a law that says we have to have sex in our bed everytime we do it. You call him from work and have phone sex on your break. Tell him all the things you would do to him if you were home right now. Please trust me, this really does work. Go out to dinner, both of you slip off to the rest room and have sex in the bathroom stall. Trying to not get caught is what makes the sex even better. Hope I helped.
If your both off the weekend go to a Pool suite if they are available in your area hubby and I did and it was a nite we would never forget great getaway. and because you have busy lives what your doing now is what's gonna work for yous just have patience and things will get better.
Either go to a fantasy/passion party, or be the hostess of one... and really buy some toys and gear! It's not all that your thinking it is though, they have some neat things that your both will love! My boyfriend is very quite and shy so when we talk about toys or anything, he doesn't like it... but when i showed him some things that i bought for him... he loved it! believe me it helps! our sex life picked right up!
Go out and buy yourself some nice lingerie, and after a nice dinner, slip into something more comfortable......
You can pick up body paints, body chocolate even flavored body whipped cream. Try getting a massager and some warming body oils. Give him a massage or have him paint you.
It doesn't have to be expensive or over the top. Pick something that you will both enjoy.
Relax and go with it. And remember.....
It only seems kinky the first time. :-)
Lordy, lordy, we're turning 40 this year, and our sex life is awesome! (Married nearly 19 yrs.) Go to your favorite search engine and type in ';adult toys'; - - then follow your appetite! I introduced sex toys into our bed a little more than a year ago, and now, my wife is the one buying all the toys!
Toys, toys, toys!!! WooHoo!!!
You definately sound very frustrated. First of all, I have always believed that intimacy, unlike sex, begins with communication. Be honest about your true feelings, even when it is hard to do, if you want you can start the conversation with ';this is hard for me, it's been a while since I've been this honest and open with you';, then tell him how you have been feeling, tell him you'd like to get experimental in the bedroom and ask him what would be exciting to him. Ask him to go for a long walk, hold his hand and talk about whatever you need to, try to laugh and keep things flirty and fun. Then when you feel you guys have sort of started to connect, whisper in his ear that you aren't wearing any underwear and that you need to be with him and tell him that you love him.
Men lose their sex drive so don't take it personally. I just saw a rerun of SNL the other night and they were doing the news skit that they do. They posted a picture of Brad Pitt and Jenifer Aniston kind of walking away from each other and said ';Now if these 2 people can't enjoy sex with eachother for the rest of their lives, what does that say for the rest of us?'; The crowd cracked up.
My point is, you can't change his testosterone levels by being more sexy. I would try more emotion-based forms of intimacy. Long back rubs, massages, bathing him in the bathtub, light touching and petting and caressing. If you're looking for more responsiveness, you have to build up to it. Don't break out the gadgets just yet.
get a boob job
Am i a bit mental?i wish there was some way to improve my life.please read/give honest advice,bc i feel shitty
since i was born,my parents (mainly my dad) controlled everything i did.and academic excellence was the most important thing.i was very sheltered.i felt like the only way to gain appreciation from them was to make the grades. when i reached highschool, i became a ';serial'; dater and stopped making perfect grades.i seeked appreciation from the boys i dated, and then i would dump them and continue with other boys(this didn't include sex).when i reached college,i missed my friends horribly and was jealous that they were going to the same colleges with eachother,and i was stuck at a college that wasn't even my first or second choice.i hated it.and then my sophomore yr, the close friends i made at college all transferred to diff colleges(they too didn't like it there).this made me sad,and my grads plumetted.i also started dating a boy that was just as controlling/obsessed with grades as my dad.now it's my junior yr,and he left me for a really topnotch student.i feel like my life is a failureAm i a bit mental?i wish there was some way to improve my life.please read/give honest advice,bc i feel shitty
You have been dominated and controlled and you need to take control for, and also of, yourself. You are not mental, or a failure!
Get some self assertion classes and think about what you want from life. Then make some decisions and carry them through. i promise you, you will feel much better when you are doing what you want to be doing...good luck...;Am i a bit mental?i wish there was some way to improve my life.please read/give honest advice,bc i feel shitty
your life is unsatisfying because you insist on blaming others for your actions. you are an adult so start acting like it. grades are important, an education is important...don`t waste it. There are things in life that are important both as a person and in the things we do. I`m sure your parents taught you right from wrong..so focus...to do anything else is to blame others for your failures...
