I am a 28 year old single mother of a three and a half year old boy. When I conceived, I was not living the best lifestyle, when I found out I was pregnant I couldn't contact my son's father, I am still trying through private detectives and my own searches. He did not know I was pregnant before we lost touch. When this happened, I was devestated because I did not know my father and wanted that family unit life of a mother father and child(children) living together. I was so lost I started reading the Holy Bible, and thank you Holy God, I found out the truth about Holy Jesus Christ, the son of Holy God. I have since changed my life, I started going back to college to get my education degree to teach at a religious school (if it is wanted by Holy God) and I have been trying to raise my son correctly by church and letting him know about the good word. I have been living with my mother since I found out I was pregnant (lost job when boss found out) and have been going to schoolChristians, please help me with advice on my personal life?
Hi Melisa,
It's wonderful that you answered the call that God sent you, and have studied and worship Christ. It was a plan of God, that you have turned your life to Him, and that you trust Him. Just as God, and Christ have let you see the truth, they will be there for you, to guide you in your life. You are on the right path, so allow God, thru prayers to Christ, to see and to trust what you should do. He will never fail you. He has given you the Holy Spirit, and that is the comfortor, and will guid you in all things. God Bless you,.Christians, please help me with advice on my personal life?
Melissa,,
I want to commend you for loving, caring for and teaching your son about His Redeemer Jesus Christ. God took what Satan meant to ruin you and turned it into a blessing. That precious little boy.
You are attending college. You are still trying to reach your son's father. Keep it up.
Living with you mom sounds like a great idea, if it is OK with her. She can help with your little one. Nothing wrong with that.
If you really need the money then, go to work. If not then stay home with your child as much as possible. However, you are so young and I hope that you are attending a church group that gives you support and you are able to give support to some others in the same situation that you are in. After all, that is what the church is for.
You are a blessing to your little boy and your Lord. I pray that you will either find the child's father or that you will meet some good man that will be a good father to him. God bless you.
Your friend,
Charlotte
IT seem to me that YOU are looking for Human Validation about SOMETHING you do not ';FEEL IS EXACTLY RIGHT?';
YOU never stated what YOUR Mother had to say about the Situation? ? ?
(James 1:5-to-8) But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and with no reproach, and it shall be given to him.
(Jas 1:6) But let him ask in faith, doubting nothing. For he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, driven by the wind and tossed.
(Jas 1:7) For do not let that man think that he shall receive anything from the Lord;
(Jas 1:8) he is a double-minded man, not dependable in all his ways.
YOU.....need to see the WISDOM from Christ in His Word !
AND.....
(Job 2:9) And his wife said to him, Do you still hold to your integrity? Curse God and die!
(Job 2:10) But he said to her, You speak as one of the foolish ones speak. What? Shall we receive good at the hand of God, and shall we not receive evil? In all this Job did not sin with his lips.
Thanks, RR
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This is the wrong place for you to expose your life for it will be trodden on.
Find someone you you can confide in who is older and wiser and CAN keep your information just between you two.
If you are unable to find this someone then mail me.
Taking help is hard for some people to do. But God can bless us through people too. Sometimes we learn even more when He does it this way because we lose a little bit of our pride (which is a good thing ;) ). It's not a problem to stay with your mother as long as she wants you to stay. Accept the help, in the long run, it is good stewardship of your time as an education will likely provide a higher paying and more stable career. Thank God for the provision and do your best in school.
Stay with your mother, complete the 2 years and also raise your child.
Once you complete, and then decide.
First ask your mother of your intention and if she asks you to stay do so.
You should respect your mother.
Forget about the child's father and get on with your life, you made a mistake but don't let it happen again.
Rely on the Lord and he will give you the desire of your heart.
God bless
Sweety, I'm not sure what advice you want. I have none for you. Just keep on and trust in God.
There is no problem with living with your mother if she has no problem with it. Sounds to me like you took a potential devastating situation and gave it to God. With His love and light, He has given you a new road to walk and you are traveling well. All you need to do now is memorize Romans 8:1...
';There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.';
You are walking in the Spirit, now do not let the enemy condemn you.
One of the wonderful things about being set free in Christ is that we have great freedom to do things like you are doing. God is a God of goodness and love. If what you are doing is fine with all involved I would keep at it. God will lead you and He will shut the door if you are going the wrong way. Keep your eyes open for a good husband and father and pray for God to lead you to him.
Your 13 year old sister is engaged?
That concerns me a bit. But if your mother's home is stable and she's willing to have you stay, you have a better chance of providing for you and your baby with an education. And your baby is probably better in your mom's care at home than in a daycare.
Of course, if your mom's home isn't stable, I'd suggest you go to your school's counseling office and see if they can help you find employment that you can take classes around - and some colleges have daycare.
I see nothing wrong with staying with your mother while you are in school as long as she's willing to have you there. Seems to me that's your best bet at this point.
Hello.
Listen, If you cannot tell (Hear) What GOD Almighty is saying to you, then do the Best You Can Using Common Sense and Logic and Asking your Family and Friends, so on and so on.
See?
First of all praise God for you seeking and seeing the truth that our saviour died for the forgiveness of your sins. You raising your son in that truth is the most important thing. If your mom has no objections to you being there and bettering your life and you aren't a burden why should anyone else. Keep God first before anything else and keep your child close in his love and you will be ok. You sound like you are on the right track. If you need someone to talk to feel free to contact me anytime. You will need all the moral support that you can get from fellowship with other Christians. God bless.
allow yourself to futher develop a relationship with the LORD, he will give you all the guidance you will ever need.If you put your full trust in him and truly believe,he will work everything to devine perfection.
You may have concerns about what to do. But look toward the future of you and your son. If your mother doesn't mind you being there. Then you do what is best for both of you. I commend your strength and determination. I pray that God Bless you and your son. Good luck
It is really difficult to offer advice as each person views these matters slightly differently. If at all possible it would be lovely to bring up your children full time so that you can help shape their view on life for the better. But if your mother can help, you will not be having vastly different influences affecting your child.
But these days you just have to do the best you can within the guidelines of Scripture.
May your faith strengthen you in your life ahead.
I'm not a Christian, but two thoughts:
';lost job when boss found out (you were pregnant)'; - that sounds illegal. You have rights; never forget that.
Don't give up on school - it's an investment in your and your child's future. A smart, high-dividend investment. NEVER sell your self short. Go get what's yours.
A good education is the most important thing for you and your child. Get an education in a career that you will enjoy, and that will earn you a decent income to take care of yourself and your son. Explain your plans to your mother. I'm sure she will understand and allow you to stay until you finish your education.
It seems you are on the right track.
Stay home with your mom until you can venture on your own. Pray for Mr. Right to come into your life who will love you %26amp; your baby. If that would be the daddy of your child or not.
Remember to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. Thank Jesus that He is a father for your baby also.
There is therefor now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit for those in Christ Jesus has set you free, from the law of sin %26amp; death. There is therefor now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.
http://www.fathersloveletter.com
Also, my Church has a ministry that helps single mothers.
http://www.riveroflifefellowship.org
My 36 year old son lives with me as does his son and they are bring home a friend to live with me too. good grief. God wants us to help each other and take care of each other but not to exploit each other. Live there and then when you are able take care of your mom and get educated and think and study the things of god and use your own brain to figure those things out. don't just go by what others tell you
Don't leave school until you have your qualifications. Thank God that you have your mother to support you while you get your life back on to a good track. God bless you.
IF YOUR MOTHER SAYS ITS OK FOR YOU TO STAY LIVING WITH HER THEN DO IT,JUST BE SURE TO HELP HER AROUND THE HOUSE.I REALLY BELIEVE YOU NEED TO CONTINUE GOING TO COLLEGE.YOU WANT TO MAKE A GOOD LIFE FOR YOU AND YOUR SON AND IM SO GLAD TO HERE YOU FOUND JESUS AND THAT YOUR TEACHING YOUR CHILD.HEY WHEN YOUR A CHILD OF THE KINGJESUS NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE.HE WILL HELP YOU WITH EVERY AREA OF YOUR LIFE AND WHO KNOWS MAYBE YOU WILL FIND THE BABY'S DAD GOD BLESS YOU
So you read a book and assume it is true?
READ THE TORAH.
At least it is more truthful then the fake christian Bible.
You are so gullable.
learn to summarize better
Monday, August 23, 2010
I want to suicide.. any advice, good quotes on life that might help me??
I been going through hell since the day I was born..more specifically the past few years... i've done some bad things and now I have probation for (2) years im on house arrest for the next 5 months.... im only 19 and i feel like im way older then that...all this stuff is making me feel like a whole different person like im stuck in someones head..to the point i dont wana live..any advice??I want to suicide.. any advice, good quotes on life that might help me??
well lets compair life storys and than u can tell me why u whould be so selfish to do that to ur mom%26amp; dad why u would want to leave a legacy like that behind, well i was born in rule georgia in 1975 everyone in my life was crazy my mom is bipolar back than they didnot know what it was just she was crazy i took from my mom by the state and placed in a foster home sleeping in a house full of strangers treated like sh.........t for 7 years then they gave me and my brother back to my mom she was a ho. a diffrent dad every few months,moved the better part of my life every time i got friends we had to move well i was raped when i was 13 by one of my step dads then i got sent to live with my dads new wife and her 5 kids untill i was 18 then i moved out got married and had 2 kids didnot finish school working a mini mart job at 515 a hour trying to feed 2 babies so i was 24 than i went to school got a ged and a college degree my x husband cheeted on mewith two girls while i was battleing cancer in 1998 so i left him took the kids moved to florida he hires a hit man to kill me after running for my life he suceeds in winning a court case takeing kids away from so i beat him up i went to jail for 6 month and 5 years probation for assalt and he still has my kids
now do you think you have a bad life you dont, find god he will help call a greef counsler somebody dont end it all its not worth it. your better than that.I want to suicide.. any advice, good quotes on life that might help me??
Life is alot better with me in it! :D
lol nah jp.
Joking around about some of the dumb **** you do makes it less hard on yourself for doing it.
Think of all the fun things life can still give you. You only go one time around in life so make it worth while.
I know how you feel, I hate myself for the stupid **** I say or do at times but there all lessons for me. Now I know to never make fun of a group of gangsters and throw things at them when your with your one friend on a rooftop. not really smart huh?... Barely got away, got punched though. I consider myself being just barely lucky at dangerous times.
Lol not a good example but I hope it made you laugh.
Death, Is just an easy way out. It takes someone who is really strong to live through all the tough times. You are strong, keep going and you'll see the reward in the end.
“Suicide is not chosen; it happens
when pain exceeds
resources for coping with pain.”
That’s all it’s about. You are not a bad person, or crazy, or weak, or flawed, because you feel suicidal. It doesn’t even mean that you really want to die - it only means that you have more pain than you can cope with right now. If I start piling weights on your shoulders, you will eventually collapse if I add enough weights... no matter how much you want to remain standing. Willpower has nothing to do with it. Of course you would cheer yourself up, if you could.Hope i helped at all.
PRAY AND ASK FOR FORGIVENESS AND ASK GOD TO FORGIVE YOU FOR WHAT YOU HAVE DONE.... THAT ALONE WILL TAKE A LOT OF STRESS AND PRESSURE OFF OF YOUR SHOULDERS. SUICIDE IS NOT THE WAY... IT WONT ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING! YOU ARE ONLY 19, YOU STILL HAVE THE WHOLE WORLD TO EXPERIANCE, PLACES TO GO, PEOPLE TO SEE, THINGS TO DO!!! YOU STILL HAVENT FOUND WHAT HAPPINESS!! HOW COULD YOU WANT TO DIE? THERE IS TO MUCH IN THIS WOULD THAT YOU DONT KNOW AND HAVNT EXPERIANCED.... WHAT WOULD HAVE BEEN THE POINT OF LIFE FOR YOU?? DONT YOU KNOW YOU ARE HERE FOR A REASON??? ITS UP TO YOU TO FIND IT......BUT YOU SHOULD NEVER QUIT BECAUSE THE REWARD IS MUCH GREATER WHEN YOU PLAY TILL THE END!!! GOD BLESS AND BEST WISHES!
EMO! NO, SERIOUSLY, DUDE, JUST STOP DOIGN STUPID ****, MAN, AND REMEMERB ALWASY, JESUS LOVES YOU....
hang on there! i know alot of people dont believe in God but i do and He helped me when i was having thoughts about ending my life... i prayed and became alot closer to Him and now im the happiest ive ever been before, hang on theres more to life than this,
ultimatly the choice is totally yours im just telling you how i got through my hard times in life :)
Good luck
you can't be serious,dude. If you are just remember the teens are the hardest years to get through. Your life will get better. Suicide is still murder even if you do it to yourself. Doing that will not send you to a better place when you die. Have faith in God.Even though I do not know you,man, I will pray for you.
well if your on yuor computer telling people ur personal thoughts than u couldn't be too serious about doing it. What u really want and need is someone to talk to. So find a support group of family, friends, online friends, church or were ever. Trust me i'v been there and everybody has lots of issues some 10xs worst than urs ur only 19 life will get even harder u just got to learn the healthy way to deal with it
i had the same feeling as yours.. but instead of taking away what seems to be my worthless life, im just using it to bring hope to other people by serving those who are most in need.. and surprisingly, hope also developed in me.. i want to share this song with you.. the title is ';take me out of the dark';..
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Just what is it in me?
Sometimes I just don't know
What keeps me in your love
Why you never let me go
And though you're in me now
I fall and hurt you still
My Lord please show me how
To know just how you feel
You have forgiven me
Too many times it seems
I feel I'm not what you might call
A worthy Christian after all
And though I love you so
Temptation finds it's way to me
Teach me to trust in You
With all of my heart
To lean not on my own understanding
Cause I just forget
You won't give me what I can't bear
Take me out of the dark my Lord
I don't want to be there, noh, noh
You never left my side
You gave Your hand to me
To hold You, oh Jesus
I'm no longer in the cold
And yet I leave You there
When I feel satisfied
I'd like to thank You everyday
Not only when I feel this way
I've never known a man who'd give His life for sinners like me
And yet because He loves us so
He’s promised us eternity
And we can have the promise
And be His if have faith and
Just believe..
Teach me to trust in You
With all of my heart
To lean not on my own understanding
Cause I just forget
You won't give me what I can't bear
Take me out of the dark my Lord
Cause I don't want to be alone
Take me out of the dark my Lord
I don’t wanna be there, noh.. noh
My Lord
Teach me to trust in You
With all of my heart
To lean not on my own understanding
Cause I just forget
You won’t give me what I can't bear
Take me out of the dark My Lord
Cause I don't want to be alone
I don’t wanna be there, no more
dont kill yourself
life is a lot better then you think it is
are you wanting suggestions or ideas on how to commit suicide?
Or
nice things to think of ??
If you just give yourself enough time to realize that some of the dumb things you might have done are really just lessons in life;) Everyone makes mistakes.
Don't be so hard on yourself
you seem like your own worse enemy right now!
Just be patient, time will heal most things that come your way
Get it together. Focus on getting straight and putting all that mess behind you once its over and starting anew. See the beauty in everything around you and don't forget, someone has it worse than you. Be thankful...and try not to make bad decisions anymore..
Seek professional advise and help.
Obviously, everyone will tell you not to commit suicide, but
let me tell you from experience...that the drugs available from
a psychoanalyst or psychiatrist can make a huge difference, along with their counseling.
Then, years later you'll be like...';Man, I remember when those days'; as if you had turned a big corner.
dont give up on life! no matter where you are in life, you are important. sure your life might be crappy but think of how crappy life is for poor people in africa. your life is luxury compared to them. if no one else, God loves you and I'm praying for you.
dont do it trust me i know what its like
sorry about all the stuff your going through i've been there myself but i think you'll find that is just life. i'm 24 and things aren't getting to much better for me (i will be living out of my car next week). There isn't really to much advice i can give u but suicide isn't the answer. There is no reason to commit suicide. I've thought about suicide alslo but i'm just living everday accepting that i've already commited suicide so i'm going to do whatever i feel like doing. if i don't want to work, then i don't work, if i want to go travel, then i go travel, if i want to live in my car, then i live in my car......get the pic? Just do what u want but don't put your life in danger and don't get in anymore trouble either, that won't help anything. good luck.
if you ever wanna talk email me at comingundone2684@yahoo.com
People love you, get help ASAP, you will be so glad later. There are people dying right now that want nothing more than to live and you are throwing your own life away?! just think about after the 2 years are up how great your life could be- dont you want to fall in love, have kids, be happy, be able to influence others?
