I need some advice about ways to spice up my sex life.......?

Ive ben with my spouse for 16 years and married 13.. Our schedules are very conflicting cause he works nights and I work days. We only see eachother on the weekend. I work full time and go to school. I miss the affection and tenderness of love making. When we do get a chance to be intimate,its quick and routine and only once a week. twice the most. Im not focusing on cheating.. I went that route a long time ago and its not all that. I dont recommend anyone to cheat on ur mate. its not worth it. Anyway, When we do get a chance to get close, its routine. I already know what to exspect.What should I do? Im frustrated and I dont want to get bored and go out there again and do something stupid.. Please help!!!I need some advice about ways to spice up my sex life.......?
Men cheat when they are bored, so be prepared. If you are bored think of him.


Maybe take off one day early and surprise him with a romantic dinner cooked when he wakes up.


OR if you really want him to wake up in a good mood. Crawl under the blanket and make sure he wakes up to something very special.





How about role play... not getting dressed up crap but you take control instead of him and make it last longer. Stop him before he is finished. Make him long for you during the sex. It will make it much more worth it. Try it in a different place in the house.


Ex: call him into the kitchen wearing whip cream and ask him to help you get it off.


At first it is a little uneasy but then you will love it.I need some advice about ways to spice up my sex life.......?
Take a weekend trip somewhere, even just a one day and night getaway. Maybe go to Victoria Secret and get something sexy to spice thing up a little. Maybe bring some candles, take a Bath together, just relax and have fun.
Well I would suggest you wear something skimpy with nothing under neath high heels and light a candle and stay that way for him through out the day and if that doesn't turn him on ,he must be dead in side.
I was going to suggest a threesome but It sounds like you don't have that much time for a two-some. Try dressing-up, using toys, more foreplay, ect....
Can you set aside a date night and go out before you have sex?
Me and my husband started a fantasy game when we found that our love making was becoming routine. One of us stated a fantasy fufilled and the other found a way to make it true. This doesnt have to be kinky or take alot of time. One of our fantasies was to have sex in a pool, another was to try 3 different positions in a day, and finally one was a full body massage. It made each of us feel like were the center of attention. I would also suggest talking to him about it, let him know how you feel. I know that my husband thought that I was content with the sex we were having when even he wasnt, and thats why he was content with it.
tell him to get a night off during the weeek. and take a break or soething. go on vca. and have fun.





try some new stuff.
you need to find a way to make more time for each other. slow him down. cover him in cool whip and take charge. tie his hands to the frame if you have too. next time you go out leave your pantys at home and tell him. stick small notes in his pockets for him to find. start giving him back massages with scented oils.
The reason new relationships are so exciting and passionate is because its new and uncertain...to get the passion back one needs to romance...make your partner know their loved and they will put more feeling in their actions...time to get away...cruise, week-end...something you both can spend time with each other...good luck.
Invite a hot girl into the action. Since you cheated on him you kinda owe him something anyway.
Try being spontaneous by disrupting your routine once in awhile. Put the fear of God in your spouse by demanding a moment of his time, or ten minutes off his sleep schedule!





Works for me and my wife...
Can you maybe take the wheel on this one. Hubby maybe scared to try something new. Onething we do is we suprise one another,once i came home and kids were gone. She meet me at front door said nothing to me-took my breif case out of my hand,un zipped my pants and gave me an well wonderful oral. we then had it 3 times a day for fri/sat/and sunday we had house to self,after church we came home and retired to bedroom. You can get games that are really fun as well. we enjoy a great loving sexual relationship as well as norm every day today life.
Talk about it. Communication is key. Role play. Suprise him with some nice neglige. Read the Kama Sutra. If all else fails then go to a sex therapist or pick between work/school or satisfaction.
OK! This is something fun and exciting to do. Take a day off, find out what time he has lunch. Pick him up, drive to some place not to far out and have sex in the car, or in the woods, or maybe go to a lake and slide in the water and make love. You have to put some thought into somethings you might not ever do, and do them. Trust me he will be very turned on by this. Call him on his cell phone and leave him little sexy msgs. Like your not wearing any panties and your dusting the house right now wish you were here. Or put a pair of your panties in his lunch. Think of different things to get HIS mind thinking. Pretty soon he's going to come looking for you. Have fun with your love making. There isn't a law that says we have to have sex in our bed everytime we do it. You call him from work and have phone sex on your break. Tell him all the things you would do to him if you were home right now. Please trust me, this really does work. Go out to dinner, both of you slip off to the rest room and have sex in the bathroom stall. Trying to not get caught is what makes the sex even better. Hope I helped.
If your both off the weekend go to a Pool suite if they are available in your area hubby and I did and it was a nite we would never forget great getaway. and because you have busy lives what your doing now is what's gonna work for yous just have patience and things will get better.
Either go to a fantasy/passion party, or be the hostess of one... and really buy some toys and gear! It's not all that your thinking it is though, they have some neat things that your both will love! My boyfriend is very quite and shy so when we talk about toys or anything, he doesn't like it... but when i showed him some things that i bought for him... he loved it! believe me it helps! our sex life picked right up!
Go out and buy yourself some nice lingerie, and after a nice dinner, slip into something more comfortable......





You can pick up body paints, body chocolate even flavored body whipped cream. Try getting a massager and some warming body oils. Give him a massage or have him paint you.





It doesn't have to be expensive or over the top. Pick something that you will both enjoy.


Relax and go with it. And remember.....





It only seems kinky the first time. :-)
Lordy, lordy, we're turning 40 this year, and our sex life is awesome! (Married nearly 19 yrs.) Go to your favorite search engine and type in ';adult toys'; - - then follow your appetite! I introduced sex toys into our bed a little more than a year ago, and now, my wife is the one buying all the toys!





Toys, toys, toys!!! WooHoo!!!
You definately sound very frustrated. First of all, I have always believed that intimacy, unlike sex, begins with communication. Be honest about your true feelings, even when it is hard to do, if you want you can start the conversation with ';this is hard for me, it's been a while since I've been this honest and open with you';, then tell him how you have been feeling, tell him you'd like to get experimental in the bedroom and ask him what would be exciting to him. Ask him to go for a long walk, hold his hand and talk about whatever you need to, try to laugh and keep things flirty and fun. Then when you feel you guys have sort of started to connect, whisper in his ear that you aren't wearing any underwear and that you need to be with him and tell him that you love him.
Men lose their sex drive so don't take it personally. I just saw a rerun of SNL the other night and they were doing the news skit that they do. They posted a picture of Brad Pitt and Jenifer Aniston kind of walking away from each other and said ';Now if these 2 people can't enjoy sex with eachother for the rest of their lives, what does that say for the rest of us?'; The crowd cracked up.





My point is, you can't change his testosterone levels by being more sexy. I would try more emotion-based forms of intimacy. Long back rubs, massages, bathing him in the bathtub, light touching and petting and caressing. If you're looking for more responsiveness, you have to build up to it. Don't break out the gadgets just yet.
get a boob job