I need advice in my love life please someone help.?

ok here is the deal. i am moveing to kentucky to be closer to my dad. i have started talking to this lady i met on a dateing site. she is sweet we talk everyday and she seems to be great. she is a beautiful woman and from talking to her on the computer i realy like her. what i need help with is how do i continue this we both want to meet when i get there and everything but i need advice. i don't want to mess things up. and also is it possible to fall in love with someoone you have never met and have only talked to for a few days on a computer? please oh please i need help. she could possibly be the woman i have alwys looked for and i want it to be perfect. and any advice on a romanctic first time together would be great to. we have already decided i would make her dinner but i need ideas on the perfect night. i also want to ask if its way to soon to tell her i am falling in love with her? i don't want to do anything that might screw things up for me. i realy do like this woman alot.I need advice in my love life please someone help.?
Dear kentucky King,





It is possible to fall in love with someone you have only talked to and never seen. Make sure what ever she looks like when you meet her for the first time should not change your feelings for her. Take things 1 step at a time. Sure you love her, and I am sure she is aware of it too, but when saying it make sure you mean it. Sometimes people take infacuassion for love. The big night. A four course meal would be great. Starting with Oysters for appitizers, Ceasar Salad, Roasted Rack of Lamb with garlic mash potatoes, Seasonnel veggs, and a nice reduced pan gravey, or if she likes red meat, than go for Pan seared Beef Roast, with Baked potatoes, Sautaeeted mashrooms, and reduced Red Wine and pan dripping gravey. Your choice for the main course out of Lamb or Beef, and a decative Chocolate dessert. or else freash Strawberries dipped in dark chocolate. Girls love chocolates. Make sure you pare your Wines with your meal. After dinner, you could take her and go for a nice romantic drive, or else put on some soft music and dance. What ever you do, make sure you keep her feelings in mind, and all will go well. How old memories tend to haunt you when you are giving someone else advise. Remember, do not push for any intamacy, unless she is the one giving you the signal. Let the evening progress on its own. Good luck and I will be dying to know what happens and how it worked out. Please do let me know.I need advice in my love life please someone help.?
Yes, way too soon but that's why people date for a while, then become boyfriend and girlfriend, then become engaged for awhile then marry, but it really takes some time, people can be and seem to be very, very nice at first, but you really have to get to know somebody in all situations and circumstances to see if the person becomes CONTROLLING, or VICIOUS, or deadly so to speak or any other luny way, get the picture?, I'd give it some time, before you really decide.
the only way you're gonna know if things work outside of cyber-space is to meet and see!





online relationships are often 'perfect' - people are not. people are organic and moody and difficult but that's the joy of it - real people surprise you! seriously - anything else is just porn.





take a chance.





personally i would grill salmon and serve with some steamed vegetables because it's hard to mess up and as long as you get good quality fish and don't over-steam the veg' then u can produce a meal that would cost you $100/head in a restaurant for fairly little! a couple of salmon steaks, rubbed with butter and garlic and drizzled witrh lemon juice and grilled for about 10 minutes taste great. it'd be good to get organic or river-caught fish and the vegetables the same - go for quality and do as lil as possible. try the meal out a couple of times for yourself beforehand just to get your timings right. you got a steamer? get one!vegetables done in a steamer keep all their colour and flavour (and nutrients) and are seriously yummy(i'd do thin slices of parsnip, carrots andf some heads of brocoli - ypou can put it in the steamer in one and it will take a lil less time than the fish. whack on a nob of butter and season with ground black pepper and sea-salt and it will hbe restaurant quality! if you both drink then i'd suggest a white wine - a macon perhaps?





ooo - and what that girl said about smelling good is KEY!!! dont over-power the food tho' something light and clean like Paul Smith Green is a good start...but all the Smith fragrances are cool - depends on your skin type as to what suits you. if you have a sis then take her along when you buy -girls smell well!





GL





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LOL- JUST READ ALL THE OTHER ANSWERS AND THERE'S SOME GOOD ADVIVE THERE. ALSO FLOWERS AND CANDLES AT THE TABLE ARE COOL BUT GO FOR SOMETHING THAT DOESNT SMELL TOO STRONG - I LIKE IRISES BUT ROSES ARE COOL IF A LIL SUGGESTIVE. FORGET THE NAY SAYERS - I FELL IN LOVE WITH MY SOULMATE AT FIRST SIGHT AND WE ARE STILL WORKING IT OUT!!!!!
Slow down your running to fast.NO you can't fall in love with someone you met on the net.what do


you know about her really What is written doese't


make love ,Love is sharing emotions,and that


is something you have yet to do.B U T on the other hand she may be just for you


Don't have sex with her on the first date.IF she ask


for it,tell her on the next date,that you don't want


love to just be based on sex alone,But that


is up to you.


A women likes flowers,and candle lite.and soft


romantic music,Don't lie to her and tell her you


love her.Just say I could fall in love with so easy


if you let me.