Listen.. I/m me. I will seriously talk to you for as long as you need. Life is too precious for us to waste. Think of the people in your life that would miss you.. I believe that we suffer massively on this Earth, but it is a test. A test to see how much good we can do, despite all of the bad thing we must endure.
NoMtDew4You is my screename. Don't hesitate to talk.
Also, you can get ahold of me on my myspace.
www.myspace.com/xashxleyx
i know what its like
dont do it there's more to live this is just a stage your
going through
first of all i know this sounds mean but if your 19 you shouldn't be commiting crimes and being on house arrest in the first place. and i don't know what happened but in all likiliness it's probably a crime you have commited. but your still young and you still have a life ahead of you and things are rough now. but wait, they'll get better.
Look, if you've done enough things to earn that, just MAYBE think about what you're doing.
Think positive. Show them that you can be a good kid.
If you believe in heaven you won't go to it by killing yourself.
One of the commandments are don't kill anyone including yourself.
I have the same feelings, but one day my friend gave me this proverb and it pretty much saved my life I guess you could say.
On a road one cold snowy day, a young boy rushed and attached an old man who just happened to be walking there. The old man defended himself perfectly against the young boy’s amateur attack. “Why did you attack me?” The old man asked as the boy stood up and readied himself to attack again. “I need food and money. This is the reason why.” The boy responded. “Do I look as though I have food or money?” The old man inquired. “No.” The boy answered narrowing his eyes then sighing. It’s just that I have not had any food for several weeks now. Both of my parents are dead and I now longer know where the rest of my family is.” The old man sighed at the boy. “Well it is a good thing you attacked me and now someone else boy. I will teach you how to get food and money, how to live and survive in this cruel world of bastards. Now come along.”
I was once told that death was just running away from life. Running away from the things we fear, the things that bother us to no end. Now I know that death is not an option until I’ve lived my life to the fullest extent. – K.F.
Also, here's a poem that I like.
Slowly Fading Away…
Day after day
Life goes on
There’s no bright light
No angels in sight
As life slowly fades away
Day after dreary day.
No feeling of peace
No happy release.
No trusted loved ones to lead the way
In your time of hopelessness
You’re alone.
Fear soon overtakes
Panic moves in its wake.
My God what have I done?
A struggle to live
But death will not give.
All but the brain is now numb.
I start to feel the gentle brush of the angel of death’s wings take me away
Help arrives, but it’s too late
Hope is gone
i dont have any good quotes, but you shouldn't do it. you'll regret it and then you cant go back and fix it. good things are supposed to come out of bad things. im sure something good will happen to you. hope this helps :)
If you want you can e-mail me anytime you need someone to talk to adnil1224@sbcglobal.net. It's only 5 months of house arrest, they'll go by fast. By the time you know it, you'll be able to go as you please. Then you'll be saying to yourself, ';what was I thinking.'; Many other people have it bad, as in health issues they couldn't prevent. The things your in were because of the decisions you made...that could have been prevented. I had my own problems and felt the same way, but I'm slowly trying to recover. Don't worry, you'll be fine!!! = )
well lets compair life storys and than u can tell me why u whould be so selfish to do that to ur mom%26amp; dad why u would want to leave a legacy like that behind, well i was born in rule georgia in 1975 everyone in my life was crazy my mom is bipolar back than they didnot know what it was just she was crazy i took from my mom by the state and placed in a foster home sleeping in a house full of strangers treated like sh.........t for 7 years then they gave me and my brother back to my mom she was a ho. a diffrent dad every few months,moved the better part of my life every time i got friends we had to move well i was raped when i was 13 by one of my step dads then i got sent to live with my dads new wife and her 5 kids untill i was 18 then i moved out got married and had 2 kids didnot finish school working a mini mart job at 515 a hour trying to feed 2 babies so i was 24 than i went to school got a ged and a college degree my x husband cheeted on mewith two girls while i was battleing cancer in 1998 so i left him took the kids moved to florida he hires a hit man to kill me after running for my life he suceeds in winning a court case takeing kids away from so i beat him up i went to jail for 6 month and 5 years probation for assalt and he still has my kids
now do you think you have a bad life you dont, find god he will help call a greef counsler somebody dont end it all its not worth it. your better than that.I want to suicide.. any advice, good quotes on life that might help me??
Life is alot better with me in it! :D
lol nah jp.
Joking around about some of the dumb **** you do makes it less hard on yourself for doing it.
Think of all the fun things life can still give you. You only go one time around in life so make it worth while.
I know how you feel, I hate myself for the stupid **** I say or do at times but there all lessons for me. Now I know to never make fun of a group of gangsters and throw things at them when your with your one friend on a rooftop. not really smart huh?... Barely got away, got punched though. I consider myself being just barely lucky at dangerous times.
Lol not a good example but I hope it made you laugh.
Death, Is just an easy way out. It takes someone who is really strong to live through all the tough times. You are strong, keep going and you'll see the reward in the end.
“Suicide is not chosen; it happens
when pain exceeds
resources for coping with pain.”
That’s all it’s about. You are not a bad person, or crazy, or weak, or flawed, because you feel suicidal. It doesn’t even mean that you really want to die - it only means that you have more pain than you can cope with right now. If I start piling weights on your shoulders, you will eventually collapse if I add enough weights... no matter how much you want to remain standing. Willpower has nothing to do with it. Of course you would cheer yourself up, if you could.Hope i helped at all.
PRAY AND ASK FOR FORGIVENESS AND ASK GOD TO FORGIVE YOU FOR WHAT YOU HAVE DONE.... THAT ALONE WILL TAKE A LOT OF STRESS AND PRESSURE OFF OF YOUR SHOULDERS. SUICIDE IS NOT THE WAY... IT WONT ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING! YOU ARE ONLY 19, YOU STILL HAVE THE WHOLE WORLD TO EXPERIANCE, PLACES TO GO, PEOPLE TO SEE, THINGS TO DO!!! YOU STILL HAVENT FOUND WHAT HAPPINESS!! HOW COULD YOU WANT TO DIE? THERE IS TO MUCH IN THIS WOULD THAT YOU DONT KNOW AND HAVNT EXPERIANCED.... WHAT WOULD HAVE BEEN THE POINT OF LIFE FOR YOU?? DONT YOU KNOW YOU ARE HERE FOR A REASON??? ITS UP TO YOU TO FIND IT......BUT YOU SHOULD NEVER QUIT BECAUSE THE REWARD IS MUCH GREATER WHEN YOU PLAY TILL THE END!!! GOD BLESS AND BEST WISHES!
EMO! NO, SERIOUSLY, DUDE, JUST STOP DOIGN STUPID ****, MAN, AND REMEMERB ALWASY, JESUS LOVES YOU....
hang on there! i know alot of people dont believe in God but i do and He helped me when i was having thoughts about ending my life... i prayed and became alot closer to Him and now im the happiest ive ever been before, hang on theres more to life than this,
ultimatly the choice is totally yours im just telling you how i got through my hard times in life :)
Good luck
you can't be serious,dude. If you are just remember the teens are the hardest years to get through. Your life will get better. Suicide is still murder even if you do it to yourself. Doing that will not send you to a better place when you die. Have faith in God.Even though I do not know you,man, I will pray for you.
well if your on yuor computer telling people ur personal thoughts than u couldn't be too serious about doing it. What u really want and need is someone to talk to. So find a support group of family, friends, online friends, church or were ever. Trust me i'v been there and everybody has lots of issues some 10xs worst than urs ur only 19 life will get even harder u just got to learn the healthy way to deal with it
i had the same feeling as yours.. but instead of taking away what seems to be my worthless life, im just using it to bring hope to other people by serving those who are most in need.. and surprisingly, hope also developed in me.. i want to share this song with you.. the title is ';take me out of the dark';..
===================================
Just what is it in me?
Sometimes I just don't know
What keeps me in your love
Why you never let me go
And though you're in me now
I fall and hurt you still
My Lord please show me how
To know just how you feel
You have forgiven me
Too many times it seems
I feel I'm not what you might call
A worthy Christian after all
And though I love you so
Temptation finds it's way to me
Teach me to trust in You
With all of my heart
To lean not on my own understanding
Cause I just forget
You won't give me what I can't bear
Take me out of the dark my Lord
I don't want to be there, noh, noh
You never left my side
You gave Your hand to me
To hold You, oh Jesus
I'm no longer in the cold
And yet I leave You there
When I feel satisfied
I'd like to thank You everyday
Not only when I feel this way
I've never known a man who'd give His life for sinners like me
And yet because He loves us so
He’s promised us eternity
And we can have the promise
And be His if have faith and
Just believe..
Teach me to trust in You
With all of my heart
To lean not on my own understanding
Cause I just forget
You won't give me what I can't bear
Take me out of the dark my Lord
Cause I don't want to be alone
Take me out of the dark my Lord
I don’t wanna be there, noh.. noh
My Lord
Teach me to trust in You
With all of my heart
To lean not on my own understanding
Cause I just forget
You won’t give me what I can't bear
Take me out of the dark My Lord
Cause I don't want to be alone
I don’t wanna be there, no more
dont kill yourself
life is a lot better then you think it is
are you wanting suggestions or ideas on how to commit suicide?
Or
nice things to think of ??
If you just give yourself enough time to realize that some of the dumb things you might have done are really just lessons in life;) Everyone makes mistakes.
Don't be so hard on yourself
you seem like your own worse enemy right now!
Just be patient, time will heal most things that come your way
Get it together. Focus on getting straight and putting all that mess behind you once its over and starting anew. See the beauty in everything around you and don't forget, someone has it worse than you. Be thankful...and try not to make bad decisions anymore..
Seek professional advise and help.
Obviously, everyone will tell you not to commit suicide, but
let me tell you from experience...that the drugs available from
a psychoanalyst or psychiatrist can make a huge difference, along with their counseling.
Then, years later you'll be like...';Man, I remember when those days'; as if you had turned a big corner.
dont give up on life! no matter where you are in life, you are important. sure your life might be crappy but think of how crappy life is for poor people in africa. your life is luxury compared to them. if no one else, God loves you and I'm praying for you.
dont do it trust me i know what its like
sorry about all the stuff your going through i've been there myself but i think you'll find that is just life. i'm 24 and things aren't getting to much better for me (i will be living out of my car next week). There isn't really to much advice i can give u but suicide isn't the answer. There is no reason to commit suicide. I've thought about suicide alslo but i'm just living everday accepting that i've already commited suicide so i'm going to do whatever i feel like doing. if i don't want to work, then i don't work, if i want to go travel, then i go travel, if i want to live in my car, then i live in my car......get the pic? Just do what u want but don't put your life in danger and don't get in anymore trouble either, that won't help anything. good luck.
if you ever wanna talk email me at comingundone2684@yahoo.com
People love you, get help ASAP, you will be so glad later. There are people dying right now that want nothing more than to live and you are throwing your own life away?! just think about after the 2 years are up how great your life could be- dont you want to fall in love, have kids, be happy, be able to influence others?
Listen.. I/m me. I will seriously talk to you for as long as you need. Life is too precious for us to waste. Think of the people in your life that would miss you.. I believe that we suffer massively on this Earth, but it is a test. A test to see how much good we can do, despite all of the bad thing we must endure.
NoMtDew4You is my screename. Don't hesitate to talk.
Also, you can get ahold of me on my myspace.
www.myspace.com/xashxleyx
i know what its like
dont do it there's more to live this is just a stage your
going through
first of all i know this sounds mean but if your 19 you shouldn't be commiting crimes and being on house arrest in the first place. and i don't know what happened but in all likiliness it's probably a crime you have commited. but your still young and you still have a life ahead of you and things are rough now. but wait, they'll get better.
Look, if you've done enough things to earn that, just MAYBE think about what you're doing.
Think positive. Show them that you can be a good kid.
If you believe in heaven you won't go to it by killing yourself.
One of the commandments are don't kill anyone including yourself.
I have the same feelings, but one day my friend gave me this proverb and it pretty much saved my life I guess you could say.
On a road one cold snowy day, a young boy rushed and attached an old man who just happened to be walking there. The old man defended himself perfectly against the young boy’s amateur attack. “Why did you attack me?” The old man asked as the boy stood up and readied himself to attack again. “I need food and money. This is the reason why.” The boy responded. “Do I look as though I have food or money?” The old man inquired. “No.” The boy answered narrowing his eyes then sighing. It’s just that I have not had any food for several weeks now. Both of my parents are dead and I now longer know where the rest of my family is.” The old man sighed at the boy. “Well it is a good thing you attacked me and now someone else boy. I will teach you how to get food and money, how to live and survive in this cruel world of bastards. Now come along.”
I was once told that death was just running away from life. Running away from the things we fear, the things that bother us to no end. Now I know that death is not an option until I’ve lived my life to the fullest extent. – K.F.
Also, here's a poem that I like.
Slowly Fading Away…
Day after day
Life goes on
There’s no bright light
No angels in sight
As life slowly fades away
Day after dreary day.
No feeling of peace
No happy release.
No trusted loved ones to lead the way
In your time of hopelessness
You’re alone.
Fear soon overtakes
Panic moves in its wake.
My God what have I done?
A struggle to live
But death will not give.
All but the brain is now numb.
I start to feel the gentle brush of the angel of death’s wings take me away
Help arrives, but it’s too late
Hope is gone
i dont have any good quotes, but you shouldn't do it. you'll regret it and then you cant go back and fix it. good things are supposed to come out of bad things. im sure something good will happen to you. hope this helps :)
If you want you can e-mail me anytime you need someone to talk to adnil1224@sbcglobal.net. It's only 5 months of house arrest, they'll go by fast. By the time you know it, you'll be able to go as you please. Then you'll be saying to yourself, ';what was I thinking.'; Many other people have it bad, as in health issues they couldn't prevent. The things your in were because of the decisions you made...that could have been prevented. I had my own problems and felt the same way, but I'm slowly trying to recover. Don't worry, you'll be fine!!! = )
Can someone please give me advice on my social life?
For a while I was depressed and recently I've acquired this new motivation for life and school. I really want to live my life to the fullest, but there is one thing that is stopping me and that is my social life. I do have some friends at school but I feel like I don't relate to them and they tend to be very flaky. Like I'll try to arrange plans with them but it's just such a big deal for them to see if they aren't busy and give me a straight yes or no answer. For example, a week ago my friends said they want to go the The Haunted Hotel this weekend and I've asked them so many times if and when we are going. It should'nt take this long to get a straight answer! But I guess they have just oh so busy lives that they just can't do that! There have been a couple occassions where I showed up at a place we are supossed to meet at and they don't show up and don't even bother calling me. My mom thinks I have a social issue because this sort of thing has happened a lot and when I try to explain that I just can't find someone I can relate to and that it isn't my fault she doesn't believe me! But yes, it is the truth. I feel like I'm wasting my childhood away and that I'm going to go back to depression.Can someone please give me advice on my social life?
your freinds are toking up too much and forget they are supposed to meet you or just don't care cuz their stoned!Can someone please give me advice on my social life?
Don't give in! :(
First of all, the friends you have now sound very... I guess un-loyal. A good friendship consists of being able to communicate and looking after each other's backs. I suggest you get new friends who will more than optimistic to include you in their activities. They don't necessarily have to be popular.
find some friends you can be yourself around.....
no point in trying to please other people if all it's gonna do is make you miserable
try looking for new friends you can compare to
jus find new friends and try to talk more and be funny
Let me start by saying that being a girl at your age is a total pain! I used to be there, and my daughter is 14 now and goes through the same stuff!!! Also know that girls are catty. They will probably never change.
This doesnt mean there is a problem with you. it could be a number of things. jealousy, hanging with people who cant seem to have more than one friend, etc.
