Im torn and confused between 2 men in my life, anyone have any advice?

The first one is the one I am currently dating. I have been with him for almost a year and let me say the beginiing was rough but we got through it. We have very different personalities, but thats what brought us together in the first place. The other guy I met 2 years ago through a friend and at first casualy talked. We had both expressed interest in one another and it probably would have gone farther if he didnt end up going back home due to a crisis. We still talk and have many things in common. Im confused over what to do. I feel bad about being with the first guy but still thinking about the other guy. They both make me feel amazing when Im with them. Im just not sure where to go from here. They both tell me they love me and I dont know how to respond. I would like to believe I love the one Im dating, but whenever the other comes into the picture I start second guessing myself. Can anyone give me advice?Im torn and confused between 2 men in my life, anyone have any advice?
Share how you feel with both of them.





That is right - grow up, be a woman, learn to live a life of honesty and integrity, and let BOTH of these men know how you think and feel about them, but also how you think and feel about someone else. They BOTH deserve to know that you are uncertain about your current relationship, and that you feel you might have love for another.





Once you do that I would guess your path will become a lot more clear. And no, I am NOT saying they will both dump you and leave you all alone - I am offering sincere advice here, not a rebuke. I am saying that honesty and transparency has a way of bring CLARITY to almost any situation....so your telling them will both help you understand how you feel about them, and their hearing the truth will help them understand how they feel about you.





If you are unwilling to do that, then just accept that you are a player - a selfish person who looks out for herself above the emotions and concerns of others. Keep that in mind when someone does it to you.





The life lesson here is that it really isn't WHAT you do in your life that you should be judged by...they both might be perfectly comfortable with the current arrangement, in which case you will not need to make a choice and you can stop being so concerned...it is HOW you do it.





Or in simpler terms that you might understand better and that might apply...it isn't about how many guys you date, it is about do they guys you date know how many guys you date.





Live your life with INTEGRITY.





BTW: Ignore the people who say you must not love one guy because you would not have any feelings for the other. These people are either emotionally immature, or just haven't lived long enough to have life throw them some curve balls. Humans are complex creatures, and so are our emotions. What you feel is what you feel - do not let anyone else tell you how you SHOULD feel or define your feelings for you.Im torn and confused between 2 men in my life, anyone have any advice?
First of all you answered your own question. You really dont love the first guy becuase if you really did no other guy would make you second guess your feelings for him. Second you said the second guy is away why even stress it if hes not really around why risk loosing somehting sure with the first guy to just experiment and see how it goes with the second guy.
Take out a piece of paper and a pen!


Now right down the things that you love and how you can both benefit from the relationship with man number1,on one side, and man number 2 on the other!


What ever out weights the other should be the best choice!!!
Well first of all, do you really think the one your not dating loves you? Why does he tell you that if your not even dating you? How could he when you guys have never had the opportunity to really date. At least that's what it sounds like.





You really need to look at the relationship with your current boyfriend and figure out if you are happy with him, if you want to spend your life with him and love him back. And if you are then get the other guy out of your life, and live life with your current boyfriend. Don't be looking for the flavor of the week. It could always be better, but you need to make a commitment to the man who made a commitment to you.





If you find out you shouldn't be with the guy your with now, then do it and do it quick. Otherwise this is how people get caught cheating! Be fair to everyone, don't date them both, it's terrible karma!





Good luck to you, I personally have never been in your situation. I wish you luck, sort out your feelings. But don't play your current boyfriend. And please know that even having emotional feelings is an emotional affair and can be one of the worst affairs to have.
You are not ready for ether. You need to start seeing other people. You are not married so you have nothing binding you to anyone.
I would suggest that you take a breather from the guy you are currently dating, see other people, and then decide if he is really the one for you. You will always wonder if you made the right choice otherwise. Good luck!
I've never been in that situation before but I suggest you pick one before you hurt them both and hurt yourself in the long run.
which is nicer, would not dare do anything to u.. etc.. like that. I have the same problem. but decided. :)
Take a two week vacation away from them both and think on it. only one of them u will miss the most. I did this and it worked out great. Friends and I went out on the lake for 2 weeks had fun and then last day i made my decision.
Honey if you have 2 great guys, keep them both!!!
Go on a Trip....with some girl friends.......or alone......Just separate yourself from the situation and come back to it and see which one you really want....Your heart will tell you.





Seriously.....deep down inside of you - You already Know.....Trust me.....
Break up with your boyfriend and date the other guy.


Or


Keep your boyfriend and tell the other guy you don't love him.





It's not a hard choice. Apparently you dont love you boyfriend anymore and you should ditch him.
Maybe your gut is telling you not to date the second one because you think that it will upset the first guy and you dont want that to happen. If you feel more comfortable around the second guy then dont listen to your gut do what you want to. But if you are best friends with the second guy then it might not be a good idea to go out with him because it might ruin your friendship in the future if you ever break up. I would pick the guy who you thinks loves you the most. GOOD LUCK!!
wow. you prolly dont really love either one...if you did then there would be no need to ask which one you should be with. but it looks like you need to make a list of pros an cons of both men, and debate the better one for you. make sure that you burn the list though, you dont want ayone getting their hands on it.
If you are still going with the first one and thinking about the second one, you are not in love. You haven't seen the second one for quite a while, so how can you be in love with him?





How can they both say they love you? I think people throw that word ';love'; around too much. Sounds like you need to get together with the second one in person to see how you really feel.
Wow, I know exactly how you feel.. I have feelings for 2 guys also.. I would go for a girls weekend, but don't answer any calls from either of them and just try to think of 1. who treats you the best 2. who makes you feel the best when your with them 3. Their Charcter (i.e. what kind of guy are they, and how they fit into your life)





Hope this helps





GOOD LUCK
you have to be with Guy #2 Because he loves u extremely from the sounds of it and has a lot in common with you! you will never find another guy in the world like that! i have been through the same thing! you will always beat your self up for not being with him and their will always be a place in your heart missing if you not with him! he is a part of you! dont lose a man like that!