Ive been seeing this guy for like a year and a half, we broke up christmas 2006, but then started talkin again in jan. 2007. In feb. 2007 I caught a girl coming out of his house....I was destroyed!!! We still continued to see each other after that incident...you have 2 understand he was my first Everything,my first love, my first sex partner, my first boyfriend! But this girl eventually became his girlfriend...i continued 2 c him off and on for the next 2 years. He says no matter who hes with he will continue 2 c me but i don't want that....i want to b with him. But now he's sayin he doesnt want to b hurt and that he wants us to be friends first!!! Its killing me cause we didnt start out as friends...I dont know what to do!!! I gave him an ultimatum today and i told him that i couldnt wait around for him no more.....Do you kno what he said?? He flipped it on me and said i jus dont wanna b there for him anymore!!! I couldnt stop cryin, im still cryin!!!! I was wrong to see him while he had a girl, but in my mind i felt like i was there b4 her!! I feel like karma is biting on my *** for doing that!!! He says he's single now but he doesnt wanna b in a relationship....he's been sayin that for 2 and a half years....What confuses me is the fact that we spend every weekend togehter but during the week i wont hear a peep from him!!!! what should i do???? someone give me some advice!!!!!IM FEELING SO HELPLESS!!!! I NEED SOME GOOD ADVICE ON MY LOVE LIFE!!!?
I've kinda been in that situation so i get you. But believe me when I say that its better for you to forget about this guy and find someone who will value you and treat you how you deserve to be treated. You're much better than running after some guy who's enjoying the fact that you're being tortured. Once you find someone else this bf or ex of yours will be crawling back but you'll be too busy to notice..IM FEELING SO HELPLESS!!!! I NEED SOME GOOD ADVICE ON MY LOVE LIFE!!!?
Know that you deserve so much better.
Know that you don't need him, and to be honest, you don't need anyone! It's difficult to get over someone you love, but time (and smart decisions) will heal you.
Take a page out of the book of Destiny's Child and/or Norah from 'A Doll's House,' and let yourself become an independent woman.
Drop him. You do not need this. I to believe in karma. But it only happens when you do someone wrong. Start fresh. Start anew. Please i have been there and done that. You will be waiting and waiting and he will drag you through dirt. And all that time you wasted you could have done so much more.
You cant force him to care or to make you his one and only. Wonder who he sees on the week nights when he is not with you. Nice he gives you week ends. This is going nowhere just be happy being one of many or get out there and find a guy you don't have to share.
okaay so um.. if you really love him then wait for him. and start the conversations ad maybe just maybe he'll be in to you again :) hope i helped
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Move on. If he was the one for you, he would know that. He is using you for easy sex and you are willing to give it to him with nothing in return.
i know it really hard, i completely understand, you need to move on if hes being a jerk. you dont have to date anyone else just make him think your over him. it will make him sad and he might want you back.
I think you should drop him...hes not worth it...im sure you can do better!!! Good Luck!!!
Help me PLEASE!!!!!!
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it sounds like he is just dragging you along i would find someone else before you waste anymore time with him. but you do want you think you should. good luck
guys come and go thers a million out there and even if he was your first of everything u will still love him deep in side but u will forgot of him one day
ya get out. he's using you. he just wants you around so that he'll have some one.
He just wants poon.
Walk it off, stop being a weiner.
Get the **** over it and move on.
That's kind of pathetic, don't you think?
**** him feed him beans hes a douche simple its easy..
get revenge ; )
or....
find someone new
tell him if he ever wants to be with u agen its either now or never, or otherwise your just his back up plan
go to the other girl maybe she didnt no about u
now first and foremost you need to tell him how you feel and if after that he still just wants to be friends then I'm sorry but you're wasting precious time on this jerk that doesnt want to be with you. I know from experience that its hard to let go of your first I had a hard time with it for 2 years!! two years of my life wasted on him I don't want you to waste time on this guy when the right one could be a day away if you wanna talk more then massage me k? I hope you feel better let me know what happens
LET HIM GO! hes treating you like garbage because he knows no matter what he does you'll always be there. you should of left him along time ago. me and my boyfriend just broke up and it killed me to be his friend cause it wasnt like beforeee, but besides that you need to move on in life and let him go, hes holding you back from having a good emotional relationship.
Hey Honey, Don feel for a Guy who's not feeling for U........