This is what i finally told my daughter, and believe me, it is 100% true.
Right now, in your life, you need to focus on your family, and your future. These are the two most important things right now. Friends will come and go, in and out of your life......but family will ALWAYS be there, and the choices you make now, will predict your future.
step #2...if you put these things first, other people will think you are amazing! Friends will come to YOU! You will have confidence, and you will be happy, and these 2 things attract others. Its fun to have friends.....but they are not everything. Trust me....work on yourself first, and the best will follow. Dont give up!
Unfortunately, the pestering may get on said friends nerves. None the less, it is unforgivable that they flake on you like that. I say it's time to get new friends.
If that is not an option, try this simple trick: call your friends when they are home. That way you can ask them to ask their parents for permission at that moment. What I've learned is that once parents are involved, kids suddenly become more dependable.
nope ur fine some people are the way they are im they same way but at some point we will reach that social peak you will find good friends if not now later because we are young and confined. but its a huge world out there and when school is all done you can go explore and meet tons of new people and we have no limits then so yea but if you need a friend or just someone to talk to every now and the i will be here for you
Aww. =( I know how you feel somewhat. My best friend who really does care about me is sooo busy. I haven't seen her in months and we can barely talk. She feels really bad about it, but she can't really help it.
So your friends' excuses might be legit sometimes. On the other hand, having them stand you up and be flaky isn't acceptable.
You aren't the problem here; it's them. Honestly, you deserve a better group of friends. It'll be hard if you've gone to the same school for a while and people already have their friends, but try going to a youth group or somewhere new where you can meet new people. It's amazing how many kind people there are if you find a really good youth group. Chances are you can find a good, quality friend there. =)
It takes time; you can't just pick up a best friend in one day. But even some of the people you'd never think you can grow close to--it can happen, and it does a lot of times.
I'll definitely be praying for you. Never give up hope. %26lt;3
It sounds like you just needs to cut the loose ends with your friends. Nobody needs friends that leave them hanging and don't hold up their word. I do things with and for my friends that I would rather not, but since I'm a good, loyal, and respectful friend I do those things anyways. They are showing you disrespect by acting this way so I would call them out, but if you aren't up to voicing your opinion to your friends in a negative way then I would suggest finding some new friends.
When I was in highschool I made most of my friends from a generalized comment towards them.
ex.: one of my best friends for the past 7 years started our friendship by asking if I skateboarded because I was wearing Etnies and an Independent shirt. We started a conversation about skateboarding and we went that evening to skate with a bunch of other guys that he was already friends with. Soon afterwards I wasn't only friends with him, but all of his friends as well.
If you see someone reading a book that you've read then make a comment to them and suggest something else you've read. If you see someone struggling with their homework then ask them if they would like any help...
You should pick your friends based on their initial sincerety, not because of the activity that they're engaged in at the moment. It doesn't make someone your friend if you go to parties and drink with them, it's the downtimes that creates friendship.
I became great friends with this guy that I got into a fight with about 2 years ago and I would do anything for the guy... both of our fathers died when we were 16 and we're only a couple months apart in age so both of us always have console in our bad times.
It's uncanny how you'll become best friends with people that you've never expect. You see the people that are labeled as ';losers';, but in actuality they could be the most loyal, truthful, respectful, and most sincere person that you've met.
Like I said, I would try to make new friends because obviously the ones you have now are just considered ';aquaintances'; by my standards, not true friends.
But something like this shouldn't send you into a downward spiral into depressioin at such a young age. I went through a hard time when I was 16 because my father, grandfather, step-grandfather, and great-grandmother all died within 3 months. I turned to alcohol and drugs for over a year I was stoned and drunk out of my mind all day, every day. And I always hated it when soemone would tell me to go to church and that nonsense, but in the end I had great friends that helped me through my hard times, not my family.
Just be patient and I'm sure that everything that's bothering you will pan out, this isn't serious enough to ruin your life at such a young age.
Take a deep breath and dump those ';friends'; of yours, it'll suck at first but it's like a bandaid, you know it's going to hurt but if you get it done fast enough then you realize it was no big deal in the first place. If you've been clinically depressed before then this is the last thing you need stressing you out...
Hope this helps!
if you have any questions then don't hesitate to e-mail me!
ps - try playing some sports or something where you can meet people, and if you're not interested in any school activities/sports, then pick up a martial arts class or something...
well, some people are like that. It definitely sounds like an avoidance situation, and in that case you should try and find some different friends. It can be hard, but the best way to find people to hand out with is to join after school activities and clubs. For instance, if you like theater even a little, you should go join the theater crew. Even if you dont have a lot of fun doing the actual theater part of it, you still meet plenty of people and have lots of fun. If you dont like performing, then you can join the lights crew or costume crew... there are places for everyone.
I would just suggest getting as involved in leadership or sports or clubs as you can, because doing such exposes you to all different sorts of people and you make plenty of new friends. Just try to be accepting of everyone and treat them with respect and patience and they will do the same for you. If they dont, then they probably aren't the people you want to be hanging around with anyways.
your freinds are toking up too much and forget they are supposed to meet you or just don't care cuz their stoned!Can someone please give me advice on my social life?
Don't give in! :(
First of all, the friends you have now sound very... I guess un-loyal. A good friendship consists of being able to communicate and looking after each other's backs. I suggest you get new friends who will more than optimistic to include you in their activities. They don't necessarily have to be popular.
find some friends you can be yourself around.....
no point in trying to please other people if all it's gonna do is make you miserable
try looking for new friends you can compare to
jus find new friends and try to talk more and be funny
Let me start by saying that being a girl at your age is a total pain! I used to be there, and my daughter is 14 now and goes through the same stuff!!! Also know that girls are catty. They will probably never change.
This doesnt mean there is a problem with you. it could be a number of things. jealousy, hanging with people who cant seem to have more than one friend, etc.
This is what i finally told my daughter, and believe me, it is 100% true.
Right now, in your life, you need to focus on your family, and your future. These are the two most important things right now. Friends will come and go, in and out of your life......but family will ALWAYS be there, and the choices you make now, will predict your future.
step #2...if you put these things first, other people will think you are amazing! Friends will come to YOU! You will have confidence, and you will be happy, and these 2 things attract others. Its fun to have friends.....but they are not everything. Trust me....work on yourself first, and the best will follow. Dont give up!
Unfortunately, the pestering may get on said friends nerves. None the less, it is unforgivable that they flake on you like that. I say it's time to get new friends.
If that is not an option, try this simple trick: call your friends when they are home. That way you can ask them to ask their parents for permission at that moment. What I've learned is that once parents are involved, kids suddenly become more dependable.
nope ur fine some people are the way they are im they same way but at some point we will reach that social peak you will find good friends if not now later because we are young and confined. but its a huge world out there and when school is all done you can go explore and meet tons of new people and we have no limits then so yea but if you need a friend or just someone to talk to every now and the i will be here for you
Aww. =( I know how you feel somewhat. My best friend who really does care about me is sooo busy. I haven't seen her in months and we can barely talk. She feels really bad about it, but she can't really help it.
So your friends' excuses might be legit sometimes. On the other hand, having them stand you up and be flaky isn't acceptable.
You aren't the problem here; it's them. Honestly, you deserve a better group of friends. It'll be hard if you've gone to the same school for a while and people already have their friends, but try going to a youth group or somewhere new where you can meet new people. It's amazing how many kind people there are if you find a really good youth group. Chances are you can find a good, quality friend there. =)
It takes time; you can't just pick up a best friend in one day. But even some of the people you'd never think you can grow close to--it can happen, and it does a lot of times.
I'll definitely be praying for you. Never give up hope. %26lt;3
It sounds like you just needs to cut the loose ends with your friends. Nobody needs friends that leave them hanging and don't hold up their word. I do things with and for my friends that I would rather not, but since I'm a good, loyal, and respectful friend I do those things anyways. They are showing you disrespect by acting this way so I would call them out, but if you aren't up to voicing your opinion to your friends in a negative way then I would suggest finding some new friends.
When I was in highschool I made most of my friends from a generalized comment towards them.
ex.: one of my best friends for the past 7 years started our friendship by asking if I skateboarded because I was wearing Etnies and an Independent shirt. We started a conversation about skateboarding and we went that evening to skate with a bunch of other guys that he was already friends with. Soon afterwards I wasn't only friends with him, but all of his friends as well.
If you see someone reading a book that you've read then make a comment to them and suggest something else you've read. If you see someone struggling with their homework then ask them if they would like any help...
You should pick your friends based on their initial sincerety, not because of the activity that they're engaged in at the moment. It doesn't make someone your friend if you go to parties and drink with them, it's the downtimes that creates friendship.
I became great friends with this guy that I got into a fight with about 2 years ago and I would do anything for the guy... both of our fathers died when we were 16 and we're only a couple months apart in age so both of us always have console in our bad times.
It's uncanny how you'll become best friends with people that you've never expect. You see the people that are labeled as ';losers';, but in actuality they could be the most loyal, truthful, respectful, and most sincere person that you've met.
Like I said, I would try to make new friends because obviously the ones you have now are just considered ';aquaintances'; by my standards, not true friends.
But something like this shouldn't send you into a downward spiral into depressioin at such a young age. I went through a hard time when I was 16 because my father, grandfather, step-grandfather, and great-grandmother all died within 3 months. I turned to alcohol and drugs for over a year I was stoned and drunk out of my mind all day, every day. And I always hated it when soemone would tell me to go to church and that nonsense, but in the end I had great friends that helped me through my hard times, not my family.
Just be patient and I'm sure that everything that's bothering you will pan out, this isn't serious enough to ruin your life at such a young age.
Take a deep breath and dump those ';friends'; of yours, it'll suck at first but it's like a bandaid, you know it's going to hurt but if you get it done fast enough then you realize it was no big deal in the first place. If you've been clinically depressed before then this is the last thing you need stressing you out...
Hope this helps!
if you have any questions then don't hesitate to e-mail me!
ps - try playing some sports or something where you can meet people, and if you're not interested in any school activities/sports, then pick up a martial arts class or something...
well, some people are like that. It definitely sounds like an avoidance situation, and in that case you should try and find some different friends. It can be hard, but the best way to find people to hand out with is to join after school activities and clubs. For instance, if you like theater even a little, you should go join the theater crew. Even if you dont have a lot of fun doing the actual theater part of it, you still meet plenty of people and have lots of fun. If you dont like performing, then you can join the lights crew or costume crew... there are places for everyone.
I would just suggest getting as involved in leadership or sports or clubs as you can, because doing such exposes you to all different sorts of people and you make plenty of new friends. Just try to be accepting of everyone and treat them with respect and patience and they will do the same for you. If they dont, then they probably aren't the people you want to be hanging around with anyways.
Hi, I am 20 and want to be a professional dancer for life.I'd appreciate suggestions and advice on how to go..?
..on how to go about it. I have been dancing for as long as I can remember, probably since the age of 2 or 3. I have not been professionally trained but I can assure you I am good and flexible (not as much as Ballet dancers, yet) and can do way better if trained. In our society and according to my community, I am facing pressure to get married by 23, but I want to dance and establish myself in that field first. Is there any possibilty of getting trained intensively, mainly in Ballet, Contemporary and Belly Dancing (not just intermediate, but beyond) at the least by the age of 23 and get established too? I am also handicapped by the fact that my parents are retired and I need to start earning asap. Add to it that our family is very conservative and I don't think I can join a dance troupe and perform with men and stuff. So... considering all these, can you help me with suggestions, ideas or your personal experience? I live in India, btw...Hi, I am 20 and want to be a professional dancer for life.I'd appreciate suggestions and advice on how to go..?
You are way too late for ballet, but maybe something like belly dancing might be do-able. Good luck!Hi, I am 20 and want to be a professional dancer for life.I'd appreciate suggestions and advice on how to go..?
I can only speak for dance in the US. You are too old to start ballet training and expect to be a professional in it. Same goes for getting into a contemporary dance company. Being flexible is just one small aspect of dancing. You must have technique, and that takes years of taking dance classes.
hmmm i wonder what you look like that could make an answer easier to give
You are NOT too late to be come a professional dancer! Certainly, if you wanted to be a ballet dancer only, then you would most likely be too old for that. But that's not what you said, as you also mentioned Contemporary and Belly Dancing.
So, based on that, I think if you find the right teacher, you could get somewhere. Why not try auditioning for ameture shows and productions? If you can sing as well, you may get spotted in local productions on stage. Get as much performance experience as you can in all areas of dance. Apply for positions, even audition for dance companies, if they hold open auditions as many do. You may not get in straight away, but you'll gain valuable experience.
One more thing...you may have a problem with your family. They most likely will not support you, so you may have to go this alone. You may also be inhibited by your family's beliefs, and this may hold back your career. To succeed in dance, one really does need to be very broadminded.
You are way too late for ballet, but maybe something like belly dancing might be do-able. Good luck!Hi, I am 20 and want to be a professional dancer for life.I'd appreciate suggestions and advice on how to go..?
I can only speak for dance in the US. You are too old to start ballet training and expect to be a professional in it. Same goes for getting into a contemporary dance company. Being flexible is just one small aspect of dancing. You must have technique, and that takes years of taking dance classes.
hmmm i wonder what you look like that could make an answer easier to give
You are NOT too late to be come a professional dancer! Certainly, if you wanted to be a ballet dancer only, then you would most likely be too old for that. But that's not what you said, as you also mentioned Contemporary and Belly Dancing.
So, based on that, I think if you find the right teacher, you could get somewhere. Why not try auditioning for ameture shows and productions? If you can sing as well, you may get spotted in local productions on stage. Get as much performance experience as you can in all areas of dance. Apply for positions, even audition for dance companies, if they hold open auditions as many do. You may not get in straight away, but you'll gain valuable experience.
One more thing...you may have a problem with your family. They most likely will not support you, so you may have to go this alone. You may also be inhibited by your family's beliefs, and this may hold back your career. To succeed in dance, one really does need to be very broadminded.
Any advice when shani[satrun]comes in my life. i was born on 17-9-77 at 1.35 pm in rajasthan india.?
WEAR A THONG BIKINI AND A FRUIT HAT ONLYAny advice when shani[satrun]comes in my life. i was born on 17-9-77 at 1.35 pm in rajasthan india.?
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you need to stay away from bars and girls cause they gonna rob you
Any Advice? something is missing in my life..?
Hi. Im Madison.. i am 16 years old. =)
Ok well, i feel like there is something missing in my life. I go to church and everything, so dont say its just becasue i need god..but over the past 5 months or so i thought that i could fill that emptyness with feelings for guys..since that thought i have had sex with 8 boys for my high school. Please dont call me a slut, thats not what i need to hear. That only made things worse, my heart is broken.. i feel sad all the time. I talk to my youth leader about it and he will pray with me about all of this, but i still feel like there is something missing. I cant sleep at night sometimes..i just lay there wondering what i am doing wrong that makes me feel like this. does anyone have advice? maybe i need someone to talk to. I have no ';girl'; friends..only guys. And my parents arent around much to notice that anything is wrong, or to be there for me. I feel miserable in my own life..Any Advice? something is missing in my life..?
Well for someone that is only 16 you have had way too many sexual partners. You are looking to fill your void with sex from some stupid high school boys? It's not going to work. It sounds like you need to go and talk to your mom and dad. If your parents are not an option then you need to talk to a close relative that you trust. If that also is not an option, then you should talk to one of your guy friends moms. You need to get help. You are headed for a bad road. High School is a horrible time for girls. I'm sure your youth group leader tries to help, but maybe you can ask him/her if the church provides any counseling to young adults. I had a friend that had some issues during high school and her church provided counseling for her.
Talk to an ADULT!
Good Luck, life will get better, just stop sleeping around with anyone that shows interest in you. They don't really like you, they probably heard from their friends that you'll screw them!Any Advice? something is missing in my life..?
Get involved in missions with your church. Serving others in desperate need has an amazing way of reshaping your heart.
Sounds like you need to forgive yourself... God already has. Sex without intimacy will leave an even bigger gap in your spirit and heart. Volunteer to read to the elderly at your local hospital, get a puppy (they have an great capacity to love), and exercise.