What in the world are you doing to yourself !First off you are in collage good for you , your lucky to be there.second as far as friends go they are taking care of business.you should too,third boys,men, whatever slow down .you have way to many irons in the fire .Take it one day at a time. you will get there , honest you will. be happy with yourself and take PRIDE in what you are doing, YOU ARE NOT MENTAL!!!!!!!
Darling... You are not mental. Through a lifetime of being so hard on yourself, you have grown accustomed to ignoring your needs and cater to everyone else's.
This very situation just manefest itself differently in you in the form of relationships or speed dating... Most anorexics and bulemics become what they are because of this very same issue. Control...
When you allow someone else to control you you teach them that you agree with their methods and their fear tactics. You catered to a incorrect father/child mindset by not fighting back.
When we adopt other behaviors that we might not normally subscribe to in our lives we do it because we found that through it we gain back some of our control, that we lost over submitting against our will in order to gain love from it.
You really should have a heart to heart with your dad... Tell him how you feel. You need to understand that grades are important and if you get great ones... it is only because you need to you should never respond like a trained dog with something as vital to your happiness and life as good grades.
I'd suggest you working hard FOR YOURSELF in school and getting good grades FOR YOUR OWN QUALITY OF LIFE... and come out and tell your father... ';I do not do this to please you, I do this for myself.'; Let it be known, hear yourself speak it out loud and refuse to allow yourself to depend uponhis praise and rejection to validate your life.
When people say that they feel ';crazy'; or ';mental'; It is almost always the long term nervous effects of being controlled against your will that causes that kind of mental rebellion. That out of control, crazy feeling becomes adopted by some and they run with it into all sorts of conditions and behaviors... All it is, is your psyche, your inner being, screaming out for you to gain control.
Imagine a drowning man... If you didn't see the water he was neck deep in from a distance but only his head, screaming and ranting and thrashing and raving... your assumption from safe distances would be ';What the hell is wrong with that lunatic.';
It is only when we agree to become uncomfortable by getting closer to the issue at hand that we can have a clear view and be able to say ';Hey, he is in trouble, let me either do something, or get help.';
Get closer to the real issues and see that you are not mental... you are screaming for help... Save yourself! You're worth it, grades or not!
Argh!
Sorry, Im not mad at you, Im mad at all the people that are making you feel this way. But you are feeling depressed bc youre letting all of this ';Im not good enough'; stuff get to you. You are a wonderful person, so show it off to the world! Dont worry about your ex, he just doesnt appreciate you for who you are.
Forget the bad times and relive the good!!!
God Bless.
No, your not mental. In my opinion, you could work on the relationships that you have,and try to grow more independent. I know its cliche and everything, but start doing things for you, not for anyone else.
you're not mental. you just need to have some time with yourself. in your description all you talked about were parents, friends, boyfriends, grades. these are all things that are important to young people but don't be obsessed by it. this is why i am totally AGAINST children growing up sheltered. it seems like things have just gotten overwhelming for you. just live your life and try to find happiness within yourself (easier said than done, i know). best of luck.
no...dont feel so depressed,my dear...
but u still have a chance! make ur life now! go n study,...study so much that life has lots to show u.....c'mon frnds never matter more than studies....
You have been dominated and controlled and you need to take control for, and also of, yourself. You are not mental, or a failure!
Get some self assertion classes and think about what you want from life. Then make some decisions and carry them through. i promise you, you will feel much better when you are doing what you want to be doing...good luck...;Am i a bit mental?i wish there was some way to improve my life.please read/give honest advice,bc i feel shitty
your life is unsatisfying because you insist on blaming others for your actions. you are an adult so start acting like it. grades are important, an education is important...don`t waste it. There are things in life that are important both as a person and in the things we do. I`m sure your parents taught you right from wrong..so focus...to do anything else is to blame others for your failures...
What in the world are you doing to yourself !First off you are in collage good for you , your lucky to be there.second as far as friends go they are taking care of business.you should too,third boys,men, whatever slow down .you have way to many irons in the fire .Take it one day at a time. you will get there , honest you will. be happy with yourself and take PRIDE in what you are doing, YOU ARE NOT MENTAL!!!!!!!
Darling... You are not mental. Through a lifetime of being so hard on yourself, you have grown accustomed to ignoring your needs and cater to everyone else's.
