ADULTS who are actually happy with their life please give me your advice?

I'm in my early 20s and I feel like I've inherited my parent's pessimism/lack of happiness. Whats worst is I'm afraid of becoming my mom. She keeps thinking people are talking about her. Maybe they are or maybe they're not, but she keeps thinking about it. She lets it control her life and lets it get her down. I think I'm becoming like her. Like I always hear my neighbor, who is a grown woman constantly make comments about me!





Like she has everything to say about what I do and I can hear it because her door is open. She lives in front and her family is definitely not perfect! She'll say stuff like ';she's going out now!';, ';she wears so much makeup'; or if I play music in my room, she'll say stuff too!





But her son is a rebellious also. Perhaps it would do her good to look at own family/self as oppose to constantly criticizing other people.





It bothers me because I don't think she works so she's always home and every time I step out of my house, I'm waiting for her to say something to TRY to make me feel bad about myself.ADULTS who are actually happy with their life please give me your advice?
Ignore your neighbor, she is ignorant. If you dont want to become like your mother...try to educate yourself in as many ways as possible, preferrably ones enjoyable for you. Try to be aware of what your rights are in every setting/ situation you come in contact with AT ALL TIMES, so you can proudly fight back if someone tries to be unfair with you. My parents are so much like yours, especially my mother. She takes everything others say wayyy to personal and she gets hurt easily and is always worried about what people say or dont say (and people take advantage of this all the time). For this reason, I have learned to stand up for myself every time possible, let others know that my life is mine AND I would do whatever I want with it, and they dont have to get in my business, unless im selfishly harming someone else (which I always avoid).





Ignore you neighbor; she will get tired of bothering you some time. Also, speak up whenever you have the opportunity...dont ever accept blame from others...which in your heart, you know doesnt belong to you. If you do, they will bug you more because they will realze you feel guilty.ADULTS who are actually happy with their life please give me your advice?
Yes some people are miserable. Some are also not mindful and realize the damage they do to adolescents for all their negativity.





I am not 100% happy I am very sad and have a really rough life. But to meet me you would not know it. I also was raised around allot of negativity but I am very positive and confident. It does help to get validation from others but you have to accept yourself first for who you are. You have to believe in yourself and hold your head high. If you don't no body else will. Try not to let it get to you. Maybe it will help to talk to your parent and explain how you feel. Also it wont hurt to ask them to help seek counseling for you. I did for mydaughter due to her own insecurities and being around negativity in school and my family. It helps her to open up more and express her feelings.
well dont get offended by my saying but your neighbor is a B^tch and is probably depressed about her life but dosent want tp admit it to anyone so instead of thinking about herself she draws atention to other peoples flaws my advice tell her to mind her own buiseness and tend to her own life and if she acts innocent ask her to close the door before making rude comments about you
Well when people say things you have to think.


Is it true?


Does it help me?


Did my action provoke it?


Is it away I can solve the problem if I did provoke?


If you can't answer things questions don't let it bother you. Adults especially elderly people believe it takes a villiage to raise a child. They feel if their child was doing something yhe would want some one to say something, and say things to kids who do wrong. She also could feel the same as you and feel your judging her because her family has problems and feels she should point out your faults.
She probably resorts to making comments about you/your family because she's likely dissatisfied with her own life, but would never let on to anyone that she was.





p.s. Depression [such as what your mom seems to be going through] can be passed down through generations, but please don't let it affect you like it does her. You know yourself better than anyone [especially that neighbor of yours], so do the best you can to shrug it off because those comments don't really mean a thing.