It is amazing how things change when you do not give yourself TIME to rethink things over and over.
Also, maybe see a doctor... it could simply be a hormone imbalance.
Ok well, i feel like there is something missing in my life. I go to church and everything, so dont say its just becasue i need god..but over the past 5 months or so i thought that i could fill that emptyness with feelings for guys..since that thought i have had sex with 8 boys for my high school. Please dont call me a slut, thats not what i need to hear. That only made things worse, my heart is broken.. i feel sad all the time. I talk to my youth leader about it and he will pray with me about all of this, but i still feel like there is something missing. I cant sleep at night sometimes..i just lay there wondering what i am doing wrong that makes me feel like this. does anyone have advice? maybe i need someone to talk to. I have no ';girl'; friends..only guys. And my parents arent around much to notice that anything is wrong, or to be there for me. I feel miserable in my own life..Any Advice? something is missing in my life..?
Well for someone that is only 16 you have had way too many sexual partners. You are looking to fill your void with sex from some stupid high school boys? It's not going to work. It sounds like you need to go and talk to your mom and dad. If your parents are not an option then you need to talk to a close relative that you trust. If that also is not an option, then you should talk to one of your guy friends moms. You need to get help. You are headed for a bad road. High School is a horrible time for girls. I'm sure your youth group leader tries to help, but maybe you can ask him/her if the church provides any counseling to young adults. I had a friend that had some issues during high school and her church provided counseling for her.
Talk to an ADULT!
Good Luck, life will get better, just stop sleeping around with anyone that shows interest in you. They don't really like you, they probably heard from their friends that you'll screw them!Any Advice? something is missing in my life..?
Get involved in missions with your church. Serving others in desperate need has an amazing way of reshaping your heart.
Sounds like you need to forgive yourself... God already has. Sex without intimacy will leave an even bigger gap in your spirit and heart. Volunteer to read to the elderly at your local hospital, get a puppy (they have an great capacity to love), and exercise.
It is amazing how things change when you do not give yourself TIME to rethink things over and over.
Also, maybe see a doctor... it could simply be a hormone imbalance.
Any advice at the junction of my life?
am a 21 year old woman, there have been the best of times and there have been the worst of times, I hope you are still willing to consider my request for advice. My life I would describe as a superhighway with bumps. Sometimes the bumps were so serious that I lost people I loved and ended up with horrible things happening.
When I was younger my mother was an alcoholic she would drink copious amounts of wine (she told me and my little brother it was apple juice but we knew it made her go ';funny';) . My dad got custody of me and my little brother and my step mother made it clear she didnt like me (I was 7 at this time). She was emotionally abusive in the beginning which I could cope with I was like any other kid, climbing trees, playing hide and seeek etc. She began to get physically abusive when I was about 12 but what I would do was suppress all my feelings so I was numb to it. I started drinking, staying out late, getting into trouble etc
I then met this man, he was lovely and charming at first and I thought he was going to rescue me from my nightmare. I fell pregnant and it was then that he began being emotionally and physically abusive to me. This went on for 3 years and again I supressed the pain I was feeling.
Now its me and my daughter I am learning to drive and attemding college in September. But it feels like theres something missing within me, I have down days when everything seems doom and gloom, then there are other days when I couldn't get any higher. However I struggle with relationships terribly I have been getting inviolved with bad people and taking drugs as a form of escapism. I know its wrong, it feels wrong!, My present self seems to be lost, though my past self, Where and how do I find intimacy and joy in this life I now live??Any advice at the junction of my life?
I think your first priority now.. despite of all the **** that happened in your past.. you are a survivor.. and you need that strength.. because you are no longer on your own.. your daughter needs you, and you should do what you planned, learn to drive and finish college.. then maybe join a club where you meet people of your own age.. You will have something in common with them.. you will make friends.. and often when you least expect it, you may become friends with one of those people you join a hobby with. You may as a ''friend'' get invited to their home, there may be a party.. and the ''right guy '' may just be waiting there.. Don't go desperately looking for him, but socialize, don't withdraw.. Meet people and remain open minded.. but watch the signals properly .. don't move in with a guy unless you believe there is a great friendship you have established with him.. If he shows little signs of trying to ''manipulate you'' that is a sign he is another of those guy who want to pysically or verbally (emotionally abuse) Most men aren't like that.. but some women fall for the same kind of guy .. you don't want that and it would be horrible for your daughter to grow up and see mom beaten up or mom being emotionally abused by the guyt she accepts as ''a dad substitute..'' Sally Field is a great actress.. she is over 60 now I believe, she still looks youthful.. but all her life, she never managed to be happy in a relationship because in all her marriages she fell for guys who emotionally and physically abused her.. She said that only recently.. she was married 3 or 4 times.. and each of the men she picked to marry, became her emotional or physical abuser.. In order to avoid that, meet a guy and give the relationship a chance to grow from a sincere friendship where there ''has got to be'' mutual respect, honesty and mutual trust'' and of course if something is not right .. one has to be able to talk and communicate with each other, share ones hopes, fears, dreams, joys.. thoughts.. all that has to be there.. if you find a guy like that, and it's possible, then he is the right one.. any soft manipulation.. already in the dating stage of the relationship.. ''get out of it'' it is going to get worse, that is a sign he might become verbally (emotionally ) or even physically abusive.. and you don't want a guy like that in your life. then it's much better to just make the best of life with your daughter but also do socialize and go out, meet friends, make new friends, join a club, fulfill your goals.. with the driving and finishing college, get a job.. a job you like, remain open minded depite of what happened to you.. but also use your head not just your heart.. and let a relationship grow.. from frienship to love.. and that is my advice to you and I wish you and your daughter luck and that you find that soulmate..Any advice at the junction of my life?
sounds to me like u may be bi-polar, maybe if u were on the proper medication it would help control the mood swings
First and formost you have to be strong for your child. Using drugs and alch are only bad in your case and cases like it where people use them to escape from there problems. Use them to add fun to your already fun life, you may have to find out how to do that first tho. As a kid that grew up in the SAME type houshold i can tell you this. and im about 50% sure.
Your faild relationships are as a result of your upbringing. What you have been tought is right and wrong is far from reality It was most likly a manipulation tactic to get out of you what she and your dad wanted. whether it be bringing you down emotionaly or being non stop condicending and making sure you always know whos in charge. Some step parents are really bad at that i think. And the real parent will stand by and watch in feer and not do anything about it to save his own marrige with no regard to his own flesh and blood. Your mom sounds like a nice person with a problem as my mom had. She must have been sweet and gental and loving and you were forced to live in an inviroment where love wasnt there, just ownership if you know what i mean. Maybe your mom never got the chance she desereved to be with you guys. And if im wrong and your mom was a monster i appoligise. Just cause your 21 does not mean you have it figured out. Im thinking the men you are attracted to have the same qualities that you see say in your stepmom. Its not your falt Its strange to think but im sure that you find it easyer to be around that kind of person because thats what your used to, you know? Its like you dont know any different and maybe afraid to try something different, cause you JUST dont know what it will bring, and thats understanable. Finding someone good takes work because you have to look for things you have never looked for before. Things that you may not recognise and feelings you have never felt around sertain people. Dont lower yourself to being with a bad person cause you feel thats all you are worth. You ARE worth so much more and i dont even know you. I dont know if i answerd your question, and if i only answered part of it, and your serching for the rest, just look along the lines im setting forth and go off them, im no pro and im only 19 but i understand people like you wouldnt belive trust me your dwelling to much on your past, im guilty of it to and dont tink it dosnt affect me, but i deal with it differently.
When I was younger my mother was an alcoholic she would drink copious amounts of wine (she told me and my little brother it was apple juice but we knew it made her go ';funny';) . My dad got custody of me and my little brother and my step mother made it clear she didnt like me (I was 7 at this time). She was emotionally abusive in the beginning which I could cope with I was like any other kid, climbing trees, playing hide and seeek etc. She began to get physically abusive when I was about 12 but what I would do was suppress all my feelings so I was numb to it. I started drinking, staying out late, getting into trouble etc
I then met this man, he was lovely and charming at first and I thought he was going to rescue me from my nightmare. I fell pregnant and it was then that he began being emotionally and physically abusive to me. This went on for 3 years and again I supressed the pain I was feeling.
Now its me and my daughter I am learning to drive and attemding college in September. But it feels like theres something missing within me, I have down days when everything seems doom and gloom, then there are other days when I couldn't get any higher. However I struggle with relationships terribly I have been getting inviolved with bad people and taking drugs as a form of escapism. I know its wrong, it feels wrong!, My present self seems to be lost, though my past self, Where and how do I find intimacy and joy in this life I now live??Any advice at the junction of my life?
I think your first priority now.. despite of all the **** that happened in your past.. you are a survivor.. and you need that strength.. because you are no longer on your own.. your daughter needs you, and you should do what you planned, learn to drive and finish college.. then maybe join a club where you meet people of your own age.. You will have something in common with them.. you will make friends.. and often when you least expect it, you may become friends with one of those people you join a hobby with. You may as a ''friend'' get invited to their home, there may be a party.. and the ''right guy '' may just be waiting there.. Don't go desperately looking for him, but socialize, don't withdraw.. Meet people and remain open minded.. but watch the signals properly .. don't move in with a guy unless you believe there is a great friendship you have established with him.. If he shows little signs of trying to ''manipulate you'' that is a sign he is another of those guy who want to pysically or verbally (emotionally abuse) Most men aren't like that.. but some women fall for the same kind of guy .. you don't want that and it would be horrible for your daughter to grow up and see mom beaten up or mom being emotionally abused by the guyt she accepts as ''a dad substitute..'' Sally Field is a great actress.. she is over 60 now I believe, she still looks youthful.. but all her life, she never managed to be happy in a relationship because in all her marriages she fell for guys who emotionally and physically abused her.. She said that only recently.. she was married 3 or 4 times.. and each of the men she picked to marry, became her emotional or physical abuser.. In order to avoid that, meet a guy and give the relationship a chance to grow from a sincere friendship where there ''has got to be'' mutual respect, honesty and mutual trust'' and of course if something is not right .. one has to be able to talk and communicate with each other, share ones hopes, fears, dreams, joys.. thoughts.. all that has to be there.. if you find a guy like that, and it's possible, then he is the right one.. any soft manipulation.. already in the dating stage of the relationship.. ''get out of it'' it is going to get worse, that is a sign he might become verbally (emotionally ) or even physically abusive.. and you don't want a guy like that in your life. then it's much better to just make the best of life with your daughter but also do socialize and go out, meet friends, make new friends, join a club, fulfill your goals.. with the driving and finishing college, get a job.. a job you like, remain open minded depite of what happened to you.. but also use your head not just your heart.. and let a relationship grow.. from frienship to love.. and that is my advice to you and I wish you and your daughter luck and that you find that soulmate..Any advice at the junction of my life?
sounds to me like u may be bi-polar, maybe if u were on the proper medication it would help control the mood swings
First and formost you have to be strong for your child. Using drugs and alch are only bad in your case and cases like it where people use them to escape from there problems. Use them to add fun to your already fun life, you may have to find out how to do that first tho. As a kid that grew up in the SAME type houshold i can tell you this. and im about 50% sure.
Your faild relationships are as a result of your upbringing. What you have been tought is right and wrong is far from reality It was most likly a manipulation tactic to get out of you what she and your dad wanted. whether it be bringing you down emotionaly or being non stop condicending and making sure you always know whos in charge. Some step parents are really bad at that i think. And the real parent will stand by and watch in feer and not do anything about it to save his own marrige with no regard to his own flesh and blood. Your mom sounds like a nice person with a problem as my mom had. She must have been sweet and gental and loving and you were forced to live in an inviroment where love wasnt there, just ownership if you know what i mean. Maybe your mom never got the chance she desereved to be with you guys. And if im wrong and your mom was a monster i appoligise. Just cause your 21 does not mean you have it figured out. Im thinking the men you are attracted to have the same qualities that you see say in your stepmom. Its not your falt Its strange to think but im sure that you find it easyer to be around that kind of person because thats what your used to, you know? Its like you dont know any different and maybe afraid to try something different, cause you JUST dont know what it will bring, and thats understanable. Finding someone good takes work because you have to look for things you have never looked for before. Things that you may not recognise and feelings you have never felt around sertain people. Dont lower yourself to being with a bad person cause you feel thats all you are worth. You ARE worth so much more and i dont even know you. I dont know if i answerd your question, and if i only answered part of it, and your serching for the rest, just look along the lines im setting forth and go off them, im no pro and im only 19 but i understand people like you wouldnt belive trust me your dwelling to much on your past, im guilty of it to and dont tink it dosnt affect me, but i deal with it differently.
Need advice...for the love of my life...she's treating me badly...i'm too nice??? Thank you so much!!?
The love of my life that i met over the internet...and trust me....we are deeply in love with each other. We're both christians and can talk about everything with one another. Have deep feelings and even talk about our futures together. Anyways now we're having some issues. We have never met in person yet and i tried to go there (were she lives....3000 miles away) but my parents were totally against it. They didnt allow me to go. Meanwhile....her parents....which we see them as in ';love'; a little bit more than my parents allowed her to come here and for us to see each other over spring break for a few days. We bought a ticket and everything is set to go. BUT now we're having some issues and i need advice. I feel in my heart im the type of person that doesn't get upset because i see beyond that...there's no point..extra stress to myself plus it doesn't help whateso ever. Maybe that's being mature as some people see it. I understand with somethings its ok to get madNeed advice...for the love of my life...she's treating me badly...i'm too nice??? Thank you so much!!?
You also need to be respected in a relationship. You are a human being and you show her respect and she should respect you as well. Unfortunately she is not giving you this. and your not even married . Not that being married is okay for this to happen either. but what im saying is she should at least care for what you think and say. and she isn't so i can't see it getting better.
And you dont' want a woman who treats you like a dog or your beneath her either. So as much as you like her You will have to step back now whats going on here isn't good. and you need to see a big improvement.
I dont' think you should give up everything for this girl as you say. She certainly not into you the way she should be.
I would do less talking to her , and if she asks you whats wrong tell her and if she continues then she really doesn't care about your feelings only her own and there fore it would only go down hill from there.Need advice...for the love of my life...she's treating me badly...i'm too nice??? Thank you so much!!?
It was exciting to have the internet romance for her. Getting together has cooled it down. Get yourself busy with other things.Don't be so available and see if she keeps the emails coming. If both of you have to ask for parents approval then you mush be too young to make these decisions.
You also need to be respected in a relationship. You are a human being and you show her respect and she should respect you as well. Unfortunately she is not giving you this. and your not even married . Not that being married is okay for this to happen either. but what im saying is she should at least care for what you think and say. and she isn't so i can't see it getting better.
And you dont' want a woman who treats you like a dog or your beneath her either. So as much as you like her You will have to step back now whats going on here isn't good. and you need to see a big improvement.
I dont' think you should give up everything for this girl as you say. She certainly not into you the way she should be.
I would do less talking to her , and if she asks you whats wrong tell her and if she continues then she really doesn't care about your feelings only her own and there fore it would only go down hill from there.Need advice...for the love of my life...she's treating me badly...i'm too nice??? Thank you so much!!?
It was exciting to have the internet romance for her. Getting together has cooled it down. Get yourself busy with other things.Don't be so available and see if she keeps the emails coming. If both of you have to ask for parents approval then you mush be too young to make these decisions.
Catholics...Advice please on keeping up prayer life of praying the Rosary in the Dorms @ college??
I have a roommate he is protestant, it is a college of a protestant denomination.
How do you keep up your prayer life of the rosary in the Dorm?
Do you always kneel when you pray the Rosary, I assume it is better than saying it in bed when I might fall asleep before finishing. Should I pray silently, whisper, speak???
Not many Catholics on Campus.Catholics...Advice please on keeping up prayer life of praying the Rosary in the Dorms @ college??
Dear, there is no better way to fall asleep than praying the Rosary. God doesn't mind at all. I do this all the time. Once fell asleep praying then in the middle of the night I dropped my rosary on my face - screamed and jumped out of the bed. My husband nearly peed himself laughing (once he found out I wasn't being attacked by burglars).