This very situation just manefest itself differently in you in the form of relationships or speed dating... Most anorexics and bulemics become what they are because of this very same issue. Control...
When you allow someone else to control you you teach them that you agree with their methods and their fear tactics. You catered to a incorrect father/child mindset by not fighting back.
When we adopt other behaviors that we might not normally subscribe to in our lives we do it because we found that through it we gain back some of our control, that we lost over submitting against our will in order to gain love from it.
You really should have a heart to heart with your dad... Tell him how you feel. You need to understand that grades are important and if you get great ones... it is only because you need to you should never respond like a trained dog with something as vital to your happiness and life as good grades.
I'd suggest you working hard FOR YOURSELF in school and getting good grades FOR YOUR OWN QUALITY OF LIFE... and come out and tell your father... ';I do not do this to please you, I do this for myself.'; Let it be known, hear yourself speak it out loud and refuse to allow yourself to depend uponhis praise and rejection to validate your life.
When people say that they feel ';crazy'; or ';mental'; It is almost always the long term nervous effects of being controlled against your will that causes that kind of mental rebellion. That out of control, crazy feeling becomes adopted by some and they run with it into all sorts of conditions and behaviors... All it is, is your psyche, your inner being, screaming out for you to gain control.
Imagine a drowning man... If you didn't see the water he was neck deep in from a distance but only his head, screaming and ranting and thrashing and raving... your assumption from safe distances would be ';What the hell is wrong with that lunatic.';
It is only when we agree to become uncomfortable by getting closer to the issue at hand that we can have a clear view and be able to say ';Hey, he is in trouble, let me either do something, or get help.';
Get closer to the real issues and see that you are not mental... you are screaming for help... Save yourself! You're worth it, grades or not!
Argh!
Sorry, Im not mad at you, Im mad at all the people that are making you feel this way. But you are feeling depressed bc youre letting all of this ';Im not good enough'; stuff get to you. You are a wonderful person, so show it off to the world! Dont worry about your ex, he just doesnt appreciate you for who you are.
Forget the bad times and relive the good!!!
God Bless.
No, your not mental. In my opinion, you could work on the relationships that you have,and try to grow more independent. I know its cliche and everything, but start doing things for you, not for anyone else.
you're not mental. you just need to have some time with yourself. in your description all you talked about were parents, friends, boyfriends, grades. these are all things that are important to young people but don't be obsessed by it. this is why i am totally AGAINST children growing up sheltered. it seems like things have just gotten overwhelming for you. just live your life and try to find happiness within yourself (easier said than done, i know). best of luck.
no...dont feel so depressed,my dear...
but u still have a chance! make ur life now! go n study,...study so much that life has lots to show u.....c'mon frnds never matter more than studies....
Please share some insight, advice, sayings, tips, quotes, and anything you feel is important in life.?
I was thinking how I love Yahoo Answers since you get real answers from real people with real life experience, and thought it would perfect if people could post anything they found helpful in life. What a great way to learn some new things! It can be a quote you love, advice your mother gave you, tips on business, life, kids, pets, style....anything at all. Please share!Please share some insight, advice, sayings, tips, quotes, and anything you feel is important in life.?
follow your heart and live in the moment.Please share some insight, advice, sayings, tips, quotes, and anything you feel is important in life.?
Don't say anything about anyone that you don't have the guts to say to their face.
Don't be cruel on any level to anyone. Whatever your dogma, it will certainly eventually come back and bite you in your ***.
You can believe what you choose. You are however answerable for what you choose to believe.
A handsome man is a gift, a good man is a treasure.
This is not a dress rehearsal. This is it. This is your life. Try to live it the best you can, and if you fail to do this, back up, shake yourself off and do the best you can the next time. Never give up. Never give in. Nothing is concrete.
Believe me, the way you view yourself is probably ten times worse then the way anyone else sees you.
Above all, love all you can, especially things about yourself, things about your family and things about your friends.
Have no regrets in life, take all experiences, good and bad as a learning curb and learn from them.Love like you have never been hurt. Remember what it is like to be a child again.Cry as often as you can, it can be theraputic.Above all, laugh and try smiling at strangers.
Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help with man with the wrong mental attitude. - W.W. Ziege
We are new every day. - Irene Claremont de Castillego
For a long time it seemed to me that life was about to begin- real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life. This perspective has helped me to see there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So treasure every moment you have and remember that time waits for no one. Happiness is a journey, not a destination... - Souza
smile and the world will smile with you.
