Bad attitude and unsuccessful life. please I need advice?

Hi, thanks for taking time to read my question. Here is some basic information:





I am a 19 year old Asian male. I am currently working at a casino as a card dealer and is miserable with my lack of achievement in life.





The biggest problem I want to fix is my mentality and attitude in life.








Even since I was young I was lazy and unmotivated. When I work I do not put in 100%. I have that subconscious concept of “ooh if I did not try my best and fail then technically I did not fail. It is just because I did not try hard enough not that I am dumb” mentality. I also blame others for my shortcoming like the bad neighborhood I lived in when I was a child and lack of physical health and energy. Also I have that bad habit of not starting a project or work until the mood is just perfect. Another thing is that I give up easily. Even at the age of 19 I feel that I am already a failure and there is nothing I can do to improve the situation. I feel that I can not compete with other people because I already wasted my youth and did not do well in school (I had a 3.8 GPA).





Please be honest and advise me on what to do. Is there any hope of becoming successful even though I wasted my youth and that I am currently 19 years old?





My important goals in life are:


-making a lot of money so that I can live comfortably


-being able to spend time with my family and friend


-have a successful career/business


-giving back to the community


-being able to try new things in life


-being the best person I can possibly be





I really want to improve please advise me on what to do.Bad attitude and unsuccessful life. please I need advice?
You already have some insight into your situation: into why you do (or don't do) what you do (or don't do). The problem is that your insight is mixed with harmful stories that you are telling yourself.





Stories such as ';The Woeful Tale of My Wasted Youth.'; At 19, you're scarcely embarked on your youth. Sure you can waste it--in fact, you can waste it by thinking about how much you've wasted it--but you haven't wasted it yet. Here's a suggestion: go to a couple of open meetings of Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous. Don't go in the suburbs; find some meetings in the grittier parts of a nearby city. There you will see people of 40, 50, 60 and older who've squandered their health and their families and their careers and, in some cases, their freedom, people who truly have wasted their youth, along with their adulthood and their old age. If you're lucky, seeing these people trying to change will, first of all, inspire you with their courage and dignity, and second, show you exactly how little real waste you're dealing with.





For example, if your 3.8 GPA is 3.8 out of 4.0, then you have to know that you did very well in school. If it's 3.8 out of 5.0, then you still did well enough that few professions are out of your reach right now and none are permanently out of your reach. I've seen people go from jail to Yale, from flunking out of college (a 1.2 GPA) to teaching at Harvard.





There is no secret or hint or strategy that will transform you from an underachiever to a man on his way. You just have to do it, one step at a time. It's rarely helpful to contemplate all of the challenges facing you at once, just as it's a bit sickening to imagine all of the food you'll have to eat for the rest of your life spread out on a picnic blanket right in front of you.





The cliches are right: you need to pick a reasonable goal, divide it into manageable tasks, and then do each one, knowing that, much of the time, you will not be inspired. You need to figure out what works for you, practically speaking and then stick to it. A daily schedule, for sure--the question is: by the hour or by the unit of work? The essential thing is to put yourself into the harness often enough and for long enough that inspiration will strike. And it will--IF you're at your desk already, not if you're out at the movies or napping. In other words, inspiration usually FOLLOWS effort, so waiting for it to launch you is sheer foolishness.





Finally, the ';if I don't try, then I can't really fail'; gimmick is the biggest lie of all. Not trying IS failing. It's the way most people fail, in fact. As a casino dealer, you have a front-row seat at an institution built on the human propensity for self-delusion. Use that insight to inoculate yourself against the most noxious of them.





Best of luck!Bad attitude and unsuccessful life. please I need advice?
Ok well i think your biggest issue right now is your job. I don't know if you've been to college or not but you should maybe take some classes that could work around your job and get a degree in something you could use to get a more fullfilling career. That's my advice hope I helped :)
Your considered an adult at 18yrs old, so let get real here, your one yr out of being a teenager...and some how you've decided you wasted your life, one yr an adult and you failed in life already, you certainly do have a problem but failing is not it.