You do not have to kneel to pray the rosary or any other prayer. Its nice though. You can say it softly to yourself or silently. If you need a nice place away from people go somewhere outside or in bad weather, try a carrel in the campus library.
God blessCatholics...Advice please on keeping up prayer life of praying the Rosary in the Dorms @ college??
I used to pray the rosary on my lunch hour at work. There was a grassy open field near my workplace, and I would walk around out there while I prayed, because it was outdoors and beautiful and peaceful. These days, I like to go for a walk around a few blocks in my neighborhood, before bed at night, and say my evening prayers then. Praying while walking is a good way to ensure that I stay awake! Also, it gets me away from all the distractions and noises in my house. (Hard to concentrate when the TV is blasting in another room!) If it's hard for you to find quiet and focus in a dorm, maybe you could take your prayers outdoors and walk them around. It works for me.
I sit around mid-day in my back yard and pray it in a low tone.
I think you should just do it wherever, regardless to who's around, or what might be said about you, and through your good everyday actions your light will shine, so that others may see your good deeds and praise your father in heaven.
Your new, you might want to try watching EWTN at 3pm edt, you can also pray ';The Chaplet of the Devine Mercy'; with the rosary.
It's OK to pray the Rosary silently while sitting somewhere quiet, if that's the only opportunity that you have. You can also say a Decade at a time in between classes or if you have a spare five minutes during the day. Our Lady will love the intent, no matter when or how you pray the Rosary, as long as you remain faithful in your prayers.
Have you sounded out your roommate about how he feels about the Rosary? Some Protestants such as the Episcopalians and Anglicans have their own form of the Rosary, and other Protestants are surprisingly open to that method of prayer. If he's not interested, that's fine, but at least you've offered the chance for him to join you in praying.
God bless you during your college years, and stay close to the Blessed Virgin, just as you are now. Her prayers are very powerful with God, and she will intercede for all your needs.
Edit:
It's OK to pray the Rosary in bed at night, even if you fall asleep. There's an old saying that the angels will finish it for you if you fall asleep before you're done.
They've finished many for me! :)
You can pray anywhere. even while working, while on a ride, any idle hours you can recite the rosary by yourself. no need to recite the encantations aloud. no need to distract somebody else';s attention, just recite it in your mind, no problem. its better than provoking somebody to say something not good on your being prayerful.
You always either kneel or stand when you pray the rosary. you whisper or say the prayer out loud, it calls to the angels.
If a protestant gives you a hard time for praying the rosary, pray a decade for their salvation!
you have to pray out loud?
why not pray in your head?
You are free to kneel when praying the Rosary, especially if you find that conducive to prayer. Though, kneeling is not necessary when praying the Rosary.
You can pray silently, with a whisper, or out load. Again, whichever you find most conducive to your prayer style. If you are concerned about your roomate rejecting to your praying the Rosary, you are free to pray silently or with a whisper.
You should already be doing this anyway when praying the Rosary but I would recommend that you remember to meditate on the Mysteries of the Rosary as well.
Sooner or later, a Protestant may challenge your praying the Rosary. You can show them that the Rosary is, far from being a Marian ';thing';, you are actually praying the Gospel when praying the Rosary - and what Protestant is going to reject the idea of praying the Gospel, right?
Since there aren't many Catholics on this campus, perhaps you can suggest, to the few you know, the possibility of maybe getting a Catholic ';prayer group'; or social club together every so often so, among other things, pray the Rosary as a group.
A group of Catholics is less likely to be ';bothered'; by Protestants than when praying individually.
Consider saying the Rosary as a statement of faith. Hopefully you aren't afraid of your Christian Brothers. Hopefully they will give you the space needed.
Another alternative is to go to the nearest Catholic Church to Pray or start a Catholic Prayer group on Campus.
May the Lord give you strength to continue your prayers without discrimination.
Yes. It's okay to pray the rosary in the Protestant church that's on campus. As far as any Protestant church service is concerned, Catholics are allowed to observe but not participate or receive Protestant ';communion';. When I was in college, I used to pray the rosary silently while lying in bed, but, you're right, I did fall asleep once in a while before finishing it.
The rosary may be prayed silently or whispering or speaking. Usually when someone is praying alone, they pray silently, as this is the most pure form of prayer. If you're praying the rosary in a group, then obviously everyone's going to be praying out loud.
Kneeling is best for praying the rosary, however, it is acceptable to pray it while walking or even lying in bed. There's a great book I think you should read (if you get a chance). It's called ';The Secret of the Rosary'; by St. Louis de Montfort. It's considered the best book on the rosary ever written.
I find it helps immensely to spend several hours in a Eucharistic adoration chapel before praying the rosary, if you're having trouble finding peace or if you keep getting distracted. (Maybe there is a Catholic church nearby that has perpetual adoration of the Eucharist, or maybe you can find an adoration chapel when you're home on breaks).
A lot of people will give you a list of ';shoulds'; for how to pray the rosary. I am also a convert, and I can tell you this list is no help to me. Work out a system for praying the rosary that works for you. If you say it in bed at night and fall asleep, then try saying it at a different time. There are rosaries you can carry in a pocket to pray discreetly during the day. I know many faithful Catholics who use this at work.
What is important, is that you develop a system that works, that you can stick to consistently. If you feel comfortable making a public witness, fine. But don't feel as though you have to put your faith out there for attack, if you don't feel comfortable with it. As a new convert, you are being given special graces to strengthen your faith right now, but you must also learn to practice prudence in your spiritual choices. That means gaging what you can achieve, as well as the risk or benefit of your actions among your protestant brethren.
God bless.
I think that you should pray where ever you feel the most comfortable and not in danger. If you are not in danger, than I think you should pray out loud and where you wish to. If you are tired and trying to pray, I am sure God will understand, Mother Mary will understand that you are tired and mortal and have fallen asleep. However, if you do have the time, do please kneel if you can and pray the rosary, for whatever mystery that applies to the day. GB and GL and thank you for your prayers. Also it is better to pray in the presence of more than one, so I would seek the Catholics out in the college, perhaps there is an on line way to find them. GOOD LUCK FIND THE CATHOLIC CHURCHES OR CHURCH IN THE AREA, AND GET SOME SUPPORT AND SHARE SOME TIME WITH THEM , YOU NEED THE SUPPORT OF YOUR FELLOW CATHOLICS WHO SHARE YOUR FAITH .
I would advice you to follow the instructions of Jesus to ';pray in secret';.
';But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.'; - Matthew 6:6, NIV
Find a place in the campus where you can do this or ask your roommate if you could have a ';quiet time'; alone in the room. If the latter is not possible just pray silently, in your bed, when there are no more distractions.
You do not have to kneel when you pray the rosary.
How do you keep up your prayer life of the rosary in the Dorm?
Do you always kneel when you pray the Rosary, I assume it is better than saying it in bed when I might fall asleep before finishing. Should I pray silently, whisper, speak???
Not many Catholics on Campus.Catholics...Advice please on keeping up prayer life of praying the Rosary in the Dorms @ college??
Dear, there is no better way to fall asleep than praying the Rosary. God doesn't mind at all. I do this all the time. Once fell asleep praying then in the middle of the night I dropped my rosary on my face - screamed and jumped out of the bed. My husband nearly peed himself laughing (once he found out I wasn't being attacked by burglars).
You do not have to kneel to pray the rosary or any other prayer. Its nice though. You can say it softly to yourself or silently. If you need a nice place away from people go somewhere outside or in bad weather, try a carrel in the campus library.
God blessCatholics...Advice please on keeping up prayer life of praying the Rosary in the Dorms @ college??
I used to pray the rosary on my lunch hour at work. There was a grassy open field near my workplace, and I would walk around out there while I prayed, because it was outdoors and beautiful and peaceful. These days, I like to go for a walk around a few blocks in my neighborhood, before bed at night, and say my evening prayers then. Praying while walking is a good way to ensure that I stay awake! Also, it gets me away from all the distractions and noises in my house. (Hard to concentrate when the TV is blasting in another room!) If it's hard for you to find quiet and focus in a dorm, maybe you could take your prayers outdoors and walk them around. It works for me.
I sit around mid-day in my back yard and pray it in a low tone.
I think you should just do it wherever, regardless to who's around, or what might be said about you, and through your good everyday actions your light will shine, so that others may see your good deeds and praise your father in heaven.
Your new, you might want to try watching EWTN at 3pm edt, you can also pray ';The Chaplet of the Devine Mercy'; with the rosary.
It's OK to pray the Rosary silently while sitting somewhere quiet, if that's the only opportunity that you have. You can also say a Decade at a time in between classes or if you have a spare five minutes during the day. Our Lady will love the intent, no matter when or how you pray the Rosary, as long as you remain faithful in your prayers.
Have you sounded out your roommate about how he feels about the Rosary? Some Protestants such as the Episcopalians and Anglicans have their own form of the Rosary, and other Protestants are surprisingly open to that method of prayer. If he's not interested, that's fine, but at least you've offered the chance for him to join you in praying.
God bless you during your college years, and stay close to the Blessed Virgin, just as you are now. Her prayers are very powerful with God, and she will intercede for all your needs.
Edit:
It's OK to pray the Rosary in bed at night, even if you fall asleep. There's an old saying that the angels will finish it for you if you fall asleep before you're done.
They've finished many for me! :)
You can pray anywhere. even while working, while on a ride, any idle hours you can recite the rosary by yourself. no need to recite the encantations aloud. no need to distract somebody else';s attention, just recite it in your mind, no problem. its better than provoking somebody to say something not good on your being prayerful.
You always either kneel or stand when you pray the rosary. you whisper or say the prayer out loud, it calls to the angels.
If a protestant gives you a hard time for praying the rosary, pray a decade for their salvation!
you have to pray out loud?
why not pray in your head?
You are free to kneel when praying the Rosary, especially if you find that conducive to prayer. Though, kneeling is not necessary when praying the Rosary.
You can pray silently, with a whisper, or out load. Again, whichever you find most conducive to your prayer style. If you are concerned about your roomate rejecting to your praying the Rosary, you are free to pray silently or with a whisper.
You should already be doing this anyway when praying the Rosary but I would recommend that you remember to meditate on the Mysteries of the Rosary as well.
Sooner or later, a Protestant may challenge your praying the Rosary. You can show them that the Rosary is, far from being a Marian ';thing';, you are actually praying the Gospel when praying the Rosary - and what Protestant is going to reject the idea of praying the Gospel, right?
Since there aren't many Catholics on this campus, perhaps you can suggest, to the few you know, the possibility of maybe getting a Catholic ';prayer group'; or social club together every so often so, among other things, pray the Rosary as a group.
A group of Catholics is less likely to be ';bothered'; by Protestants than when praying individually.
Consider saying the Rosary as a statement of faith. Hopefully you aren't afraid of your Christian Brothers. Hopefully they will give you the space needed.
Another alternative is to go to the nearest Catholic Church to Pray or start a Catholic Prayer group on Campus.
May the Lord give you strength to continue your prayers without discrimination.
Yes. It's okay to pray the rosary in the Protestant church that's on campus. As far as any Protestant church service is concerned, Catholics are allowed to observe but not participate or receive Protestant ';communion';. When I was in college, I used to pray the rosary silently while lying in bed, but, you're right, I did fall asleep once in a while before finishing it.
The rosary may be prayed silently or whispering or speaking. Usually when someone is praying alone, they pray silently, as this is the most pure form of prayer. If you're praying the rosary in a group, then obviously everyone's going to be praying out loud.
Kneeling is best for praying the rosary, however, it is acceptable to pray it while walking or even lying in bed. There's a great book I think you should read (if you get a chance). It's called ';The Secret of the Rosary'; by St. Louis de Montfort. It's considered the best book on the rosary ever written.
I find it helps immensely to spend several hours in a Eucharistic adoration chapel before praying the rosary, if you're having trouble finding peace or if you keep getting distracted. (Maybe there is a Catholic church nearby that has perpetual adoration of the Eucharist, or maybe you can find an adoration chapel when you're home on breaks).
A lot of people will give you a list of ';shoulds'; for how to pray the rosary. I am also a convert, and I can tell you this list is no help to me. Work out a system for praying the rosary that works for you. If you say it in bed at night and fall asleep, then try saying it at a different time. There are rosaries you can carry in a pocket to pray discreetly during the day. I know many faithful Catholics who use this at work.
What is important, is that you develop a system that works, that you can stick to consistently. If you feel comfortable making a public witness, fine. But don't feel as though you have to put your faith out there for attack, if you don't feel comfortable with it. As a new convert, you are being given special graces to strengthen your faith right now, but you must also learn to practice prudence in your spiritual choices. That means gaging what you can achieve, as well as the risk or benefit of your actions among your protestant brethren.
God bless.
I think that you should pray where ever you feel the most comfortable and not in danger. If you are not in danger, than I think you should pray out loud and where you wish to. If you are tired and trying to pray, I am sure God will understand, Mother Mary will understand that you are tired and mortal and have fallen asleep. However, if you do have the time, do please kneel if you can and pray the rosary, for whatever mystery that applies to the day. GB and GL and thank you for your prayers. Also it is better to pray in the presence of more than one, so I would seek the Catholics out in the college, perhaps there is an on line way to find them. GOOD LUCK FIND THE CATHOLIC CHURCHES OR CHURCH IN THE AREA, AND GET SOME SUPPORT AND SHARE SOME TIME WITH THEM , YOU NEED THE SUPPORT OF YOUR FELLOW CATHOLICS WHO SHARE YOUR FAITH .
I would advice you to follow the instructions of Jesus to ';pray in secret';.
';But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.'; - Matthew 6:6, NIV
Find a place in the campus where you can do this or ask your roommate if you could have a ';quiet time'; alone in the room. If the latter is not possible just pray silently, in your bed, when there are no more distractions.
You do not have to kneel when you pray the rosary.
Did u take any advice from yahoo answers that changed ur life?
Yes sort of. I have had many fake friends over the years, and it took me a long time to finally realize that I deserve much better. After asking my real friends, and people on ask! yahoo for their opinion, I have made a decision to ditch those so-called ';friends.';Did u take any advice from yahoo answers that changed ur life?
Not yet.Did u take any advice from yahoo answers that changed ur life?
No not yet but waiting for something
No.
I'm kind of jealous, the Truth hurts.
No,
changed in a small way, i put more thought into some of the answers i give after reading the answers others give only to collect points. haven't asked a question yet
some of the other answers i have read have made me really think about my religion, which is kind of a big thing
i took some advice but not life-changing advice....yet... Who knows?
yes, i do. We could learn a lot reading the others questions and answers.................
Not yet.Did u take any advice from yahoo answers that changed ur life?
No not yet but waiting for something
No.
I'm kind of jealous, the Truth hurts.
No,
changed in a small way, i put more thought into some of the answers i give after reading the answers others give only to collect points. haven't asked a question yet
some of the other answers i have read have made me really think about my religion, which is kind of a big thing
i took some advice but not life-changing advice....yet... Who knows?
yes, i do. We could learn a lot reading the others questions and answers.................
Any advice on how to change my life?
I just got done with a 6 month relationship with a guy that always made me his last option for a girlfriend, [knew him for 4 years] and we are no longer in contact anymore [blocked him on everything, avoid him when i see him] and I feel pretty great, and proud of myself.
But now since I made that change in my life, im seeking more things i can do to change up my life a little more? im really happy with life right now, i've been going to the movies, hanging out with friends, spending the night with them as well.
yet, i still feel empty inside sometimes?
am i expecting too much from life or am i missing something??
i guess i am just wanting major changes in my life because i am bored with it alot lately...
p.s sorry for all the lower caps, keyboard is not working right.Any advice on how to change my life?
Don't be in a rush, take soime time to get over your previous life-style (having that boyfriend). Try not to rush into another relationship for now.
Assess your life: What's going on? What do you want? Really? Make a list, write it all down. Take some time with the list, so you can aded new ideas. At least a month or longer. THEN set some goals and go for them.
And #1 learn more about yourslef
http://kts2.personalityzone.com/user/reg鈥?/a>
Once you've taken the test and have your 4-letter personality/temperament designator, go here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Myers-brigg鈥?/a> and scroll down to the paragraph titled: ';Type dynamics and development'; and look to the right at the rectangle titled ';The Sixteen Types'; and find your four-letter type and click on it, and read about yourself! If you answered the questions on the test honestly and accurately, you'll be amazed at how well you're described!