';It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; What is essential is invisible to the eye'; - From the Little Prince by Antoine De Saint Exupery
Don't eat the yellow snow.
I would rather die knowing and believing in God than die and not believe and find out different.
OR...
All of us should take a lesson from the weather. It pays no attention to criticism.
Though man is a social animal, never depend on others to accomplish a thing. Just Believe in ur abilities. Its ur skills How u Involve others and accomplish ur targets.
Others things are that never shy of doing a ';good'; thing/work, or let be a bad one. Because all u will get a single life.
Always remember the biggest risk in life is not to take a risk, so dude go ahead and live ur life with full zest. All the best!
dont believe anything you are told by politicians and dont take heroin
follow your heart and live in the moment.Please share some insight, advice, sayings, tips, quotes, and anything you feel is important in life.?
Don't say anything about anyone that you don't have the guts to say to their face.
Don't be cruel on any level to anyone. Whatever your dogma, it will certainly eventually come back and bite you in your ***.
You can believe what you choose. You are however answerable for what you choose to believe.
A handsome man is a gift, a good man is a treasure.
This is not a dress rehearsal. This is it. This is your life. Try to live it the best you can, and if you fail to do this, back up, shake yourself off and do the best you can the next time. Never give up. Never give in. Nothing is concrete.
Believe me, the way you view yourself is probably ten times worse then the way anyone else sees you.
Above all, love all you can, especially things about yourself, things about your family and things about your friends.
Have no regrets in life, take all experiences, good and bad as a learning curb and learn from them.Love like you have never been hurt. Remember what it is like to be a child again.Cry as often as you can, it can be theraputic.Above all, laugh and try smiling at strangers.
Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help with man with the wrong mental attitude. - W.W. Ziege
We are new every day. - Irene Claremont de Castillego
For a long time it seemed to me that life was about to begin- real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life. This perspective has helped me to see there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So treasure every moment you have and remember that time waits for no one. Happiness is a journey, not a destination... - Souza
smile and the world will smile with you.
';It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; What is essential is invisible to the eye'; - From the Little Prince by Antoine De Saint Exupery
Don't eat the yellow snow.
I would rather die knowing and believing in God than die and not believe and find out different.
OR...
All of us should take a lesson from the weather. It pays no attention to criticism.
Though man is a social animal, never depend on others to accomplish a thing. Just Believe in ur abilities. Its ur skills How u Involve others and accomplish ur targets.
Others things are that never shy of doing a ';good'; thing/work, or let be a bad one. Because all u will get a single life.
Always remember the biggest risk in life is not to take a risk, so dude go ahead and live ur life with full zest. All the best!
dont believe anything you are told by politicians and dont take heroin
Any advice on how to move on frm a relationship wit the love of your life?
i broke up wit my bf the other nit as the relationship wasn't goin anywhere %26amp; we were arguin mor n mor. i thought he was my soulm8 but i fell outta love wit him. how do i move on, knowin ive broken his heart? plus, is it possible 4 us 2 go on jus bein friends?Any advice on how to move on frm a relationship wit the love of your life?
hello DD, so i am proud of u, u did the nxt step, breaking the relationship i am not saying i am happy about it, but i think it is for both of ur sake and to know ur differences, which u know it is not going anywhere? my question is did u end up in a nice way? even though u r the one who broke the relationship, u shuldn't feel bad on his account. He needs to see the clear picture for himself, what is going on in ur relationship, not just being there for each other, argue then make up, does not make the relationship work. both of u need to be mature being involve, commitment is a big words to understand, how commited are u? u probably are? but how about him? it takes 2 to tango and if u don't have that strong partner the dance wouldn't be look so graceful and wonderful as it should be. you cannot tell that a person with, will be ur soulmate, the feeling that u had at first would probably love at first sight, that only works in the first sight, if u know what i mean, the more u spend time together the more u get to know each other, and u think he is the one, now u finally find out that u had differences. Yes! it is possible for both of u to be friends again, just for now give each other some space, stop hovering on him don't call him, e-mail, or even tex him, u need to learn how to let go! letting go is not an easy task but if u focus u will be alright and u will find it in ur heart that this is the first chapter in ur life and it has to end for now. divert ur attention into something make ur mind occupied. Do somthing that u enjoy, if u enjoy working out, then go for it, read, or just be with the people u enjoy the most except him i mean, have fun. Let go! that all there is to it...i hope i can help. and u will be fine...just be positve, here is my final thought for u, that had been share with me too, now i am sharing it with u....'; Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what u could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as u can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high spirit to be cumbered with old nonsense';... Good luck....and take care..Any advice on how to move on frm a relationship wit the love of your life?