As for wasting you education, long term studies prove that A.D.H.D. kids do far better out of school than they do in, once they get into the work world they do far better.


And there are hundreds of examples of ppl past and present who did pitifully at school, if they even went, who became rich/famous on their own without the genius of high marks.


Fact is, school does not teach what to think, but how to think. You know yourself, much of it is quite useless in the real world but the practise of the useless is still practise.


Take a look at some infamous criminals they had little education if any at all and they came up with many plans and scams that made money. Just pointing out the facts, and of course look at the rich of the 17th, 18th, centuries for example, education was pitiful back then.


I think it often starts with an idea, or just settleing in a business one likes therefor has the drive and instincts to learn all they can about it.


I also believe you have to look and recognize and be ready for opportunity when it strikes.


If you want to change you can, but everyone gets their ';chance'; sooner or later, and one can only be what they were meant to be.


Your going to have to learn patience, you've only started out, so relax and find out what you like, find some hobbies or interests, things that will lead you in different directions, where you can meet others with similar interests.


Stop trying so hard, everything isn't going to happen all at once, try anything and everything you get a chance too, learn anything you can, who know when it might be useful.


And quit putting yourself down, we always see ourselves in the worst light, we're often harder on ourselves than we are on others.


Your no failure, nor will you ever be, success i what we make it, it isn't always about the cash.
Your only 19!!!!!! You've got a whole life ahead of u, u've barely even begun to live! How can u think such things? Give ur self a break! There is definitely hope for u, buddy, there's no way things are gonna go down hill. I think u have a good list, and u can carry it out. Maybe u need to see a shrink?
Your life is a reflection of what you put out to the world. If you're negative you will get negativity in return. Believe in yourself and start working toward a better life. Giving back is a sure fire way of feeling better about yourself , I know this from personal experience. You sound like you have the smarts to do whatever you want to do, so start working on it. Good Luck.
ok first you have to improve your status before improving you financial status...about not doing the best of you...i have a solution i do when i feel lazy...put in your mind that a very beautiful sexy girl is looking at you working...;) i think you know how to work in this situation...rele it works..


second, doing work only under your good mood...this may take time to get use to it, you will have to challenge yourself to do something you don't like..cause dude, you will never proceed when you do something only you like, otherwise everybody will be perfect!!


third, if you want to communicate with your family well, you will have to make balance in your life..like 2 or 3 hours for yourself, and 2 or 3 hours for you family


forth, successful career/business: just work hard and do your best.


fifth, friend alot of people to make new things in your life...they will affect u


sixth, ';being the best person I can possibly be';: just be yourself and don't be another one...people and specially girls love the self-conf. guy..


sry i talked alot, but hope i was usefull : )
You are never too young or too old to become successful in life. :) You are already ahead by realizing that you need to change your outlook on things. Just try to be optimistic and do your best in whatever you choose to do. A 3.8 GPA is not at all bad! That's above average isn't it? That's higher than what I got! lol If you already know something your interested in, try going to a career college. A education is the first step to success! And if you want to give back to your community, why not do some volunteer work? (Doing things like this could possibly help with gaining scholarships!) Please don't be discouraged and give up! You are so young, and you have your whole life ahead of you! Do your best! :)
Maybe dealing at the casino isn't what you had planned. Look deep inside you. See what you really like doing, and go back to school for it. It might be worth it in the end effect beacuse..';if you love what you do, you'll never work another day in your life';. You might also come home and be happier with your family if you had a good day at work.


Being successful only happens after working 110% for a long time, getting good references, etc. It's a small world...you'll be surprised how many employers know each other. Even if it's a crappy job, starting tomorrow, put in 110% with a smile on your face. That's also part of good attitude. If you're not happy with your life, ask yourself why. Be honest with yourself and then change it.