#2 Get this book and learn its tools (ignore the slightly bizarre title)...
http://www.amazon.com/Unleash-Warrior-Wi鈥?/a>Any advice on how to change my life?
well it's natural for you to feel this way after dating someone for six months and now having absolutely no contact with them.. i say just keep hanging out with friends and try to do things that make you busy to avoid thinking about him. read a book, watch a movie, and maybe have a girls night out or a day spa. good luck, girl!(:
Maybe you just need someone else in your life. a new friend?
i felt the same way. it just seemed like day after day, life was becoming a dull blur. basically, i found this quote:
';when is the best time of the day?
now
who is the most important one?
the person besides you
what is the right thing to do?
make sure the person besides you is happy.';
um thats basically it, i think i mismatched a few words but its still a good quote.
basically this quote is saying make the most out of whats right in front of you and never take anything for granted, because the only moment you can gurantee you have, is the one your living. you never know if your gonna make it to tommorow, next week, or even another hour.
and a really awesome book, that you should get. its called ';this book will change your life'; you could look up what the books all about on www.thiswebsitewillchangeyourlife.com that also helped me out.
I think you should bake us some cookies and we can talk about this. ha ha Well opening a bakery might help, or at least do some catering. I think you need time to get over a 4 year relationship. If you start dating now you are going to end up with a jerk. Take time to heal. I think chocolate chip cookies would be a good start, everyone is a little crazy about peanut butter right now. You can take the cookies to the hospital and leave them for nurses, or for people in the ICU. You can drop cookies off at fire departments or police departments, not just at christmas time. If you have a really good vet, you can bake some cookies for her. You could take some cookies to your local nursing home, mothers day is coming up, they might like that. Keep your mind off of your mind.cream tones
But now since I made that change in my life, im seeking more things i can do to change up my life a little more? im really happy with life right now, i've been going to the movies, hanging out with friends, spending the night with them as well.
yet, i still feel empty inside sometimes?
am i expecting too much from life or am i missing something??
i guess i am just wanting major changes in my life because i am bored with it alot lately...
p.s sorry for all the lower caps, keyboard is not working right.Any advice on how to change my life?
Don't be in a rush, take soime time to get over your previous life-style (having that boyfriend). Try not to rush into another relationship for now.
Assess your life: What's going on? What do you want? Really? Make a list, write it all down. Take some time with the list, so you can aded new ideas. At least a month or longer. THEN set some goals and go for them.
And #1 learn more about yourslef
http://kts2.personalityzone.com/user/reg鈥?/a>
Once you've taken the test and have your 4-letter personality/temperament designator, go here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Myers-brigg鈥?/a> and scroll down to the paragraph titled: ';Type dynamics and development'; and look to the right at the rectangle titled ';The Sixteen Types'; and find your four-letter type and click on it, and read about yourself! If you answered the questions on the test honestly and accurately, you'll be amazed at how well you're described!
#2 Get this book and learn its tools (ignore the slightly bizarre title)...
http://www.amazon.com/Unleash-Warrior-Wi鈥?/a>Any advice on how to change my life?
well it's natural for you to feel this way after dating someone for six months and now having absolutely no contact with them.. i say just keep hanging out with friends and try to do things that make you busy to avoid thinking about him. read a book, watch a movie, and maybe have a girls night out or a day spa. good luck, girl!(:
Maybe you just need someone else in your life. a new friend?
i felt the same way. it just seemed like day after day, life was becoming a dull blur. basically, i found this quote:
';when is the best time of the day?
now
who is the most important one?
the person besides you
what is the right thing to do?
make sure the person besides you is happy.';
um thats basically it, i think i mismatched a few words but its still a good quote.
basically this quote is saying make the most out of whats right in front of you and never take anything for granted, because the only moment you can gurantee you have, is the one your living. you never know if your gonna make it to tommorow, next week, or even another hour.
and a really awesome book, that you should get. its called ';this book will change your life'; you could look up what the books all about on www.thiswebsitewillchangeyourlife.com that also helped me out.
I think you should bake us some cookies and we can talk about this. ha ha Well opening a bakery might help, or at least do some catering. I think you need time to get over a 4 year relationship. If you start dating now you are going to end up with a jerk. Take time to heal. I think chocolate chip cookies would be a good start, everyone is a little crazy about peanut butter right now. You can take the cookies to the hospital and leave them for nurses, or for people in the ICU. You can drop cookies off at fire departments or police departments, not just at christmas time. If you have a really good vet, you can bake some cookies for her. You could take some cookies to your local nursing home, mothers day is coming up, they might like that. Keep your mind off of your mind.
Relationship advice for my f'd up life?
okay so heres what happened. I really like this girl (nicole) and I told my best friend (john( that i liked her and was thinking about asking her out. But then john (just as i walk onto my school bus after talking with him) goes to her and asks her out on a date and she says yes. I really like the girl but have no idea what to do. Please help me!!Relationship advice for my f'd up life?
Hhhmmm... sounds like John is still learning what a friend is. I've had friends do this kind of thing to me before... and found that they are the kind of friends that want what you have. So If you told John that there was only one red hat at the store and you really wanted it... he would go buy it before you because YOU wanted it.
But lucky for you Nicole is living breathing person that can make up her own mind. So what... he asked her out on a date... that doesn't mean they are boyfriend and girlfriend....it's just a date to see if they like each other more than just friends.
The same principles apply to you too... you want to take her out to see if you could be more than just friends...So go ask her out on a date... and if you feel the need to explain to her what really happened go ahead. Or not ... But wait until after the date...
Good Luck...
And tell John what goes around comes around... God Bless KarmaRelationship advice for my f'd up life?
Damn man you have an effed up friend, that just goes to show who your real friends are.
Think of it this way, there's two possibilities. Either he did that to screw with you, OR he was interested in her as well and when you told him you were interested, he felt obligated to get to her before you could.
So all in all, my advice to you, just wait it out, if you really like her and she goes out with your friend, just know that the moment you friend effs up, you'll be there for her. Some my say its wrong to go for the rebound but honestly I've done it several times and the girls have told me that its one of the nicest things you can do for a girl because in reality you're really comforting her when she needs it.
well the first thing you do is lose that friend cuz hes a bad one. And then wait till after they go on there date cuz she will say well im going on a date with john so i can't see what comes from them dating my guess is nothing will come out of it. I think he only asked her cuz you were going to. when things fall apart with them you can step in and tell her what happened but for now stay away from both of them i know its hard and it sucks
Sounds like it is time to tell him to meet you by the swing set after school for a good old fashion beat down. Thats what your dumb *** gets for telling someone what you are going to do before you do it. Maybe he has been working up the coruage to ask her this whole time and by you telling him it pushed him over edge and he had to get it done before you. You slept on it now you deal with it.
is this site serious??? people on here answering dumb question.
this is to good to be real, common sense should have told you not to tell john your business. john is in and your left out looking in dont get mad at john hope this is a learning lesson about flapping your mouth.
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p.s.
if john was your best friend he would have known not to be-friend your trust Im sure he knows you like nicole
That was not very friend-like of him. Ask him why he would do that, knowing that you liked her! You mentioned that you got on the school bus......and that your friend asked her on a date.....how old are you, and what do you consider a date? I think maybe at this stage, he is just trying to compete with you. Theres no reason why you cant ask Nicole on a ';date'; too.
edit:
I stick with my original answer. Ask her out on a date too! Just because he asked her on a date doesnt mean that they are exclusive. (boyfriend and girlfriend, no outside dating)
sounds to me like john is a p - r - i - c - k, hah.
i'd talk to her and tell her you were thinking about it first and he took your chance. if a guy said that to me i'd understand.
dang i would juss tell her how u feel n she gon choose the guy she wanna be wit if she dun choose u then u can find a better girl
well i think that John kid is just plain mean and don't be mad at the girl u should go tell her that right when he ask her out u where going to
He SUCKS as a friend. Try and break them up. :D
johny is not the best friend u could have u have to option
1- fight for uor girl
2 fight uor friend
punch your friend in the face
1) There's nothing you can do. Except one thing. You could always go up to the girl and start a conversation, and then when she seems to be warming up to you, ask her if she can keep a secret. Tell her you don't want her to hold it against him... but that you had actually told John you wanted to ask her out, and that he had agreed to help you, but then he sorta betrayed you/went behind your back and asked her out first. Then just sorta smile, shrug, and say its not a big deal though, i just wanted to get it off my chest. Then nod ur head, smile, and walk away.
This takes balls, but it will make her think of you as a good cool guy for approaching you, and John as a d*ck (what he actually IS rite now) and she might even break up with him for you. At the VERY LEAST, it will cause relationship problems, as she won't see him in the same light, and she will break up with him faster, and/or distance herself from him.
2) YOU SHOULD DO THAT.
3) Aside from that, there is only 1 thing to do:
LEARN A LESSON FROM HERE-ON OUT. Never, ever tell a friend that you plan on asking a girl out, or for advice!!! If you need relationship or dating advice THAT badly, go online. That's bad enough, but asking your friends is just begging them to screw it up for you!!! ALL people are selfish, and have their own motives in mind.
Also, the only reason you should ever tell any guy(s) you like a girl, is if you're going to go up to them RIGHT NOW and ask her out/talk to her, and you want them to be there with you, just so you look cool and arent alone. just tell them to have normal convos with you while ur goin up there. BUT MAKE SURE THEY'RE MORE TRUSTWORTHY THEN PPL LIKE JOHN.
Hhhmmm... sounds like John is still learning what a friend is. I've had friends do this kind of thing to me before... and found that they are the kind of friends that want what you have. So If you told John that there was only one red hat at the store and you really wanted it... he would go buy it before you because YOU wanted it.
But lucky for you Nicole is living breathing person that can make up her own mind. So what... he asked her out on a date... that doesn't mean they are boyfriend and girlfriend....it's just a date to see if they like each other more than just friends.
The same principles apply to you too... you want to take her out to see if you could be more than just friends...So go ask her out on a date... and if you feel the need to explain to her what really happened go ahead. Or not ... But wait until after the date...
Good Luck...
And tell John what goes around comes around... God Bless KarmaRelationship advice for my f'd up life?
Damn man you have an effed up friend, that just goes to show who your real friends are.
Think of it this way, there's two possibilities. Either he did that to screw with you, OR he was interested in her as well and when you told him you were interested, he felt obligated to get to her before you could.
So all in all, my advice to you, just wait it out, if you really like her and she goes out with your friend, just know that the moment you friend effs up, you'll be there for her. Some my say its wrong to go for the rebound but honestly I've done it several times and the girls have told me that its one of the nicest things you can do for a girl because in reality you're really comforting her when she needs it.
well the first thing you do is lose that friend cuz hes a bad one. And then wait till after they go on there date cuz she will say well im going on a date with john so i can't see what comes from them dating my guess is nothing will come out of it. I think he only asked her cuz you were going to. when things fall apart with them you can step in and tell her what happened but for now stay away from both of them i know its hard and it sucks
Sounds like it is time to tell him to meet you by the swing set after school for a good old fashion beat down. Thats what your dumb *** gets for telling someone what you are going to do before you do it. Maybe he has been working up the coruage to ask her this whole time and by you telling him it pushed him over edge and he had to get it done before you. You slept on it now you deal with it.
is this site serious??? people on here answering dumb question.
this is to good to be real, common sense should have told you not to tell john your business. john is in and your left out looking in dont get mad at john hope this is a learning lesson about flapping your mouth.
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p.s.
if john was your best friend he would have known not to be-friend your trust Im sure he knows you like nicole
That was not very friend-like of him. Ask him why he would do that, knowing that you liked her! You mentioned that you got on the school bus......and that your friend asked her on a date.....how old are you, and what do you consider a date? I think maybe at this stage, he is just trying to compete with you. Theres no reason why you cant ask Nicole on a ';date'; too.
edit:
I stick with my original answer. Ask her out on a date too! Just because he asked her on a date doesnt mean that they are exclusive. (boyfriend and girlfriend, no outside dating)
sounds to me like john is a p - r - i - c - k, hah.
i'd talk to her and tell her you were thinking about it first and he took your chance. if a guy said that to me i'd understand.
dang i would juss tell her how u feel n she gon choose the guy she wanna be wit if she dun choose u then u can find a better girl
well i think that John kid is just plain mean and don't be mad at the girl u should go tell her that right when he ask her out u where going to
He SUCKS as a friend. Try and break them up. :D
johny is not the best friend u could have u have to option
1- fight for uor girl
2 fight uor friend
punch your friend in the face
1) There's nothing you can do. Except one thing. You could always go up to the girl and start a conversation, and then when she seems to be warming up to you, ask her if she can keep a secret. Tell her you don't want her to hold it against him... but that you had actually told John you wanted to ask her out, and that he had agreed to help you, but then he sorta betrayed you/went behind your back and asked her out first. Then just sorta smile, shrug, and say its not a big deal though, i just wanted to get it off my chest. Then nod ur head, smile, and walk away.
This takes balls, but it will make her think of you as a good cool guy for approaching you, and John as a d*ck (what he actually IS rite now) and she might even break up with him for you. At the VERY LEAST, it will cause relationship problems, as she won't see him in the same light, and she will break up with him faster, and/or distance herself from him.
2) YOU SHOULD DO THAT.
3) Aside from that, there is only 1 thing to do:
LEARN A LESSON FROM HERE-ON OUT. Never, ever tell a friend that you plan on asking a girl out, or for advice!!! If you need relationship or dating advice THAT badly, go online. That's bad enough, but asking your friends is just begging them to screw it up for you!!! ALL people are selfish, and have their own motives in mind.
Also, the only reason you should ever tell any guy(s) you like a girl, is if you're going to go up to them RIGHT NOW and ask her out/talk to her, and you want them to be there with you, just so you look cool and arent alone. just tell them to have normal convos with you while ur goin up there. BUT MAKE SURE THEY'RE MORE TRUSTWORTHY THEN PPL LIKE JOHN.
Some advice on acheiving one of my life goals?!?!!?
I love elephants so much. One of my dreams is to open an elephant sanctuary in africa or asia or something for wild elephants that are hurt due to poaching and things like that. this would obbviously cost a TON of money. i really want to become an author and write a book that will be popular enough to make me a millionaire. its a long shot, but i'm determined. or i plan to marry a millionaire. Any advice or tips of any sort would be appriciated. thank you very much.
ps- i also didn't know what catogory to put this under, so sorry if i'm totally wrong about that!!!!!!!Some advice on acheiving one of my life goals?!?!!?
Knowing nothing about you ,it's a bit hard to tell you something specific for you. But judging what you say between the lines I'll do my best to help you.
The existence of a very strong desire to reach the outcome is essential. You have to want it badly. Very useful is a critical absence of something that make you want it even harder, like, a common example, having no money to pay the need. A strong urge gets things moving.
If you don’t have this strong need, create it artificially. There a many ways to do this. Behind every need is an urge. Just intensify this urge. If you want to be rich, tell all your friend that you’re soon going to marry a millionaire, for example.. You get the point.
Make a plan
Take a pen and paper and write out some ideas about what you really want and why. Take your time.
I believe that the writing process is a good way to sort out your thoughts and help you to concretize your true wishes. This allows you also to evaluate them objectively. The better you define your goal, the faster you will achieve it.
Now the important part: set an ultimate date on when you plan to achieve your goal. Be realistic here. Most people overestimate what they can do in two months but underestimate what they can achieve in two years.
Just write down a date, develop one powerful declarative sentence and post it all over your place.
Don’t take this lightly, for this is a very important step.
Take out pen and paper again, and this time write down what fears and obstacles you would expect. Don’t think much about it just write them down one below the other. Ask yourself the following questions: What may prevent me from success? What fears may come up? What or who may get in my way? Write it down!
After you have made the list go down every point separately and write a possible solution directly beneath it.
Being aware of those fears and obstacles and their overcoming takes out their power. Since you then recognize them, you can immediately oppose them, and eventually they may turn out to be powerless in the beginning.
