Am i a bit mental?i wish there was some way to improve my life.please read/give honest advice,bc i feel shitty

since i was born,my parents (mainly my dad) controlled everything i did.and academic excellence was the most important thing.i was very sheltered.i felt like the only way to gain appreciation from them was to make the grades. when i reached highschool, i became a ';serial'; dater and stopped making perfect grades.i seeked appreciation from the boys i dated, and then i would dump them and continue with other boys(this didn't include sex).when i reached college,i missed my friends horribly and was jealous that they were going to the same colleges with eachother,and i was stuck at a college that wasn't even my first or second choice.i hated it.and then my sophomore yr, the close friends i made at college all transferred to diff colleges(they too didn't like it there).this made me sad,and my grads plumetted.i also started dating a boy that was just as controlling/obsessed with grades as my dad.now it's my junior yr,and he left me for a really topnotch student.i feel like my life is a failureAm i a bit mental?i wish there was some way to improve my life.please read/give honest advice,bc i feel shitty
You have been dominated and controlled and you need to take control for, and also of, yourself. You are not mental, or a failure!


Get some self assertion classes and think about what you want from life. Then make some decisions and carry them through. i promise you, you will feel much better when you are doing what you want to be doing...good luck...;Am i a bit mental?i wish there was some way to improve my life.please read/give honest advice,bc i feel shitty
your life is unsatisfying because you insist on blaming others for your actions. you are an adult so start acting like it. grades are important, an education is important...don`t waste it. There are things in life that are important both as a person and in the things we do. I`m sure your parents taught you right from wrong..so focus...to do anything else is to blame others for your failures...
What in the world are you doing to yourself !First off you are in collage good for you , your lucky to be there.second as far as friends go they are taking care of business.you should too,third boys,men, whatever slow down .you have way to many irons in the fire .Take it one day at a time. you will get there , honest you will. be happy with yourself and take PRIDE in what you are doing, YOU ARE NOT MENTAL!!!!!!!
Darling... You are not mental. Through a lifetime of being so hard on yourself, you have grown accustomed to ignoring your needs and cater to everyone else's.





This very situation just manefest itself differently in you in the form of relationships or speed dating... Most anorexics and bulemics become what they are because of this very same issue. Control...





When you allow someone else to control you you teach them that you agree with their methods and their fear tactics. You catered to a incorrect father/child mindset by not fighting back.





When we adopt other behaviors that we might not normally subscribe to in our lives we do it because we found that through it we gain back some of our control, that we lost over submitting against our will in order to gain love from it.





You really should have a heart to heart with your dad... Tell him how you feel. You need to understand that grades are important and if you get great ones... it is only because you need to you should never respond like a trained dog with something as vital to your happiness and life as good grades.





I'd suggest you working hard FOR YOURSELF in school and getting good grades FOR YOUR OWN QUALITY OF LIFE... and come out and tell your father... ';I do not do this to please you, I do this for myself.'; Let it be known, hear yourself speak it out loud and refuse to allow yourself to depend uponhis praise and rejection to validate your life.





When people say that they feel ';crazy'; or ';mental'; It is almost always the long term nervous effects of being controlled against your will that causes that kind of mental rebellion. That out of control, crazy feeling becomes adopted by some and they run with it into all sorts of conditions and behaviors... All it is, is your psyche, your inner being, screaming out for you to gain control.





Imagine a drowning man... If you didn't see the water he was neck deep in from a distance but only his head, screaming and ranting and thrashing and raving... your assumption from safe distances would be ';What the hell is wrong with that lunatic.';





It is only when we agree to become uncomfortable by getting closer to the issue at hand that we can have a clear view and be able to say ';Hey, he is in trouble, let me either do something, or get help.';





Get closer to the real issues and see that you are not mental... you are screaming for help... Save yourself! You're worth it, grades or not!
Argh!





Sorry, Im not mad at you, Im mad at all the people that are making you feel this way. But you are feeling depressed bc youre letting all of this ';Im not good enough'; stuff get to you. You are a wonderful person, so show it off to the world! Dont worry about your ex, he just doesnt appreciate you for who you are.





Forget the bad times and relive the good!!!





God Bless.
No, your not mental. In my opinion, you could work on the relationships that you have,and try to grow more independent. I know its cliche and everything, but start doing things for you, not for anyone else.
you're not mental. you just need to have some time with yourself. in your description all you talked about were parents, friends, boyfriends, grades. these are all things that are important to young people but don't be obsessed by it. this is why i am totally AGAINST children growing up sheltered. it seems like things have just gotten overwhelming for you. just live your life and try to find happiness within yourself (easier said than done, i know). best of luck.
no...dont feel so depressed,my dear...


but u still have a chance! make ur life now! go n study,...study so much that life has lots to show u.....c'mon frnds never matter more than studies....