i hope you're proud of yourself.....ther's no way you can go on just being friends....god women are all the same
You should not be friends with him right away. It is not healthy. You just have to give it time to get over him and maybe after that you can consider being friends. Give it time. Time heals everything.
friends will depend on how you both feel,if it wasn't a mutual break-up he may be resentful.leave it for a while to calm down and don't rush into another relationship.don't let some other poor bloke be the rebound but enjoy your new found freedom,if it was meant to be maybe you will meet again in the future
You need time and space, when the dust settles you may well be freinds, but not straight away, it will be harder for him if you are a friend while he is still getting over you.. And vice versa. Time will heal this..
you cant be friends right away you need space to become yourself first learn how to make yourself happy then you can make others happy appreciate who you are let time heal then maybe you can be friends when you both can get rid of your attachments to each other then true friendship can blossom when you both want the other to be truly happy and whats best for each other it just takes time
hello DD, so i am proud of u, u did the nxt step, breaking the relationship i am not saying i am happy about it, but i think it is for both of ur sake and to know ur differences, which u know it is not going anywhere? my question is did u end up in a nice way? even though u r the one who broke the relationship, u shuldn't feel bad on his account. He needs to see the clear picture for himself, what is going on in ur relationship, not just being there for each other, argue then make up, does not make the relationship work. both of u need to be mature being involve, commitment is a big words to understand, how commited are u? u probably are? but how about him? it takes 2 to tango and if u don't have that strong partner the dance wouldn't be look so graceful and wonderful as it should be. you cannot tell that a person with, will be ur soulmate, the feeling that u had at first would probably love at first sight, that only works in the first sight, if u know what i mean, the more u spend time together the more u get to know each other, and u think he is the one, now u finally find out that u had differences. Yes! it is possible for both of u to be friends again, just for now give each other some space, stop hovering on him don't call him, e-mail, or even tex him, u need to learn how to let go! letting go is not an easy task but if u focus u will be alright and u will find it in ur heart that this is the first chapter in ur life and it has to end for now. divert ur attention into something make ur mind occupied. Do somthing that u enjoy, if u enjoy working out, then go for it, read, or just be with the people u enjoy the most except him i mean, have fun. Let go! that all there is to it...i hope i can help. and u will be fine...just be positve, here is my final thought for u, that had been share with me too, now i am sharing it with u....'; Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what u could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as u can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high spirit to be cumbered with old nonsense';... Good luck....and take care..Any advice on how to move on frm a relationship wit the love of your life?
i hope you're proud of yourself.....ther's no way you can go on just being friends....god women are all the same
You should not be friends with him right away. It is not healthy. You just have to give it time to get over him and maybe after that you can consider being friends. Give it time. Time heals everything.
friends will depend on how you both feel,if it wasn't a mutual break-up he may be resentful.leave it for a while to calm down and don't rush into another relationship.don't let some other poor bloke be the rebound but enjoy your new found freedom,if it was meant to be maybe you will meet again in the future
You need time and space, when the dust settles you may well be freinds, but not straight away, it will be harder for him if you are a friend while he is still getting over you.. And vice versa. Time will heal this..
you cant be friends right away you need space to become yourself first learn how to make yourself happy then you can make others happy appreciate who you are let time heal then maybe you can be friends when you both can get rid of your attachments to each other then true friendship can blossom when you both want the other to be truly happy and whats best for each other it just takes time
Does anyone remember a song where this deep voiced guy doesn't sing, but offers advice for a happy life?
it was popular pop/soft rock back in the '90's. i can almost hear it, but i can't remember the title to save my life. plz help me!!Does anyone remember a song where this deep voiced guy doesn't sing, but offers advice for a happy life?
You may be thinking of 'Desiderata' which came out in 1971, not the 1990s, under the Warner Bros. label. Don't know where to find a copy of it today. It was performed by Les Crane, produced by Fred Werner and written by Max Ehrmann.