Go to a place of quit and bring yourself into a relaxing position. Close your eyes. I want you to get in a state of deep relaxation. Now visualize that you’ve already reached your goal. Image it in much detail as possible. Feel it. Enjoy it, be happy that you finally succeeded. Not only see in your mind, but feel, hear, smell. Make it as realistic as possible. Do this for at least 15 minutes in the morning after waking up and in the evening before you go to bed.
I know this is not easy in the beginning, but when you do this disciplined every day, you will get faster into relaxation and the images will come bluster out.
Now, I want you to take 10 minutes of your lunch time, sit down and write affirmations. Write down your goal that you’ve defined in step one in one statement. Keep it positive and in the present. Don’t write: “I will be rich one day”. Write instead: “I am rich and prosperous”. Don’t write: “Someday I will meet this wonderful guy”. Write: “I’m married to a wonderful man who loves me madly”.
Write your affirmation 25 times every day on lunchtime.
This is a very powerful tool, it’s the heart and soul of the five steps.
With this method I bought an apartament having zero dollar in my pocket 20 years ago
After you have done step three for a week, your mind will come up with ideas of a plan how to accomplish your goal. Put it on paper. Here again go into detail. Don’t just write:
Take out the list from step one again, take a look at your ultimate achievement-date and work out an exact timetable. Again: be as accurate and detailed as you can be.
n the end will have a fully detailed agenda on how to reach your goal.
You should have by now: a strong desire and willingness to achieve what you want, you know exactly what you want, you know the obstacles and how to combat them, you have the secret tool of making things happen, and finally you have a precise agenda on how to act every single day until the achievement of the objective.
Now put it into action. You have done a great job so far, but if you don’t act, it was all for nothing. Should you loose motivation, increase your desire, should you encounter fears, fight them (you know how). The visualization and affirmation process will make it easy for you. Trust me on this one.
That’s it! Easy, isn’t it?
Have you learned to detach yourself from negative people? Good
Have you learned something from my suggestions? Good and thank you .You made me happy.
Start apply right nowSome advice on acheiving one of my life goals?!?!!?
Start working with what you have at hand. The rest will be added unto you.
Do not give up no matter what comes in you're way. Always try your best and be patient with every defficulty that might in your way/
^_^ having life goals is a good way to start onto a path...
1) let's start wit the books first...think of what interests you..what kind of books you like to read...generes..categories...the type of books you like is probably the type of books u mite write...also think of storylines, plots..etc
2) research into where, when, how, how much, how big, and the plans for the sanctuary...(btw, I think it's nice how you want to build a santuary for elephant, it's very thoughtful of you)
3) marrying a millionarire... well, i think u hav 2 get know who millionaires are first...get them to notice you...in their point of view, u hav to be different, creative, special to get noticed, in their eyes, why should they talk to you...what have you got to offer to them...so, get yourself noticed! ^_^
ps- i also didn't know what catogory to put this under, so sorry if i'm totally wrong about that!!!!!!!Some advice on acheiving one of my life goals?!?!!?
Knowing nothing about you ,it's a bit hard to tell you something specific for you. But judging what you say between the lines I'll do my best to help you.
The existence of a very strong desire to reach the outcome is essential. You have to want it badly. Very useful is a critical absence of something that make you want it even harder, like, a common example, having no money to pay the need. A strong urge gets things moving.
If you don’t have this strong need, create it artificially. There a many ways to do this. Behind every need is an urge. Just intensify this urge. If you want to be rich, tell all your friend that you’re soon going to marry a millionaire, for example.. You get the point.
Make a plan
Take a pen and paper and write out some ideas about what you really want and why. Take your time.
I believe that the writing process is a good way to sort out your thoughts and help you to concretize your true wishes. This allows you also to evaluate them objectively. The better you define your goal, the faster you will achieve it.
Now the important part: set an ultimate date on when you plan to achieve your goal. Be realistic here. Most people overestimate what they can do in two months but underestimate what they can achieve in two years.
Just write down a date, develop one powerful declarative sentence and post it all over your place.
Don’t take this lightly, for this is a very important step.
Take out pen and paper again, and this time write down what fears and obstacles you would expect. Don’t think much about it just write them down one below the other. Ask yourself the following questions: What may prevent me from success? What fears may come up? What or who may get in my way? Write it down!
After you have made the list go down every point separately and write a possible solution directly beneath it.
Being aware of those fears and obstacles and their overcoming takes out their power. Since you then recognize them, you can immediately oppose them, and eventually they may turn out to be powerless in the beginning.
Go to a place of quit and bring yourself into a relaxing position. Close your eyes. I want you to get in a state of deep relaxation. Now visualize that you’ve already reached your goal. Image it in much detail as possible. Feel it. Enjoy it, be happy that you finally succeeded. Not only see in your mind, but feel, hear, smell. Make it as realistic as possible. Do this for at least 15 minutes in the morning after waking up and in the evening before you go to bed.
I know this is not easy in the beginning, but when you do this disciplined every day, you will get faster into relaxation and the images will come bluster out.
Now, I want you to take 10 minutes of your lunch time, sit down and write affirmations. Write down your goal that you’ve defined in step one in one statement. Keep it positive and in the present. Don’t write: “I will be rich one day”. Write instead: “I am rich and prosperous”. Don’t write: “Someday I will meet this wonderful guy”. Write: “I’m married to a wonderful man who loves me madly”.
Write your affirmation 25 times every day on lunchtime.
This is a very powerful tool, it’s the heart and soul of the five steps.
With this method I bought an apartament having zero dollar in my pocket 20 years ago
After you have done step three for a week, your mind will come up with ideas of a plan how to accomplish your goal. Put it on paper. Here again go into detail. Don’t just write:
Take out the list from step one again, take a look at your ultimate achievement-date and work out an exact timetable. Again: be as accurate and detailed as you can be.
n the end will have a fully detailed agenda on how to reach your goal.
You should have by now: a strong desire and willingness to achieve what you want, you know exactly what you want, you know the obstacles and how to combat them, you have the secret tool of making things happen, and finally you have a precise agenda on how to act every single day until the achievement of the objective.
Now put it into action. You have done a great job so far, but if you don’t act, it was all for nothing. Should you loose motivation, increase your desire, should you encounter fears, fight them (you know how). The visualization and affirmation process will make it easy for you. Trust me on this one.
That’s it! Easy, isn’t it?
Have you learned to detach yourself from negative people? Good
Have you learned something from my suggestions? Good and thank you .You made me happy.
Start apply right nowSome advice on acheiving one of my life goals?!?!!?
Start working with what you have at hand. The rest will be added unto you.
Do not give up no matter what comes in you're way. Always try your best and be patient with every defficulty that might in your way/
^_^ having life goals is a good way to start onto a path...
1) let's start wit the books first...think of what interests you..what kind of books you like to read...generes..categories...the type of books you like is probably the type of books u mite write...also think of storylines, plots..etc
2) research into where, when, how, how much, how big, and the plans for the sanctuary...(btw, I think it's nice how you want to build a santuary for elephant, it's very thoughtful of you)
3) marrying a millionarire... well, i think u hav 2 get know who millionaires are first...get them to notice you...in their point of view, u hav to be different, creative, special to get noticed, in their eyes, why should they talk to you...what have you got to offer to them...so, get yourself noticed! ^_^
I am really lost in life...Please give me some helful advice..?
I am a 22 year old male who is really lost on where to set my heart on life. I am currently attending a university that I really have no passion for, and studying a major that is not that much of a interest to me...I know that sounds very stupid...but I've been living under my parent's roof for the last 22years and it is really hard to say what I want to do to them because they'll get extremely disappointed with me. I grew up under a overprotective mother who loves me..but she and I don't get along very well as I grow older. I want to take a break and think about what I want to do with my life...i'm just really confused...I wish i could just run away from all of this...I feel like a loser...not taking any action for myself, and lately i don't feel like talking to anybody....If anybody could give me some sincere adive. I will appreciate it very much.I am really lost in life...Please give me some helful advice..?
After many years of working for a living I have come to this conclusion. Even though I enjoy my career, now it is only a means to support my hobbies.
Work and careers are fine. However in life you may as well enjoy it, within means of course. Find a fun hobby, try a few to see what you like. Meet people - do things. Travel.
Work to support your hobbies and you will enjoy life a lot more in the end. Why spend 45 years working toward retirement so you can ';enjoy'; your time. Save for retirement, work for today in a field you will have some fun in - even if you are not the best in it.
Interest in your major is lacking, so finish it and use it as a springboard to another field career. Maybe one of your hobbies can lead to a career? Here are a few ';hobbies'; that have wide reaching travel and job expansion --- Suba diver, Photography, Peace Corp worker, Skydiver, tomb raider, there are a lot more depending on what you like to do.I am really lost in life...Please give me some helful advice..?
try and explaining this to your parents. let them know how unhappy you are. if they are still disappointed after a ';heart-to-heart'; maybe youshould take a break from school and go find yourself.
go do something that you wouldn't normally do, go check out the world...HAVE FUN!
Do what I'm planning on doing. Move to Thailand to be a monk.
Well, you're already a grown up and your confusion takes place in the over protection you get from your parents. Let me tell you that I was in your shoes about 10 years ago, and it wasn't a quite comfortable situation.
The first thing you have to do is to get a job. REALLY... that simple action will start to open your eyes to the real life; its a good start and you'll start to be economically independent of your parents. This brings the fact that you won't have to beg anymore for money and you'll make your own decisions.
Try to be as busy as you can, don't waste your time watching TV or playing video games, and by the way, have a lot of girlfriends but don't get caught sentimentally by any of them.
READ. When you are in high school this might be the most boring thing ever, but right now, visit a book store near you and get a book that gets your attention.
You feel lost because you are an adult by now and you need your independence. Your mother will fight you for this, but mothers don't understand easily the fact that you are not anymore the baby that needs all the attention. You need to start building your own life. Let your destiny be yours, not anyone else's.
If you are healthy, believe me, you have a tremendous power in your hands. Just be, what you want to be, and not what others want you to be. Act.
Get a job, and move out of your parent's house. Take a break for a semester and figure out what you want to do with your life.
Hi there,
I really sympathize with your situation. There is no point in attending university and wasting money if your not enjoying it. You need to gain independence by firstly moving out of your parents home.
Then you should maybe go travelling, money is usually a problem with uni students so their are alot of travelling jobs, especially on cruise ships, which you work on and you get to sleep ion them and travel all around the world, same with a working holiday in hotels!
Sometimes you have to be a little bit selfish and do whats best for you. Tell your parents that you need to discover what you want out of life and you need to gain some independence and prespective. They might not initally been too keen on the idea, but I'm sure they know how you feel deep down, they were also 22 once!!
So go on a working holiday, earn some cash, have some fun and think about what you wanna do with things.
Some things you have to learn on your own, and you can't learn them from your parents!
Hope this helps :)
Im 22 too, and i have this like feeling im having a ';almost mid 20s crisis'; too. I find for me, i try to look at what really matters to me. Sometimes its giving advice on here, and i think about becoming a counsellor someday. Sometimes i think about children in africa and thinking about what i could do to help them. When i focus on others, my life isnt so bad. Thats something that makes me feel alive. Try to look back and see what made you happy then, the little dreams you may have had as a child may not be so unrealistic. Hope that helps you out. And i hope you find the hope your looking for. ~ Sheky ~
chin up, man!
i did 1 yr of college after h.s.
didn't work for me
moved back home till i found a friend to crash with
found a crappy job (fastfood)
just to pay my way
and by 22
i had a better job
my own place
and a beautiful girlfriend
things kept getting better
and after 15 years of waiting till i was ready
i'm putting myself through school
doing what I want for ME
and not mom and pop
they are proud of me now
but that's not what i'm looking for
i felt like a loser (depressed, drunk and suicidal)
for too many years
take your time
occupy yourself with work
research whatever fancies you
when you're ready, you'll know
i know how u feel. do whatever makes you happy. whatever u like to do then do it. its better to do something u like to do then to get paid more for something u dont
Move out. Get a part-time job. Fill out the neccessary paperwork to take some time off school. Find your self. Spend time with your friends. Go to some places you haven't gotten the chance to see before. Go back to school when you are ready. Switch to a major you like. Get the job you really want. If your parents really love you, they will let you figure out your life and hopefully support you along the way. I don't know your metro area but plent of people rent out rooms and understand the student situation. I hope this all helps.
i really feel for you. one thing that you need to keep in mind is that sometimes life rushes us too fast when all we need is to slow down and appreciate life and all that it has to offer us. you have gifts, believe me. you have passions. you just don't know exactly what they are yet. you will find them with growing up and learning from your experiences. i got my first 'real' job when i was 29 years old . . . no kidding. at 22, i was broke, chasing girls and partying, and not working much, and my mom was my worst enemy . . . but i needed that to happen to me in order to learn more about life . . . and today i am in my mid 30's and super successful. it takes a while to figure it out, but you'll get there. just don't get hooked up with the 'wrong' crowd. be strong and try to think about all the things that you are good at (one of these talents will translate to a great career). . . you will find your passion and your life will improve with each day. you are soooo young . . . take the time to enjoy and learn about life. you can't teach experience and that's exactly what you need. . . .
After many years of working for a living I have come to this conclusion. Even though I enjoy my career, now it is only a means to support my hobbies.
Work and careers are fine. However in life you may as well enjoy it, within means of course. Find a fun hobby, try a few to see what you like. Meet people - do things. Travel.
Work to support your hobbies and you will enjoy life a lot more in the end. Why spend 45 years working toward retirement so you can ';enjoy'; your time. Save for retirement, work for today in a field you will have some fun in - even if you are not the best in it.
Interest in your major is lacking, so finish it and use it as a springboard to another field career. Maybe one of your hobbies can lead to a career? Here are a few ';hobbies'; that have wide reaching travel and job expansion --- Suba diver, Photography, Peace Corp worker, Skydiver, tomb raider, there are a lot more depending on what you like to do.I am really lost in life...Please give me some helful advice..?
try and explaining this to your parents. let them know how unhappy you are. if they are still disappointed after a ';heart-to-heart'; maybe youshould take a break from school and go find yourself.
go do something that you wouldn't normally do, go check out the world...HAVE FUN!
Do what I'm planning on doing. Move to Thailand to be a monk.
Well, you're already a grown up and your confusion takes place in the over protection you get from your parents. Let me tell you that I was in your shoes about 10 years ago, and it wasn't a quite comfortable situation.
The first thing you have to do is to get a job. REALLY... that simple action will start to open your eyes to the real life; its a good start and you'll start to be economically independent of your parents. This brings the fact that you won't have to beg anymore for money and you'll make your own decisions.
Try to be as busy as you can, don't waste your time watching TV or playing video games, and by the way, have a lot of girlfriends but don't get caught sentimentally by any of them.
READ. When you are in high school this might be the most boring thing ever, but right now, visit a book store near you and get a book that gets your attention.
You feel lost because you are an adult by now and you need your independence. Your mother will fight you for this, but mothers don't understand easily the fact that you are not anymore the baby that needs all the attention. You need to start building your own life. Let your destiny be yours, not anyone else's.
If you are healthy, believe me, you have a tremendous power in your hands. Just be, what you want to be, and not what others want you to be. Act.
Get a job, and move out of your parent's house. Take a break for a semester and figure out what you want to do with your life.
Hi there,
I really sympathize with your situation. There is no point in attending university and wasting money if your not enjoying it. You need to gain independence by firstly moving out of your parents home.
Then you should maybe go travelling, money is usually a problem with uni students so their are alot of travelling jobs, especially on cruise ships, which you work on and you get to sleep ion them and travel all around the world, same with a working holiday in hotels!
Sometimes you have to be a little bit selfish and do whats best for you. Tell your parents that you need to discover what you want out of life and you need to gain some independence and prespective. They might not initally been too keen on the idea, but I'm sure they know how you feel deep down, they were also 22 once!!
So go on a working holiday, earn some cash, have some fun and think about what you wanna do with things.
Some things you have to learn on your own, and you can't learn them from your parents!