When it comes to feelings or relationship, U should reciprocate the feeling which u get from ur partner or U can show a lot of affection to some point.
If He's ignoring u, Don go behind him...
If u've found tat he's not reciprocating ur feeling, jus come out of him, HE DOESN'T DESERVE U.....
U'll get Ur Guy Soon....
All The Very Best Honey.........
love is like an roller coaster ride you can get the seat that someone else is in if you get of that ride someone else is gonna take that seat
love goes and will come back just take your time and wait until it comes again and you can be the first one to take the best seat you just have to wait
if he doesnt want a relationship then he doesnt want a relationship with you you cant make someone love something that they dont
you don't want to be force to get married with someone your not
stop seeing him and in a year you get over him
just tell him you really like him but you no he doesnt like you so you cant see him anymore
the trials of the unrequited heart-you sound young. growing up is pain but take heart-there's a poet out there right now pondering on you and he throws ream after ream inthe trash in fear of knowing you, you have that hold over him, so dry your eyes and let your heart slowly heal-it'll take time but you'll be richer for the experience. besides the guy sounds like a smooth talking jerk you too good for'm take care.
OK here are the facts in this situation. 1 he doesn't want to make a commitment to you. 2 you want him to make a commitment because that is what you need from him emotionally. 3 your continuing this relationship is hurting you. 4 either you have to let him go, or except the way things are right now and just go with the flow. You have to ask yourself, '; Can I share him and still be with him, or would I be better off to just let him go and move on?'; Maybe you would be happier if you found someone like yourself who is ready for a commitment.Best Wishes.
am sorry to say this, but that guy doesnt love any one, not even himself.. how does he dare to use the guilt on u ? and why do u allowed him to treat u like this? u deserve better than this ****. there is a good guy out there waiting for ur love, dont waste it on this guy. all hes doing is playing all of us....and dont cry for a guy like that, he does not deserve ur tears......
he probably just used you forget about him y do you have to waste tears on a guy who doesnt care bout you forget him let him goo suck d*** i hate when guys treat us like shittt forget bout him start finding another one i no its so hard i got my heart broken too but that odesnt mean it was the end i wish you goodluck on moving on
hey sweetie... i know its hard and tough... .but you gotta be strong..
i know he was your first everything... but that shouldnt destroy your chance to meet a man who would ACTUALLY wanna be with you and no one else..
you deserve better than just a weekend.. you deserve a man who wants to live for you not just live WITH you... a man you wants you because he LOVES you not loves you because he WANTS you...
just cuz he's your first doenst mean he's the ONE.
learn from this mistake and move on... if he doesnt wanna BE WITH YOU... than he's just using you honey.. dont do that to yourself... you're better than that ...
now you know what kinda guy you SHOULDNT date...
please dont let him keep hurting you like this...
you dont need a man to complete you... complete yourself first .. than a man WILL COME ALONG! %26lt;3
your in my prayers hon!
good luck and God Bless %26lt;3%26lt;3
You spend the weekends together and don't hear a peep during the week? The weekend is sex. The weekdays are nothing.
This guy just wants to get laid and have absolutely no responsibility except to get his rocks off.
In your heart I know that you know what you need to do:
DUMP THIS USER LOSER! Get on with your life. There are lots of others who will treat you better than this dipsh*t.
I know it's hard to move on from the first guy you really loved, but if it's one-sided it'll only make you miserable. A guy never has the right to cheat and use you. I'm not suggesting you start to date right away and try to find someone to make you forget about him either, (take some time to build yourself up again and focus on YOU for a while). When you're finally ready, try finding someone who really appreciates you and treats you right. Remember you're worth it!
He doesn't treat you right hun! He only uses you, gave you the title of being the ';girl on the side';? OH HELL NO!
he isn't worthy to look at your shadow, do you... go ahead and keep yourself busy, if he's worth it he'll turn around and apologize and realize what you're worth. if not you're going to find an awesome guy worthy of you! :]]
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I think you already know the answer, but need to have some confirmation.
You need to do what is right for you and it sounds like you already did. You have enough respect for yourself to tell him he needs to make a choice to be with you all the way or to move on.
If you already know you can't just be friends, then it was the right decision to make him decide one way or the other.
If he's not man enough to take the time to understand where you are coming from then he not worth your time, no matter how painful it may be to let go. The right man for you will understand you and will not get mad at you for expressing how you feel, whether he likes what he's hearing or not.
Good luck
DZ
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