National Lampoon also did a parody of it called 'Deteriorata' which was released in 1992. The parody appears on 'Dr. Demento's 30th Aniversary Collection,' Rhino Records.
Jeff Morris maintains a website, http://dmdb.org/lyrics/deteriorata.html, listing the lyrics and history of both pieces.Does anyone remember a song where this deep voiced guy doesn't sing, but offers advice for a happy life?
i dont know the answer but if you find it out plz let me know because I have been trying to find it for years now. I love that song. cmdrumke@yahoo.com
Everybody's Free (To Wear Sunscreen) - Baz Luhrmann
Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of 鈥?7
Wear Sunscreen
If I could offer you only one tip for the future,
sunscreen would be it.
The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists,
whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience
I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth, oh nevermind,
you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded.
But trust me, in 20 years you鈥檒l look back at photos of yourself
and recall in a way you can鈥檛 grasp now, how much possibility lay before you
and how fabulous you really looked,
you are not as fat as you imagine.
Don鈥檛 worry about the future, or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum.
The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing everyday that scares you
Sing
Don鈥檛 be reckless with other people鈥檚 hearts,
don鈥檛 put up with people who are reckless with yours.
Floss
Don鈥檛 waste your time on jealousy, sometimes you鈥檙e ahead, sometimes you鈥檙e behind,
the race is long, and in the end, it鈥檚 only with yourself.
Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults,
if you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.
Stretch
Don鈥檛 feel guilty if you don鈥檛 know what you want to do with your life,
the most interesting people I know didn鈥檛 know at 22
what they wanted to do with their lives,
some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don鈥檛.
Get plenty of calcium.
Be kind to your knees, you鈥檒l miss them when they鈥檙e gone.
Maybe you鈥檒l marry, maybe you won鈥檛, maybe you鈥檒l have children, maybe you won鈥檛,
Maybe you鈥檒l divorce at 40,
Maybe you鈥檒l dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary
What ever you do, don鈥檛 congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either
Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else鈥檚.
Enjoy your body, use it every way you can, don鈥檛 be afraid of it,
or what other people think of it, it鈥檚 the greatest instrument you鈥檒l ever own
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.
Read the directions, even if you don鈥檛 follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.
Brother and sister together we'll make it through
Someday a spirit will take you and guide you there
I know you've been hurtin, but I've been waitin' to be there for you
And I'll be there just helping you out whenever I can
Get to know your parents, you never know when they鈥檒l be gone for good.
Be nice to your siblings, they are the best link to your past
and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but for the precious few you should hold on.
Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle because the older you get,
the more you need the people you knew when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard,
Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.
Travel.
Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will philander,
you too will get old, and when you do you鈥檒l fantasize that when you were young
prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.
Respect your elders.
Don鈥檛 expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund,
Maybe you have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one might run out.
Don鈥檛 mess too much with your hair, or by the time you're 40, it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it.
Advice is a form of nostalgia,
dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off,
painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it鈥檚 worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen
Brother and sister together we'll make it through
Someday a spirit will take you and guide you there
I know you've been hurtin, but I've been waitin' to be there for you
And I'll be there just helping you out whenever I can
Everybody's free oh yeah
Everybody's free oh yeah
is this it(i wrote this all down i know my song)
title:Don't worry be happy.
by:Bobby McFerrin(not Bob Marley)
lyrics:
Here's a little song I wrote
You might want to sing it note for note
Don't worry, be happy.
In every life we have some trouble
But when you worry you make it double
Don't worry, be happy.
Don't worry, be happy now.
(Chorus)
Don't worry, be happy. Don't worry, be happy.
Don't worry, be happy. Don't worry, be happy.
Ain't got no place to lay your head
Somebody came and took your bed
Don't worry, be happy.
The landlord say your rent is late
He may have to litigate
Don't worry, be happy.
(Chorus)
(Look at me -- I'm happy. Don't worry, be happy.
Here I give you my phone number. When you worry, call me,
I make you happy. Don't worry, be happy.)
Ain't got no cash, ain't got no style
Ain't got no gal to make you smile
Don't worry, be happy.
'Cause when you worry your face will frown
And that will bring everybody down
Don't worry, be happy.
(Chorus)
(Don't worry, don't worry, don't do it.
Be happy. Put a smile on your face.