Hope this helps :)
Im 22 too, and i have this like feeling im having a ';almost mid 20s crisis'; too. I find for me, i try to look at what really matters to me. Sometimes its giving advice on here, and i think about becoming a counsellor someday. Sometimes i think about children in africa and thinking about what i could do to help them. When i focus on others, my life isnt so bad. Thats something that makes me feel alive. Try to look back and see what made you happy then, the little dreams you may have had as a child may not be so unrealistic. Hope that helps you out. And i hope you find the hope your looking for. ~ Sheky ~
chin up, man!
i did 1 yr of college after h.s.
didn't work for me
moved back home till i found a friend to crash with
found a crappy job (fastfood)
just to pay my way
and by 22
i had a better job
my own place
and a beautiful girlfriend
things kept getting better
and after 15 years of waiting till i was ready
i'm putting myself through school
doing what I want for ME
and not mom and pop
they are proud of me now
but that's not what i'm looking for
i felt like a loser (depressed, drunk and suicidal)
for too many years
take your time
occupy yourself with work
research whatever fancies you
when you're ready, you'll know
i know how u feel. do whatever makes you happy. whatever u like to do then do it. its better to do something u like to do then to get paid more for something u dont
Move out. Get a part-time job. Fill out the neccessary paperwork to take some time off school. Find your self. Spend time with your friends. Go to some places you haven't gotten the chance to see before. Go back to school when you are ready. Switch to a major you like. Get the job you really want. If your parents really love you, they will let you figure out your life and hopefully support you along the way. I don't know your metro area but plent of people rent out rooms and understand the student situation. I hope this all helps.
i really feel for you. one thing that you need to keep in mind is that sometimes life rushes us too fast when all we need is to slow down and appreciate life and all that it has to offer us. you have gifts, believe me. you have passions. you just don't know exactly what they are yet. you will find them with growing up and learning from your experiences. i got my first 'real' job when i was 29 years old . . . no kidding. at 22, i was broke, chasing girls and partying, and not working much, and my mom was my worst enemy . . . but i needed that to happen to me in order to learn more about life . . . and today i am in my mid 30's and super successful. it takes a while to figure it out, but you'll get there. just don't get hooked up with the 'wrong' crowd. be strong and try to think about all the things that you are good at (one of these talents will translate to a great career). . . you will find your passion and your life will improve with each day. you are soooo young . . . take the time to enjoy and learn about life. you can't teach experience and that's exactly what you need. . . .
I need some serious advice about my love life, please help... I am so sad and depressed?
I am a gay 30 year old guy with a serious demanding career working in Europe.....
Back in the US I have a boyfriend of 6 years and I dont feel like I love him, I saw him this december when I went and I felt so much caring for him and when he left I was so sad that I got a massive headache and cried...... chances are I will never live with him again, just see him once every year or so.
here in Europe I met a guy like the guys I always wanted to me, my type of guy, I really like him and I feel like I am falling inlove with him; the problem is I'll leave europe in one year and back to the US
He also has a boyfriend in another country and like me, barely sees him, I think he feels the same for me, but I dont wanna fall inlove and then leave europe and have my heart destroyed
what should I do?
any advice? should I just never see him again?I need some serious advice about my love life, please help... I am so sad and depressed?
It sickens me that you would both cheat on your b/f's, and not do them a favor and dump them, so they can move on with their life.I need some serious advice about my love life, please help... I am so sad and depressed?
go with your heart.if you love the guy or you're falling in love then maybe you should give it a try. maybe you two could arrange something, like maybe he could move nearer to you or something(seeing as your job is demanding) i really don't know though but if you really don't feel much for the other guy then maybe it's time to move on.there's plenty of guys out there and you're still young! :)
Do what your Heart tells you to do..Thats the best compass..
So sorry to hear of your dilemma. The hardest thing is that you don't want everyone's feelings to be hurt - and that's an excellent quality. However, it's unrealistic. With such a hard decision, it's likely that feelings will get hurt. If you don't want to be with your boyfriend here in the states, you'll just have to tell him that. (be gentle, though). Or, perhaps, what the best thing is to just not have a significant other for now until you can settle somewhere. I know from past experience that long-distance relationships seldom work, and when you hang on to them for so long, it just turns out to be a big mess.
Really calculate your decision ... what do YOU want?
As for the guy in Europe .. maybe a strong friendship is as far as you should take it.... yes, you have strong feelings for one another, but at what cost?
What I would do is back off both guys and figure myself out first. Keep relationships on hold for the time being until you settle in one place for good. Having to go thither and yon all the time is just making the situation more complicated than it needs to be. Maybe if you explain this to both guys, they'll be adult enough to understand where you're coming from, and save those feelings from being hurt....
I hope things work out for you...
blessed be.
Whatever you do, don't cheat. Make it quite clear to all involved how you are feeling.
It doesnt matter your sexual orientation on this one... it is the tried and true long distance relationship blues.
Everything is better when it is in hand... like the person you like right now... you like him more because you are around him more. He can do things with you where your bf can't because of the distance.
It is a hard situation for everyone. Unless you really want to cheat, break it off with the dude in the states and give the guy in Europe a chance... but only if he is single too...
IMHO... I don't think either are right for you... so for now go with what will make you happy.
thats soooo mean manny.
jerk.
i think you should stay in europe with this guy or figure something out with him where you two can be together because it sounds like both of you dont really like your boyfriends much...
If you have told your old lover that you are breaking up with him, Just start immigration proceedings for your new friend.
You can not change your feelings, why stay alone if you are not leaving for a year?
Darling, think of yourself and how you feel, if you really like this new guy you owe it to the guy back home to tell him how you feel, spend time with this new guy.. you never know!!! just do it! don't think about the fact that you will be leaving.. he might come back with you.. or maybe you'll find something to do there.. just follow your heart hunny!
Well the thing you need to do is get off your butt and get her sometnig have with her and stop crying about it man. You 30 year old. If you not with her then go find somone else ok.
If you don't love your boyfriend in the US, you should let him move on with his life and find someone who he can be with that can reciprocate his love. He's probably basically waiting on you, and that's not fair to him.
As far as the guy in Europe, if you guys get together and he (or you) still has another love interest, then that could be considered cheating. If falling for him and then having to leave isn't something you want to do, I suggest you leave this guy alone.
You've got some tough decisions to make, but my suggestion would be to pour yourself into work and just stay casual friends with whomever for now. A year isn't that long, and you're basically going to be starting your life over once you settle somewhere again. Perhaps it's time to make a choice about the career, too? Is it time to make a lifetime commitment to someone and sacrifice the career moves a bit in order to be happy in your personal life? It doesn't sound like there's much balance between the two areas right now. Decide what you want ultimately in your life, then make your moves accordingly.
To be honest, I think this is all emotion based on convience. You said that when you saw your boyfriend over Christmas you had a lot of feelings for him and even cried when you guys parted. Only a few weeks later you've ';fallen in love'; with another man. I guarantee when you se your boyfriend again those feelings of love and commitment will come back. You have to decide if the relationship you have with your current boyfriend is worth ending for something that A: might not happen since this new man has a boyfriend and B: Will onyl be temporary, since you are moving back to the US.
Good luck
i think if you dont want to be with that guy you should tell him you dont want to be with him and then tell the other guy your story about how ur gonna leave in a year and that you dont want your heart broken
put your love on hold until you settle in one place.
No matter what you do, it'll be tough.
But a relationship cannot even be expected to survive with a once a year encounter. As painful as it will be, I would leave my US guy, and allow him to also find someone he can be with.
But I'm not sure about what you should do with the European guy. That's a gamble either way.
the only thing i can say to u is follow ur heart u can like someone care for someone.... but love is a different ball game if ur heart is tellin u that u love someone then go for it ...... u only live once... wats the worst that can happin i no ur eart may be broke but that can be healed in time . i think u should sit down an tell this person how u feel an who knows it could be the best thing that ever happened
What a tangled web you do weave!! Bless. Ok, do you like your career? Is it the sort of career that you could say you wanted to be based in one area or does it require you to go everywhere? I think what you need to figure out is what you want - career or love. Sounds like you can't have both with your career as you're moving round too much. Then, you need to figure out if you do want romance n love, then what sort of person do you want it with? If you don't think the bloke in the US is the one for you then it's only fair to tell him. You can then have fun with the bloke you've met in Europe without feeling guilty, and then destiny will take its course. If you're meant to end up with him then you will, if not, you'll meet someone else that will make you happy. Maybe sit down with ur Europe bloke and have a serious chat about what you both want and see what answers come up. Good luck xx
Your post is about your feelings.
The boyfriend in the US: ';I don't feel like I love him';.
In Europe: ';I feel like I am falling in love with him';. ';I think he feels the same for me.';
My gut feeling is that you no longer love the American and now love the European, but are scared of losing them both. I would quote something I heard years ago:-
';Sometimes you have to jump off a cliff and build your wings on the way down.';
Tell the European how you feel about him. Listen to his response carefully and then make your decision about whether you have a future together.
Good luck.
That is a hard question .... the problem you have isn't really a boyfriend problem... it's the fact that you keep moving. Is your job (I am guessing that is why you are moving around) important enough to give up on having a meaningful long term relationship- or a series of heart wrenching long distance relationships? I would really take a hard look at your career and decide if these love dilemmas are worth it. Maybe you can date this guy in Europe and if it is working out well, look for another job that will accomodate you better. Or see if he would ever move around with you.
It is a very hard decision... good luck
Back in the US I have a boyfriend of 6 years and I dont feel like I love him, I saw him this december when I went and I felt so much caring for him and when he left I was so sad that I got a massive headache and cried...... chances are I will never live with him again, just see him once every year or so.
here in Europe I met a guy like the guys I always wanted to me, my type of guy, I really like him and I feel like I am falling inlove with him; the problem is I'll leave europe in one year and back to the US
He also has a boyfriend in another country and like me, barely sees him, I think he feels the same for me, but I dont wanna fall inlove and then leave europe and have my heart destroyed
what should I do?
any advice? should I just never see him again?I need some serious advice about my love life, please help... I am so sad and depressed?
It sickens me that you would both cheat on your b/f's, and not do them a favor and dump them, so they can move on with their life.I need some serious advice about my love life, please help... I am so sad and depressed?
go with your heart.if you love the guy or you're falling in love then maybe you should give it a try. maybe you two could arrange something, like maybe he could move nearer to you or something(seeing as your job is demanding) i really don't know though but if you really don't feel much for the other guy then maybe it's time to move on.there's plenty of guys out there and you're still young! :)
Do what your Heart tells you to do..Thats the best compass..
So sorry to hear of your dilemma. The hardest thing is that you don't want everyone's feelings to be hurt - and that's an excellent quality. However, it's unrealistic. With such a hard decision, it's likely that feelings will get hurt. If you don't want to be with your boyfriend here in the states, you'll just have to tell him that. (be gentle, though). Or, perhaps, what the best thing is to just not have a significant other for now until you can settle somewhere. I know from past experience that long-distance relationships seldom work, and when you hang on to them for so long, it just turns out to be a big mess.
Really calculate your decision ... what do YOU want?
As for the guy in Europe .. maybe a strong friendship is as far as you should take it.... yes, you have strong feelings for one another, but at what cost?
What I would do is back off both guys and figure myself out first. Keep relationships on hold for the time being until you settle in one place for good. Having to go thither and yon all the time is just making the situation more complicated than it needs to be. Maybe if you explain this to both guys, they'll be adult enough to understand where you're coming from, and save those feelings from being hurt....
I hope things work out for you...
blessed be.
Whatever you do, don't cheat. Make it quite clear to all involved how you are feeling.
It doesnt matter your sexual orientation on this one... it is the tried and true long distance relationship blues.
Everything is better when it is in hand... like the person you like right now... you like him more because you are around him more. He can do things with you where your bf can't because of the distance.
It is a hard situation for everyone. Unless you really want to cheat, break it off with the dude in the states and give the guy in Europe a chance... but only if he is single too...
IMHO... I don't think either are right for you... so for now go with what will make you happy.
thats soooo mean manny.
jerk.
i think you should stay in europe with this guy or figure something out with him where you two can be together because it sounds like both of you dont really like your boyfriends much...
If you have told your old lover that you are breaking up with him, Just start immigration proceedings for your new friend.
You can not change your feelings, why stay alone if you are not leaving for a year?
Darling, think of yourself and how you feel, if you really like this new guy you owe it to the guy back home to tell him how you feel, spend time with this new guy.. you never know!!! just do it! don't think about the fact that you will be leaving.. he might come back with you.. or maybe you'll find something to do there.. just follow your heart hunny!
Well the thing you need to do is get off your butt and get her sometnig have with her and stop crying about it man. You 30 year old. If you not with her then go find somone else ok.
If you don't love your boyfriend in the US, you should let him move on with his life and find someone who he can be with that can reciprocate his love. He's probably basically waiting on you, and that's not fair to him.
As far as the guy in Europe, if you guys get together and he (or you) still has another love interest, then that could be considered cheating. If falling for him and then having to leave isn't something you want to do, I suggest you leave this guy alone.
You've got some tough decisions to make, but my suggestion would be to pour yourself into work and just stay casual friends with whomever for now. A year isn't that long, and you're basically going to be starting your life over once you settle somewhere again. Perhaps it's time to make a choice about the career, too? Is it time to make a lifetime commitment to someone and sacrifice the career moves a bit in order to be happy in your personal life? It doesn't sound like there's much balance between the two areas right now. Decide what you want ultimately in your life, then make your moves accordingly.
To be honest, I think this is all emotion based on convience. You said that when you saw your boyfriend over Christmas you had a lot of feelings for him and even cried when you guys parted. Only a few weeks later you've ';fallen in love'; with another man. I guarantee when you se your boyfriend again those feelings of love and commitment will come back. You have to decide if the relationship you have with your current boyfriend is worth ending for something that A: might not happen since this new man has a boyfriend and B: Will onyl be temporary, since you are moving back to the US.
Good luck
i think if you dont want to be with that guy you should tell him you dont want to be with him and then tell the other guy your story about how ur gonna leave in a year and that you dont want your heart broken
put your love on hold until you settle in one place.
No matter what you do, it'll be tough.
But a relationship cannot even be expected to survive with a once a year encounter. As painful as it will be, I would leave my US guy, and allow him to also find someone he can be with.
But I'm not sure about what you should do with the European guy. That's a gamble either way.
the only thing i can say to u is follow ur heart u can like someone care for someone.... but love is a different ball game if ur heart is tellin u that u love someone then go for it ...... u only live once... wats the worst that can happin i no ur eart may be broke but that can be healed in time . i think u should sit down an tell this person how u feel an who knows it could be the best thing that ever happened
What a tangled web you do weave!! Bless. Ok, do you like your career? Is it the sort of career that you could say you wanted to be based in one area or does it require you to go everywhere? I think what you need to figure out is what you want - career or love. Sounds like you can't have both with your career as you're moving round too much. Then, you need to figure out if you do want romance n love, then what sort of person do you want it with? If you don't think the bloke in the US is the one for you then it's only fair to tell him. You can then have fun with the bloke you've met in Europe without feeling guilty, and then destiny will take its course. If you're meant to end up with him then you will, if not, you'll meet someone else that will make you happy. Maybe sit down with ur Europe bloke and have a serious chat about what you both want and see what answers come up. Good luck xx
Your post is about your feelings.
The boyfriend in the US: ';I don't feel like I love him';.
In Europe: ';I feel like I am falling in love with him';. ';I think he feels the same for me.';
My gut feeling is that you no longer love the American and now love the European, but are scared of losing them both. I would quote something I heard years ago:-
';Sometimes you have to jump off a cliff and build your wings on the way down.';
Tell the European how you feel about him. Listen to his response carefully and then make your decision about whether you have a future together.
Good luck.
That is a hard question .... the problem you have isn't really a boyfriend problem... it's the fact that you keep moving. Is your job (I am guessing that is why you are moving around) important enough to give up on having a meaningful long term relationship- or a series of heart wrenching long distance relationships? I would really take a hard look at your career and decide if these love dilemmas are worth it. Maybe you can date this guy in Europe and if it is working out well, look for another job that will accomodate you better. Or see if he would ever move around with you.
It is a very hard decision... good luck
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