I WISH YOU ALL THE LOVE YOU NEED.
Just be really nice, encourage her to talk about herself, act confident, laugh at her jokes, pay for the meal, and tell her you had fun at the end of the night. Chemistry will... or won't...do the rest. Best you can do. Be sure to look at smell nice, maybe get a good haircut before you meet her, and if you have really strange unattractive facial hair, shave it off. The best thing to do is to be confident though. If this doesn't work out, there are plenty of fish in the sea of the internet, and the real world. Just keep that in mind. If it doesn't work out, it wasn't meant to be. Don't be desperate, she'll be able to tell. Treat it as such a date. And I'll tell you one thing, it's impossible to fall in love this fast through this method. What you feel isn't love, it's a desire to have someone, admiration for what she has in common with you, happiness for how she makes you feel. THink about it and you will be able to see that all your feelings center around you and how she makes you feel, and what she could do for you to change your life. Real love is when it's about the other person either more, or just as much. DO NOT tell her you love her until you have been actually dating for at least three months. Less than that, it's creepy, unless she says it first. People can build a persona on the internet, and reveal only what they want to, so keep in mind that you only know what she wants you to see right now.
I saw a pic of my husband on a personal website and knew I had to meet him, I e-mailed him and we lived 3 hours apart and could only see each other on the weekend, but yes we fell in love before we met and we have been together ever since, and so far it's been 7 years and we have been told we act like newlyweds. He's my best friend and my partner for the rest of my life. He has stood by me in good times and in bad and when my mother was diagnosed with lung cancer he told her we were on our way to get her. He took care of her when I needed to go out of town for 2 days and when I got back my mom said he was a wonderful son. He is my gift from God and I met him here on the net. Good luck and if she is a special lady she will love anything you do for that special night. Just make sure you listen and tell her about you.
Relax ... Personally I do not believe you can fall in love over the net BUT you could use it to learn more about her. When the both of you get together you will know a little about each other and that might help with beginning conversations. As for the perfect night/ date plan an evening where the two of you can talk and get to know each other better.Opt for a quiet restaurant instead of a loud concert ect. Have fun and be yourself. if it is meant to be it will happen.Just have fun and be yourself.
That sounds cool but you need to make sure she really is how she sounds...it's the Internet people can be whatever they want so get to meet her first in person and make sure she is how she said she was...if she wasn't lying go for it maybe she is the right girl for you
Wow. Um...I honestly don't think that it's possible to fall in love with someone in just a few days. Especially if you have never seen them. But if you really like her and you're positive that you don't just WANT to like her, then I would tell you to just do what you would do on a first date with any other girl. If you were going to cook any other girl dinner for a first date, what would you do? And do whatever you would do in that situation.
People have just recently moved into the house next to me and they so happened to have met over the Internet. They are madly in love and whenever they see each other they just stare at one another like they could never live without each other. I can understand why you would be cautious to meet someone you have never met, but in life you have to take risks. If you don't meet her you may end up regretting your decision and will never know what could have been. and yes don't tell her that your in love with her right away.. that can turn a girl away. and i wouldn't make dinner for her on your first dinner. i would take her to a nice Italian restaurant. i mean who doesn't like Italian?!
you should definitely wait before saying the four letter word.


but a candle-lit dinner is lovely!
IF SHE IS IN KENTUCKY PREPARE A NICE DINNER AND GO OUT AND SEE A MOVIE. WAIT A WHILE FOR ANYTHING PHYSICAL EXCEPT A KISS
This is so heartwarming, I had to reply! Firstly, yes, arrange to meet. I think you have put too much pressure on yourself regarding the perfect evening and making dinner...it would be far less stressful for you both to meet in a public place for a quick coffee for the first time so that should it be a disaster and you don't fancy each other, its only an hour of time wasted! On the other hand, if its all systems go, then you will both be really eager only having had a quick coffee together. There are many reasons why a woman might not want you to make her dinner - its dangerous to go to an unknown blokes house no matter how well you think you know them. So she might be feeling a little overwhelmed by the prospect? The romance should not be too much on a first date anyway as that smacks of 'desperate'. If its fun and chatty then it is much, much better for the woman. Its also far too soon to talk love...say something on the third or fourth date but nothing too heavy....you have your whole life ahead of you and rushing it will only spoil the fun. Take your time, woo her and make her feel really special but don't overdo it and scare the poor woman off! Good luck.
well im sure she could be the one for you, but since you havent even met her maybe you should take a little while to get to know her in person before taking the next step. This could be really great for you but i think the biggest thing to be careful of right now is just rushing things so much that it messes it up. Slow down, get to know her in person, let her get to know you and than maybe take the next step, whatever you feel that would be.


As for the night well just make sure that the house is really clean and a comfortable but classy setting, dont be way to casual or too formal. Maybe give her some flowers or something, i wouldnt go so far as roses yet tho.


Other than that, take a deep breath! lol chill out. itll work out fine.





Good luck!! =]
Three things:


1. Its easy for someone to appear perfect on the internet, but nobody actually is.


2. You'll get the best results from her if you remain confident, stay cool, and just be yourself.


3. It is definately too soon to say you love her.
don't let her know how much you like her....you should be yourself. try to make her laugh, i know i like a man that makes me laugh %26amp; NO don't talk about LOVE !!!!!





just tell her you like her. :)


good luck