Don't bring everybody down.
Don't worry. It will soon pass, whatever it is.
Don't worry, be happy.
I'm not worried, I'm happy...)
Bobby McFerrin-Be Happy
';Everybody's free (to wear sunscreen)'; by Baz Luhrmann.
';Everybody's Free (to wear sunscreen)'; by Baz Luhrmann
That was a song where all a dude did was talk and it was in the 90's. ';but trust me on the sunscreen'; was the ending.
EDIT: Just found the lyrics:
Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of '97... wear sunscreen.
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be IT.
The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience.
I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded. But trust me, in 20 years you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked.
You are NOT as fat as you imagine.
Don't worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing every day that scares you.
Sing.
Don't be reckless with other people's hearts, don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.
Floss.
Don't waste your time on jealousy; sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long, and in the end, it's only with yourself.
Remember compliments you receive, forget the insults; if you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.
Stretch.
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don't.
Get plenty of calcium.
Be kind to your knees, you'll miss them when they're gone.
Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't, maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't, maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself, either. Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else's. Enjoy your body, use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it, or what other people think of it, it's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.
Dance. Even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.
Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.
Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.
Get to know your parents, you never know when they'll be gone for good.
Be nice to your siblings; they are your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but for the precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography in lifestyle because the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard; live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.
Travel.
Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will philander, you too will get old, and when you do you'll fantasize that when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.
Respect your elders.
Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one might run out.
Don't mess too much with your hair, or by the time you're 40, it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen.
barry white? orsen wells? bubba fogg.
';Dont Worry Be Happy'; -------By, Bobby McPheron Spellin of name may be wrong. Hope this is what you r looking for
yes i remember but can't think of who it is.
';Don't Worry, Be Happy';?
baz luhrmann-Everybody's free(to wear sunscreen)
http://www.lyricscrawler.com/song/3953.h鈥?/a>
I can't decide if you are referring to ';Don't Worry, Be Happy'; by Bobby McFerring or ';Sunscreen'; by Baz Luhrmann. The former is more sing-songy so probably the latter.cream tones
You may be thinking of 'Desiderata' which came out in 1971, not the 1990s, under the Warner Bros. label. Don't know where to find a copy of it today. It was performed by Les Crane, produced by Fred Werner and written by Max Ehrmann.
National Lampoon also did a parody of it called 'Deteriorata' which was released in 1992. The parody appears on 'Dr. Demento's 30th Aniversary Collection,' Rhino Records.
Jeff Morris maintains a website, http://dmdb.org/lyrics/deteriorata.html, listing the lyrics and history of both pieces.Does anyone remember a song where this deep voiced guy doesn't sing, but offers advice for a happy life?
i dont know the answer but if you find it out plz let me know because I have been trying to find it for years now. I love that song. cmdrumke@yahoo.com
Everybody's Free (To Wear Sunscreen) - Baz Luhrmann
Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of 鈥?7
Wear Sunscreen
If I could offer you only one tip for the future,
sunscreen would be it.
The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists,
whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience
I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth, oh nevermind,
you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded.
But trust me, in 20 years you鈥檒l look back at photos of yourself
and recall in a way you can鈥檛 grasp now, how much possibility lay before you
and how fabulous you really looked,
you are not as fat as you imagine.
Don鈥檛 worry about the future, or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum.
The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing everyday that scares you
Sing
Don鈥檛 be reckless with other people鈥檚 hearts,
don鈥檛 put up with people who are reckless with yours.
Floss
Don鈥檛 waste your time on jealousy, sometimes you鈥檙e ahead, sometimes you鈥檙e behind,
the race is long, and in the end, it鈥檚 only with yourself.
Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults,
if you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.
Stretch
Don鈥檛 feel guilty if you don鈥檛 know what you want to do with your life,
the most interesting people I know didn鈥檛 know at 22
what they wanted to do with their lives,
some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don鈥檛.
Get plenty of calcium.
Be kind to your knees, you鈥檒l miss them when they鈥檙e gone.
Maybe you鈥檒l marry, maybe you won鈥檛, maybe you鈥檒l have children, maybe you won鈥檛,
Maybe you鈥檒l divorce at 40,
Maybe you鈥檒l dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary
What ever you do, don鈥檛 congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either
Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else鈥檚.
Enjoy your body, use it every way you can, don鈥檛 be afraid of it,
or what other people think of it, it鈥檚 the greatest instrument you鈥檒l ever own
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.
Read the directions, even if you don鈥檛 follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.
Brother and sister together we'll make it through
Someday a spirit will take you and guide you there
I know you've been hurtin, but I've been waitin' to be there for you
And I'll be there just helping you out whenever I can
Get to know your parents, you never know when they鈥檒l be gone for good.
Be nice to your siblings, they are the best link to your past
and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but for the precious few you should hold on.
Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle because the older you get,
the more you need the people you knew when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard,
Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.
Travel.
Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will philander,
you too will get old, and when you do you鈥檒l fantasize that when you were young
prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.
Respect your elders.
Don鈥檛 expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund,
Maybe you have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one might run out.
Don鈥檛 mess too much with your hair, or by the time you're 40, it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it.
Advice is a form of nostalgia,
dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off,
painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it鈥檚 worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen
Brother and sister together we'll make it through
Someday a spirit will take you and guide you there
I know you've been hurtin, but I've been waitin' to be there for you
And I'll be there just helping you out whenever I can
Everybody's free oh yeah
Everybody's free oh yeah
is this it(i wrote this all down i know my song)
title:Don't worry be happy.
by:Bobby McFerrin(not Bob Marley)
lyrics:
Here's a little song I wrote
You might want to sing it note for note
Don't worry, be happy.
In every life we have some trouble
But when you worry you make it double
Don't worry, be happy.
Don't worry, be happy now.
(Chorus)
Don't worry, be happy. Don't worry, be happy.
Don't worry, be happy. Don't worry, be happy.
Ain't got no place to lay your head
Somebody came and took your bed
Don't worry, be happy.
The landlord say your rent is late
He may have to litigate
Don't worry, be happy.
(Chorus)
(Look at me -- I'm happy. Don't worry, be happy.
Here I give you my phone number. When you worry, call me,
I make you happy. Don't worry, be happy.)
Ain't got no cash, ain't got no style
Ain't got no gal to make you smile
Don't worry, be happy.
'Cause when you worry your face will frown
And that will bring everybody down
Don't worry, be happy.
(Chorus)
(Don't worry, don't worry, don't do it.
Be happy. Put a smile on your face.
Don't bring everybody down.
Don't worry. It will soon pass, whatever it is.
Don't worry, be happy.
I'm not worried, I'm happy...)
Bobby McFerrin-Be Happy
';Everybody's free (to wear sunscreen)'; by Baz Luhrmann.
';Everybody's Free (to wear sunscreen)'; by Baz Luhrmann
That was a song where all a dude did was talk and it was in the 90's. ';but trust me on the sunscreen'; was the ending.
EDIT: Just found the lyrics:
Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of '97... wear sunscreen.
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be IT.
The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience.
I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded. But trust me, in 20 years you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked.
You are NOT as fat as you imagine.
Don't worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing every day that scares you.
Sing.
Don't be reckless with other people's hearts, don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.
Floss.
Don't waste your time on jealousy; sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long, and in the end, it's only with yourself.
Remember compliments you receive, forget the insults; if you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.
Stretch.
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don't.
Get plenty of calcium.
Be kind to your knees, you'll miss them when they're gone.
Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't, maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't, maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself, either. Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else's. Enjoy your body, use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it, or what other people think of it, it's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.
Dance. Even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.
Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.
Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.
Get to know your parents, you never know when they'll be gone for good.
Be nice to your siblings; they are your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but for the precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography in lifestyle because the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard; live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.
Travel.
Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will philander, you too will get old, and when you do you'll fantasize that when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.
Respect your elders.
Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one might run out.
Don't mess too much with your hair, or by the time you're 40, it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen.
barry white? orsen wells? bubba fogg.
';Dont Worry Be Happy'; -------By, Bobby McPheron Spellin of name may be wrong. Hope this is what you r looking for
yes i remember but can't think of who it is.
';Don't Worry, Be Happy';?
baz luhrmann-Everybody's free(to wear sunscreen)
http://www.lyricscrawler.com/song/3953.h鈥?/a>
I can't decide if you are referring to ';Don't Worry, Be Happy'; by Bobby McFerring or ';Sunscreen'; by Baz Luhrmann. The former is more sing-songy so probably the latter.
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